Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

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113. If it's not my partner's job to 'make me feel good', what's the point of relationships? (BLAST FROM THE PAST) Dec 13, 2024

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This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't create their feelings.
People ask me: 'But if my partner isn't creating my emotions for me, and their job isn't to 'make me feel good' - then what's the point of relationships?!'
If your brain has offered a similar question...
This episode is for YOU!

112. Our obsession with ‘red flags’ (and why it’s unhelpful) Dec 06, 2024

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Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach?
Are you often worried about missing the signs that your partner isn't trustworthy?
And have you beaten yourself up in the past for 'not seeing it coming' and felt embarrassed, stupid, and naïve?
If so - this episode is for YOU.
I'm offering an opposing opinion on red flags and talking about why our obsession with them isn't actually helpful.
Listen to find out:

Why the idea of red flags fuels anxiety
What we're really most afraid of
How self-certainty can be created, even in the uncertainty of relationships

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111. Breaking the pattern (navigating reoccurring issues) Nov 29, 2024

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Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over?
Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - and you just can't seem to break the cycle?
Do you find yourself having the same reaction - and then them having their usual reaction...
And then suddenly you're in the same fight you've had many times before?
If so - it's time to break the cycle.
And this episode will help you do just that!
Mentioned in the episode:
Info on 1:1 coaching - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Link to group coaching info - Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

110. Codependent thinking Nov 22, 2024

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We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all!
But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on a life of their own - and create a lot of anxiety, fear, and resentment in relationships.

Do you feel like your mood can be ruined by the mood of the people around you?
Do you instantly feel anxious if you think someone is mad at you?
Do you often blame other people for how you're feeling or for the choices you're making?

If so, this episode is for YOU!
In today's episode - I'm sharing some examples of codependent thinking and revealing the thought errors driving them.
Mentioned in the episode:

Find out more about 1:1 coaching by emailing rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

109. What NOT to do when you're anxious Nov 15, 2024

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When we're feeling anxious, there are certain things that are going to help us...
And certain things that aren't...
In today's episode, I'm talking about the things that DO NOT help you when you're feeling anxious and what to do instead.
Mentioned in the episode:

Next round of my group coaching programme - DETAILS

108. Why we worry and how to stop - a conversation with Emilie Leyes Nov 08, 2024

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Does your brain just LOVE to worry? So much so you're pretty sure you could win an Olympic medal if worrying was a category?
In today's episode, I'm talking to Emilie Leyes - expert in brain training and hypnosis - and founder of the Doddle hypnosis app.
We're covering topics like:

Why our brains worry
Whether worry is ever productive
Some of Emilie's favourite techniques for overcoming worry and anxiety
And how to face any worrying situation with confidence and self-certainty

Find out more about Emilie:

107. Becoming the partner / friend you'd want to have Nov 01, 2024

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How much time do you spend focusing on how other people should change or behave differently?
If it's quite a lot... you're not alone!

Our brains love to focus on how other people aren't doing it 'right' and how if they'd just change, life could be so much easier.
But in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about turning that focus inward.
And focusing on who YOU want to be in your relationships, regardless of what the other humans are doing.
I'm covering:

Why we often struggle to show up as the partners / friends we really want to be
Why owning our own behaviours is important (rather than justifying them with the actions of others)
And how to step into that future version of YOU

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Information on my next round of group coaching and waitlist

106. 30-phobia and milestone anxiety - A conversation with Kate Berski Oct 25, 2024

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Do you feel a looming pressure to 'get your shit together' by a certain age?

Maybe it's a pressure to find a romantic partner...
Buy a house...
Get married...
Have a child...

Do you often compare yourself to other people? Like your brain is cataloguing all their milestones, just to tell you how far behind you are?
In today's episode - I have a conversation with the amazing Kate Berski - author of 30 Phobia.
And we'll be digging into:

Her experience with fear and dread about turning 30
Milestone myths - and the biggies we get caught up in
Societal pressures and how to handle them
The expectation gap - and how to close it
AND her 4 step approach for overcoming milestone anxiety

How to find Kate:

105. Self-soothing when they need space Oct 18, 2024

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Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you?
Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - and when they do, you feel panicky and unable to calm down until they've returned?
If so - this episode is for YOU!
I'm covering:

Why we struggle to feel safe when our partners are distant or taking space
How to regulate your nervous system and create inner safety
How to challenge the beliefs and thoughts creating your fear

Mentioned in the episode:

Processing emotions meditation

104. Am I making excuses for them? Oct 11, 2024

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Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself?
Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want?
Then this episode is for YOU!
I'm discussing:

The reason why we challenge our thinking
When fear of leaving a relationship gets in the way of making a conscious decision
How the first thought your brain offers you isn't the ultimate 'true' thought

Interested in 1:1 coaching?
Email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

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