Living While Loving Your Child Through Addiction

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BONUS Why You Should Focus On Your Similarities With Your Child Instead of Your Differences Sep 01, 2022

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On August 31st, 2021 Heather spoke at the Volusia County Recovery Alliance Keeping Hope event. It was their 4th annual overdose awareness and remembrance day held in Daytona, Florida. The event is in honor of International Overdose Awareness Day which acknowledges the grief felt by families and friends and remembers those who have died due to drug overdose. The day helps reduce the stigma of Substance Use Disorder (SUD), showing that recovery is possible and that overdoses can be prevented.

Heather's speech focuses on:

1. Remembering and honoring Helanna

2. What Heather wants others to know regarding the stigma associated with overdose

3. Her encouragement and guidance for others who have lost a loved one

Link to flyer about the event

https://www.overdoseday.com/

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Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

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There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.

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EP61 A Mother's Search For Peace With Guest Susan Lynch Aug 31, 2022

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Heather Interviews author Susan Lynch. Her memoir Life After Kevin A Mother's Search for Peace and the Golden Retrievers that Led the Way is a story about finding meaning when life challenges you in the hardest ways, healing through community, spiritual connection, and the transformation that comes from learning how to sit with intensely painful emotions to gain answers and clarity.

Susan’s son Kevin died from multiple drug intoxication in 2015. She kept the cause of his death a secret for 2 years because of shame and stigma. Shame separates us from community and connection. It also keeps us from seeing that we need help.

3 Things you'll learn in this episode:

How Shame kept Susan silent and the impact it had on her grief
How Susan's dogs helped her heal
Connecting with and receiving guidance from someone that has died

If you would like to pre-order Susan's book use this link www.susan-lynch.com/book-order.

To learn more about Susan go to her website www.susan-lynch.com.

Episodes to Listen to next:

Ep 51 How to Stop Fixing Your Child and Start Connecting With Them

Ep 52 Why Parents Need Recovery Too

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EP60 Sobriety Can't Be Your Only Measure For Success Aug 18, 2022

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Do you feel like you're failing because your child isn't sober yet? Supporting your child through their addiction is a marathon, not a sprint. The belief that "it's not working" can be very painful and cause you a lot of frustration. It can also make it harder for you to regulate your emotions around your child. When you have other measures for success on your journey, then you create rewards for yourself for the changes you're making and the tools you're learning and using. Those rewards give you the momentum you need to keep moving forward. They also make it easier for you to connect with your child.

Episodes to Listen to next:

Ep 5 Control - Why You Do it and How To Stop

Ep 54 Harm Reduction with guest Lara Okoloko, LICSW

EP 43 Why You Feel Rejected

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Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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EP59 What To Do BEFORE You Set A Boundary Aug 04, 2022

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Heather shares 3 steps that will set the tone for how you and your child experience the boundaries you set. These steps will also make it easier for you to uphold the boundaries after you set them.

This episode is a prequal to episode #10 about how to set boundaries. It’s what you need to do BEFORE you set a boundary.

The 3 steps are:

1. Like your reason for setting the boundary

2. Decide ahead of time what you think about the boundary

3. Know your yes

Episodes to Listen to next:

1. Episode #11 Boundaries

2. Episode #27 Approaching Addiction With Love

3. Episode #21 How To Create Relationships That Serve You

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Additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

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EP58 Motivating Change: Insights Into The Stages of Recovery Jul 29, 2022

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Heather talks about the stages of change model. Making major changes that last concerning substance use is not easy for our kids. Knowing and understanding the stage of change your child is in will help you know what to do to support them and remove barriers to make it easier for them to move to the next stage.

3 things you’ll learn from the episode:

The 6 stages of change

What happens in each stage

Strategies for motivating change and offering support at each stage

Episodes to Listen to next:

1. Episode #11 Boundaries

2. Episode #24 Mastering Your Response To Your Child’s Addiction

3. Episode #49 Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Helps People Change with author Nicole Kosanke PhD

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Additional resources:

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

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EP57 Why Early Recovery Is So Challenging With Guest Nicole Miller Jul 15, 2022

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Heather and guest Nicole Miller who is a certified drug and alcohol counselor and teaches addiction pharmacology to college students talk about how the brain is affected by substance use. The better we understand addiction the easier it is for us to collaborate with and support our kids. It also helps us take it less personally and have more compassion. 3 things you’ll learn from the episode: How drug use affects the reward center of the brain Why early recovery is so challenging What Medication Assisted Treatment (MAT) is and how it helps someone in recovery. Episodes to Listen to next: Episode #27 Approaching Addiction with Love Episode #7 The Difference Between Discomfort And Suffering Episode #26 The Benefits of Making Decisions and How To Get Started Nicole Miller’s Email - nic.triplett@gmail.com If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery Additional resources:

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/ Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

EP56 Rehab Expectations VS Reality From A Mother's Perspective Jul 07, 2022

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Heather and returning guest Kelly Hatcher talk about what it was like when their kids went to rehab. They both experienced a major gap between their expectations about what rehab and sobriety would be like vs reality. Addiction and recovery are complex. Rehab and sobriety are stops on a lifetime journey. They are not destinations. Heather and Kelly hope that that by sharing their experience it will make rehab and sobriety easier for you and help you support your child as well.

3 things you’ll take away from the episode:

The unrealistic expectations Heather and Kelly had before their kids went to rehab (maybe you have the same expectations)

Their reality check – what the experience was really like

Heather & Kelly’s advice for you based on their experiences with multiple rehabs

Episodes to Listen to next:

Episode #34 What To Do When You’re In A Funk (guest Kelly Hatcher)

Episode #52 Why Parents Need Recovery Too

Episode #30 Celebrating Your Life In The Middle of Addiction (guest Kelly Hatcher)

Kelly Hatcher’s Website:

https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/

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Additional resources:

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

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EP55 90 Seconds To A Life You Love With Dr. Joan Rosenberg Jun 30, 2022

Show notes

When you're supporting your child through addiction, there are many uncomfortable and even painful experiences. The more capacity you have to tolerate emotional pain, the more capable and confident you feel about yourself and your ability to support your child. A willingness to learn from any experience, openness to change, and the capacity to express unpleasant feelings leads to emotional strength and resilience. Being able to experience your own emotional pain also makes it easier for you to tolerate the discomfort of your child's emotional pain as well. It also makes it easier to engage in difficult conversations. Emotional mastery is an essential skill to help you through your journey with your child's addiction.

Topics Discussed In This Episode:

How emotions only last 90 seconds

Why some emotions seem to last longer than 90 seconds

How allowing and feeling your unpleasant emotions leads to a life you love

Why we use distractions to avoid feelings

Dr. Joan Rosenberg’s website

Buy 90 Seconds To A Life You Love

Episodes to listen to next:

Episode 16 Self Coaching Model

Episode 17 Processing Feelings = High Quality of Life

Episode 18 Understanding Buffering Can Help You Understand Addiction

If his podcast has helped you, please help me reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with someone or share it on social media.

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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Additional resources:

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

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EP54 Harm Reduction with guest Lara Okoloko, LCSW Jun 23, 2022

Show notes

Harm reduction is a set of practical strategies and ideas aimed at reducing negative consequences associated with drug use. It incorporates a spectrum of strategies that includes safer use, managed use, abstinence, meeting people who use drugs “where they’re at,” and addressing conditions of use along with the use itself. Harm reduction is critical to keeping people who use drugs alive and as healthy as possible. Some of the topics discussed in this episode: The 8 principles of harm reduction Examples of harm reduction strategies for family members How harm reduction helps with stigma Boundaries Links from this episode: Lara Okolo's Website Article by Pat Denning about Harm Reduction in The Journal of Clinical Psychology The National Harm Reduction Coalition Episodes to listen to next: Episode 35 Releasing Judgement Episode 36 What to do about all the lies If this podcast has helped you, please help me reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with someone or share it on social media. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below: https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery

For additional resources:

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

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EP53 The Lie That We Can Only Help Ourselves Jun 03, 2022

Show notes

How many times have you heard you can only help yourself? It's critical to help yourself, but it's not the only thing you can do. You can invite change in your child and create space for them to decide they want to change. We're constantly told that our kids won't change unless they want to, but we're rarely told that we can create favorable conditions for them to want to change. You can help your child.

Episode to listen to next:

Episode 49 Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Help People Change author Nicole Kosanke PhD

Episode 41 Interview With My Daughter

Links that were mentioned in this episode:

Al-Anon’s core purpose, mission, and strategic goals

CRAFT Studies

If this podcast has helped you please help me reach other parents by leaving a review. You can also share the podcast with someone that needs it or share it on social media.

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below:

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For additional resources:

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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