Living While Loving Your Child Through Addiction

Latest Episodes:

EP70 How to Forgive Yourself Jan 25, 2023

Show notes

Do you feel guilty or blame yourself a lot? Forgiving yourself is the path to emotional freedom and connection. If you feel guilty about something you did or didn't do or you're blaming yourself for your child's substance use then forgiving yourself is how you work through it. If you don't forgive yourself, the guilt and blame keep you stuck. In this episode, Heather gives you 5 steps to self-forgiveness.

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery

There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.

Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group

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EP69 How To Get Relief From Your Anxiety TODAY Dec 24, 2022

Show notes

Every parent experiences anxiety worrying about their kids, but parents who are watching a child struggle with substance use experience even more intense levels of anxiety and more instances of it.

It doesn't have to be that way though. You can start changing your anxiety experience today. All you have to do is take the time to bring yourself into the present moment so you can define the emotion under the anxiety, listen to what that emotion is telling you, process it, and reframe your thoughts about it.

In this episode you will learn:

What anxiety is and why it's important
The four ways we react to anxiety
The source of anxiety
The steps you can take to manage it TODAY

This episode was previously published 1/21/21

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

New Support Group Starting in June Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group⁠

If you're interested in working with me Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call using the link below

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GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/

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EP68 Sober Powered Support Group With Guest Gillian Tietz Dec 16, 2022

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Heather talks to guest Gillian Tietz who is the host of Sober Powered, a top 50 mental health podcast, and the founder of Sober Powered Media, a podcast network with 5 other top mental health podcasts. Gill was Heather's first guest on the podcast for episode #9. In that episode, they talked about some of the science behind substance use. This time Gill is here to talk about her Living a Sobered Powered Life support group. Many parents feel like they are their child's only support person. Family support is critical, but your child needs additional support options from people who understand them if they are struggling.

In this episode we discuss:

Details about the Living a Sober Powered Life support group
Why all paths to recovery are valid and important
The value of support on the recovery journey
A peak behind the scenes of Sober Powered Media

Episodes To Listen To Next:

Episode 9 The Science and Psychology of Addiction with Gill from The Sober Powered Podcast

EP 58 How To Remove Barriers To Your Child's Recovery

EP 56 Rehab Expectations VS Reality From A Mother's Perspective

Learn More about the Living a Sober Powered Life Support Group

https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered/

Listen to the Sober Powered Podcast on Apple

Listen to the Sober Powered Podcast on Spotify

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery

There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.

Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

EP67 Are You More Influenced by Stigma Than Science? Dec 02, 2022

Show notes

Today marks one year since Helanna passed away from a fentanyl overdose. This podcast would not exist without Helanna so her interview is being released again to honor her memory. It is one of the most listened-to episodes on the podcast. Heather also shares some of the realizations she's had since Helanna passed, in an updated intro to the episode.

Link to find Naloxone If you can't find Naloxone using the link, search for a recovery alliance or harm reduction organization in your county.

Original Episode Show Notes: This week I got to interview my daughter. You've been hearing my experience of her addiction so I think that it's important to hear what her experience was like.

Some of the questions I asked:

I learned a few new things and had some realizations while listening to her insight and I ended up sharing some things I've never shared before.
What was it like when I expected her to be ok to make me feel better instead of me being stable for her?
What else did I do that wasn’t helpful to her?
What did I do that was helpful to her?
Is there anything I could have done differently to help her not struggle with addiction?
What did she get out of using substances?
What made her want to get sober?
What has relapsing taught her?
What makes her feel supported in sobriety?

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery

There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.

Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

EP66 What if your child Says They Want to Quit Using Substances, but doesn't quit? Nov 28, 2022

Show notes

Did you know we can want two things that contradict each other at the same time? It's called ambivalence and it's a complex emotion. It’s part of the messiness of being human. When we feel complex competing emotions the last thing we want is someone to minimize how we feel by oversimplifying it, yet that’s what we do when we label our kid’s ambivalence about substances as denial or accuse them of not being serious about recovery. It's possible for your child to want to quit using substances and keep using them.

3 things you’ll learn in this episode:

Ambivalence is normal
Ways we all experience ambivalence
How to leverage understanding your child’s behavior

Episodes to listen to next:

EP 58 The 6 Stages of Change and Strategies for Motivating Change in Each Stage

Ep 54 Harm Reduction with guest Lara Okoloko, LICSW

3 Steps To Create Holiday Peace & Maybe Even Some Joy Blog Post

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery

There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.

Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

EP65 How Breathwork Eases Stress and Helps You Stay in The Present Moment Nov 22, 2022

Show notes

Heather interviewed Certified Master Breathwork Facilitator Victoria Starr. Your breath is your body's only system that is voluntary and under your control. Intentional breathing can reduce anxiety, help with sleep and digestion, increase energy, boost the immune system, and lower blood pressure. You experience the most peace in the present moment, even during stressful situations. Projecting into the future, getting stuck in negative thought loops, and disconnecting from your body changes your breathing and keeps you stuck in fight or flight. Changing your breathing pattern has an immediate impact on your mind and body.

A few things you'll learn from the episode:

What RESET breathwork is and how it is different from other breathwork
The difference between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system and why understanding them matters
How we store unprocessed emotions in our body and the problems it causes

Episodes to listen to next:

EP 29 How To Quiet Your Mind Without Meditating in Silence

EP 38 How To Have Self Compassion

How to contact Victoria:

1:1 Breathwork

Website: victorialeestarr.com

IG: @victorialeestarr

FB: Victoria Starr

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery

There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.

Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

EP64 The Difference Between Worry, Stress, Anxiety, and Overwhelm and How To Regulate Them Oct 24, 2022

Show notes

Do you know that the amount of stress you feel and the intensity of the emotions you feel along with it are based on your beliefs about your ability to handle the situation? The amount of stress you feel comes from your thoughts rather than the situation. That means stress can be reduced by gaining the skills you need to handle the situation and being intentional with how you think about it. Otherwise, you get stuck worrying, not learning the skills you need and you increase your stress instead of regulating it. When you understand the difference between worry, stress, anxiety, and overwhelm and understand where they happen in your body and how they affect you, you are no longer at the effect of them. Understanding these nuances creates emotional intelligence. This helps you relieve stress, diffuse conflict, and overcome challenges when you're living with your child's addiction.

Episodes to Listen to next:

EP 16 The Self Coaching Model

EP 10 How To Create Authority Over Your Anxiety

If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes.

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below

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September Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.

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GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in January! Be the first to get details.

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/

Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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EP63 Family Recovery, A Return to Health and Well-Being with Guest Pam Lanhart Sep 22, 2022

Show notes

In celebration of National Recovery Month, Heather talks to guest Pam Lanhart about her own family's recovery and how she supports other families in their recovery. Pam is passionate about helping families use evidence-based best practices to help families find peace, stay regulated, create the conditions that support recovery and move their loved ones toward change. She believes that a healthy family gives their loved ones the best opportunity to activate recovery. Pam is a certified family recovery coach, peer recovery specialist, Invitation to Change and CRAFT practitioner and Arise trained interventionist.

3 topics you'll hear in this episode:

1. What recovery as a parent means to Pam

2. How her recovery has changed her life

3. Pam's advice for parents that feel like things will never get better

Pam's Resources:

Thrive Family Recovery Resources: https://thrivefamilyrecoveryresources.org/

Pam's website and book https://pamlanhart.com/

If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes.

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

New Support Group Starting in June Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group⁠

If you're interested in working with me Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call using the link below

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery⁠

GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/

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Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Free CRAFT Workshop - Make Sure You Sign Up! Sep 15, 2022

Show notes

Heather is hosting a free CRAFT workshop about positive communication Wednesday, September 21st at 7 PM EST. Studies show that 70% of people who use CRAFT are likely to get their loved ones to seek treatment within a year. CRAFT also helps family members improve their own lives whether their loved one seeks treatment or not.

CRAFT is an acronym for Community Reinforcement And Family Training - a scientifically supported, evidence-based, clinically proven approach to helping families of substance users. CRAFT originated at the University of New Mexico and was developed by Robert Meyers, Ph.D., and colleagues. Research and clinical trials have given evidence that with the right tools, families can effect change.

CRAFT has 3 goals:

1. Teach you skills to take care of yourself

2. Teach you skills to help your loved one change

3. To reduce substance use

Click here to find out more and reserve your spot!

EP62 How CRAFT and Coaching Transform Relationships With Guests Beth Syverson and Joey Nakao Sep 12, 2022

Show notes

Beth, Joey, and Heather talk about how CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training) and coaching transformed their family so you can hear real-life examples of how this work can change your family too. The highlights of this episode are hearing how Joey feels about the changes he made and how Beth's mindset has shifted about Joey's substance use and the peace of mind she creates for herself. Joey doesn't know how CRAFT or coaching works, but he knows how it feels to him. That's a beautiful testament to how much impact and influence you can have as a parent.

Some of the main topics discussed:

How taking the focus off your child and putting it on yourself impacts your family's experience of your child's addiction.
It's important to redefine parenting when your child is struggling with addiction - what worked before will no longer work.
Connection is the goal instead of sobriety.

Episodes to listen to next:

Listen to the Safe Home Podcast

Safe Home Website

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/

GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery

There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.

Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/

Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction