Girls Gone Deep

Two sex-positive ladies in the ethically non-monogamous lifestyle chatting about how we use dating and sex as a space for personal development and growth, and creating the most joyous life possible. A podcast for the open-minded, curious and naughty. @girlsgonedeeppod www.girlsgonedeep.com

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031: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband Aug 03, 2023

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In this episode, the girls sit down with Slutlana, who is Elle and her husband M's best friend and girlfriend. They cover a range of topics, including:
What’s it like being a third for a married couple? What fears come up as a third? The importance of communication in a throuple. (1:20)

The benefits of being a third and not having a primary partner. (8:44)

Opening a marriage with the help of a sex therapist. (10:49)

Transitioning from swingers to open, and falling in love with someone outside of your marriage. (18:07)

Personal growth through dating, retreats, psychedelics, and meditation. Shamanism. ( 28:51)

Double penetration (DP) with a strap-on. (37:16)

Butt plugs, and taking anal virginity. (38:45)

Theme nights. (41:15)

Slutlana’s major “aha” moments, and the birth of fears, desires and boundaries. (42:03)

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030: How to Transition to Sexy Vibes in Group Sex (Especially with Longterm ENM Friends) Jul 27, 2023

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What happens when you’ve had the same group of ENM friends for years?

In this episode, Vee and Elle sit down with M to chat about the catch-22 of having sex with your friends: how sometimes you sacrifice the quantity of sex for quality when you develop stronger friendships with your ENM partners.

Strategy to turn the vibe sexy in big groups: “orgy boards”, taking a group vote with eyes closed, changing locations/spaces. (4:22)

Why is it so much more challenging when trying to transition into sexy time with a larger group? (9:34)

“Open door policy”: communicating intentions to the group when going off with one person. (12:19)

“Emotionally weak people”: not taking answers personally as the asker of the question, and taking responsibility for your own triggers. (19:00)

Strategy to avoid the challenge of transitioning into sex altogether: day orgies, new energy, and what creates desire according to Esther Perel. (23:41)

Building sexual things up in your mind when you know there will be more opportunities. (32:53)

How to disentangle from someone in an orgy when you want to move on to a different person or position. (36:45)

M’s responses to past episodes: grinding while eating out and face-sitting. (40:04)

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029: Cum: Ejaculating vs Squirting, Spitting vs Swallowing, and Tasting Yourself Jul 20, 2023

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In this episode, Elle and Vee talk all things CUM, including

Ejaculating vs Squirting: and is there pee in squirt juice? (2:54)

Taste: modifying your own taste, and what affects it. (10:36)

Male ejaculation: the focus on male orgasm. (21:06)

Orgasming: the hottest place for a guy to finish, “shooters” vs “dribblers”, spitting vs swallowing, and creampie fantasies. (28:35)

Female taste: tasting yourself, and what to do when you encounter a stinky pussy. (43:08)

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028: Navigating Emotional Triggers in Group Sex, and The Beauty of Day Orgies Jul 13, 2023

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In this episode, Elle and Vee cover a range of topics, from dealing with the emotions of multiple partners in threesomes and foursomes, questioning how to be an ethical porn consumer, and recapping Vee's weekend at a lifestyle party, including:

How to deal with it as the unicorn in a threesome when there is an issue with the couple. (1:27)
Listening vs giving advice when someone is triggered, and where to have the conversation. (8:26)
What to do when the vibe is off between a CNM couple in a group sex situation (reading energy and holding space). (12:40)
Fears, Desires and Boundaries: a tool to clear the air, break the ice and set expectations before the orgy. (15:38)
What to do when you're triggered during group sex, and giving the couple space to regroup and get sexy. (18:22)

Paying for porn: how do you find what’s worth paying for? (27:30)

How do you know you’re watching porn that’s being ethically made? (30:30)

Gemini Party Recap (34:32)

- Connecting with and prioritizing your partner at the beginning of a lifestyle weekend. (35:37)

- The difference between pool parties in the ENM lifestyle and vanilla pool parties. Friendships with the opposite sex. (39:34)

- Day orgies, why having repeat partners makes for better sex, and compersion. (45:00)

- Sitting on faces. (50:07)

- The “comedown” from a big weekend: Strap ons, “pegging” vs “strapping”, how to have an awesome seven-person orgy, and how can you feel sexy in a big group? (53:33)

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027: The Joy of Porn: Connecting with your Partner, Formative Sexual Experiences, and VR Porn Jul 06, 2023

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In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss all things pornography, from their use of it to their first exposure to it, including:
How do you use porn? Authenticity in porn, “daddy” and age play, searching for specific vs playing porn roulette. (2:22)

Masturbation and porn. (7:04)

Using porn as a tool to connect with you partner. (9:30)

Favorite porn sites. (11:01)

How does porn affect teens’ ideas of sex? (11:49)

How can porn contribute to and affect sexual confusion and sexual identity in teens? (16:46)

Do we watch what we want in real life? Erotic blueprints, porn rabbit holes. (22:48)

Negative effects of porn, and training yourself to like certain things. BDSM hack for associating pain with pleasure. (25:46)

Is watching porn cheating? (31:04)

What would we sound like in the bedroom if we had never watched porn? Personal porn. (37:19)

Virtual Reality porn and AI porn. (40:53)

Links:

Female-created porn: Bellesa.co

Erotic Blueprint: missjaiya.com

Real Sex Porn: makelovenotporn.tv

Soft Porn: stasyq.com

Crowd-sourced porn: xconfessions.com

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026: Going Deep with Spicy Vanillas: Emotional Intimacy, Sexual Satisfaction, and Questioning Societal Norms Jun 29, 2023

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In this episode, Elle and Vee and their monogamous friends answer each others’ questions, including:

What does the word vanilla mean to you, and is it offensive? (2:40)

What do you think of when you think ethical non monogamy or open relationship? What words or concepts come to mind? (4:38)

What changes have you observed in your friends since they started exploring the nonmonogamous lifestyle? (9:55)

What questions do you have for people in the lifestyle?

How does it work? (14:27)
How can you watch your partner with someone else, without feeling jealous? Jealousy, hotwife, and cuckolding. (15:55)
How can you be friends with someone who has sex with your husband (your metamour)? Friends with benefits. (21:44)
How does emotional intimacy work inside versus outside the primary relationship? (26:38)
How do you protect against STD’s when you have so much sex? What is fluid bonding? (32:38)
How do you tell your family and/or children about your open lifestyle, or how much do you tell them? How do you balance your time between kids and your partners? (35:37)
If you’re trying to get into girl-on-girl, how do you get comfortable playing with women? (44:46)
Will you ever be totally sexually satisfied? (48:09)
What happens when you get older or ready to settle down? Will you ever be with one person? (51:38)

“Serial monogamist and flirt with a high sex drive and little inhibition” poses some thought-provoking ideas and questions about polyamory and religion, and questioning your own choices further. (55:02)

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025: Baconfest 2023: Merging Swinger and Traditional Friends, Threesome Takeaways, and BDSM Tests Jun 22, 2023

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In this episode, Elle and Vee recap their weekend at Baconfest 2023 at their friends' house at the Jersey Shore. It was a mixture of ENM and vanilla couples, which lead to some interesting dynamics. The girls talk about their learning moments and more, including:
Merging friend groups: What is it like having traditional couples at a play party? How do lifestyle couples interact differently at a party than monogamous people? (1:20)

Going to bed early: Vee overcomes her FOMO! (14:00)

Going down on women: Elle and Vee debrief their threesome with J, including squirting, do all women have a more sensitive spot on their clit?, and morning sex. (16:33)

BDSM test: the girls analyze their results and compare them to their past results. How and why do our sexual tastes change? Exhibitionism, voyeurism, riggers and rope bunnies. (28:19)

Listener response: Boundaries follow up. (38:36)

Listener response meme follow up: gender wage gaps and income imbalances in relationships. (40:02)

Take the BDSM Test: www.Bdsmtest.org

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024: Going Deep with Safe.Slut Tricia Wise: Genital Herpes, OnlyFans, and Energy Healing Jun 15, 2023

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In this episode, Elle and Vee sit down with Tricia Wise, aka Safe.Slut, who is a sex activist (Instagram @safe.slut), an OnlyFans content creator (safeslvt), and sex toy business owner (safeslut.shop). The girls go DEEP on these subjects and more, including:

Destigmatizing Herpes: What is the Safe Slut mission? What are HSV-1 and HSV-2? How is it transmitted? What is prodrome? What triggers an outbreak? What are the symptoms? (2:08)

Herpes Testing: What kinds of tests are there, and how do you get tested for herpes? What do you do afterwards? (14:02)

Disclosing Your Status: How do you tell past or current partners that you tested positive? (16:49)

Safe.Slut: What is her mission? What does it mean to be a slut? Overcoming slut shaming from high school. Confirmation bias. (20:23)

OnlyFans: What’s a day in the life of an OnlyFans content creator like? Herpes in porn. Embracing your imperfections, waxing vs shaving your pussy, and ingrown hairs on your vulva. (25:57)

Talking to your friends and family (or not) about OnlyFans, your herpes status, and your sex life as a sex positive activist or sex educator. (31:24)

Trauma: Flipping negative situations on their head and taking your power back, from herpes to bullying. (36:24)

Creating Content: Asking dates to film on OnlyFans. Chaturbate. Exhibitionists and BDSMtest.org. Dating a porn content creator. (39:31)

Disclosing: How do you bring up your STI status with a new partner? (44:49)

Support Tips: Natural remedies to help herpes outbreaks. (48:50)

Vibrators: Clit sucking, multi-use, and heated vibrators. Butt plugs or dicks? (51:18)

Unconventional Science and Spirituality: Astrology and other “woo-woo” magic. What is reiki and energy healing? What is quantum entanglement? (54:38)

Whoreible Life: Sex on the beach. Slapping across the face while fucking. Impact play. (1:02:33)

Takeaways for polyamorous people: Testing regularly, what to ask for when getting an STI test, and gonorrhea and chlamydia in the throat. (1:07:37)

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023: Solo ENM with Holly: Being a Unicorn, Group Sex Dynamics, and What is Comphet? Jun 08, 2023

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In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Holly, who gives the perspective of a single twenty-something in the ethically non-monogamous dating scene in NYC, juxtaposing the girls’ married and partnered perspectives. Their conversation includes:

First experiences in CNM (consensual non-monogamy): Holly’s first threesome; common types of group play and the girls’ preferences; being discreet with “incognito mode”on Feeld. (1:05)

Group sex: Even vs odd numbers; dynamics. (7:12)
Single and Poly: Going to mixers and meetups; the experience of being single vs partnered in the lifestyle; what considerations does a unicorn need to think about in play situations? (11:15)

Sexual Labels: “lifestyle”, “queer”, “fluid”, playing with women who don’t identify as gay, the different dynamic of having a penis in the room. (15:48)
Comphet: What is Compulsory Heterosexuality? Questioning your thoughts due to internalized homophobia. Is it still a problem in society? Calling men vs women for a booty call. (23:32)

Best Threesomes: Being dommed by a women vs a man; what makes a successful unicorn? (36:12)

Boundaries: the case against taking sexy nudes. (41:05)

Coming out as open to friends and family. (43:13)

Growth through sexual experiences: being celebrated for who you are; taking back the word SLUT. (46:40)

Main Nuggets: Guarding your heart, finding the right people, misconceptions of people in the lifestyle. (52:49)

Listener Question: How to go to a mixer solo. (57:49)

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022: Setting (and Pushing) Boundaries in ENM Relationships Jun 01, 2023

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In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss all things boundaries and agreements in open relationships, from the early rules they had when they entered the lifestyle, to how they evolved them. They get into all the dirty details, including:
Boundaries vs Agreements vs Rules: What is a boundary? How do you set a boundary? Elle and Vee give examples of the agreements and boundaries they have in their partnerships. (3:23)

Typical Boundaries: What are some common boundaries to discuss when entering the lifestyle? What limits have Vee and Elle pushed throughout their relationships? Sleepovers, showering after sex, emotional intimacy, and other boundaries between couples. (12:43)

Breaking Agreements: What happens when you violate your partner’s boundaries? Vee talks about not prioritiing J at Hedonism Swing Breakers. AFOG (Another Fucking Opportunity for Growth). Elle shares her learning moments. (30:48)

Solo kinkster dating story: how to be safe when a date doesn’t respect your boundaries. (40:04)

Challenges and Communication: What are the challenges in setting boundaries? Getting curious about emotions. “Emotional Dumping.” What are some good ways to communicate with your partner about boundaries? (45:33)

Fighting: Setting boundaries when having an argument. (51:00)

The Ethical Slut: Slut skills - setting limits. (54:10)

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