Girls Gone Deep

Two sex-positive ladies in the ethically non-monogamous lifestyle chatting about how we use dating and sex as a space for personal development and growth, and creating the most joyous life possible. A podcast for the open-minded, curious and naughty. @girlsgonedeeppod www.girlsgonedeep.com

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041: Transformational Experiences of ENM: Sexual Healing, Self Love, and the Benefits of Dating Couples Oct 19, 2023

Show notes

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with their friend Leia (@vibrantbyleia), who gets deep about being a single bisexual female in the lifestyle, dating couples (versus prioritizing finding her own primary), and sexual healing.
"Catalyst couples", awkward first dates and enthusiastic consent: how Leia was introduced to the lifestyle. (1:31)
Where should the couple sit at a 3-way date? How women hold a lot of power in ENM. (12:24)
"AHA" moments from being in the open lifestyle. (16:57)
Single and open. (20:51)

What have you learned about yourself through polyamory? (24:03)

How have these experiences changed your sexuality? Using the label “bisexual”, strapping, doing anything 3 times, pegging, shibari and BDSM. (29:30)

BDSM as a form of therapy and healing, and the similarities between impact play and yoga. (34:32)

Sexual somatic training. (39:34)

How breast augmentation changes your relationship with your body. Accepting compliments. (40:25)

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040: Sex with Pregnant Women, The Pussy Pump + Other Sex Toy Reviews, and Period Sex Oct 12, 2023

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Elle and Vee catch up and chat about sex with pregnant women and talk about new sex toys, offering their reviews and opinions.

Being pregnant in the ENM lifestyle. (3:47)

Elle’s hormonal and body changes during pregnancy. Horniness, sexual desires, nipple changes, deep throating updates. (5:58)

How pregnancy changes relationships, and the feeling of being left behind. (15:02)

Sex with pregnant women and fulfilling fantasies: Cream pies, lubricated vaginas, and conception fantasies. (22:41)

Sex Toy Review: Mini Wand (33:40)

How the menstrual cycle affects libido. (36:14)

Elle and Vee share how and when they like to use vibrators. (39:33)

Sex Toy Review: Strap-on-me dildo (a vibrating strapless “strap-on”; competitor to the Feeldoe). (41:11)

Sex Toy Review: pussy pump. (45:58)

Sex Toy Review: Cock Ring/Ball Stretcher. (49:48)

Sex Toy Review: vagina spreader 5-pronged speculum. (51:37)

Period Sex. (58:16)

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039: Stretching Fetish: Fisting, DVP and Vagina Spreaders; Shaved vs Hairy Pussies; and Introducing a Partner to ENM Oct 05, 2023

Show notes

This week, Elle and Vee chat with T Money about what he's learned in his twenty years in the lifestyle, including:
Introducing someone to ethical non-monogamy, being on traditional dating apps, and dating people who are monogamous. (8:16)

Stretching Fetish: DVP, vegetables, and the elasticity of vaginas. (17:24)

Fisting: how to fist, the “goose” technique, and slow exits. (27:27)

DVP: double vaginal penetration tips, and the benefits of being the "top" or "bottom" giver. (32:33)

Speculums and Vagina Spreaders. (37:21)

Daddy Doms: What is a Daddy Dom? Dominant personas, and how to make chores sexy. (40:21)

Shaved vs hairy genitals. (43:46)

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038: How to Keep it Sexy in a Long Term Relationship: Esther Perel’s 4 Things to Foster Erotic Desire Sep 21, 2023

Show notes

Elle and Vee dive into the work of Esther Perel, a relationship expert, on relationship dynamics, how to keep things sexy and how to foster erotic desire:

When your partner is in their element and confident.
Surprise.
Seeing your partner though the eyes of another.
Longing and absence.

Who is Esther Perel and what is she about? (0:38)

When you ‘have’ something it takes away the wanting, and how the lifestyle helps with this. (2:47)

When do you feel most drawn to your partner? (6:46)

Desire requires focusing on your own pleasure. (9:15)

The balance of neediness in a relationship. (10:24)

In relationships, certain behaviors bring out contrasting behaviors in the other. (11:51)

Two types of people in a relationship: one with the fear of losing the other and one with the fear of losing themselves. (13:50)

Relationship dynamics develop around security and freedom and also self reliance and interdependence. (16:19)

How the lifestyle supports admiration and surprise. (20:30)

When you see your partner through the eyes of someone else. (23:54)

How absence and longing helps with desire yet sometimes has a paradoxical effect in the lifestyle group of friends. (25:15)

Sameness kills desire: Elle and Vee share how they keep it spicy. (29:05)

Forget 1-on-1 First Dates: Try this alternative first date scenario and learn why! (33:32)

PSA: We’re taking a break next week! See you in October!

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037: Edging: The Advantages of Withholding Orgasm, Electro Play and Spanking Sep 14, 2023

Show notes

Elle and Vee have two special guests in today's episode, Ace and Jess who share their lifestyle practices with edging and other kinky experiences

2:32 Why edge an orgasm? What does edging do for Ace?

3:44 Aces edging discovery and how he uses it his advantage in the lifestyle

5:57 Elle Vee and Jess explain the differences of their personal orgasms

8:05 Multiple orgasm for female, but what about men?

10:50 Who is charge of finally cumming, edging to cum together and a women perspective when her partner doesn’t finish often

15:49 Quantity, taste, consistency from the edging load

17:12 Edging for spiritual reasons and transferring that sexual energy into day to day life

20:00 The evolution of stopping an orgasm, self awareness and being a better lover in bed

28:27 Cum fetish, shooters vs dribblers

36:41 The countdown to an orgasm vs the pressure of being told to have an orgasm

39:32 Being in tune with your body and knowing what you like through sexual curiosity

42:37 The violet wand discussed, eletro play and how to use it

46:00 A male perspective on spanking

49:13 Spanking lesson by Jess and impact play discussion,

57:39 A first fisting experience

59:59 the recipe for successful new sexual experiences and the surprise pleasure from a double sided dildo

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036: Triggered: Bringing a Third to a Sex Party, The Stories We Tell Ourselves, and Perception Vs Reality Sep 07, 2023

Show notes

Elle and Vee share their experiences and challenges of bringing a third to a weekend getaway and how they worked through being triggered.

Vee shares her fears, desires and boundaries for this episode. (2:26)

A challenge of having a third partner: balance. (3:57)

Codependency, projection, and the stories we tell ourselves. (6:41)

Elle discusses another potential challenge of having a third: feeling left out. (13:32)

Elle's example of "the stories we tell ourselves" and the lessons learned. (18:16)

Avoidance as a coping strategy. (26:36)

Confirmation bias to support our stories. (28:47)

Elle's plan/tools to deal with triggers in the future. (30:15)

What Vee would do differently the next time she brings a third. (31:49)

The Four Agreements. (45:08)

How instagram impacts our mental health. (48:56)

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035: JOYsey Shore: Partying Sober, DVP Tips, and Sybian vs F*ck Machine Aug 31, 2023

Show notes

In this episode, Elle and Vee debrief on the highlights, challenges and takeaways from their most recent weekend away with their ENM friends.

“A glimpse into a lifestyle party,” and one of the challenges of bringing a third to a party. (1:46)

What’s the point of having themes? (5:35)

Sobriety: the challenges and benefits of staying sober for an entire lifestyle weekend. (9:10)

Sobriety and sexuality. (18:02)

Highlight: FFF threesome and goal-oriented fucking. (21:57)

Face-sitting: the benefits of being distracted/focused when you’re getting action both up top and down bottom. (26:46)

Highlight: Fivesome and creampie. (29:41)

Fuckit List item: DVP, and Elle’s tips for success. (32:06)

Breakthrough: Getting out of your head, and cumming in front of a group. (38:28)

Sybian vs Fuck Machine. (41:37)

Highlight: Using a speculum to see inside the vagina. (43:55)

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034: How to Squirt: Tips and Tricks, the Peeing Sensation and Social Stigmas of Squirting Aug 24, 2023

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In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with M, the squirt master. He shares his tips and tricks on how to make a girl squirt and the girls share their perspectives and experiences.

Vee shares her fears with squirting. (2:12)

What makes squirting different from orgasm? (7:17)

M shares how he discovered his squirting skills. (8:36)

Why squirting is hot: a male perspective.(15:00)

How to make a girl squirt: finger placement, feeling, movement and more. (16:36)

The challenges for the squirter and working through the ‘I have to pee’ sensation. (24:29)

The scientific difference between a clit orgasm and the G-spot orgasm. (26:41)

Do women have a prostate? What is squirt juice made of? (27:49)

Squirting as a party trick, the importance of hydration, and something every squirter needs. (30:21)

A different position to try if you have a hard time squirting. (35:32)

Squirting expectations and stigmas. (37:04)

Orgasming and squirting at the same time.(41:30)

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033: Intimacy Inventory: Questions for Introspection, What You Bring to Your Relationship, and Taking vs Being Taken (including CNC) Aug 17, 2023

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What is an Intimacy Inventory, and why is it important for our relationships? (1:52) Get Access here…

What strengths do you bring to your relationships? What is a dilemma that you carry with you? (5:32)

Stubbornness and fighting with your partner; how to put a sexy, fun spin on it. (9:44)

When do you feel most free in your relationship? (14:28)

When you’re out at a bar with friends, do you have a hall pass? What agreement do you have with your partner about what is allowed? (17:04)

Independence as a turn on. Separateness and mystery and their impact on relationships. (21:36)

What do you like to experience in sex? (27:40)

Being taken, thoughts on CNC (consensual non consent aka rape fantasies), extreme desire, safe words, and using BDSM as a healing experience. (29:59)

Seeking a release, freedom from responsibility and timelessness during sex. (35:35)

How setting time boundaries impacts sex and mental state. (37:05)

How the dominant messages around gender norms shape your sexual beliefs. (42:10)

To ask, to take, to give, to receive and to refuse: which are you most comfortable with? Which would you like to stretch? (48:44)

Rapid Fire final questions of the intimacy inventory questionnaire. (54:21)

What is a difficult conversation for you to have around sexuality? Uncomfortableness with not feeling attracted to someone who is interested in you and turning them down. (56:38)

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032: Sexual Shame: Unlearning Religious Messages, The Stories We Tell Ourselves, and Healing Through ENM Aug 10, 2023

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Elle and Vee chat with their friend Kit, who grew up in a strict religious home. The girls chat about their formative sexual experiences and messages they received about sex early on in their lives, and how finding the ENM lifestyle helped to heal them.
Early messages around sex when you grow up in a strict religious community (for example, Mennonite or Pentecostal). (1:50)

How did you work through/unlearn all the shameful messages around sex and adultery that you had grown up with? (11:55)

Common shameful messages we receive, and ACCEPTANCE as the antidote to shame. (20:12)

How do you work through the stories you tell yourself? (30:11)

How has working on shame translated outside of the lifestyle? (36:20)

Early shame messages we recive in high school and the effects of repression. (44:25)

Finding your tribe, showing up for our monogamous friends, and using fears, desires, boundaries in all aspects of life. (48:19)

Processing and healing trauma through EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) therapy, and BDSM. (50:29)

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