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159: Fri-Date | You can’t lead anybody until you lead yourself Jul 12, 2019

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Today’s Topic: Leadership

If you’re going to lead other people – in your job, in your home, or in your community – you have to learn how to lead yourself.

At the same time, if you’re anything like me, you have to be able to recognize whether or not leading is something you excel at. Over the years, I’ve realized that I’m not the best person for leading a team of employees, so I’ve had to put systems and people in place to help me. Kim, on the other hand, is a natural!

So, today, Kim and I are going to get a little introspective before she shares three things you need to know and embody if you want to be a great leader:

A leader’s job is to hold other people’s vision
A leader empowers. A leader doesn’t enable
Your ego will inhibit your ability to grow as a leader, and you can only lead as far as you can grow

Resources:

Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with us on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd | @robmurgatroyd
Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

158: Steve Valentine | Real estate is for everyone Jul 08, 2019

Show notes

Resources:

Learn more at stevedvalentine.com
Instagram: @stevedvalentine
Purpose Driven Real Estate: anchor.fm/pdre
The Limitless Project: tlp.stevedvalentine.com/start
Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with us on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd | @robmurgatroyd

Steve Valentine isn’t just one of the most successful real estate investors I know – he’s also a collaborator who helps others in the real estate community learn, invest, and grow. So the Valentine family are knocking it out of the park right now, and they’re teaching others what to do when they’re at bat, but Steve definitely struck out a few times before he found his niche.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[4:45] How theft pushed Steve to, reluctantly at first, join the real estate game
[5:45] The most important lesson that Steve learned from his dad
[7:15] What Steve learned from the real estate bubble bursting
[11:30] Tactical advice for getting into real estate if you have bad credit or don’t have a lot of cash
[20:00] Should you buy real estate for your own home?
[25:20] Steve’s no-BS social media presence
[29:30] The lack of (good) real estate education out there
[36:00] Working with your spouse
[37:30] The practices and habits that lead to success and fulfillment
[40:45] Playing hard

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

157: Fri-Date | Is your dream bigger than your excuse? Jul 05, 2019

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Today’s Topic: Is your dream bigger than your excuse?

Today Kim and I talk dreams and achieving goals. No matter how big your dream, the question is still valid. The reality is we could have quit so many times in our 15 years of “overnight” success. We could have found so many excuses, but our dream was always so much bigger!

Sometimes people confuse freedom with options but having that dream is so important to success. It was always a big challenge building the business. The question I have is: Why was it that we didn’t quit where others do so?

Kim’s theory is that everything happens for a reason and it’s important to keep following the path you’ve chosen. Other people would watch our travel videos and dream. We were selling that dream of freedom and travel. All of the groundwork in our early work, niche areas has led us to where we are today. It’s all about learning lessons and building understanding.

It’s also vital to

Know what you want.

Know whether it’s working or not.

If not, change your approach until it works.

Sometimes though the distance in your brain between your goal and belief is too far apart. Ask yourself if your dream is going to happen. Check your gut feeling — is this dream a realistic one? Check your goals. Are they too far out of your belief?

The next step is setting up an action plan to accomplish your dream and getting honest feedback from a group of trusted people.

We discuss my “message from Mars” which is the following: What’s the one thing that you can do, such that by doing it makes everything else on your to-do list easier or unnecessary?

Resources:

Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with us on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd | @robmurgatroyd
How to create the perfect life — Frank Canace

156: Russell Benaroya | Entrepreneurship, education and creating sacred space for relationships Jul 01, 2019

Show notes

Resources:

Stride
4-hour workweek — Timothy Ferriss
The 15 Commitments of conscious leadership
Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with us on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd | @robmurgatroyd

In today’s episode, I chat with the fascinating Russell Benaroya, on everything from how his Jewish heritage plays an important role in his life, to college education and entrepreneurship, the value of time and his attempts to create a sacred space for his relationships with his family.

In This Conversation We Cover:

The importance of Jewish traditions and beliefs to Russell.
Russell’s education and the importance of this in entrepreneurship.
The free space that higher educational institutions provide.
Why Russell moved to Seattle.
His move from investment banking to entrepreneurship.
The setting up and the drawn-out process of selling his sleep medicine company.
What Russell means by “finishing the game” before moving to the next one.
Stride and the “zone of genius”.
The value of time. How outsourcing is so important.
Russell’s ultramarathons.
Living in Costa Rica.
The importance of relationships and building space.
Geographic independence and Russell’s livelihood.
Working through Russell’s daughter's transgender needs.

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

155: Fri-Date | Taking the long view of success Jun 28, 2019

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Today’s Topic: Building success, often over a long time, is the key to achievement.

If you climb a mountain you begin at the bottom, right? Then when you reach the peak, you know you’ve earned it. You can reap the rewards. However, that can take time. Today Kim and I talk about the effort you need to make to start any entrepreneurial journey and to understand that you need to gradually build your platform for success.

As Kim says, you need to pick the lane, the niche, that you want to be known for to start. Then branch out as necessary, move into associated areas. Kim says this isn’t always the case with people she sees, they tend to be scattered rather than focused.

I talk about listening to your intuition. The story about the fire chief understanding when an evacuation is needed immediately is a case in point. It’s when something doesn’t feel right. We all have this and need to listen to it. It’s a survival mechanism.

People often look at successful entrepreneurs and think if they copy them, they too will have success. What they don’t see is the often years of intuition built up through experience that someone needs to have to make those right decisions.

It’s about the hard work that goes into building the success, climbing the mountain. Over time we developed deep relationships with people. I talk about the importance of not judging every moment, of letting it be. As Kim says, look at the wider view, the foundations that have been laid in a project for a successful future.

So, don’t judge the moment, she adds. Trust your thought, trust your intuition. Keep going, don’t let fear stop you.

Sometimes the bigger the success, the longer the journey. Good luck!

Resources:

Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with us on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd | @robmurgatroyd
Thinking Fast and Slow
Malcolm Gladwell

154: Rob talks about people’s emotional relationship with food | with Daniel Thomas Hind Jun 24, 2019

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As an only child, food was love to Daniel’s Italian parents, however he also resorted to food as an emotional crutch. I talk to him about how important this emotional attachment people place on food is and how this insight helped him form his own wellness company to coach people.

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/Podcast

Resources:

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

153: Fri-Date | Time Management with Children Jun 21, 2019

Show notes

Today’s Topic: Time Management with Children

Resources:

Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with us on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd | @robmurgatroyd

Today Kim and I talk about being married with a young child. We have an angel of a child who seems to take more of our time as she grows. The things we talk about in this episode can be applied to anyone who has kids, or are planning having children or, as Kim says, even those without children can learn from our experiences.

My challenge is as follows, every morning I am woken by my daughter and we create a story on what we dreamed about and we need to follow this morning routine. Every evening she demands more of my time. As Kim points out, she and I are peas in a pod. I pass on my love of a routine to her. Listen up and you’ll hear the psychological to and fros that occur in our household and learn as Kim points to it being a time management problem.

In today’s episode you will learn…

How my daughter and I both survive on routines.
Learn how I play “double dutch” with my daughter for Kim’s attention.
I have to have a flow when I talk. Interrupted, I’m in trouble!
How this podcast is therapy for me!
How Kim settles everything with her sage views on it being a time quality problem.
Sophia now wants to spend as much time with her Dad as her Mom, which wasn’t always the case. Sophia loves games, loves people.
How I deal with the fact that my mornings and evenings aren’t my time/our time any longer. It’s family time.
How the difficulty as an entrepreneur to not be able to use this time to flesh out ideas. This is difficult when there’s a child who demands attention.
Switching from entrepreneur mode to Dad mode is, for me, difficult.
Being female means doing this all day, says Kim. Making time for everything is the priority.
Kim says it’s important to be intentional about making time together.

152: How to become the best version of yourself | with Frank Canace Jun 17, 2019

Show notes

Frank Canace is uniquely placed to advise people on how to find the best version of themselves. Now an author and life coach, he previously worked simultaneously as a police officer by night and defense attorney by day, giving him a unique perspective of both sides of the Constitution. In my conversation with Frank, we discover how he uses this knowledge to help people find their own inspiration and achieve their own goals.

To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/Podcast

Resources:

Work Hard Play Hard is a production of Crate Media

151: Fri-Date | Use a growth mindset to overcome life upheavals Jun 14, 2019

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Today’s Topic: Today Kim and I talk about the break of ritual that occurs when traveling and how that can sometimes be a problem for a family. We’re planning a four-month holiday in Europe and you’ll hear in this episode that I fully admit to being a ritual-based guy. As Kim says though, when that outside pressure of the holiday pushes us into new, untested routines, we need to be prepared for change, particularly when as we juggle the needs of a growing child.

In this episode you’ll learn …

How stepping outside of your comfort zone is an opportunity for growth.
How Kim and I will be leveraging our “holiday” to grow our respective businesses — and ourselves.
That circumstances — such as a holiday — will often determine a change in ritual.
How the change that surrounds the growing up of a child will change our routine and how we cope with this.
How to negotiate the time needs for all the family.
That the needs of every family member are equal.
That changes such as Kim and I are doing — selling everything and moving for four months — isn’t easy and requires a growth mindset.

Resources:

Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind

Connect with us on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd | @robmurgatroyd

150: Jim Favret | How To Become A Wine Connoisseur Jun 10, 2019

Show notes

Resources:

Download: ViVino ; Compendium ; Cellartracker
Read: Bus Nine to Paradise by Leo Buscaglia
Mastermind: workhardplayhardpodcast.com/mastermind
Connect with us on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd | @robmurgatroyd

Jim Favret is joining me on the show today! I wanted to have Jim on because I am becoming obsessed over learning about wine. I was introduced to Jim through a mutual friend, and his background is more than impressive with time spent as a distributor, as well as a wine judge for the Wine Report. If you’re like me, and all you want to do is understand every little detail about wine– this is the episode for you.

In This Conversation We Cover:

[7:38] The moment Jim knew the wine industry was for him
[9:28] Starting his wine brokerage company
[13:26] How to approach selecting the type of wine you’d like
[21:30] Using apps to help you choose wine
[30:21] Letting your wine open up + how to store it
[46:31] Sulfites and how they affect us
[51:07] Analyzing and approaching the smell of wine
[01:00:56] Rapid fire with Jim Favret

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