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How do I navigate feeling like I don’t fit in or personally align with LDS culture while wanting to stay a member of the Church? Aug 23, 2022

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In this episode, I coach Tanya and address the question, “How do I navigate feeling like I don’t fit in or personally align with LDS culture while wanting to stay a member of the Church?” Tanya has been feeling a disconnect between her values—particularly when it comes to views on LGBTQ+ matters—and Church culture. Though she doesn’t feel like she fits in, she has been looking for any possible way to stay.

Tanya shares that she was taught she must be 100% in line with the Church or leave. I tell her that she gets to decide whether or not she wants to live that way. Who said that faith or Church involvement have to be an all-or-nothing matter?

Part of growing up is taking ownership of your life. As you claim personal power for your life, you get to decide what and how you want to believe instead of relying on others to tell you what you should be doing or feeling. I also share that as Tonya gains confidence to live more authentically, she will start attracting more people who think like her.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

Bonus: Healing Your Inner Child with Tiffany Roe Aug 16, 2022

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In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Tiffany Roe, mental health counselor and host of the Therapy Thoughts podcast. We discuss this month’s membership topic—healing your inner child—and Tiffany drops dozens of truth bombs throughout the conversation.

Here are just a few of the topics we cover:

How to find a therapist who can help with inner child work
What actually causes trauma (it’s not what most people think)
What it means to heal your inner child
Why your inner child has nothing to do with your parents
How to help your children heal their wounds
Why your relationship with yourself is your most important relationship

Tiffany offers a popular course on healing your inner child. You can sign up for it here. You can also purchase her affirmations card deck at TiffanyRoe.com.

And it’s not too late to join my membership community to learn more about healing your inner child. Work with me through group coaching, digital downloads, affirmations, and more. Join at drjuliehanks.com/membership.

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How do I release the burden of feeling responsible to protect my siblings from the struggles and challenges of life? Aug 09, 2022

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In this episode, I coach Dakota and address the question, “How do I release the burden of feeling responsible to protect my siblings from the struggles and challenges of life?” Dakota is the oldest of six children, and she has always felt responsible for her younger siblings. She wants to be there to help them, but she finds herself taking on their problems and as a result sometimes feels drained and ill.

It is a myth that you can solve someone else’s problems. The belief that you can take on someone else’s burden for them is draining, heavy, and unhealthy. I invite Dakota to let go of the belief that she is responsible for solving her family’s problems and ask her to instead see herself as a support. We practice setting boundaries and talk about how boundaries will ultimately make her more effective in offering help to those she loves.

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How can I stop overthinking about things in the future that are out of my control? Aug 02, 2022

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In this episode, I coach Kirsten and address the question, “How can I stop overthinking about things in the future that are out of my control?” Kirsten finds herself constantly thinking ahead and worrying about consequences, pros and cons, and right and wrong. This interferes with her ability to enjoy her life as it is today.

During our time together, I notice Kirsten worrying about making right choices. I propose a new idea: What if there are multiple good choices, not just one right choice? A good decision is different than the right decision. There’s too much pressure if we think there can only be one right wayI invite her to go for the good in her life instead of for only the perfect and right.

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How can I let go of mom guilt and create more partnership in my family? Jul 26, 2022

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In this episode, I coach entrepreneur and influencer Rachel Parcell (@rachparcell), owner of rachelparcell.com, and address the question “How can I let go of mom guilt and create more partnership in my family?” Rachel and her husband have a common relationship dynamic where one is the strict parent and one is the fun parent and how it is impacting their family.
Rachel talks about feeling mom guilt in this dynamic and as a mom who works outside the home. I share that guilt is totally useless unless it’s pointing you to make a change. We also dive into how to build in rituals where Rachel can connect with her youngest child for one-on-one time throughout the day.
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How can I let go of control in my life as a mom pursuing a masters degree? Jul 19, 2022

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In this episode, I coach Michelle and address the question “How can I let go of control in my life as a mom pursuing a masters degree?” Michelle shares she has always felt like she has to be one hundred percent all the time and if something goes wrong it is her fault.

Michelle wants to have time for herself, time to be present with her family, and time to pursue her dreams. We dive into how she can drop or delegate tasks and free up time and energy in her life. We talk about Michelle’s fears around letting go of things at home and where that fear came from.
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Bonus Episode: Healing Aspirational Shame with Courtney Brown Jul 12, 2022

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In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Courtney Brown, CEO of Cents of Style, about aspirational shame. Aspirational shame is the experience of feeling guilty for having aspirations outside of home and family life. We share our personal experiences with aspirational shame and share how we came to reject the paradigm of work and family life being in opposition.

Courtney and I share lessons we’ve learned and discuss how we have both lessened or resolved aspirational shame and followed our passions in life. Part of this has involved building in support. We can’t do everything ourselves! But we can have a joyful life with both a family and a career or aspirations outside of the home.

If you are interested in learning more about aspirational shame, join me in the Dr. Julie Hanks membership. This is the topic for July. The membership includes:

Group coaching
A private Facebook group
Themed downloads like journal prompts and affirmations
Access to all previous membership content

Join today at drjuliehanks.com/memberhsip.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

How can I set boundaries with my mentally ill mother? Jul 05, 2022

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In this episode, I coach Jane and address the question “How can I set boundaries with my mentally ill mother?” Jane has struggled interacting with her mother and feeling manipulated throughout her life and is seeing the cost of that pattern.

Jane wants to set boundaries with her mother and is feeling a lot of pressure in the relationship. We dive into what would happen if Jane stopped answering her mothers demands and the concern her mother will spiral if Jane sets boundaries. I share that she can not be everything to her mother and that she gets to decide what her interaction with her mother looks like.

Bonus Episode: 500k Podcast Celebration! Jul 01, 2022

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This special podcast episode is a celebration of Ask Dr. Julie Hanks reaching half a million downloads. I hosted a live Q&A and answered questions about family, faith, mental health, faith transitions, communication, and more. I hope you’ll also enjoy my bonus musical performance of “You Can’t Lose My Love” and “Mother, Where Art Thou?”

Thank you for listening, sharing, and helping my podcast reach so many people! If you love the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast, please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

How can I help my kids foster a relationship with a family member I don’t get along with? Jun 28, 2022

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In this episode, I coach Kacey and address the question “How can I help my kids foster a relationship with a family member I don’t get along with?” Kacey has a strained relationship with her mother-in-law, but she doesn’t want their relationship to influence how her children interact with their grandmother.

As we talk, it becomes clear that Kacey’s worries are deeper than her kids’ relationship with their grandma. We dive into her desire for approval that may be making her relationship with her mother-in-law more painful than it needs to be. I share that this relationship will likely become less difficult as Kacey learns to let go of her need for others’ approval.

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