The Way You Show Up

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STOP Letting Burnout Control Your Life Sep 03, 2024

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Have you ever felt so exhausted by your job that even weekends don’t seem to recharge you? Join us as we unravel the complexities of burnout, a global crisis impacting two-thirds of workers, with insights grounded in both personal experiences and scientific studies. Discover how burnout isn’t just confined to the workplace but can also arise from academic pressures and volunteer roles.
Explore the pivotal role of cortisol, the stress hormone, in this phenomenon. We dig into how cortisol's balance—or lack thereof—affects our physical and mental health. Drawing parallels with athletic training, we introduce the PIES model to categorize the effects of burnout and stress, emphasizing the necessity of early recognition and intervention. You'll hear about our personal anecdotes, offering a relatable perspective on the toll of chronic stress and the critical need for effective management strategies, including mindfulness and exercise.
Arm yourself with actionable strategies to combat burnout, from progressive muscle relaxation techniques to the benefits of spiritual practices. Learn about disconcerting statistics from a 2024 study on US physicians’ vacation habits, underscoring the urgent need for adequate rest. Finally, we present seven practical methods to alleviate burnout and encourage you to commit to at least one of these strategies for a healthier, more balanced life. Prioritize your well-being with these expert tips and personal stories that bring our discussion to life.

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."
We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.
If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.
New episodes every Thursday.
Don't just exist. Show up.
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I'm EXHAUSTED! What You Need to Know About Burn Out Aug 30, 2024

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Full episode available September 3rd!
Could understanding the role of cortisol be the key to preventing burnout? Join us as we unpack the intricate relationship between this crucial hormone and burnout, guided by the World Health Organization's definition of the condition. We promise you'll gain insights into the three dimensions of burnout: energy depletion, increased mental distance or negativity towards one's job, and reduced professional efficacy. We discuss how burnout extends beyond traditional workplaces, affecting high-demand roles in academia and volunteer positions. Delve into the science of cortisol's role in stress response, metabolism, inflammation, blood sugar regulation, and the sleep-wake cycle, and explore the ongoing debate over whether burnout is linked to high or low cortisol levels.
In this episode, we also share personal stories and reflections about recognizing and addressing burnout. Hear firsthand about the overwhelming challenge of returning to work after a four-month sabbatical. The physical and emotional signs of burnout, such as the intense fatigue from back-to-back meetings and the crushing weight of expectations, are highlighted to emphasize the importance of listening to your body and setting boundaries. Whether you're navigating a high-demand job or managing a packed schedule, these insights and the role of cortisol will equip you with the knowledge to maintain your well-being and professional efficacy. Tune in to understand better the physiological underpinnings of burnout and its implications for your overall health.

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The 1 Problem Most Marriages Face Aug 27, 2024

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Can our past really dictate the health of our current relationships? Join us in this enlightening episode where we uncover the profound influence of unresolved emotions on our interactions today. With Dr. Chip Dodd, an esteemed expert in emotional and spiritual counseling, we explore how understanding and managing our feelings can be the key to personal and relational well-being. Dr. Dodd shares his pioneering spiritual root system philosophy, blending ancient wisdom with modern neuroscience to explain how our hearts govern our experiences and relationships.
Through heartfelt stories and practical advice, we dive deep into emotional regulation, the importance of processing feelings, and the power of resonance and revision in building trust. From navigating the complexities of marriage to understanding the four essential questions that help manage emotions, we emphasize the necessity of addressing emotional history to cultivate healthier connections. Dr. Dodd's insights are complemented by relatable anecdotes, including the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, revealing the intricate dynamics of emotional responsibility and empathy.
In our journey towards emotional healing, we highlight the shared humanity that binds us all, emphasizing the resilience of the human heart. Discover how identifying and expressing emotions truthfully can foster genuine connections and mutual understanding. We also discuss valuable resources such as 12-step groups for emotional support, underscoring the importance of finding trustworthy individuals to share vulnerabilities with. This episode offers a transformative perspective on emotional well-being, encouraging listeners to embrace their feelings for a more connected and compassionate life.
Today's Guest: Dr. Chip Dodd
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The 5 Characteristics Of The Heart Aug 23, 2024

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Full episode releases August 27th!
What if your heart, not your mind, holds the key to living a fulfilled life? In this enlightening episode, we sit down with Dr. Chip Dodd, the esteemed author of "The Voice of the Heart," to explore the profound idea that our emotions and spiritual nature define our true selves. Dr. Dodd breaks down the concept of the spiritual root system, explaining how our feelings shape our needs, desires, longings, and hopes. This is not just a theoretical discussion—it's grounded in both biblical teachings and modern neuroscience, offering a transformative perspective on how we engage with our emotions.
Dr. Dodd passionately discusses how recognizing and embracing our feelings can unlock deeper connections with ourselves, others, and even God. He shares how this understanding is foundational to various therapeutic practices aimed at nurturing our emotional and spiritual well-being. Whether you're familiar with Dr. Dodd's work or new to his insights, this thought-provoking conversation will challenge you to reconsider the role of the heart in your life, encouraging you to live more fully and authentically. Tune in for a journey that bridges ancient wisdom with contemporary science, offering timeless lessons for today's world.
Today's Guest: Dr. Chip Dodd
Dr. Chip Dodd has spent his entire career guiding thousands of professionals and their families through the struggles of their lives and into the lives they were created to have. In 1996, Dr. Dodd founded a treatment center in Nashville, Tennessee called The Center for Professional Excellence (CPE), and spent the next 22 years serving as its Executive Director. Since selling CPE in 2017, Dr. Dodd has worked in private practice doing consulting, mentoring, speaking, counseling, as well as writing. He began Chip Dodd Resources in 2019. In 1991, Dr. Dodd developed The Spiritual Root System (SRS). It is a simple and effective way of seeing how we are made, and integrating how we are made into the lives we desire. Dr. Dodd’s first book, The Voice of the Heart was published in 2001. This seminal work teaches the importance of feelings as tools and gifts that can assist us in living fully. This book continues to impact people’s lives all over the world. All of Dr. Dodd’s books speak to our desire to live fully, love deeply, and lead well.

Dr. Dodd married his high school sweetheart in 1983. They have two grown sons and two precious daughters-in-law. They currently live in Middle Tennessee.

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I Was Away From Work For 4 Months... Here's What I Learned Aug 20, 2024

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Can you imagine what transformation awaits you if you simply choose to slow down? In this episode, I invite you to journey with me through my four-month sabbatical, a time that began with resistance and ended with profound personal growth. Inspired by a conversation with Luke LeFevre, his words about the importance of slowing down initially felt daunting. However, embracing this leap of faith led me to reevaluate my life's pace and rediscover inner peace and clarity.
March was a turning point when mental fog and indecision signaled the need for a break. Leaving work was a rollercoaster of exhilaration and fear, filled with worries about my company's fate without me. This sabbatical wasn't just a vacation—it was a complete lifestyle overhaul that shook my identity to the core. Through new routines, intense journaling, and much-needed rest, I faced the challenge of understanding my worth beyond professional success. The first three weeks were especially turbulent, but they laid the foundation for the clarity and peace that followed.
The journey wasn't purely personal—it was deeply spiritual. I explored my life's mission and reconnected with my faith, particularly through the transformative power of Richard Stearns' book, "The Hole in Our Gospel." This spiritual quest led me to contemplate a career devoted to serving the needy, and I even considered a career change. Through prayer, stillness, and thoughtful decision-making, I found a renewed sense of purpose, especially in my work with Marriage Helper. Join me as I share how slowing down and seeking spiritual guidance can lead to life-changing clarity and fulfillment.

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What To Do If You Can't Sleep Aug 16, 2024

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What if you could finally conquer sleepless nights and wake up feeling refreshed every morning? This video promises to arm you with practical, expert-backed strategies for falling asleep faster and staying asleep longer. We dive into the importance of getting out of bed if you can't sleep, and why engaging in calming activities like journaling or reading can be game-changers. We also touch on the pros and cons of watching TV or using your phone, offering tips on minimizing blue light exposure to maintain a healthy sleep cycle.
Learn how to enhance your sleep hygiene throughout the day with actionable insights that range from morning sunlight exposure to daily exercise and stress management techniques. Discover why avoiding late-night work emails or emotionally charged conversations before bed can significantly improve your sleep quality. Whether you're struggling to fall asleep or waking up in the middle of the night, this episode is packed with valuable advice to help you create a more restful and restorative sleep environment. Join us as we share personal stories and expert tips on achieving the sleep you've always dreamed of.

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Breaking Free from Negative Thinking, Unlocking Better Sleep, and Thriving in Male Dominated Spaces - AMA Aug 13, 2024

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Ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of negative self-talk? In this episode, I recount my journey of returning to CrossFit, shifting my mindset from competition to personal growth, and the profound impact it had on my self-esteem. By focusing on self-awareness and integrating positive affirmations, you too can break free from the constraints of negativity and celebrate your own progress. This episode provides actionable insights on fostering self-compassion and celebrating small victories, essential for enhancing performance in all aspects of life.
Are you tired of waking up groggy and irritable? Learn the secrets to transforming your sleep routine with practical tips and personal anecdotes. In this episode we also share proven strategies such as avoiding screens before bed, creating a calming pre-sleep ritual, and optimizing your sleep environment. Plus, discover how a well-crafted morning routine can set you up for nighttime success, helping you wake up feeling refreshed and ready to tackle the day.
Women navigating male-dominated spaces face unique challenges, and in this episode, we tackle these head-on. Hear about my experiences of exclusion and learn the importance of authenticity and leveraging unique strengths. We highlight the necessity of greater awareness among men and the power of supportive professional networks for women. Additionally, we explore the significance of understanding your deeper motivations to maintain long-term fitness goals, inspired by a compelling conversation with Mike Foster. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion that will leave you feeling empowered and equipped to handle whatever comes your way.
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Increase Intellectual Attraction by Improving Your Memory Aug 06, 2024

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Curious about how stress might be silently sabotaging your memory? In today’s episode, we unravel the intricate web of memory mechanisms and share actionable techniques to boost your recall. We define memory in its various forms—working, short-term, and long-term—and use engaging examples like letter sequences and favorite bands to illustrate their unique functions. We promise you'll gain knowledge that can elevate both your personal and professional life.
Next, we tackle the impact of stress and trauma on memory recall with some eye-opening statistics and studies. Did you know that women might remember more words than men under stress? We discuss how negative experiences can overshadow positive memories and stress the importance of sleep for memory retention. Drawing on compelling research, including a 2019 study on PTSD, we highlight how personalized memory cues can significantly enhance recall.
Lastly, we shift our focus to practical strategies for memory improvement, emphasizing the importance of physical fitness and reward mechanisms. From repetition techniques to the cognitive prowess of elite athletes, we demonstrate how exercise and personalized strategies can make a remarkable difference. Tune in to learn how these insights can transform your memory performance and hear inspiring stories that showcase the incredible potential of these techniques.
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How Can I Overcome Grief After A Divorce? Jul 30, 2024

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Divorce can feel like the end of the world, shattering dreams and leaving you questioning your worth. But it doesn't have to be the final chapter. On It Starts with Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes and David Mathews, founder of Spark of Life, offer hope and healing for those navigating the devastating loss of divorce.
In this powerful episode, David reveals why divorce is so hard to process, highlighting the unresolved resentments, regrets, and shattered dreams that keep individuals stuck. He emphasizes the importance of viewing divorce as a form of grief and shares practical tools for recovery, including forgiveness, gratitude, and taking small steps forward. Discover how to shift your focus from loss to what you still have, and learn how to live forward with hope and purpose after divorce.
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How Can I Get Rid of Brain Fog? Jul 23, 2024

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Is Brain Fog Real? How to Beat It & Get Your Mental Clarity Back! Ever felt like you're walking through a mental fog? Forgetful, unfocused, and struggling to concentrate? You're not alone! Today, we're diving deep into the world of brain fog with the incredible Kimberly Beam Holmes.
In this episode, we'll uncover:
• What is brain fog? We'll break down the science, symptoms, and real-life experiences.
• Why is brain fog on the rise? We'll explore the surprising link between COVID-19 and brain fog, plus other potential triggers.
• How to kick brain fog to the curb! Discover the four powerful strategies you can use to reclaim your mental clarity: sleep, healthy diet, exercise, and mental breaks.
We'll even reveal some bonus tips, including the potential benefits of Wellbutrin and the power of drinking water.
Don't let brain fog hold you back from living your best life! Join us on this journey to understand and overcome this common struggle. Hit that subscribe button for more life-changing conversations on mental health, relationships, and personal growth. Turn on notifications so you never miss an episode! Share the love! If this video resonated with you, share it with a friend who might be struggling with brain fog.

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