The Way You Show Up

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How to Disagree Without Losing Friends or Family Sep 28, 2021

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Do you have a relationship that is struggling over a disagreement?

With everything going on in the world and our society, there is a lot of fighting and division happening all around us.

In this episode, Kimberly shares five things you can do when a disagreement challenges you. Many of us have encountered conversations about politics, and we're quick to stand our ground, believe what we believe, and disagree with the other side. But, you'll learn how to have a respectful conversation when you disagree and come out of it with more love and appreciation for the other person once you seek to understand.

Our psychological default is to fight to get our way and not be wrong. But we have to fight against that if we want to have a better society, if we're going to have better relationships and want to be the best version of ourselves.
Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships

Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.

Website: www.PIESUniversity.com

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You’ll Learn

How to have respectful conversations, so you seek to understand
Five key points to remember when you disagree with someone
No matter what the disagreement is, we are all on the same team

Season 2, Ep 69: How to Disagree Without Losing Friends or Family with Kimberly Beam Holmes

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."
We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.
If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.
New episodes every Thursday.
Don't just exist. Show up.
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Helping Parents Navigate Challenges with Kimball Lewis Sep 21, 2021

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There are two things in life that we are never taught to do, parenting and marriage.

In this episode, Kimberly speaks with parenting expert Kimball Lewis. You are going to learn how not to take your child’s disrespectful behavior personally and how to find common ground between you and your spouse when it comes to parenting. If you want your child to behave a certain way, you have to model those behaviors you want them to exhibit.

Parenting is hard, and this episode provides so much information and tips you can implement immediately. So grab a pen and get ready to take notes!

Today’s Speaker: Kimball Lewis, CEO, Empowering Parents

Kimball Lewis is the CEO of EmpoweringParents.com. In addition to his leadership and management roles, he contributes as an editor, a homeschooling expert, and a parent coach. He resides in Orlando, Florida, with his wife and two teenage sons. Managing child behavior problems is a skill that can be learned. And the tools and resources available through EmpoweringParent.com and The Total Transformation® child behavior program ensure that you don’t have to learn through trial and error. Instead, you can learn from parents and professionals who know how to effectively manage disrespect, defiance, backtalk, lying, laziness, motivation, and other behaviors.

Website: empoweringparents.com

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You’ll Learn

Why short-term consequences are more effective than long-term
Learn the difference between consequence and punishment
How to find common ground with your spouse when you disagree about parenting

Season 2, Ep 68: Helping Parents Navigate Challenges with Kimball Lewis

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Training Your Brain to Be Happy with Dr. Laurel Mellin Sep 08, 2021

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For us to be individuals who are more emotionally attractive, it's essential to understand our emotions.

In this episode, Kimberly talks with Dr. Laurel Mellin about Emotional Brain Training. You will learn how to understand your emotions and what to do with your emotions to help you move towards a state of happiness and joy.

You don’t want to miss the exercise Dr. Mellin walks Kimberly through. Kimberly gets real and raw about feelings and thoughts she has about herself, and she learns how those emotions don’t have to hold you back or dictate your future.

Pop in your headphones, grab a notepad to take notes, and get ready to dive into this very insightful episode!
Today’s Speaker: Dr. Laurel Mellin, Ph.D., Founder of Emotional Brain Training

Dr. Mellin is a health psychologist who founded and developed emotional brain training. She is an associate clinical professor of family and community medicine and pediatrics at the University of California San Francisco. Dr. Mellin has authored papers on the science and efficacy of EBT and is a New York Times bestselling author of four books on the method.

Website: www.ebt.org

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You’ll Learn:

The #1 gateway to transformation is anger
There are 5 levels of stress, all of which are healthy (as long as we don’t stay in them)
Everything that is important for us to survive and thrive, is also extremely sensitive to stress

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Season 2, Ep 67: Training Your Brain to Be Happy with Emotional Brain Training with Dr. Laurel Mellin

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Improve Your Skin Health with Medical Aesthetician, Lauren Vance Aug 31, 2021

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How well are you taking care of your skin?

Skin health is essential for everyone, and good skincare should start early. Today, Kimberly is speaking with Lauren Vance, Lead Medical Aesthetician at a premier medical spa. Lauren shares the importance of diet, hydration, good SPF, vitamin C, and why you shouldn’t use towels to dry your face!

You don’t want to miss this episode because you may think you are doing everything right in skincare, but you’ll be surprised!

Men and women, this episode is for you!

Today’s Speaker: Lauren Vance, Lead Medical Aesthetician

Lauren Vance is the lead medical aesthetician at a brand new premier medical spa in Franklin,TN called Face It. Lauren has a background in early childhood education but decided to follow her passion in the beauty industry. Lauren has been an aesthetician for several years and continues to enhance her practice by pursuing additional classes to learn everything there is to learn about skincare. Lauren is certified in dermaplaning, light therapy, acne care, skin cancer care, chemical and enzyme peels, corrective skincare, and Lauren is a partner with many medical-grade skincare lines. She has a huge passion for helping her clients feel their most beautiful selves and finding their confidence.

Social: Find Lauren on Facebook and Instagram.

To purchase products, contact Lauren at lauren@faceitfranklin.com

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You’ll Learn

How your diet can affect your skin
The importance of drinking water
Why you shouldn't use a washcloth or towel to dry your face

Episode: 66, Improve Your Skin Health with Medical Aesthetician, Lauren Vance

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Creating Exceptional Relationships from Stanford's Top Class Professor Aug 24, 2021

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Do you have a relationship in your life that is troubled?

In today’s episode, you are going to hear from Stanford Professor Dr. David Bradford. David is well known for his course on Interpersonal Dynamics, or what the students call the “touchy-feely” class. David has his students build relationships by sharing personal feelings and creating interactions that help them grow and learn from each other.

You will learn how to improve your troubled relationships by applying Dr. Bradford’s techniques and tools. He shares when it’s good to be defensive vs. when it’s not and shares how to have respectful, honest, and trustworthy conversations that will strengthen your relationship.

There is so much to unpack in this episode so grab your headphones and paper to takes notes. Enjoy the show!
Today’s Speaker: Dr. David Bradford Ph.D., Senior Lecturer at Stanford Graduate School of Business

David is the Eugene O’Kelly II Senior Lecturer Emeritus in Leadership at Stanford Graduate School of Business, where he helped develop Interpersonal Dynamics (“Touchy Feely”) and much of the School’s leadership curriculum. He is the author of numerous books, including Managing for Excellence, Influence Without Authority, and Power Up. He lives in Berkeley, California, with his wife of more than fifty years.

Website: https://connectandrelate.com/

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You’ll Learn

When being defensive is good vs. bad
How your relationship obstacles can be good opportunities for growth
How to set boundaries without blame

Season 2, Ep 03: Creating Exceptional Relationships from Stanford's Top Class Professor

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Tips for Mindfulness and Self-Care from LinkedIn VP, Scott Shute Aug 17, 2021

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Are you interested in learning how to become more aware of yourself and your surroundings?

In this episode, Scott shares how he became the VP of Mindfulness and Compassion at LinkedIn and why he took a chance to advocate and create the position.

You will learn how mindfulness allows you to be more aware and therefore have more compassion for others. When we focus on small things to show compassion, you let others know that you care about them. Scott talks about micro compassions and what you can start doing today to take positive actions to be more compassionate.

There is so much to learn in this episode that falls in line with the PIES. Pop in your headphones, go for a walk, and enjoy the episode!
Today’s Speaker: Scott Shute, LinkedIn VP Head of Mindfulness & Compassion

Scott Shute is at the heart of LinkedIn‘s quest to create a culture of compassionate leadership, serving as VP of Global Customer Operations and Head of Mindfulness Programs. In both of his roles, Scott is working every day to align himself, his coworkers, and the company with a deeper understanding of member needs—and human needs in general—through data analysis, intentional listening, and swift action, in order to elevate LinkedIn’s collective wisdom and impact in the world. As a mindful leader, he has cultivated his mastery of meditation and awareness from his early days farming with his family in rural Kansas to leading thousands in meditation in Silicon Valley and beyond. Here we learn about the secret driver of his work and creative pursuits, including art photography and yoga, which is also the key to our happiness—with beautiful depth and a simple application that we can all put into practice.

Website: www.scottshute.com/

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You’ll Learn

The difference between mindfulness and meditation
How to start a mindfulness practice
How to use mindfulness to be more compassionate

Season 2, Ep 02: Tips for Mindfulness and Self-Care from LinkedIn VP, Scott Shute

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Motivation, Dedication, and Having a Why with Adele Bester Aug 10, 2021

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We're kicking off the season with a wonderful testimonial from Adele Bester. You are going to love her story, and you'll leave the podcast feeling inspired and informed on how to start working on your PIES.

Adele shares how she learned to let go and trust God. This story is a continuation of an incredible journey and the importance of hard work and self-love. You can hear more of Adele and Ren's story on the Relationship Radio podcast.
Pop in your headphones, go for a walk, and enjoy the episode!
Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement & Relationships

Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

Website: www.PIESUniversity.com

Get the Attraction Assessment by visiting www.PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up.

You’ll Learn

Tips on prioritizing your PIES
The importance of sleep
Why you may want to "Let go and let God."

Season 2, Ep 01: Motivation, Dedication, and Having a Why with Adele Bester

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Season 2 Trailer Aug 05, 2021

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Season 2 is back! We've got a new look and a super exciting second season for you! We are delighted to give you amazing interviews, new topics, and a theme for each month!

We are kicking off August, covering various topics on relationships, from workplace relationships to parenting. In addition, you'll hear from a LinkedIn VP share tips on mindfulness and self-care in the workplace, and you'll also hear how Dr. Mellin works through emotional brain training with Kimberly.

Get ready for an all-new season next Tuesday, August 10th.

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Wrapping up Season 1 Jun 15, 2021

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We’re wrapping up the first season of It Starts With Attraction!

It’s been a wonderful first season with great guests, researched-based topics, and awesome questions from our listeners. Be sure to go back and listen to previous episodes to get tips to help you work on your PIES.

A few of our favorites:

We would love to hear from you so if there is a topic that you would like us to cover, please let us know by clicking here to take our podcast survey.

Until then, stay tuned for season 2 of It Starts With Attraction!
Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships

Website: www.PIESUniversity.com

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AMA: Help! I've Lost Interest in Having Sex Jun 01, 2021

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Do you ever feel like you just aren't in the mood and want to sleep?
Today's Ask Me Anything questions comes from Muna and she says "I often have no interest in sex and just want to sleep. How can I change to be in the mood more often?"
In this episode, Kimberly helps answer this question by uncovering what could be the root cause. Has something in your life recently changed that is causing you stress? Are you not getting enough sleep because you are overwhelmed throughout the day?
Pop your headphones in and get ready to learn how to get in the mood!
Always consult with a medical professional first to get help.
Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships

Website: www.PIESUniversity.com
Referenced in the episode: Spark your Marriage Course

You’ll Learn

what you can do so you can get in the mood again
how to speak with your significant other about ways to help when feeling overwhelmed
questions to ask yourself and evaluate other parts of your life that may need to change

Ep 060: AMA: Help! I've Lost Interest in Having Sex, with Kimberly Beam Holmes

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