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Episode 40: When Your Partner Wants Sex But You Don’t Feb 24, 2022

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What do you do when your partner initiates sex, but you’re not in the mood?

This can be one of the trickiest moments to navigate in a relationship. You might find yourself freezing up, worrying about hurting your partner, or even feeling irritated at them for initiating in the first place.

In this episode, we walk you through exactly what to do. You might even be surprised by our suggestions!

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Check out the show notes: vmtherapy.com/episode40

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Episode 39: If You Had To Ask, Does It Even Count? Feb 17, 2022

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You wish your partner would do something thoughtful for you, and you definitely DON’T want to have to ask them to do it — because if you did, it wouldn’t really count as something thoughtful anymore! Right?!

This episode is the remedy for this all-too-common complaint. We’re giving you steps to take toward more intentional, joyful moments for both you and your partner.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode39

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Episode 38: You Want Connection, Your Partner Wants Sex. Who Comes First? Feb 10, 2022

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There are two types of people: those who need to feel connected before having sex, and those that need to have sex in order to feel connected. In a cruel twist of fate, relationships typically have one of each type of person. This can lead to a stand-off situation that often manifests in long dry spells or straight up bad sex.

In this episode, we give our surprising (and perhaps controversial) answer to what comes first — emotional or physical connection, and talk about how to end the ‘stand-off’ once and for all.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode38

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Episode 37: The Truth About Why We’re Child-Free Feb 03, 2022

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One of the most frequent questions we get is, “Do you have kids?” Followed closely by “why don’t you have any?” While it hasn’t always been an easy journey, we’ve gotten to a place where we’re really comfortable and confident in our choice to be child-free. So today’s episode is all about how we got there!

We get deeply vulnerable and yes, tears were shed. We’re answering your burning questions and discussing how we decided to be child-free, the way we told our families and how they reacted, and the feelings that come up around knowing we won’t have children.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode37

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Episode 36: Can We Come Back From This? Jan 27, 2022

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What do you do when your partner says something hurtful that you just can’t shake, even months or years later? Is it something you can grow and heal from or is it simply a deal breaker?

This advice-column style episode dives into the “grey area” of relationships. We’ll hear stories from members of our community who are sharing their most harrowing ‘can we come back from this?’ moments and give our best advice on how to move forward.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode36

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Episode 35: Fine, I’ll Just Do It Myself: The Danger of Weaponized Incompetence Jan 20, 2022

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Has your partner ever done a task so poorly or asked you so many questions that you finally just said “fine, I’ll do it myself!”? This is called weaponized incompetence, and while your partner may not mean for it to be, it can be harmful in a relationship. In this episode we’re going to talk about how to identify weaponized incompetence, how it shows up in OUR relationship, and what to do if you or your partner are doing this.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode35

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Episode 34: I Want You To Want Me Jan 13, 2022

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We all want to feel desired, but so often in relationships we get into a place where it feels like one partner wants the other more.

If you’re the higher desire partner, you’re probably feeling lonely and scared - scared that your partner might not be into you, and scared that you’ll get rejected if you initiate any kind of sex or intimacy. In fact, you may even be withholding affection for fear of being turned down!

If you’re the lower desire partner, you might be feeling ashamed, like there’s something wrong with you. You may even be tempted to start giving your partner half-hearted sex or intimacy in an attempt to appease them.

Unfortunately, none of these techniques end up being very successful, and in fact tend to only reinforce the feeling of imbalance.

In this week's podcast episode, we show you how to unravel these painful dynamics.

Links & Resources:

Rediscovering Desire

Mental Load Workbook

Initiation 101 Masterclass

Check out our YouTube channel

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode34

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Episode 33: The Episode We Almost Didn’t Release Jan 06, 2022

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Full transparency: we didn’t know if we were going to release this episode. We’re talking about everything from how we processed the chaos that is the holidays to whether we upheld our “Holiday Classic” sex pact.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode33

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Episode 32: 5 Ways To Make 2022 Your Most Intimate AND Nasty Year Ever Dec 30, 2021

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This episode is all about making 2022 the best year of your relationship yet! Get our five favorite sustainable and actionable tips for making your relationship a priority next year.

Links & Resources:

The Sex Challenge

Ultimate Foreplay Guides

Sex Position Playbook

Mental Load Workbook

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Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode32

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Episode 31: Should We Open Our Relationship? Dec 23, 2021

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Have you ever thought about opening up your relationship? Have WE ever thought about opening up our relationship? Some see it as a necessity to fully express their sexuality while others think it might be the perfect salve for a hurting relationship. One thing’s for sure, open relationships are subject to a lot of misconceptions. Tune in to find out what open relationships are all about, and find out if WE are taking the steps toward this relationship structure.

Links & Resources:

The Sex Challenge

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode31

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