Pillow Talks

Latest Episodes:

Episode 29: Anxious? Avoidant? What Your Attachment Style Says About You (And Your Relationship) Dec 09, 2021

Show notes

Attachment Style Theory looks at the ways we respond to other people based on the way we responded to our earliest relationships: our relationships with our parents. In this episode we're talking about what each style means for the people who have it, plus how the styles relate to each other.

Links & Resources:

Golden Rules of Communication

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Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode29

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Episode 28: So Your Partner Told You Their Fantasy... And You're Not Into It Dec 02, 2021

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Do you have a fantasy you've always wanted to explore? Maybe your partner does as well, but it doesn't 'match up' with yours. In this episode we're diving into a five step process for dealing with different fantasies in relationships.

Links & Resources:

Top 7 Fantasies PDF

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode28

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Episode 27: Your In-Law Holiday Survival Guide Nov 24, 2021

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In-laws are tricky. Holidays are tricky. Put them together and you've got some truly stressful situations. In this episode we are once again going 'advice column-style' to help some of our audience members sort out their frustrations. We're talking a lot about boundaries and communication, and even if you have typically stress-free holidays, this episode is definitely entertaining.

Links & Resources:

Love Languages Videos

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode27

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Episode 26: Are You Good In Bed? Nov 18, 2021

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We turned to our Instagram audience @vanessamarintherapy to ask them "what makes someone good in bed?" and they DELIVERED. They also opened up on telling us what makes someone bad in bed. Do you really know what actually makes sex good? Listen to find out some major themes we noticed. We'll unpack our findings and give you practical advice to sharpen your skills in the bedroom.

Links & Resources:

Confidence in the Bedroom Masterclass

PDF of our findings for this episode!

Check out the Show Notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode26

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Episode 25: Are You Too Needy? Nov 11, 2021

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When you hear the word 'needy', it's probably the last thing you would ever want to be described as; being needy is so steeped in shame! Today we're going to talk about what neediness is - and what it isn't - and some genuinely helpful tools for addressing neediness.

Links & Resources:

Simple Daily Check In (Free Guide)

Check out the show notes here: vmtherapy.com/episode25

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Episode 23: Butt Stuff! Oct 28, 2021

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What makes anal play so great anyway and why are people so intimidated by it? Well, we're answering those questions and talking about how to break through some of the objections surrounding this topic.

👉 ⁠⁠⁠Butt Stuff 🍑 (only available inside of DEEPER)⁠⁠

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode23

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Episode 22: How To Not Pass Sexual Shame On To Your Kids Oct 21, 2021

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In this episode, we're talking about how to cut through the shame, awkwardness and embarrassment that we've been taught to have when talking about sex; specifically when it comes to talking to your kids.

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Episode 8: Has Purity Culture Harmed Your Sex Life? How To Overcome Religious Shame

YouTube — The Ultimate Guide to Talk to Your Kids About Sex

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode22

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Episode 21: Cowgirls And Doggies And [Redacted], Oh My! Your Guide To Trying New Sex Positions Oct 14, 2021

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Trying new sex positions is a really fun way to spice up your sex life, but it can feel super intimidating to even get started when you're already in a comfortable routine.

In today's episode, we are addressing your concerns and helping you gain the confidence to dive right in and add to your repertoire!

LInks & Resource:

Pick up your copy of the Sex Position Playbook!

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode21

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Episode 20: Should We Break Up? Oct 07, 2021

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How do you know if or when to end a relationship?

To see if we could help answer that question, we reached out to our Instagram community for story submissions and were overwhelmed with the number of responses from people wondering whether to continue or end their relationships. These submissions cover everything from not getting 'butterflies' anymore to feeling "emotionally starved". Today, we'll be sharing some of the stories we received, walking you through these nuanced and complex situations, and offering our best advice for how to move forward.

Links and Resources:

Free Guide: The Golden Rules of Communication

Podcast: How To Navigate Different Political, Social, and Religious Beliefs In Dating And Relationships

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode20

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Episode 19: How To Have Amazing Sex With A Brand New Partner Sep 30, 2021

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Awkward, fun, nerve-wracking, and exciting: all words that our community used to describe first-time sex with a new partner. There can be a lot of high expectations and common misconceptions about first times, so today we're going to be helping you navigate the waters of getting it on with someone new.

Even if you're in a long term relationship, there are tips on communicating with your partner about sex. And of course, we had to share the embarrassing details about our first time!

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Podcast Episode: No Your Partner Didn't Make You Feel That Way — Your Feelings Are Your Responsibility

Free Guide: Are You Sexually Compatible?

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode121

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