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Episode 60: Help! My Partner Hates Self-Improvement! Jul 14, 2022

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You read all the books, listen to all the podcast episodes, and do all the meditations and affirmations. But your partner won’t even read a dang Instagram caption!

What do you do if you value self-improvement and personal development, but your partner just can’t be bothered - or even flat-out refuses?

In today’s episode, we’re giving you the tips and tools to get your partner invested in becoming the best version of themselves.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode60

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Episode 59: Roleplaying 101: Ditch The Awkwardness And Find Your Confidence Jul 07, 2022

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In today’s episode we’re diving into something that 74% of our audience have never done - roleplay!

Most people think that roleplaying feels awkward and uncomfortable. They worry about not knowing who to roleplay, not being able to get or stay in character, and generally embarrassing themselves.

But we think that roleplaying can be a whole lot of fun - and can even be a great way to feel more present in the bedroom!

So in today’s episode, we’re going to give you our step-by-step roadmap for easing into roleplaying, and discovering your confidence!

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode59

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Episode 58: The Sex Act You Should Be Doing - But Probably Aren’t Jun 30, 2022

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Today’s episode is about one of the most underrated sex acts that you’re probably not doing… mutual masturbation!

Even if your face is already beet red, we’re going to do our best to convince you why masturbation isn’t something you should do alone or in secret.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode58

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Episode 57: Is This Your Shit Or Mine? Jun 23, 2022

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“Should I have to stop hanging out with my ex because my girlfriend said so?”

“Is it my husband’s job to say something to my rude in-laws?”

We’re answering these spicy questions and many more in today’s episode of Pillow Talks!

Most of us get annoyed by things our partner says or does — but is it their problem, or ours? Is it their responsibility to fix, or is it something we need to learn how to live with? Today we’re answering the question, “Is this your shit or mine?”

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode57

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Episode 56: What Do Men REALLY Think About… ? (Vulvas, Emotional Intimacy, And More!) Jun 16, 2022

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Every day we get DMs from women asking Xander what men REALLY think about everything from pubic hair to emotional intimacy.

We decided we had to devote an entire podcast episode to this topic, so we gathered your most common questions and concerns, and put Xander in the hot seat. We also asked the men in our Instagram audience for their feedback. We’re giving you an invaluable peek inside the hearts and minds of men all over the world.

Topics include:

Cellulite
How many sexual partners a woman has had
Do men compare their partner to others?
Vulvas (smell, look, taste)
Giving oral sex

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode56

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Episode 55: The 69 Episode Jun 09, 2022

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Love it or hate it, 69 is one of the most infamous sex acts. We just had to give it it’s own episode, especially since today is also 6/9.

We’re sharing how we really feel about 69, plus 6.9 amazing tips for having the most fun in this position. You also do not want to miss the hilarious stories our audience shared with us!

But that’s not all! It’s also the 1 year anniversary of the Pillow Talks Podcast! We asked you for your favorite moments and jokes from the year, and we’re sharing some of your answers. It’s a really fun walk down memory lane!

Links & Resources:

Online Courses & Guides

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode55

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Episode 54: Ask Us Anything Part 2: MORE Of Your Burning Questions, Answered Jun 02, 2022

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We were WRONG.

Well, Vanessa was. She thought there was no way our last Ask Us Anything episode would be popular, but it ended up being one of our most listened-to episodes!

So we decided to do a Part 2 with more of the most asked and most interesting personal questions we’ve gotten.

We’re talking about:

What we fight about
What we won’t do sexually
Vanessa’s ultra-personal therapy update
What our families think about us being in the sex therapy business
What we keep private from our Instagram audience

And so much more!

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Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode54

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Episode 53: How To Spice It Up In the Bedroom: Exploring Kink For Beginners May 26, 2022

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Have you ever read a romance novel or watched a sex scene and felt turned on by reading or seeing something kinda kinky that you’ve never even thought of doing in the bedroom before?

Maybe you like the sex you’re having now, but you’ve heard of some naughty things that make you a little…curious.

This episode is your introduction to kink: what it is, why you might want to experiment with it, and how to actually go about trying it in a safe, healthy way!

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Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode53

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Episode 52: How To Get Your Man To Take Control In The Bedroom May 19, 2022

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You’re innocently folding the laundry, just minding your own business, when your partner comes up behind you, brushes your hair away from your ear and whispers “I want you. NOW.” They order you to take off your clothes. They push you down onto the bed, and ravage you from head to toe.

We’ve all had this fantasy, right? It’s SO sexy to think about your partner taking control.

But what is it about this control fantasy that’s so appealing?

You might be surprised to find out...

If you’ve ever wanted your (male) partner to take control in the bedroom, this episode is a must-listen!

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode52

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Episode 51: The Art of Flirting (In a Long Term Relationship) May 12, 2022

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“Why should I have to flirt with my partner? We’ve been together forever!”

A lot of us in long-term relationships feel hesitant to flirt with our partner. It feels awkward, clunky, or just plain unnecessary.

But flirting is an amazing way to ignite that spark you once had and remind you of those exciting early days of your relationship.

Most importantly: flirting can make both of you feel SO good about the way you see each other.

We know it can feel daunting to flirt with your partner, especially if you’re out of practice or don’t consider yourself good at it, so we’re doing a whole episode on exactly how to flirt.

Even if you feel like flirting “isn’t for me” or doesn’t come naturally to you, we promise that this episode will boost your confidence and have you trying out some new techniques ASAP — and don’t blame us if things get a little sweeter (and spicier)! 😉

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode51

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