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#62: Understanding Your Nervous System with Sarah Baldwin Apr 05, 2023

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In today's episode, I'm speaking with Sarah Baldwin - a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Trauma Coach who is trained in Polyvagal interventions and is on the training team at the Polyvagal Institute. Sarah specialises in somatic trauma healing, attachment work, parts and inner child work and nervous system regulation.
We cover:

why nervous system regulation is the missing piece in so much healing work
understanding the different states of your nervous system
the connection between attachment and nervous system regulation
how to distinguish between anxiety and intuition

and so much more!
You can find Sarah Baldwin on Instagram (@sarahbcoaching) or at sarahbaldwincoaching.com.

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#61: What to Do When You're Feeling Stuck in Your Relationship Mar 30, 2023

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In this Q&A episode, I'm speaking to the common conundrum of what to do when you're feeling stuck in your relationship. This often happens when we've been trying for some time to make changes (or hoping that our partner will make changes), but we're just not seeing any progress. I'll share an unexpected way that you can shift out of low self-worth and hopelessness, and into a more empowered, self-confident state that will allow you to navigate whatever is happening in your relationship with clarity & trust.

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#60: 5 Reasons You're Not Getting Your Needs Met (& What to Do About It) Mar 29, 2023

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In this episode, we're talking all about needs - specifically, looking at some common reasons why you're not getting your needs met in a relationship. It's easy to feel defeated and hurt when our needs are going unmet, but oftentimes there's far more that's within our control than we might think.

We'll cover:

the importance of identifying your needs
how to communicate your needs to your partner
mindset blocks around receiving and how these stops you from getting what you need
what to do if your partner can't or won't meet you in your needs

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#59: "How should I bring up moving in together with my avoidant partner?" Mar 23, 2023

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In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of how to bring up wanting to move in together with an avoidant partner. This episode will be super helpful for anyone in this same situation, or who is otherwise wanting to have a "what are we?" type chat with their avoidant partner.
We'll cover:

mindset shifts for the anxious partner in approaching these conversations
how to own your desires and feel comfortable voicing them
how best to approach these conversations with an avoidant partner
what to do if you're not on the same page

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#58: From Anxious to Secure: 6 Shifts You'll Notice As You Heal Mar 22, 2023

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In anticipation of the upcoming launch of my signature program Healing Anxious Attachment, today's episode is all about what changes you can expect as you heal your anxious attachment. I'll be sharing 6 shifts that you'll notice as you do the healing work and become more secure within yourself and in your relationships.
We cover:

learning to observe your anxious thoughts rather than be ruled by them
not feeling the urgent need to fix and problem-solve your relationship
trusting that conflict isn't a matter of life or death
building your self-worth
learning to enjoy your own company

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#57: The Difference Between Privacy and Secrecy in Relationships Mar 17, 2023

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In today's episode, we're talking about the difference between privacy and secrecy. Depending on where you sit on the attachment spectrum, you may have a complicated relationship with privacy - both your own and others'. We'll discuss where the line is between privacy and secrecy, and what to do if you find other people's privacy uncomfortable or triggering.

We cover:

what's the difference between privacy and secrecy?
anxious attachment and the need for information to eliminate uncertainty
the trust wound
avoidant attachment and protectiveness around privacy
important caveats where there has been a known breach of trust

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#56: 5 Ways to Support a Fearful Avoidant Partner Mar 14, 2023

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In today's episode, I'm sharing 5 ways to support a partner with a fearful avoidant (AKA disorganised) attachment style. The fearful avoidant attachment style is often considered the most complex and challenging of the attachment styles, characterised by a conflicting push-pull between wanting intimacy and fearing it.
We'll cover:

the betrayal wound and the importance of honesty & openness in building trust
striking the right balance between compassion & firm boundaries
how to make the fearful avoidant feel loved & appreciated

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#55: "I can't help but hope that my ex comes back. How do I let go so I can move on?" Mar 09, 2023

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In this Q&A episode, we're talking all about moving on after a break-up. Specifically, what to do when we want to move on, but deep down we're still very much hoping our ex will reach out and want to rekindle.

We cover:

the importance of allowing ourselves to feel our feelings after a break-up
why we don't need to emotionally let go before moving on
how to take action to support yourself after a break-up

You can download my free guided meditation on finding closure & letting go here.

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#54: From Honeymoon Period to Power Struggle: Navigating the Stages of Relationship Mar 08, 2023

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In this episode, we're talking all about the stages of a relationship - specifically, what happens when we transition from the honeymoon period of a relationship (fuelled by chemistry, romance and infatuation) to the power struggle (where all our flaws and wounds come to the fore).
We'll talk about:

what each stage of a relationship looks like
why the transition from honeymoon period to power struggle feels like a bait & switch
how anxious-avoidant dynamics overlay onto this dynamic
how you can make the most of the power struggle stage & use it to grow closer as a couple

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