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#82: “Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 1) Jun 13, 2023

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One of the things I’m most often asked is “How do I know if I’m being unreasonable in my relationship?”. This can be a really tough enquiry to determine for yourself, particularly when you’re getting a lot of pushback and self-trust may be lacking.
In today’s episode, I’m offering my take on your specific examples as to whether certain expectations, requests or situations are reasonable (or not), to help you to be able to build your discernment muscle and ultimately feel equipped to make that decision for yourself in your relationships.

We'll cover:

Should someone text me everyday after 1 or 2 dates?
Asking my partner to stop speaking to his ex because I compare myself with her
Asking my significant other to not like scandalous or seductive pictures online
Asking my partner to check in with me when they get home safely after drinking
Wanting regular sleepovers when my partner sleeps better alone

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#81: The Gift of Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Jun 08, 2023

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So much of the content around attachment theory focuses on the challenges that anxious-avoidant pairings can present. And while those challenges are undoubtedly very real, there are also real gifts within an anxious-avoidant dynamic when the individuals involved are prepared to meet in the middle. Today I’m sharing what those gifts can look like, and tips on making the most of your anxious-avoidant relationship so that it can become a space for healing.

We'll cover:

How different attachment styles respond to stress
Leading with compassion and care
The work that needs to be done with both attachment styles
Lessons and opportunities within anxious-avoidant relationships

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#80: How to Get an Avoidant Partner to Open Up Jun 06, 2023

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This week, I’m answering the community question, “How do I get my avoidant partner to open up?”. I’ll dive into how to pave the way for more genuine, authentic connection and what that looks like for people with avoidant attachment styles and anxious attachment styles within relationships.
We'll cover:

Preferences of wanting to receive information
Trust wounds in avoidant partners
Self-serving behaviour that could be impacting this issue
Insight into their experience

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#79: 5 Reasons Why People Cheat Jun 01, 2023

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A couple of weeks ago, I shared my thoughts on if “once a cheater, always a cheater” is true, and today I’m continuing the conversation around the reasons why people cheat in a relationship and getting curious around what’s driving these behaviours. For some people this may be a challenging episode to listen to, so please make sure you’re in the right mindset to listen.

We'll cover:

Wounds around worthiness
Disconnection and loneliness
Feeling like it’s the easy way out
Being seen through rose coloured glasses

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#78: Understanding Your Origin Wounds with Vienna Pharaon (@mindfulmft) May 30, 2023

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In today's episode, I'm joined by Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is a licensed marriage & family therapist, creator of the hugely successful @mindfulmft Instagram account, and recently published author of The Origins of You. Vienna has the gift of conveying complex and emotionally dense topics with such nuance. Today she joins me on the podcast to talk about origin wounds and how they impact patterns in relationships as adults and how we can honour our pain and experience.

We'll cover:

What happens when you hide behind a façade of being "fine"
The five origin wounds (worthiness, belonging, trust, safety and prioritisation)
Why we might struggle to explore our family dynamics
What happens when we avoid being in pain properly
Finding peace with the pain

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#77: "How to enjoy being single when I really want a relationship?" May 25, 2023

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When you really want a relationship, enjoying being single can be something incredibly challenging. In today's Q&A style episode, I’m diving into how to enjoy being single when all you really want is a relationship.

We'll cover:

Owning your desire for a loving, healthy relationship
Being grateful in the present
What it means to actually enjoy your life being single

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#76: 5 Communication Mistakes You're Making (& What to do instead) May 23, 2023

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In today's episode, I’m sharing five communication and conflict mistakes that I often see people making in relationships and what you can do instead to bridge a positive connection with your partner.

We'll cover:

Why we shouldn’t avoid the hard conversations
What happens when we suppress our emotions
How to express your desires with your partner
Why we shouldn’t expect our partners to be mind readers

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#75: Is "once a cheater, always a cheater" true? May 18, 2023

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Cheating within relationships can cause so much pain, grief and sensitivity around betray and infidelity. In today's Q&A style episode, I’m sharing my thoughts on if people can really change if they’ve cheated in the past and advice for people in the situation with concerns that their partner may not stay faithful.

We'll cover:

Learning from mistakes
The messy feelings that lead to infidelity
Tending to needs that aren’t being met
Expressing self awareness and regret

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#74: Helping Men Thrive in Life & Relationships with Connor Beaton (@mantalks) May 16, 2023

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In today's episode, I'm talking with NY-based coach, teacher and speaker, Connor Beaton about the challenges men are facing in our modern society. Connor and I talk through how understanding the experience of men better, we can cultivate healthier relationships and happier and more fulfilled lives.

Note: while On Attachment aims to be as inclusive as possible, this conversation is focused primarily on male-female relationships and the dynamics that can arise therein. We know that's not everyone's experience, so feel free to take from this episode what resonates with you, and leave what doesn't.

We'll cover:

Numbing out pain from childhood and using unhealthy coping mechanisms
Stopping the cycle of running away from yourself
What it looks like inside a relationship when men are lacking confidence & competence
How vulnerability can be practised with men
What makes a great relationship

Find Connor Beaton's work on Instagram (@mantalks), check out his courses and membership on his website, and be sure to purchase his best-selling book Men's Work.

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#73: Why We Want to Believe in "The One" May 11, 2023

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In today's episode, I'm unpacking the concept of "the one". When it comes to relationships, many of us have absorbed the conditioning that there is some perfect person out there for us - and our only job is to find them. This can lead us down a rabbit hole of doubt, comparison and low self-worth.
We cover:

why the idea of "the one" is unrealistic
how it can lead us to doubt our perfectly normal, healthy relationship
the unexpected reason why we might seek out "the one"

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