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#92: How to Manage Jealousy in Relationships Jul 18, 2023

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Unless you're a true outlier, there's a pretty good chance you've had some experience with jealousy. And yet, as universal as it is, jealousy is possibly one of the most maligned emotions we can have.
In today's episode, join me on a journey to understand this complex emotion better and explore ways to transform it into a tool for strengthening relationships. We'll explore the various expressions of jealousy, ranging from the healthy to the unhealthy, and shed light on why it emerges, encouraging a perspective of curiosity and understanding over judgement.

Today's episode will also be beneficial for those grappling with jealousy resulting from a partner's past wrongdoings. Together, we'll learn how to create a safe space for addressing these feelings and communicating them respectfully. So tune in, and let's redefine your understanding of jealousy in relationships.
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#91: How to Navigate Boundaries with an Ex-Partner Jul 13, 2023

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Ever been caught in that tricky situation of setting boundaries with an ex? Navigating this territory can be a daunting task at the best of times, and especially so when co-parenting or shared responsibilities are at play.
In today's episode, I'll be sharing some strategies for establishing and upholding boundaries with ex-partners that allow you to prioritise your wellbeing. I'll also share some tips on how to handle emotions that may surface during interactions with an ex, how to manage people-pleasing parts that want to keep everyone happy, and how to extract yourself from addictive but ultimately unhealthy dynamics.

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#90: Breaking the Cycle of Situationships Jul 11, 2023

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Ever been stuck in a situationship, that in-between space where you're more than purely casual but not truly committed? In today's episode, we're unboxing this modern dating conundrum.
We're peeling back the layers of why we find ourselves in these non-committal scenarios, particularly exploring the attachment drives that can both lead to and exacerbate this dynamic. More importantly, we'll explore how to opt out of this challenging cycle and pave our way towards healthier relationships.
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#89: How to Care Less About Others' Opinions (For the Recovering People Pleaser) Jul 06, 2023

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Are you feeling stuck in the perennial battle between seeking external validation and staying true to your authentic self? In today's Q&A episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to detach from unhealthy people-pleasing behaviours that ask us to trade our authenticity for belonging and approval.
This episode challenges you to take a deeper look into your people pleasing tendencies, learn to channel them more intentionally, and cultivate self-worth and self-respect. The goal? To build an internal foundation that allows us to handle criticism and rejection without losing our sense of self.
Listen in as we explore the importance of cultivating conscious awareness around our patterns, discuss how to become more comfortable with who you are, and share practical tips to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

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#88: The Anxious Dater's Guide: How to Remain Grounded in the Early Dating Phase Jul 04, 2023

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Is your anxiety getting the better of you in the early stages of dating? Well, take a deep breath and let's journey together through this episode where we unravel the common anxieties in early dating, particularly for those with an anxious attachment style.
We'll delve into the raw aspects of why this period can trigger our deepest sensitivities and how we can make this an empowering voyage of self-discovery. From learning to stay grounded, boosting confidence, to finding joy in the dating process, this episode is a treasure trove of insights and advice.
This episode goes beyond mere dating advice. We'll explore:

why it's problematic to completely alter your life for someone you've just met, and how it impacts the budding relationship.
how to gain clarity about what you're looking for in a partner and a relationship, and how to articulate those needs effectively.
the importance of taking things slow
how to get comfortable with the uncertainty that is inherent in the early dating phase.

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#87: The Art of Secure Relating with Stan Tatkin Jun 29, 2023

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In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by the one & only Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT. Stan is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of PACT (a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy), as well as being a prolific author of several best-selling books such as Wired for Love and most recently, In Each Other's Care.
In this episode, Stan joins me to chat with me about how we can experience conflict within relationships in a safe way and really build secure foundations in our relationships.

We'll cover:

How launching into self-protecting patterns can harm our relationships
The concept of secure functioning in a relationship
How regret can be a powerful teacher
The concept of the couple bubble
Finding acceptance for our partner's imperfections

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#86: 3 Tips for Building Self-Trust Jun 27, 2023

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In the absence of self trust, we see a lot of other dominoes fall in terms of self worth and self respect. This is something almost everyone I work with struggles with to some degree and it’s a challenging piece of the puzzle when it comes to our personal growth in relationships. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 3 tips for building self trust to help you to go out into the world and make aligned choices.

We'll cover:

Knowing yourself and your values
Trusting your own boundaries
Finding others to sense check
Knowing it’s not an instant fix

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#85: “Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 2) Jun 22, 2023

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In today’s episode, I’m continuing my series of answering your questions around the “reasonableness” of certain expectations and requests in relationship, with the goal of helping you build the muscle of discernment and capacity for self trust in navigating these nuances for yourself

We'll cover:

Is it unreasonable to talk about the future - marriage, moving in, trips away?
Is it unreasonable to want my partner to come back within 24 hours after a fight?
Is it unreasonable when I ask my partner to think more about me in the relationship?
Is it unreasonable after 3 years, wanting my partner to anticipate my needs without me having to request them?
Is it unreasonable for me to want to spend 90% of my free time with my partner?

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#84: 5 Reminders If You're Going Through a Break-Up Jun 20, 2023

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Unless you’ve married your high school sweetheart and lived happily ever after, you have likely experienced a breakup in your life. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 5 reminders and ways to support yourself while you're going through a break-up.

We'll cover:

The break-up is going to be hard
Finding other support people
Processing the break-up in anxious and avoidant ways
Not making meaning or assumptions

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#83: How to Navigate Addiction to Drama with Dr Scott Lyons Jun 15, 2023

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If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering why you keep attracting the same type of person, this episode is for you. Today I’m joined by Dr Scott Lyons, a holistic psychologist, educator and author, to talk about addiction to drama, and why we may subconsciously seek out chaos and intensity in our lives and relationships (even when we think we're trying to avoid it).

We'll cover:

Understanding the addiction to drama
Common characteristics of someone addicted to drama
Big emotions don’t equal vulnerability
What the so-called “spark” really is
Finding people who know how to love

Find Scott on Instagram here, or check out his new book Addicted to Drama - https://www.drscottlyons.com/addicted-to-drama-book
Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses & my Higher Love course - https://www.stephanierigg.com

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