On Attachment

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#102: Break-Up Q&A: No-Contact, Reconciling, and Guilt Aug 22, 2023

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In today's episode, I'm answering your questions on the topic of break-ups. Break-ups are a universally challenging experience, and an area that I receive a lot of questions on.
So today I'm answering your questions on:

what is a no-contact period and how best to implement it?
when is it a good idea to reconcile with an ex?
how to deal with guilt around knowing that I need to break up with someone but worrying about hurting them?

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#101: Navigating Long-Distance Relationships: Tips & Pitfalls Aug 17, 2023

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In today’s episode, we’re exploring long-distance relationships. Despite the old adage of “absence makes the heart grow fonder”, many people tend to really struggle with long-distance relationship structures.

We’ll cover:

Why it’s normal and natural to struggle with long-distance
How attachment dynamics can exacerbate long-distance challenges
Tips for maintaining connection while apart

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#100: How to Stop Taking Things So Personally Aug 15, 2023

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In today’s episode, I’m answering a listener’s question on how to stop taking things so personally. This is something a lot of us struggle with, and can lead us to internalise others’ behaviour in ways that damage our self-esteem and exacerbate our suffering.
We’ll cover:

Why you might take things personally
The link between people pleasing and taking things personally
How to approach these situations differently

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#99: Attachment Styles & Break-Ups Aug 10, 2023

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In today’s episode, we’re talking all about attachment styles and break-ups. While of course, break-ups are messy, personal and far from formulaic, there are undeniably certain themes in how our break-ups feel that can be traced to our attachment patterns.
Understanding the ways in which attachment drives can shape how we relate to and experience break-ups is essential in finding greater compassion for our own experience, and depersonalising someone else’s behaviour to the extent that they’re processing the transition differently to us.

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#98: Ghosting: Why It Happens & How to Process Aug 08, 2023

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Does ghosting leave you feeling anxious, confused, and questioning your self-worth? If so, you’re not alone.
Today, we're diving deep into this all-too-common dating phenomenon. We'll explore why ghosting occurs, the common impacts it has on self-esteem, and how to give yourself the closure and peace you desire.

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#97: How a Fear of Abandonment Impacts Our Relationships Aug 03, 2023

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In today's episode, we're diving deep on the abandonment wound - a fear that lies at the heart of many insecure attachment patterns and relational dynamics. A fear of abandonment can show up in so many ways, and can keep us from experiencing relationships in a way that feels trusting, safe and secure.
We'll cover:

how it feels to fear abandonment in your relationship
different forms of abandonment (physical, emotional)
relational behaviours that a fear of abandonment can lead to
the link between self-abandonment and a fear of abandonment

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#96: The Importance of Discomfort in Life & Relationships Aug 01, 2023

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In today’s episode, we’re talking all about discomfort — specifically, why it’s so essential in any healing journey to reframe the way we approach and relate to getting uncomfortable.
Most of us recoil at the first sign of discomfort, preferring to stay squarely within the domain of what we know and can control. But this often means we’re confining ourselves to a very limited experience of what’s possible in our lives.
We’ll cover:

Why we tend to gravitate towards what is familiar and known
How embracing discomfort builds resilience
Physical protocols for exploring discomfort
Building our emotional capacity for discomfort

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#95: 3 Essential Ingredients to Make a Relationship Work Jul 27, 2023

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Have you ever wondered why your relationship struggles persist, even when you love each other and have tried and tried to make it work?
In today's episode, I'm sharing three essential ingredients to make a relationship work. These are fundamental pillars of healthy, lasting partnership - and yet, for a lot of people, one or more of these puzzle pieces are missing.
We'll cover:

the importance of structural compatibility (ie, wanting the same thing)
being willing to invest in the relationship and the work it takes to make it thrive
the issue of capacity and how to know when someone can't give you what you're asking for (despite their best intentions)

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#94: The Path to Healing Anxious Attachment Jul 25, 2023

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Anxious attachment can be incredibly exhausting - but it doesn't have to govern your future. And in today's episode, I'm going to be laying out the path to healing anxious attachment, walking you through the core pillars of my methodology.
We'll discuss the importance of self-regulation and how we can start to build self-trust and safety from within rather than depending solely on a partner to make us feel secure.

We'll also delve deep into the core beliefs that drive anxious attachment, and how addressing these stories and wounds can liberate us from the fear of abandonment and feelings of unworthiness.

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#93: Why Are "Toxic" Relationships So Hard to Recover From Jul 20, 2023

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Have you ever wondered why it can be so challenging to recover from toxic relationships? Why the drama and unpredictability leave you feeling more disoriented and overwhelmed than relieved? In today's episode, I'm here to guide you through this complex terrain. We'll unravel the dynamics of such relationships and expose the confusion, grief, and shame that often accompany them.
It's a hard road, but I'm here to help you navigate through it. We'll dig into practical tools to assist you in the recovery process, and learn how to move on in a healthy way.

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