Love Over Addiction

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How to Pick The Best Time To Talk to Your Loved One Aug 16, 2020

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When you love someone suffering from addiction, it can be hard to let things go sometimes. Maybe you found empty bottles after they said they'd stop drinking. Or they came home late again (or not at all). You probably want to get to the bottom of what they did (and why).

But how can you effectively express what you're feeling when they've been drinking or using? You want to feel heard and recognized, right?

In this week's episode, I share a tool on how to talk to your loved one when you're feeling worried, frustrated, or hurt.

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Why You Need a Plan B When You Love an Addict or Alcoholic Aug 09, 2020

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You've probably experienced your loved one's unpredictable behavior sometimes, right? Maybe you've gone back and forth on whether you should stay or leave your relationship because of their addiction.

Regardless, being as prepared as possible - especially at a moment's notice - can be super helpful (particularly if you have dependents).

In this week's episode, I discuss the importance of having a Plan B, and some tips to help you get started. Remember: while you can't control your partner, you do get to decide your own choices.

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Is Your Partner Being Manipulative? Aug 02, 2020

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When your partner suffers from addiction, it can be hard to tell if they're lying or being manipulative.

Here's the thing: addiction knows exactly what to say to you at that moment. This is especially true if they're making promises about wanting to get sober. You want to believe them, but you've heard those words over and over again. Does that sound familiar?

In this week's episode, we discuss how to get to a place of believing what your partner says. (Hint: it's a simple lesson my dad taught me growing up).

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How To Deal With In-Laws Jul 26, 2020

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Dealing with in-laws and extended family can be tricky when your partner suffers from addiction. Can you relate?

Maybe there have been times when they've blamed you for their child's addiction. Or you've wondered how much you should share with them regarding your loved one's addiction. But here's the thing: It's not your job to convince their family (or yours) of anything.

In this week's episode, we talk about the role of in-laws, extended family, and 4 tips on how to deal with them. I also share my own experience dealing with my mother-in-law's denial.

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How To Deal With Emptiness Jul 19, 2020

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When you have a loved one that suffers from addiction, it can be easy to feel empty sometimes. You may try to fill that void by looking for approval from others (including your partner) rather than yourself. Can you relate?

So, how can you stop turning towards the outside to quit feeling empty? In this week's episode, we discuss ways to rely on yourself to feel full rather than waiting for people around you to do it.

Just a loving reminder: you get to create these moments and dictate what your life looks like. It's time to recognize that you have what it takes to get your power back from all of the people and places that you've given it to.

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Bonus Release: If Your Heart Is A Bit Prickled Jul 14, 2020

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This special episode is a follow-up to yesterday's episode. If you found your heart a little prickled by the loving truths Michelle gave, take a listen to this bonus release as she shares a personal story about her ex-husband, her children, and her own 'prickled heart' moment.

Talking To Your Kids About Addiction Jul 12, 2020

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If your loved one suffers from addiction, you've probably spent a lot of energy trying to help them get better. And if you have kids, figuring out how to help them handle their parent's addiction can be tough.

Does this sound familiar? If so, no judgment at all. I was in the same situation when I was married to a good man struggling with addiction. But it's time to take an inventory of where your energy is going.

In today's episode, you'll hear how to put that energy back towards you (and your kids) instead of your loved one's addiction.

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Coping When a Loved One Hurts Your Feelings Jul 05, 2020

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More than likely, you've had your feelings hurt from time to time. Regardless if it was because of your loved one that suffers from addiction, or a friend or family member, it hurts.

But remember, you get to choose who to be vulnerable with, and who will treat you with love and care.

In today's episode, you'll hear a very relevant story involving my dad, ways to cope with hurt feelings, and how to choose whose opinions matter.

You'll be able to come out of this stronger and with more confidence, knowing exactly who you are.

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Three Tools For Surviving Hard Weekends Jun 28, 2020

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We know weekends, especially holiday weekends, may be a more difficult time for you and your loved one who suffers from addiction. They might be inclined to drink more than usual or lose control.

But remember, you're not powerless over this disease. You get to choose how you react to their actions and behaviors. By making a few preparations ahead of time, you'll be able to enjoy your weekend the way you want.

In today's episode, you'll hear three helpful tools for hard weekends (or any time). Use the next several days to prepare and put your plans in place. You've got this! We're here cheering you on.

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Are You Being Verbally Abused? Jun 21, 2020

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In today's episode, I'm sharing a story (with permission) - and a lesson - from a big conversation I had recently with my daughter about verbal abuse. When you're in a relationship with someone who suffers from addiction, it's possible you may have experienced some form of verbal abuse in your relationship.

There's no need to feel embarrassed. I've been there, too.

You can move through this, honor yourself, and choose to set your boundaries. Listen to hear me talk about the lessons my daughter learned and how they relate to your relationship.

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