Love and Life with Dr. Karin and Pastor Elliott

Latest Episodes:

How to Feel Worthy of Love: Even if You’ve Never Felt This Before with Leisse Wilcox Ep. 163 Oct 13, 2021

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If you’ve ever struggled to believe you deserve love, you’re not alone. Many of us grew up in emotionally toxic or traumatic home environments. It’s hard to cultivate self-love and acceptance when no one has ever built us up, believed in us, and cherished us.

Author and mindset coach, Leisse Wilcox, wrote the book (literally!) on how to love ourselves—To Call Myself Beloved a Story of Hope, Healing, and Coming Home. She joins me to discuss both the strategies she shares with her clients and her personal journey to self-love.

Specifically, we touch on:

How to unlearn the stories we’ve told ourselves—many of which are lies.
Messages we’ve internalized and the meaning we ascribe to these messages.
The story Leisse believed about herself for so many years—I’m the type of person who’s at the end of the table begging for scraps of love.
The question that changes everything—are your relationships reinforcing the lies you’ve been told about your worth?
The reality that worthiness is the point of self love; the point isn’t to love ourselves hoping to get love.
How to know if you need to confront your own reality and how to do so.

Leisse learned to call herself beloved and you can, too!

Citation: Jerobek, I. (2018, July 8). “I don’t deserve love” Study reveals the destructive impact of a lack of self-worth. Cision PRWeb. https://www.prweb.com/releases/2018/07/prweb15610907.htm

Dr. Karin

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

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Getting the Love You Want—It’s All About Values! with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson: Worthy in Love Pod Tour Ep. 162 Oct 06, 2021

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This week Love & Life partners with Veronica Grant’s “How to Actually Feel Worthy in Love” Podcast Tour! We’re one of 12 podcasts invited to delve into what it truly takes to date from a place of authenticity and confidence so as to build a healthy, happy relationship. But, how can we do so if we don’t fundamentally believe we deserve love?

Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson joins me to share a critical strategy he implements with clients and couples—values clarification. As we identify what matters to us and commit to behaving in alignment with our principles, we fortify our identity and confirm our inherent self-worth. For many clients, internalizing this foundation of self-respect provides the first step toward believing love is available to them and, most importantly, that they absolutely deserve it!

We’re honored to participate in the tour, between Sandy Weiner of Last First Date Radio and Madeline Charles of The Irresistible Woman podcast.

If you’d like to hear all the episodes in the tour and follow along, you can register for free at veronicagrant.com/podtour.

Citation:

Jerobek, I. (2018, July 8). “I don’t deserve love” Study reveals the destructive impact of a lack of self-worth. Cision PRWeb. https://www.prweb.com/releases/2018/07/prweb15610907.htm

Worthy of Love Pod Tour

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Dr. Karin

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Instagram: @dr.karin

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Dating with Confidence at ANY Size! with Veronica Grant Ep. 161 Sep 29, 2021

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If you’ve ever said, “I really want to date, but I can’t get back out there until I feel confident with my body,” you’re not alone. Most women have wrestled with body image at some point—or at MANY points—in their lives. Veronica Grant understands this struggle and provides powerful strategies for finding where “healthy meets happy” regarding our physique, nutrition, and romance. Join us as we explore themes surrounding:

Healthy eating that comes from an unhealthy place!
The rigidity inherent to food restriction—even in efforts to eat more nutritiously!
The connection between body, intuition, and love life.
How obsessing about our size may cause us to miss red flags when getting to know someone!
Getting physical quickly which actually keeps us emotionally unavailable.
How our efforts to control our diet and exercise spill over to trying to control our partner.
Our relationship to food and how it mirrors our relationships with others in our life.

Veronica shares her journey from obsessive calorie counter, to strict vegan, to finding freedom and enjoying sushi again! Join us to learn how to truly love your body, feel comfortable in your own skin, and step into dating with confidence—at any size!

Dr. Karin

Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/

Instagram: @dr.karin

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Top 5 Things Singles Hate to Hear: Best of Singles Episodes with Debbie Rice & Leslie Kaz Ep. 160 Sep 24, 2021

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If you’re single, your love life (or lack thereof) is fair game. Friends, family members, and even random strangers provide “solutions” to your “problem.” Or, they interrogate you, determined to uncover the hidden reason you aren’t coupled up—even if you’re perfectly content sans partner! In this Love & Life bonus episode, Debbi Rice of Single and Amazing, Leslie Kaz of Single Girl Bliss, and I discuss the top 5 asinine comments single women hear. Join us for some single girl commiserating and lots of laughs! We’re here for you!

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Otherhood: Best of Singles Episodes with Melanie Notkin Ep. 159 Sep 23, 2021

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What happens when you always wanted to be a wife and mother, but you haven’t met your person? Well, if you’re author Melanie Notkin, you start a fabulous brand called, Savvy Auntie! Melanie joins us for a vulnerable and candid discussion about how to embrace and thrive in a life we wouldn’t have scripted. We center the conversation around her poignant and powerful book, Otherhood. Specifically, we delve into:

How women of The Otherhood manage their ongoing and currently unmet desire for marriage and family.
The question almost every woman of The Otherhood has asked herself, “Should I settle for a ‘good enough’ guy in order to have children?”
How to handle invasive and insensitive questions/comments about your life e.g. “You must have focused too much on your career!” or “Didn’t you want kids???”
The prevailing, yet inaccurate, assumption that women of The Otherhood delayed marriage and child bearing.
Grieving the loss of the life we’d expected, while embracing the joys of the life we have!

Despite the fact our lives haven’t played out as planned, we women of The Otherhood, can be assured our nurturing and influence make a profound, positive impact on the children we didn’t create, yet choose to love.

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Single? You DON’T Need to “Fixed”: Best of Singles Episodes with Shani Silver Ep. 158 Sep 22, 2021

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It’s National Unmarried and Single Americans Week! To kick it off, I’ve invited Shani Silver, host of A Single Serving podcast, to share how she moved from complaining about dating to championing the single life! According to Shani, “I came out of a hole and I know the way out of the hole. I want to tell other people that it’s possible.” Here are a few more gems of wisdom from my conversation with Shani:

“Enjoying a single life—not as a consolation, but as ‘on par’ with life in partnership—is entirely possible. I know this because I’m living it.”
“It is 100% possible to love your single life and want a relationship at the same time. Both of those things can coexist.”
“I decided that what was meant for me was going to connect with me. And it was not going to be because I was fighting to find it. Because I had fought to find it for a decade and I didn’t. So that method didn’t serve me. Maybe just relaxing and letting go and living life will connect me with who I’m meant to be with anyway.”

Join us for a celebration of empowered single living!

Shani Silver

Website: shanisilver.com

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Single Girl Bliss: Best of the Singles Episodes with Leslie Kaz Ep. 157 Sep 21, 2021

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After 21 years of dating, serial monogamy, breakups, and periods of feeling miserably alone, Leslie Kaz was over it! Tired of what she calls “The Endless Search” for a man, Leslie decided to take a 6 month break from dating. During those 6 months, Leslie completely redefined herself and her life—so much so, that she abandoned “The Endless Search” and stepped into a brand new way of living! She shares her philosophy in her book, Single Girl Bliss: How to Stop Feeling Alone and Start Feeling Alive. In our conversation, Leslie and I talk about:

· The lies we tell ourselves that make us miserable—and how to tackle them!

· What it means to be alone—and how to manage it emotionally.

· How to choose a partner (should you decide to choose one) from a position of strength!

· What saved her in her darkest hour (I promise, you’ll never guess what it was!)

· The power of how we present ourselves—and our single life—to others.

· How to create new, empowering—and TRUE—beliefs about being single.

When I came across Leslie’s work and read her book, I knew she was Love & Life material! Join us to hear how Leslie lives blissfully single, and learn how you can, too!

Leslie’s Website: www.lesliekaz.com/

Leslie’s Book: www.amazon.com/dp/1734277807/ref…46&s=books&sr=1-1

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Still Single? It’s NOT Your Fault! Ep. 156 Sep 20, 2021

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It’s National Unmarried and Single Americans Week and to celebrate, I’m sharing the first chapter of my book, Single is the New Black: Don’t Wear White ‘til it’s Right! One of the main myths singles hear is that they’re somehow fundamentally flawed and that’s why they haven’t met their person—if they’d just “fix themselves” already, true love would finally come their way. Yeah, right. I take issue with this bogus assumption and much more in my book and I share the first chapter with you here as a way to kick off a week devoted to singles. Let’s thrive during our single season! My book is here to help!

Stay tuned throughout the week for more bonus episodes and giveaways!

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When You’re Not a Mother, But Wanted to Be: World Childless Week with Jody Day of Gateway Women Ep. 155 Sep 08, 2021

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Women without children walk the road less traveled—and for the vast majority of them, this path was not of their choosing. In fact, of the women who reach midlife without children, only 10% planned to be “child free”, while 10% are childless due to infertility, and a full 80% are childless not by choice but rather, due to circumstances. Jody Day of Gateway Women shares her personal journey and discusses the many layers of disenfranchised grief surrounding childlessness. Specifically, we cover:

· Second wave feminism and the unintended consequence of circumstantial childlessness.

· The emotional, physical, and financial complexities of IVF—the real stats.

· Jody’s thoughts on how to respond to the, “Oh, you would have made such a great mom!” comments.

· When the term “biological clock” first appeared in the discourse.

· The pain of “not being chosen” for partnership along with the “not being chosen” to be someone’s mother.

· Grieving the loss of the “identity” of mother.

· How to “reclaim our worthiness” and find our place as women without children.

· The fetishism of motherhood.

· Societal and policy concerns surrounding childless women.

The pain is real, but it’s a disenfranchised sorrow—how do you grieve the loss of something you never had? Join us for an empathic, supportive conversation and be sure to participate in World Childless Week’s virtual summit September 13 – 19, 2021.

Click here to get a free chapter from Jody's book - Living the Life Unexpected: How to Find Hope, Meaning and a Fulfilling Future Without Children

More info on Jody's book here: http://www.gateway-women.com/book

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Can We Still Be Friends? Moving Through Heartbreak Ep. 154 Sep 01, 2021

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In this Love & Life Q&A episode, I answer the following questions:

1. “Jessica” really wants to remain friends with her ex. This breakup is even harder than most because they trauma bonded throughout 2020 when she turned 40 and also lost her father. Is it possible they could actually remain friends?

2. “Danielle” hasn’t spoken to her ex for over a year but she still thinks about him. She knows she needs to move on but like most of us, she absolutely HATES dating apps. Is there anything she can do?

I share therapeutic strategies for how to get over heartbreak by moving through and moving on.

Dr. Karin

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