Love and Life with Dr. Karin and Pastor Elliott

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Redeeming Heartache: Trauma is Profound, Healing is Possible with Dr. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel, M.A. Ep. 174 Dec 17, 2021

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“Part of what it means to be human is to suffer, but there’s a way to move through it that brings joy and goodness to both you and the world around you.” Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel.

We all endure trauma—either Big T or Little T. We all seek healing. Yet all too often, the defense mechanisms we constructed to survive trauma, now keep us constrained.

Join us to consider:

Who we are meant to become in the midst of our heartaches.
That we’ve all been orphaned, estranged, and widowed due to trauma and loss.
How we can bring goodness and joy to others as we move through pain.

According to Dan, “Every one of us suffers, yet our suffering is never meant to be only ours—we’re meant to not only join our own transformation, but also in the privilege of being able to join in others’ transformations.”

If you’re hurting, you’ll feel a balm of empathy in Dan and Cathy’s words. Please join us for a tender, loving, healing conversation.

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Big Pharma, Big Censorship, & Big Gov Mandates with Dr. Diana Lipford Ep. 173 Dec 08, 2021

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Naturopath Dr. Diana Lipford joins me again—this time to talk about the one topic we’re absolutely NOT supposed to discuss! Join us as we delve into the following questions and concerns surrounding the most pressing and controversial issue of our generation.

How did Americans lose bodily autonomy? Where there is risk, there must be choice!
What happened to second opinions? How did we get to the point where doctors’ legitimate questions were silenced by social media? Who are these “fact checkers” and why do they get to control the discourse?
The lack of logic regarding mRNA experimental gene therapy mandates for children.
Why an mRNA experimental gene therapy does not inoculate in the same manner as traditional vaccines.
What the jab actually does in your body.
The tyranny of forced compliance of a “vaccine” that doesn’t stop transmission or confer immunity.
Why the phrase “trust the science” is a contradiction in terms—and every legit scientist knows it.
How censorship has destroyed the possibility for informed consent regarding an experimental treatment—which violates medical freedom.
The billions and billions of dollars Pharma has made via this warp speed rollout and mandates.
Who politicized all this?
How mass “vaccinations” drive mutation when implemented during high viral activity.
Antibody dependent enhancement and pathogenic priming.
The reason you’re at a greater risk of having an adverse reaction if you get the jab after you’ve already had the virus.

No matter your stance on these concerns, I hope you’ll find our conversation thought-provoking and empowering.

Dr. Karin

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Alone: The Truth + Beauty of Belonging with Leisse Wilcox Ep. 172 Nov 30, 2021

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If you’ve been single for any portion of your adult life—and especially if this solo season has lasted longer than you hoped it would—you’ve felt the ache of loneliness. You’ve watched happy couples and wondered when you’ll meet your partner. You’ve likely slipped into fear—what if you never meet your person? What if you never “belong” to anyone?

Leisse Wilcox gets it. She’s felt these feelings—deeply. And, at 40, she continues to wrestle with a post-divorce, post-cancer diagnosis life that looks nothing like she expected it would. As a writer, Leisse has unpacked this struggle in her new book, Alone: The Truth + Beauty of Belonging.

Our conversation today can be summarized by my review of Leisse’s book. “Part memoir, part self-help guide, part love letter to anyone aching with loneliness, Alone: The Truth + Beauty of Belonging assures us that though we may not choose to be alone, we absolutely choose the meaning we ascribe to our solitude. Through potent reframes e.g., What if self-care became soul care? and It’s the feeling you want, not the thing you want, Leisse emboldens us to embrace the truth that ‘when you belong to yourself, you are never really alone.’”

Spielmann, S., MacDonald, G., Maxwell, J., Joel, S., Peragine, D., Muise, A., & Impett, E. (2013). Settling for less out of fear of being single. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 105, 1049-1073.

Leisse Wilcox

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Dr. Karin

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Chasing the Bright Side with Jess Ekstrom of Headbands of Hope Ep. 171 Nov 24, 2021

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Jess Ekstrom started a headband company in her college dorm room—but even as a young entrepreneur, her goal wasn’t to make money, but to give back. For each headband purchased, Jess donates a headband to a child experiencing cancer or another illness. As Headbands of Hope grew, Jess looked for silver linings despite the challenges and struggles inherent to building a business. As she began sharing her journey, she found joy in writing and speaking about “chasing the bright side.” She wrote a book with this title and now helps other women “tell and sell” their stories so they can “make a living and a difference at the same time.”

Jess Ekstrom - Headbands for Hope

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Dr. Karin

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How to Know if You’re with a Narcissist and How to Safely Leave! with Tina Swithin Ep. 170 Nov 17, 2021

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Narcissists are charming. They’re slick. They come on strong and sweep you off your feet. Oftentimes they keep up this charade for months—even years!—before you realize the truth about who they actually are.

I hear from so many of you that you’ve found yourself in this scenario—stuck in an emotionally, psychologically, and sometimes physically abusive relationship.

How did it happen? And more importantly, how do you leave? Won’t he escalate the abuse? And, how do you coparent with a narc if there are children involved?

High Conflict Divorce Coach, Tina Swithin, joins me to share her journey of dating, marrying, and finally divorcing a narcissist. She discusses the red flags she unfortunately ignored when dating, how she ultimately recognized her husband was a narc, and what she did to extricate herself from the marriage while protecting her daughters.

Tina not only survived marriage to a narcissist, she’s absolutely thriving! She’s taken the wisdom she gained through this horribly painful season of her life and now provides consultation and care for others via her “High Conflict Divorce” coaching. The need for her services was so vast, she now trains others to become high conflict divorce coaches!

Tina Swithin

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Dr. Karin

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Science Says, Do THIS to Stop Hating Dating Apps and Find Love Online! with Dr. Duana Welch Ep. 169 Nov 10, 2021

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Dr. Duana Welch, author of the Love Factually book series, is back on the programto explain how we can successfully navigate online and app dating. And the best part—as always, Dr. Welch’s recommendations are based in science! She brings not only the psych research to our conversation, but also her personal experience, as well. In fact, she recently found love herself on a dating app using these research-based strategies and she’s here to share how you can, too!

Join us to learn:

How his pictures reveal whether or not he’s commitment oriented!
Why posting your hottest pics may NOT be the best tactic!
Why nobody else should be in your pictures—especially your children!
The big thing (literally) Dr. Welch calls a “guy magnet!”
What “mating centrism” is and why you MUST understand it to date successfully!
How to use the “scarcity principle” to accelerate the connection process.
How to write a profile that attracts stayers, not players!
Ways to beat the algorithms!

Online and app dating can be so frustrating but when we look to the science, we make the process a little less maddening and increase our chances of meeting our person!

Dr. Duana Welch

Website: http://www.lovesciencemedia.com/

Dr. Karin

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Treat Depression and Anxiety Without Meds! with Dr. Diana Lipford Ep. 167 Nov 02, 2021

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Dr. Diana Lipford found her way into natural medicine after years of suffering from auto-immune disease, Rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, and intersistial cystitis. Conventional medicine wasn’t helping her so she eventually asked her doctor, “What can you do for me other than prescribe me with pills?” Her doctor looked at her as if she was crazy and had absolutely nothing to offer her.

So, Diana tried another approach and saw a physician who specialized in herbs and nutrition. Initially, Diana was skeptical; she remembers thinking, “This man has no idea how much pain I’m in!” Her illnesses were debilitating, and Diana felt like a failure as a wife, mother, and teacher. She could barely function, yet her new doctor claimed her gut and liver health were the root cause of her problems. Diana figured, “I have nothing to lose . . .” so she gave this approach a chance and within 10 days, she experienced relief she never imagined was possible.

Due to her own incredible healing and restoration, Diana became a naturopath and she now treats people from a holistic, integrative standpoint. Join us to learn the underlying physiological causes of depression and anxiety and free yourself from the grip of Big Pharma and the Medical Industrial Complex!

Dr. Karin

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50 Dates in 52 Weeks: My Recovery from Divorce and Life with a Narcissist! with Cindy Drummond Ep. 166 Oct 27, 2021

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When love continues to let us down, it’s easy to lose hope. After a divorce and painful breakup with a narcissist (who got hauled off to jail one random morning!), Cindy Drummond found herself alone, yet again. She wrestled, as we all do, with questions:

How did I let this happen to me?
Why didn’t I trust my gut and leave him when I sensed something was off?
How can I heal and move forward?

The mother of two teenage daughters, Cindy knew she needed to model strength and resilience so she set up a plan for recovery including hosting a retreat for women—Women’s Only Weekend (WOW)—and creating structure around her dating process by committing to going on 50 dates in 52 weeks.

Join us to hear Cindy’s story and learn from the wisdom she gleaned by embarking upon 50 dates in a year! She shares this and more in her book, Reflections from the Dating Pool.

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Dr. Karin

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Anxious Attachment on Dating and Relationships with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 165 Oct 20, 2021

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I hear this question from women in my community all the time—“I have an anxious attachment style. Will I ever be able to be in a secure relationship?”

To address this concern, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I take a deep dive into anxious attachment and how it impacts dating and relationships.

Specifically, we discuss:

Anxious attachment and our desire for intimacy.
Trauma bonds and anxious attachment.
When feeling anxiety in a relationship is a GOOD thing!
How the hookup culture has impacted attachment.
Masculine and feminine energy as they relate to attachment.

Elliott shares insights from his 30 years of working with clients and couples. Join us to gain a greater understanding of anxious attachment and how it may influence your dating patterns and relationship dynamics.

Dr. Karin

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Take These Tangible Steps to Feel Worthy of Love! with Anita Stoudmire, MA, LPC Ep. 164 Oct 15, 2021

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So often when we discuss self-worth and self-esteem, we speak in vague terms about “loving ourselves” first. And sure, we know it starts with us. But what specifically can we DO? What tangible steps can we take to begin to feel worthy of love—especially if we’ve never felt this before?

Anita Stoudmire of Better Love Movement joins me to share practical strategies for building into ourselves first which, in turn, positions us for attracting a healthy, happy relationship.

We delve into:

What to focus on when you’re first getting to know someone.
The relationships between authenticity and codependency.
How to believe we’re okay—just the way we are.
The difference between being wanted vs. needed in relationships.
Reparenting—what it is and why many of us need it.
The importance of clarifying what doesn’t work for us and sticking to these standards.
The danger of rushing into a relationship and the real reasons behind why people do it.
Ways to stop losing yourself in relationships.

Dr. Phil says, “We teach people how to treat us.” Once we fully embrace and believe in our worth, we’ll teach everyone around us—including romantic partners—to treat us with courtesy and respect.

Dr. Karin

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