How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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Textual Healing: The New Way to Text and Get Dates—Play, Play, Play… Pull the Trigger (Part 1 of 3) Jul 29, 2025

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Do you struggle with texting women? Do you feel like you’re always one boring message away from getting ghosted? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his powerful new texting framework to make your messages magnetic: “Play, Play, Play, Pull the Trigger.” You’ll learn how to confidently flirt over text so you get a lot more dates. Plus, you’ll hear how one woman went from rejecting Connell to asking HIM out—just from a short text exchange.
Episode Highlights Include:
01:15: Connell Sings! (Be Very Afraid)
02:35: The “Play, Play, Play, Pull the Trigger” Texting Framework Explained
03:45: First She Rejected Connell, Then She Chased HIM for a Date
11:19: What Most Guys Get Wrong About Texting (and How to Fix It)
17:13: Yes, Good Texting is Learnable—Here’s Why
21:57: Connell Walks You Through a Flirty Text Exchange that Led to a Date
READY TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL:www.DatingTransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”? EMAIL CONNELL:Connell@datingtransformation.com

The One Flirting Secret that Changes Everything—from Apps to Dates to Charming Approaches Jul 24, 2025

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Are you unsure how to talk to women—on the apps or in real life? Tired of being seen as “just a friend”? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches you his secret weapon: Man-to-Woman Communication. You’re about to learn his turbo-charged flirting method. You’re about to know exactly what to say to spark real chemistry with women, from the dating apps to first dates to approaching with charm.
Episode Highlights Include:
07:45: How to Finally Escape the Friend Zone
16:15: The Secret to Sparking Romantic Attraction (It’s Not What You Think)
25:30: How to Lead with Charm and Class—without Coming Off Controlling
34:20: Say This to Make Her Swoon on First Dates
42:30: How to Ignite Sexual Tension Using Only Your Eyes
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, ‘DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T’:Connell@datingtransformation.com

The Write Stuff: How to Turn Your Boring Bio into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Clint) Jul 22, 2025

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Struggling on the apps? It’s not you—it’s your boring bio. In this live coaching session, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his new client, Clint, take his profile from generic to magnetic. You’ll learn how to write an irresistible bio in just 3 lines, add charming humor that women love, and finally land matches and dates.
Episode Highlights:
04:15: Why Your Dating Bio Doesn’t Work and How to Fix It
12:58: The 3-Line Bio Formula to Get Her Swiping Right
33:00: The Power Question to Put on Your Profile Today
47:10: The Funny ‘DILF’ Prompt that Gets Single Dads Dates
54:15: How to Ask for Her Number
1:04:41: Do This to Never Run Out of Things to Say
1:08:47: The Smooth Way to Land the Second Date (Without Asking!)
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T"? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE "FREE BOOK" IN THE SUBJECT LINE TO GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

The Content Trap: Use My ‘80/20 Rule’ to Go from Overthinking to Effortless Flirting Jul 17, 2025

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Social media is ruining your love life. You watch tons of dating advice, but you still struggle with women, right? You’ve fallen into the Content Trap—trying to remember so many tips that you overthink every move. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals why consuming too much TikTok or YouTube content kills your confidence. And his ‘80/20 Rule’ will help unlock your most fun, flirty, authentic self—without trying hard. Because women like you for YOU, not your “game.” Period.
You’re About to Learn:
01:07: Why Brett’s Try-Hard First Dates Lead to Rejection
07:11: Why Treating Women Like “Results” Kills Connection
10:14: The Cringe Date that Taught Connell a Priceless Lesson
18:31: How the ‘80/20’ Rule Gets You Out of Your Head and Into Her Heart
26:29: The Three P’s to Unlock Great First Dates
27:50: Stop Consuming Content—Do THIS Instead
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

The Neuroscience of Attraction: How to Rewire Your Brain for Dating Success (with Harvard’s Dr. Ali Binazir) Jul 15, 2025

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Ever wonder, “Am I enough to find love?” Harvard-educated physician Ali Binazir has a hopeful answer! The man behind the “Trillion Sided Dice” theory of existence (seriously, it’ll break your brain) shares his own dating journey—still a virgin at 23—and the breakthroughs that changed everything. Plus, Binazir, co-author of the bestselling book “The 5 Hidden Love Questions,” explains why approach anxiety is hardwired into your brain, how to flip limiting beliefs, and reveals his charisma formula to help you become more magnetic.
You’re About to Learn:
01:14: The Trillion-Sided Dice Theory: Why Your Existence Is Literally a Miracle
06:22: How Gratitude Can Destroy Your Fear of Dating Rejection
13:23: The 5 Hidden Love Questions that Sabotage Your Romantic Life
20:31: The Science Behind Your Fear of Approaching—and How to Start Meeting Women
27:59: How Dr. Ali Went from a Virgin at Age 23 to Dating Success
41:58: The Neuroscience of Happiness: Why Being Happy Attracts Love
56:07: The 30-Second Charisma Formula to Create Attraction
LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. ALI BINAZIR: http://TaoOfDating.com and http://HappinessEngineering.com
GET ‘THE 5 HIDDEN LOVE QUESTIONS’ ON AMAZON
FREE TRAINING:Get Dr. Ali’s “Super Charisma: How to Be a Transformative Speaker” course free at http://TaoOfDating.com
TO TAKE DR. ALI’s ‘TUNE UP YOUR LIFE’ COURSE: Email him at DrAliB@TaoOfDating.com or DrAli@HappinessEngineering.com
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND: Datingtransformation.com

From Invisible to Irresistible: The 7 Dating Superpowers that Ignite Attraction—Even if You’re Shy or Introverted Jul 10, 2025

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Why do some men effortlessly attract women while guys like you get overlooked? It comes down to mastering the 7 Dating Superpowers. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 7 super attractors that make women think, “Wow, he’s different from other guys!” Whether you want to confidently approach, take your texting skills to new levels, or have great first dates, this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” will help you transform your love life.
Here are the 7 Dating Superpowers You’re About to Learn:
9:43: Fearless Approaching so You Can Start Conversations with Women Anywhere
15:07: Effortless Flirting so You Can Be Charming and Attractive
21:15: Magnetic Charisma so Women Feel Drawn to Your Authentic Self
34:14: Unshakable Confidence so “Rejection” Can’t Hurt You
40:03: Top-Tier Texting so You’ll Go from “Unread” to Setting Up Dates
51:33: Vibe Mastery so Your Dates Are Flirty and Sexy
59:48: Decisive Leadership so Women Trust You and See You as Boyfriend Material
Discover your dating superpower and become irresistible—as your most authentic self (no creepy pickup moves needed!)
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:
http://www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T"? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE "FREE BOOK" IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU'LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

The Professional Man’s Paradox: Why You Succeed at Work but Struggle with Women (with Matchmaker Lisa Goodman) Jul 08, 2025

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Isn’t it frustrating to achieve career success yet struggle with women? Dating coach Connell Barrett calls this the “Professional Man’s Dating Paradox.” Simply put, the communication skills that help you excel at work can actually hurt your love life. Renowned matchmaker Lisa Goodman, of Selective Search, is here to help. Goodman reveals why your career strengths can be dating weaknesses—and shares proven strategies to turn boardroom skills into romantic confidence. Get ready to succeed not just at work, but in dating too!
You’re About to Learn:
07:33: Why You Should Pick Up the Phone Instead of Texting
10:31: The Right Way to Talk to Women on First Dates
21:31: How to Tell if Your Date is Going Well (It’s All in Her Eyes)
34:00: The Truth About First Kisses (When and How to Go for It)
40:10: Why Women Want You to Approach Them (Straight from a Female Expert)
LEARN MORE ABOUT LISA GOODMAN AND SELECTIVE SEARCH MATCHMAKING:
http://www.selectivesearch.com
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:
http://www.datingtransformation.com
GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, ‘DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T’:
Email Connell: Connell@datingtransformation.com

7 Make-or-Break Dating Moments to Either Get the Girl… or Get Friend-Zoned Jul 03, 2025

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The difference between finding love or staying stuck can come down to small but pivotal moments of truth. Like when a conversation with a woman is going well, but you play it safe and don’t go for her number. Or when fear stops you from going for the first kiss on a date. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals 7 make-or-break dating moments that determine whether you get the girl… or stay frustrated. Handle these turning points right, and you’ll be closer to the dream relationship you want.
You’re About to Learn:
05:35: The Secret Weapon to Approach Any Woman You Want
10:28: How to Walk Away with Her Phone Number, Not Regrets
14:15: The First Kiss Secret You MUST Know
21:48: The “Three Times” Texting Rule that Gets Women Messaging You Back
27:54: How to Handle Last-Minute Cancellations without Looking Desperate
30:48: The Right Way to Pass “Tests” Without Losing Sight of Your Authentic Self
35:22: How to Ask Her to Be Your Girlfriend—Without Making It Weird
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:
http://www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU'LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Sex Tips for Shy Guys: How to Touch Her, Talk Dirty and Rock Her World (with Sex Coach Kirsten Trammell) Jul 01, 2025

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Are you unsure what to do in bed—and worried you won’t please her the first time you’re intimate? Sex coach Kirsten Trammell, host of “The Naked Connection” podcast, shares insider secrets on how to rock a woman’s world. If you’re inexperienced sexually—or even a virgin—don’t worry. Kirsten’s tested, practical sex tips will help make you confident in the bedroom, so you can give that special woman an unforgettable, connected sexual experience.
What You’ll Learn:
07:00: The Mindset That Makes Sex Connected and Unforgettable
10:30: Should You Tell Her You’re a Virgin? The Surprising Truth!
22:12: How to Make Her Feel Sexy and Safe
27:52: The ‘Bullseye Method’ that Instantly Improves Foreplay
33:53: Consent Is Sexy: How to Ask the Right Way
39:25: What to Say During Sex to Turn Her On
55:52: She Asked You To ‘Choke’ Her in Bed? Here’s What It Really Means
Listen now and discover how emotional nakedness leads to incredible physical connection!
TO WORK WITH KIRSTEN TRAMMELL:
http://www.thenakedconnection.com
FOLLOW KIRSTEN ON INSTAGRAM:
@‌nakedconnection
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:
http://www.datingtransformation.com

From Frozen to Fearless! True Stories of Shy Guys Who Beat Approach Anxiety and Found Love IRL Jun 26, 2025

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Want to approach women IRL—but you freeze up or overthink it? Connell Barrett, bestselling author and top dating coach, helps shy men meet wonderful women without pickup lines or weird tricks. In this episode, hear how guys like you overcame anxiety, walked up to women in bars, bookstores and gyms, and sparked real-life romance.
You’re About to Learn:
02:42: How Short, Shy Ken Scored His First Kiss Ever—with a Tall, Stylish Blonde
16:03: What Ash Said to the Cutest Girl at the Bar to Make Her Swoon
24:30: The Bold Coaching Move that Shattered Edward’s Social Anxiety and Led to a Date
35:12: Raj’s Charming Bookstore Chat that Made Emily say, “You Made My Day!”
43:17: Jared the Navy Captain’s Breakthrough that Crushed His Approach Fear for Good
Approaching isn’t something to fear—it’s your fastest path to romance and love!
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T":
Connell@datingtransformation.com

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