How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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“His Coke Dealer Came to the Date!” 5 Funny Dating Disasters to Keep YOU from Being Her Horror Story Sep 11, 2025

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Want to know what NOT to do on a date? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five cringe-worthy dating disasters. From the investment banker whose cocaine dealer made a surprise appearance, to Connell’s double-decker bus ride straight to the Friend Zone, these cautionary tales will help you avoid becoming her next dating nightmare.
Highlights—Err, Lowlights?—of this Episode:
05:34: MURDER, SHE WATCHED: Maybe Don’t Show Her Your Student Film Where You “Kill” Someone
12:03: BUS RIDE TO THE FRIEND ZONE: Why Grand Gestures Just Don’t Work
20:54: AREOLA GRANDE: Because There’s No Good Time to Ask Her Nipple Size
25:50: FIRST DATE, LAST RITES: “Here Are Pics from My Grandma’s Funeral. So How About a Second Date?”
31:25: COKE-BLOCKED! Meet the Banker Who Brought His Coke Dealer as a Plus-One
BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Will You Find True Love—or End Up Settling? It All Comes Down to ONE Thing Sep 09, 2025

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Have you ever deleted a dating app in frustration? Or stopped yourself from following up after being left “on read”? Quitting too soon only leads to settling—or staying single. The solution is resilience. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals how grit and tenacity can help you land more dates, build confidence, and find the relationship you want. Love or loneliness—the deciding factor is resilience.
BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

The Shy Guy’s Advantage: 5 Approaching Secrets to Help Introverts Confidently Connect with Women Sep 04, 2025

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Approaching women as a shy, introverted guy can feel terrifying. But that shyness is actually your hidden advantage. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals 5 powerful shifts to help introverts confidently meet women in real life. You’ll also discover his go-to icebreaker that almost always works.
BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

You’re Making a HUGE Mistake on the Apps—Fix It Now! + Steal My Hinge Prompt for More Matches Sep 03, 2025

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If you struggle on the apps, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the big mistake that costs you matches and dates—and how to fix it. Plus, Connell shares his best Hinge prompt ever. Then he unveils the 3 must-have prompts every profile needs to FINALLY make online-dating work for you.
Highlights of this Episode:
01:00: Online Dating is NOT Dating—Here’s What It Is
03:01: The Real Reason You Struggle to Get Quality Matches
05:18: What Don Draper Knows about the Dating Apps
07:42: Connell’s #1 Hinge Prompt—and Why It Works
18:47: The 3 Prompts You Need on Your Hinge, Bumble or Tinder Profile
BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKSBUT YOU DON'T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

5 Texting Mistakes Women HATE! + 5 Ninja Text Moves to Get Her Pursuing You Aug 26, 2025

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You know what sucks? (Besides every Kid Rock song.) When a woman you’re texting leaves you on read—and you have no idea why. In the finale of dating coach Connell Barrett’s “Textual Healing” series, you’ll learn the 5 hidden texting mistakes that turn women off. And you’ll get 5 advanced moves to become a texting ninja. Plus, Connell reads a message thread from his own phone to show you how to text your way to a first date.
You’re About to Learn:
03:44: The #1 Texting Mistake that Kills Attraction
13:08: The Texting Cadence that Prevents Canceled Dates
17:33: Why Being Mysterious Is a Dating Dead End
22:23: The “Resurrection Text” that Brings Dead Matches Back to Life
26:58: The Flirty Way to Confirm Dates by Text
35:49: How “Callback Humor” Builds Chemistry and Connection
45:21: Connell Breaks Down His Own Text Thread
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Women Can Tell If You Watch Too Much Porn—and it’s Destroying Your Dating Life (with Frank Rich) Aug 19, 2025

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Ever wonder why you feel insecure around women? In a raw interview, thought leader and podcaster Frank Rich (“The Super Human Life”) joins dating coach Connell Barrett to reveal the hidden culprit that may be hurting your confidence: porn addiction. Rich opens up about his own battle, and explains how watching too much porn leads to objectifying women and kills dating motivation. He also shares his 5-step roadmap to freedom, so you can live and love authentically—without porn or shame.
02:44: Why Porn Addiction is Not What You Think
11:46: How Porn Replaces Real Romantic Connection
15:59: Frank’s Raw Story: From Shame to Redemption
24:40: The Hotel Incident that Changed Everything
29:25: Why Facing Consequences Is the Key to Defeating Porn Addiction
41:35: The 5-Step Roadmap for Rebuilding
48:08: The Subtle Tells Women Pick Up On within Minutes
LISTEN TO FRANK RICH’S SUPER HUMAN LIFE PODCAST: Available on all major podcast platforms
CHECK OUT HIS INSTAGRAM:@‌CoachFrankRich
JOIN FRANK RICH’S COMMUNITY:Visit http://Skool.com/rebootyourlife for his community helping men quit porn and rebuild their lives
BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://DatingTransformation.com

Do Women Ignore You on the Apps? Use My ‘Back to the Future’ Opener for a Date by Saturday Aug 12, 2025

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Do women on the apps rarely reply to you? Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals his “Back to the Future” opener—the playful icebreaker that’s helped clients spark conversations, set up dates, and find girlfriends. He gives you the exact words to send so you can stop getting ghosted and start connecting. “This is the best opener I’ve come up with in my 20 years of studying online dating,” Connell says. Steal it today—your future girlfriend will thank you.
Episode Highlights:
01:28: How Connell Created the “Back to the Future” Opener—His Best Ever
04:51: What to Write, Word for Word
11:10: Do This to Make the Exchange Ever Flirtier
15:35: How to Lock in the Date, with ZERO Chance of Flaking
23:45: How Shane Used the Opener to Meet His New Girlfriend
27:51: The Secret Behind Why the “Back to the Future” Opener Works
BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF HIS INNOVATINVE COACHING METHODS ARE RIGHT FOR YOU:http://DatingTransformation.com

Stop Getting Ghosted! The 10 Texting Commandments that Get Women Writing You Back (Textual Healing, Part 2) Aug 07, 2025

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Tired of getting ghosted? Do your texting conversations die faster than a fruit fly? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 10 Texting Commandments—his tested rules to get women texting you back and saying yes to dates. Yea, thou SHALT obey these holy rules, and ye shall soon get ye some dates!
The 10 Texting Commandments:
04:00: Thou Shalt Give Authentic Value
07:15: Thou Shalt Not Over-Read the Texting Tea Leaves
15:51: Thou Shalt Follow the ‘Three Times Rule’
12:49: Thou Shalt Not Fear the Double-Text
22:45: Thou Shalt Change Her Mood, Not Her Mind
26:12: Thou Shalt Text Her Leading Up to the First Date
31:40: Thou Shalt Lower the Bar for How Good Your Texts Must Be
34:08: Thou Shalt Ask Her Good Questions
37:26: Thou Shalt Use Photos, Videos and Voice Notes
40:35: Thou Shalt Ask Her Out
43:02: Bonus Commandment! Thou Shalt Text Her the Day After a Date
READY TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL:www.DatingTransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”? EMAIL CONNELL:Connell@datingtransformation.com

How to Stop Settling in Love: A Therapist Explains Why You Choose the Wrong Relationships (with Jason VanRuler) Aug 05, 2025

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Have you ever settled for a woman who wasn’t what you were looking for, but you felt she was the best you could do? Licensed therapist and author Jason VanRuler reveals how hidden childhood wounds quietly shape your dating choices—and how to finally heal and move forward. You’ll learn why men settle, how to escape a “shadow” love life, and get a plan to help you finally find the relationship you really want.
Episode Highlights:
07:12: The Panic Attack Connell Once Had about Dating and What it Reveals
14:45: The Psychology Behind Settling in Love and Life
25:45: How to Stop Living a “Shadow Life”
28:54: How to Enjoy the Process of Dating
36:16: The “Business Partner Test” to Know if She’s the One
38:58: Where Introverted Men Should Go to Meet Quality Women
TO DOWNLOAD JASON’S FREE ‘LIFE AUDIT’:
http://JasonVR.com
READ JASON’S BESTSELLING BOOK ‘GET PAST YOUR PAST’:
Available on Amazon
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF DATING COACHING
IS RIGHT FOR YOU:
http://Datingtransformation.com

Spank You Very Much: The Nice Guy’s Guide to Hot, Shame-Free Sex (with Kink Expert Amanda Dames) Jul 31, 2025

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You may not know it, but you are kinky… and so is your next date! That’s right—a whopping 95 percent of singles are kinky, according to certified sexologist Amanda Dames, who joins dating coach Connell Barrett in a juicy episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend.” Dames, host of the Kink Consultant Podcast, will teach you how to have hot, fun, shame-free sex, even if you’re sexually inexperienced.
Episode Highlights Include:
02:23: From Wall Street to Dominatrix—Amanda’s Wild Origin Story
06:14: The Truth About Sexual Shame (and How to Finally Get Past It)
16:47: Amanda’s Foolproof Foreplay Rules Every Man Should Know
26:55: How to Bring Up Kink on Dates Without Killing the Vibe
30:21: Why Some Women Want to Be “Choked” and How to Do It Safely
41:21: Why 95 Percent of Us Are Kinky
44:55: The Kinky Dating App You MUST Try
FOLLOW AMANDA ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY KINK TIPS:
@‌The_KinkConsultant
GET AMANDA’S FREE KINK WORKSHEET:
AmandaDames.com
LISTEN TO MORE JUICY STORIES ON “THE KINK CONSULTANT” PODCASTREADY TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL:
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