How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

Latest Episodes:

20 Dating Lessons That Took Me 20 Years to Master—You’ll Learn Them by Lunch (Special Series!) Jun 24, 2025

Show notes

Struggling in your love life? Low on dates and confidence? Twenty years ago, Connell Barrett was in your shoes. So he began a journey to fix his dating problems. To mark his 20th year in the dating trenches, Connell kicks off a new series. In this premiere episode, he reveals 20 powerful, practical tips straight from his #1 Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t.” Here’s the good news: You don’t have to spend years swiping, approaching and dating. You can start to transform your love life today—and meet your dream girlfriend in 20 weeks instead of 20 years!
What You’ll Learn:
5:20: Why Being Radically Authentic is Your Secret Weapon
9:00: Myth-buster: Your Looks Don’t Matter to Women—This Does
10:58: The Bulletproof Dating App Opener that Gets Replies
16:09: The Secret to Flirting that Changes Everything
20:15: How to Smoothly Go for the First Kiss
30:43: The 15-Minute Morning Routine that Builds True Confidence
35:52: How to Make Her See You as Her Dream Boyfriend
37:32: Getting Consent Can Turn Her On (Yes, Really!)
44:10: The NEW Way to Text Women: A Simple Framework
Listen now and start your own dating transformation—without waiting two decades!
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T":Connell@datingtransformation.com

The Speed Dating Move that Drives Women Wild: Why Vulnerability Wins Every Time (Featuring Kavita Ajwani) Jun 19, 2025

Show notes

You struggle to connect with women, right? What if you could confidently walk into a crowded room and get numbers from women who find you utterly charming? You actually can—when you get great at speed dating! In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes speed dating expert Kavita Ajwani. As a woman, Kavita—founder of Dashing Date—knows what women really want from men. You’re about to learn why vulnerability, not pickup tactics, is your secret weapon for attracting women.
Episode Highlights Include:
02:21: Why Vulnerability is Your Most Underrated Dating Superpower
06:45: The Question that Takes Dates from Small Talk to Deep Connection
12:52: The One Topic that Instantly Helps Women Feel Safe
17:25: How Being a “Nerd” Actually Attracts Women
24:34: Your Speed Dating Masterclass: 3 Moves that Get You Matches and Dates
42:37: How Kavita’s Coaching Transforms Men’s Love Lives
LEARN MORE ABOUT KAVITA AJWANI AND HER COACHING:
Follow @‌DashingDate on Instagram
GET KAVITA’S “TO BE DESIRED” MASTERCLASS FOR FREE:
DM “Connell” to @‌DashingDate on Instagram

Textual Healing! Connell’s 4-Part Texting Formula to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting Dates Jun 17, 2025

Show notes

Do you get ghosted on the apps and don’t know why? Do you freeze up on dates because you’re not sure what to talk about? Would you love to meet women at the gym, but you’re worried you’ll seem creepy? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you step-by-step solutions to all of these issues. Plus, you’ll discover his simple texting formula that will make it easy to spark attraction with wonderful women.
You’re About to Learn:
03:34: Why You Get Ghosted & How to Finally Fix It
04:45: The Fatal Texting Mistake that Kills Attraction
07:20: Connell’s 4-Part Texting Formula: Play, Play, Play… Then Pull the Trigger!
18:39: Should You Use ChatGPT when Texting? The Answer Will Surprise You
26:00: How “Interview Mode” Can Be… A Good Thing?!
31:31: 8 Flirty Questions to Make First Dates Fun
39:57: How to Go for the First Kiss without Making it Weird
44:48: The Charming Way to Meet Women at the Gym—and NEVER Be Creepy
56:08: The Exact Number of Texts to Send Before Asking Her Out
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:
http://www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

I Got Rejected 567 Times… Which is Why I’m GREAT with Women Now Jun 10, 2025

Show notes

Fear of rejection can make you freeze. It’s why you don’t say hi to the stylish woman at the café or make a move on the date. In this episode of. “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gets raw and real about his own fear of rejection. He also shares how getting blown off so many times (“F-off, Ginger!”) actually opened the door to real romantic wins! If you’re tired of being too afraid to make move, this episode will change your dating life.
Episode Highlights:
05:44: The Rejection that Changed Connell’s Dating Life
09:45: The 2 Hidden Forces that Create Your Fear of Rejection
14:35: When Connell’s Date Left Him—Mid-Date!—for Another Guy
18:35: “F---- off, Ginger!” How a Brutal Brush-Off Led to an Incredible Romantic Win
27:00: 4 New Ways to Look at Rejection and Become a Fearless, Confident Man
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

The Flirty Dozen: 12 Ways to Smash Out of the Friend Zone and Spark Connection on First Dates Jun 05, 2025

Show notes

Tired of getting stuck in the dreaded Friend Zone? It’s frustrating when your dates feel flat and women say, “I just didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down exactly how to go from the Friend Zone to the Flirty Zone, with 12 game-changing moves that make romantic sparks fly. From charming texts to confidently going for that first kiss, your love life is about to change.
Get Ready to Learn:
10:05: Why Women Lose Interest after a First or Second Date—and How to Fix this for Good
15:23: The Text to Send before a Date that Gets Her Excited about Meeting You
24:42: Six Tested Moves to Use During the Date that Women Love
43:17: How to Go for a First Kiss the Right Way
51:27: What to Text Her the Next Day to Get Date Number 2
Listen now to smash out of the Friend Zone once and for all!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:
http://www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

How to Be Bold, Flirty—and Never, Ever ‘That Creepy Guy’: A Dating Guide for Modern Gentlemen Jun 03, 2025

Show notes

Dating and flirting can feel like a minefield. If you’re like many men in the #MeToo era, the fear of seeming creepy or weird can crush your confidence. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shows you how to be bold, flirty, and totally respectful, so you can charm women without crossing any lines. This is your guide to building a real connection with class and confidence—as the modern gentleman women actually want!
Highlights of this Episode:
01:23: Avoid the Lunge, the First-Kiss Mistake that Women Hate
06:25: How to Text Her in a Persistent, Charming Way—without Being Pushy or Thirsty
09:30: The Do’s and Don’ts of Office Romance
14:42: Should You Ask Her Permission to Kiss Her?
18:21: How to Sext in the Way Many Women Want
25:33: What to Do—and Not Do—When She Visits Your Place for the First Time
27:58: How to Respectfully Get Consent without Killing the Mood
34:49: The Story of Alex, Who Helped Connell Become a Better Man
42:00: What Women Need Most from Men Today
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:
http://www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

27 Flirting Tips in 27 Minutes! Go from the Friend Zone to the First Kiss—FAST May 29, 2025

Show notes

Not knowing how to flirt with women can leave you awkwardly fumbling your words. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett has fast, field-tested fixes! In just 27 minutes, he shares 27 practical flirting tips to help you confidently make sparks fly—on dates, during approaches, and over text. Get ready to escape the friend zone and boldly land that first kiss, even if you’re shy!
Episode Highlights Include:
03:00: 3 Playful First-Date Games that Instantly Spark Chemistry
04:10: How to Flirt Without Being Needy or Weird
09:00: Rejection-proof openers for Shy or Introverted Men
17:41: The Right Way to Compliment Women (They Love This!)
21:55: The Funny, Flirty Text that Gets You a Second Date
26:47: A Great Question to Dial Up Sparks
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:
http://www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Use these 8 Flirty Questions to Stop Boring Women and Spark Deep, Romantic Conversations May 27, 2025

Show notes

Do you get stuck in “interview mode” on dates? Not sure how to text women in a way that actually gets replies? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett answers your questions to help you break out of boring small talk, ask magnetic flirty questions, and master texting with a simple 4-word rule. Whether you’re just starting out or stuck in a dating rut, this episode gives you the tools to build real connection—and get the girlfriend you want.
You’re About to Learn:
01:45: Why Some Women Want to Date Guys with Little to No Sexual Experience
08:18: How to Get out of Interview Mode with these 8 Flirty Questions
19:30: Why Some Men Become Incels—and How to Avoid this Trap
29:11: Your New 4-word Framework that Makes Texting Fun and Effective
33:42: Should You Worry if your Girlfriend is Texting Her Ex?
Listen now and take on step closer to finding your dream girlfriend!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:
http://www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!) May 22, 2025

Show notes

Do you struggle to read women? The fear of making the wrong move—and seeming creepy—can kill your confidence. In this encore episode, dating coach Connell Barrett talks with renowned expert and bestselling author Kezia Noble, who’s helped over 100,000 men. They dive into how to read a woman’s signals, how to make the right moves (and avoid the wrong ones), and create real attraction through authenticity.
Kezia and Connell discuss:
7:35: How Kezia Learned to Get Great Results for Her Clients
15:40: How to Dial Up Attraction Using her “Double-Sided Compliment”
18:12: “The Shadow,” the Side of Men that Women Find Seductive
21:45: What to Say on Dates to go from Boring to Charismatic
23:05: How to Be Authentically Interesting to Women as the Raw, Real You
29:05: The Right Way to Talk About Your Career… and the Wrong Way
30:45: The Truth about How Much Looks Really Matter to Women
33:51: Why Women Hate the Apps and are “Absolutely Dying” for Men like You to Approach Them
37:35: How to Get a Woman Who Rejected You to Change Her Mind and Chase You
Listen now and start so you can finally understand what women want!
TO LEARN ABOUT KEZIA’S 1-1 COACHING PROGRAMS
www.kezia-noble.com/
VISIT KEZIA’S YOUTUBE CHANNEL
http://www.youtube.com/@Kezianobledatingexpert
GET KEZIA’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “THE NOBLE ART OF SEDUCING WOMEN”
http://www.amazon.com/Noble-Art-Seducing-Women-Foolproof/dp/1843587629
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO DISCUSS COACHING
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact

Tongue-Tied with Women? Become a Funny Flirt with 3 Simple Moves and Get Her Giggling! (Live Coaching with Jake) May 20, 2025

Show notes

Do you feel tongue-tied around attractive women? Want to be funnier and flirtier, but you’re not sure how? In this live coaching session with his client Jake, dating coach Connell Barrett shares 3 simple moves to master funny banter and playful flirting. You’ll hear Jake go from awkward silences to laugh-filled connections, learning how to be funnier and way more attractive—without any weird pickup-artist tricks! Because women are attracted to your most authentic self.
You’re About to Learn:
03:01: Why Women Tell Guys Like Jake, “Sorry, Not Feeling a Connection”
07:11: How to Lightly Tease Women in a Way they Love
15:32: The Right Way to Use Sarcasm on a Date—and the WRONG Way
21:03: An Easy Technique to Never Run Out of Things to Say
25:39: 3 Ways to Ace Your Next Speed-Dating Event… and Get Phone Numbers!
34:58: The First-Date Question to Ask Every Woman
43:57: The Secret to Unlocking True Charisma, While Being Authentic
54:57: 1 Simple Move to Get Out of Your Head and In the Zone on Dates
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Our TOPPODCAST Picks

Follow Us

Stay Connected

How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

Related Podcasts

Links

Stay Connected