How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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Text This, NOT That: 18 Texts that Get You the Date—or Get You Ghosted Oct 01, 2026

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What kind of text should you never send a woman—and what should you send instead? Dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down 9 texts that can hurt your chances with her, and shares 9 charming alternatives that can help you get more replies and land more dates.
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Never Run Out of Things to Say: the 8 Topics Women Want You to Talk About Sep 29, 2026

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Running out of things to say is a chemistry killer. It leads to awkward silences, and getting that dreaded text: “I didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett reveals the only 8 topics you need to have fun, free-flowing conversations with women. Goodbye, awkward silences. Hello, second dates!
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7 Texting Mistakes that Make Women Flake Before the First Date (and 7 Easy Fixes) Sep 18, 2026

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You know what’s frustrating? Getting first dates lined up with women you’re into—then they cancel, or ghost you. It can leave a guy feeling rejected and confused. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down 7 texting mistakes men make that lead to women flaking on dates. You’ll also learn 7 fixes so you can stop the flaking and get a lot more dates.
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8 Flirty Things to Say (and Not to Say) When You Freeze Up Around Women Sep 11, 2026

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Do you struggle with what to say around attractive women—whether you’re at the gym, on a date, or texting with someone from a dating app? In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast,” dating coach Connell Barrett gives you eight flirty things to say—and the eight things NOT to say—so you can stop freezing up and start making sparks fly with women you’re into. Listen now.
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The 10 Most Surprisingly Sexy Things to Say on a First Date Aug 28, 2026

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It sucks when a first date seemed to go well, and then you hear those five frustrating words: “I didn’t feel a connection.” What was missing? Likely, a sexy spark. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett counts down the top 10 most surprisingly sexy things you can say on a first date. Listen now, so you can start getting texts like this: “So, when are we going out again? ;)”
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The 7 Lies that Keep You From Approaching—and 7 Tips to Confidently Talk to Women Anywhere Aug 26, 2026

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You want to confidently approach women in the real world, but fear holds you back. That’s because you’ve been lied to about approaching. And those lies keep you from meeting wonderful women. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares the 7 biggest lies about approaching women—and the 7 truths that will let you confidently talk to women almost anywhere.
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The 10 Texting Commandments: How to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting Dates Aug 21, 2026

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Texting shouldn’t feel so dang hard. You overthink every word, send the message, wait for her reply—and still get ghosted! In this episode of the "How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast," dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 10 Texting Commandments: 10 rules for messaging women that will free you from your texting chains. Stop overthinking every message, and start getting women writing you back, flirting with you, and saying yes to dates.
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21 Flirty Ways to Make Her Feel Authentic Attraction (How to Escape the Friend Zone, Part 2) Aug 05, 2026

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You know what sucks? Thinking a date went well only to hear her say, “I didn’t feel a connection.” Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you a practical roadmap to avoid the Friend Zone—before, during, and after a date. He shares playful pre-date texts, flirting strategies on the date, and funny next-day messages that make her laugh. Get ready to start hearing, “So when are we going out again?”
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The Date Seemed Great… So Why Did You End Up in the Friend Zone? (Part 1) Jul 21, 2026

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The date seemed to go well—conversation flowed, and there were no awkward silences. Yet she texted you those painful words: “I just didn’t feel a connection.” In Part 1 of this two-part episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why many men end up in the Friend Zone. He also shares how changing the way you communicate with women creates the spark that leads to second dates, first kisses—and a lasting relationship.
ARE YOU STRUGGLING TO ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.com
GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)

“You’re Not Broken!” 3 Steps to Lasting Dating Confidence (with Attachment Style Expert Thais Gibson) Jul 10, 2026

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If fear of rejection keeps you from taking romantic chances—sending that text or approaching an attractive stranger—Thais Gibson has a solution. Gibson has helped more than 70,000 people build thriving relationships, both through her book, “The New Attachment Theory,” and as founder of the Personal Development School. Gibson joins dating coach Connell Barrett to share practical exercises to help you overcome rejection anxiety, build lasting confidence, and create healthier relationships.
Episode Highlights:
01:55: Why the “Perfect” Opener Won’t Fix Deeper Insecurity
09:18: 3 Steps to Stop Feeling that You’re Not Enough
17:57: How the 4 Attachment Styles Affect Your Dating Life
27:13: Why Guys Panic When a Woman Doesn’t Text Back Right Away
41:01: She Went Quiet? Here’s What a Securely Attached Men Does Next
44:22: Do This When You Want to Go for the Kiss
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LEARN ABOUT THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SCHOOL: Personaldevelopmentschool.com
FOLLOW THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SCHOOL ON INSTAGRAM: @‌thepersonaldevelopmentschool

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