How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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From Dateless to Dates on Demand! How to Improve Your Profile and Get 2 Dates Per Week (Part 4 of 4) May 15, 2025

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Are you struggling to get great matches on the apps? Get ready for the game-changing finale of a 4-part series on the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile. Your host, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett, reveals how to troubleshoot and fix 7 hidden profile problems. Want to land two dates a week? Listen now!
Highlights of this Episode Include:
01:52: The 12 Essentials You Need for Great Results
06:15: Ben’s Success Story: From 3 Matches to 87 Matches (!) in Just 2 Days
09:44: How Connell Diagnosed His Own Profile to Go from Crickets to Dozens of Matches
14:41: Problem 1: Crickets After Launching: How to Diagnose the Issue
16:42: Problem 2: Only Getting Mediocre Matches: What to Adjust
20:27: Problem 3: Matches, But No Replies: Why She’s Not Messaging Back
25:14: Problem 4: Matches, But No Dates: How to Fix the Issue
27:15: Problem 5: Not Seeing Women You Want to Date: A Simple Solution
30:07: Problem 6: Your Profile LOOKS Good But Still Flops: The Key Photo You Need
34:26: Problem 7: Getting Ghosted Often: Why Women Disappear Suddenly
39:44: PLUS: Why You Must, Must, MUST Use Hinge!
Listen now to make your phone a date-generating machine!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:
http://www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

7 Powerful Secrets to Attraction that Women Have Taught Me (You Need to Know These!) May 13, 2025

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Do you ever wonder, “How the heck do I become more attractive to women?” You’re about to find out—from women themselves. After 20 years studying the art of male-female connection, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 7 powerful secrets he learned directly from women he’s dated. You’ll discover how to have better first dates, how to text women, how to avoid the friend zone—and more.
Highlights of this Episode:
02:49: Secret #1—Women Want to See Your Softer Side
06:12: Secret #2—Don’t Try to Score Points on Dates; Just Don’t Lose Points
07:57: Secret #3—Women WANT You to Come Talk to Them, If You Do This
10:40: Secret #4—It Isn’t Creepy to Approach Women; It’s Creepy NOT To
15:48: Secret #5—You Can Text Her as Much as You Want… Here’s How
18:33: Secret #6—The Truth About Going for the First Kiss
20:56: Secret #7—On the Apps, Persistence + Charm = Dates
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Do Women on Tinder Ignore You? The Man Who Invented Swiping Reveals How to Finally Get Matches (with Tinder’s Jonathan Badeen) May 08, 2025

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Back in the day, Jonathan Badeen was an introvert struggling to meet women and get dates. (Sound familiar?) So he did what any guy would do—he co-founded Tinder, invented swiping, and changed dating (and the world) forever. In this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Badeen joins host and dating coach Connell Barrett to help you finally get quality matches on the apps.
In this episode, Jonathan and Connell discuss:
5:59: Why Tinder is for More than Just Hookups
19:26: The Aha Moment when Jonathan Came Up with Swiping
22:49: Why Authenticity is What Women Want—on Tinder and in Real Life
31:57: The Real Reason You’re Not Getting Good Matches
35:35: The Myth that “Dating Apps Just Don’t Work”
39:29: How to Inject Fun into Your profile to Get Women Messaging You First
41:15: How Shy Guys and “Nerds” Can Win on the Apps
52:21: Why Jonathan Would Swipe Right on Minnie Mouse
Listen now for wisdom from the man who changed dating—and finally land great Tinder dates!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:
http://www.datingtransformation.com
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

This Simple Move Makes You 500% Better at Approaching—Science Proves It! (Featuring ‘Date Smarter’ Author Tim Molnar) May 06, 2025

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Dating apps feel rigged, and IRL approaches are just plain awkward, right? How are you supposed to find love today? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” author Tim Molnar draws from his insightful new book, “Date Smarter,” to offer practical, research-backed dating strategies. A data-driven dating expert, Molnar shares what works both on the apps and in real life—including one surprising study that led to 5X better approaching results for its participants.
Highlights of this Episode Include:
05:11: The Primacy Effect: Why the First 5 Minutes of a Date are Make or Break
09:45: How to Make Sure You Get Date No. 2
21:07: How to Get 500 Percent (!) Better Approach Results with the “Small Favor” Strategy
26:13: 100,000 Swipes, Zero Dates—Why Some Men Fail on the Apps
44:16: Why Paid Dating Apps (Not the Free Ones) Give You a Better Shot at Love
47:12: How to Instantly Triple Your Number of Hinge Dates
54:07: Why Tim’s IRL Approaches Got Him 10 Times More Second Dates than the Apps Did
Listen now so you can get 500 percent better at approaching!
LEARN ABOUT TIM MOLNAR AND GET A COPY OF HIS NEW DATING BOOK, ‘DATE SMARTER’:
http://www.TimothyMolnar.com
GET ‘DATE SMARTER’ ON AMAZON:
https://www.amazon.com/Date-Smarter-Strategic-Navigating-Romance-ebook/dp/B0DP3GJPZ5
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com

From Lonely to Lining Up Dates: 6 Simple Moves that Make Women Swipe Right on the Apps (Part 3) May 01, 2025

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If you struggle on the apps, it can make you feel like you’re just not what women want. But the problem isn’t you—it’s your profile! Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett can help. In Part 3 of his special series on online dating, Connell shares the second half of his 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile, so you can finally meet bright, beautiful women on Hinge, Bumble or any app.
Highlights Include:
01:33: Why Your Lack of Matches is Not About Your Looks
02:19: How Connell Went from Struggling to Thriving on the Apps
07:17: How to Hook Her Interest with this Simple Bio Secret
14:19: The Line that Landed Connell Dozens of Great Matches
17:45: The Essential that Makes Your Bio Magnetic
27:47: Your Secret Weapon: How to Make Her Laugh
35:17: The Hinge Poll Prompt that Gets Women Giggling and Wanting to Know More
45:47: The 5 Red Flags that Make Her Swipe Left (Fix This Today!)
Listen now, make these 6 simple moves, and start getting some great matches!
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Unlock the 3 S’s for Unshakable Confidence—and Attract the Women You Want! Apr 29, 2025

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There’s a big dating mistake you’re making—and you don’t even realize it. Most men obsess over tactics (what to say, how to text) instead of building the real foundation for success: a bulletproof mindset. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 3 S’s of dating success. The 3 S’s will build you unstoppable confidence and attract the women you want, all while being authentic. Listen now to start transforming your love life.
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Get Ready to Love, Love, LOVE the Dating Apps! 6 Profile Fixes for More Matches Fast (Part 2 of 4) Apr 24, 2025

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Not getting good matches? Think the dating apps are rigged against you? Have hope! The truth is, you’re just making a few profile mistakes that hurt your results. This episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” is Part 2 in a series on the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Dating Profile. It’s the same strategy that dating coach Connell Barrett used to meet his girlfriend Jess. You’re about to learn 6 powerful fixes to finally start matching with women you want to date.
Highlights of this Episode:
01:32: The Real Reason You Don’t Get Good Matches
05:15: The Secret to Taking Photos Women Can’t Resist
08:56: How Connell Instantly Became 88 Percent More Attractive in His Photos
17:50: The Mistake You Make with Photos that’s Costing You Matches
22:11: The Action Photo that Will Get Women Liking Your Profile
29:57: How to Melt her Heart … and Match with You!
34:38: How to Write a Flirty Prompt to Escape the Friend Zone
Listen now so you can finally start getting matches!
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALLWITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Do Women Ignore You on the Apps? These 12 Profile MUSTS Will Finally Get You Great Matches (Part 1 of 4) Apr 22, 2025

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Not getting good matches on Hinge, Bumble or the apps? The problem isn’t you. (You’re awesome!) It’s your profile. You’re probably missing a few of the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 12 photo and bio upgrades that will get you great matches—so you can finally start dating women you’re excited about. And you’ll do this with charm and authenticity, no sketchy pickup moves needed!
Here are the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Dating Profile:
08:40: #1: A Magnetic First Portrait Showcasing the Authentic You
13:00: #2: A “Knockout” Second Photo
17:01: #3: A “Man of Action” Picture
20:41: #4: Show Off Your Social Proof
24:55: #5: Tug At Her Heartstrings
28:28: #6: Flirtatious Energy
32:43: #7: A Bio Hook She Can’t Resist
35:27: #8: Show, Don’t Tell!
36:54: #9: On Your Bio, Be Specific (Not Vague)
38:28: #10: Display Your Authentic Sense of Humor
40:43: #11: Write an “Emotional Maturity” Prompt
43:19: #12: No! Red! Flags!
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

‘I Went from Lonely to Dating Like Crazy!’ How Kyle Attracted His First Girlfriend in Years, and How You Can Too (Live Coaching) Apr 17, 2025

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A proud veteran with a big heart, Kyle was lonely and struggling to get dates—until dating coach Connell Barrett showed him how to approach women with real confidence and charm. “It’s amazing, but authenticity really does work,” Kyle says in this live coaching call. Soon he was going on two dates a week and had landed a girlfriend. Now newly single, he’s ready to level up again. Listen as Connell reviews Kyle’s Hinge profile and shares 3 simple ways to get more matches today.
The Moments You Don’t Want to Miss:
07:11: From Lonely to “Dating Like Crazy”—Kyle’s Big Breakthrough
08:32: How Kyle Overcame Approach Anxiety and Attracted Women IRL
15:08: Connell Reveals the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Online-Dating Profile
17:35: The Photo You Need to Add to Get More Matches
25:30: Should You Pay to Boost Your Profile? Connell Breaks it Down
31:33: How to Write a Prompt that’s Funny and Flirty
47:07: The Approach Opener Kyle Used to Meet a Large Group of Women at a Bar
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Ask the Dating Coach: ‘I Don’t Think I’m Good-Looking. Do I Even Have a Chance with Women?’ Apr 15, 2025

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Do you worry that you’re just not good-looking enough to date the kinds of women you’re into? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett helps a man who wonders if any women will ever want him because he thinks he’s “ugly.” Connell breaks down what actually makes a man attractive—and it’s not male-model looks. Plus, another listener asks why women agree to dates and then cancel last minute, and Connell shares an easy fix.
Episode Highlights:
05:30: “Connell, Am I Not Good-Looking Enough to Attract Women?”
15:15: “I Cried During ‘Titanic’ and She Ghosted Me—Was I Too Vulnerable?”
20:25: “Damn You, Autocorrect! I Just Called Her ‘Boobzilla’!”
24:14: “Why Do Women Keep Canceling on Me Last Minute?”
32:45: “She Loves My Dog but Not Me. Am I in the Friend Zone?”
Listen now and take the next step toward meeting your dream girlfriend.
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

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