How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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Tired of Struggling on Tinder and Bumble? Try the Innovative Dating App that Helps Men and Women Connect IRL! Apr 10, 2025

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Tired of endless swiping that never leads to dates? Want to meet wonderful women in real life? Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes David Vermeulen, founder of Inner Circle, a different kind of dating app. Inner Circle helps singles skip the small talk and make meaningful connections, both online and offline. As Vermeulen explains in this encore episode, Inner Circle hosts real-world events so its members can stop wasting time on flaky matches and connect with singles who genuinely want to date.
With Connell and David as your guides, you’ll discover:
4:46: The Dating Horror Story that Inspired David to Start Inner Circle
6:38: How Inner Circle’s Technology Virtually Eliminates Fake Profiles
7:55: Why the Platform’s IRL Events is “Where the Magic Happens”
10:43: A Game-Changing Strategy for Introverts to Meet Women in the Real World
11:25: Connell’s One-Sentence Dating Mantra that Will Transform Your Love Life
19:29: How “Tinder is Like McDonald’s,” in David’s View
27:41: Why Quality Matches Always Beat Quantity
30:54: How to Decide if She’s Worth a Second Date
33:36: A Simple Writing Tip to Make Your Bio Magnetic to Women
35:32: David’s Surprising Rule for Online-Dating Success: “Opposites Don’t Attract”
Ready to finally connect with women on a dating app that actually works? Listen now!
LEARN MORE ABOUT INNER CIRCLE:
https://about.theinnercircle.co/
CHECK OUT INNER CIRCLE ON INSTAGRAM:
https://www.instagram.com/innercircleco/
DOWNLOAD THE INNER CIRCLE APP:
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/inner-circle-dating-community/id838136374
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Too Anxious to Approach? Use these 5 Steps to Boldly Meet and Date Wonderful Women (Live Coaching with Ryan) Apr 08, 2025

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You see a gorgeous girl and want to approach her—but you freeze up! “What do I say? What if I’m creepy?” That inner voice kills your confidence, keeping you stuck and frustrated. Let’s fix it today! In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches his client Ryan the 5 Master Steps to boldly approach women with charm and authenticity—no weird pickup moves needed.
What You’ll Learn in this Live-Coaching Episode:
10:15: What Stops Ryan from Approaching—and How He Fixed It with “Terminator Glasses”
14:22: How to Turn Every Approach into a Fun, Confidence-Building Win
24:45: How to Flirt with More Sexuality While Remaining a True Gentleman
40:22: How to Tell If She Likes You… or Wants You to Walk Away
45:40: How Connell Made Out with a Total Cutie—Just 1 Hour After She Rejected Him!
52:00: The 5 Master Steps to Approaching Women with Authentic Confidence
1:12:03: One Easy Move to Instantly Build Momentum in Any Bar or Venue
1:22:23: Why Bold Risk-Takers are Irresistible to Women
Want to know exactly what to say in a way women find magnetic? Listen now!
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Women Love Nice, Nerdy Guys like YOU—If You Do 1 Important Thing (with Dating Coach Nick Notas) Apr 03, 2025

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Are you a nice, nerdy guy? You might think this holds you back with women—but what if it’s actually a big advantage? Renowned dating coach Nick Notas joins host Connell Barrett (both proud nerds!) to reveal why many women are into thoughtful, even geeky men. Nick also shares how to make your authentic, nerdy self irresistibly attractive.
Highlights of this Episode Include:
02:45: The Day Nick Realized that the “Pickup Artist” World Was Toxic
06:40: The “Aha!” Approach Moment that Changed His Dating Life
08:12: Why Many Women Love Dating Nerds
18:23: What to Talk About on Dates to Get Her Hanging on Your Every Word
20:56: The Easy Way to Approach Women
30:19: The Truth About What You’re Doing Wrong on the Apps
33:41: How A Shorter Man Can Attract an Incredible Girlfriend
49:59: The One Old-School Pickup Move that Nick Still Endorses
58:16: How Nick’s In-Person Coaching Retreats Can Help Your Love Life
Listen now and attract the right woman for you by being authentic!
TO LEARN ABOUT NICK’S IN-PERSON DATING-ADVICE RETREATS:
http://www.nicknotas.com
WATCH NICK’S DATING VIDEOS BY SEARCHING “NICK NOTAS” ON YOUTUBE.
TO BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 DATING
COACHING:
http://www.datingtransformation.com

From ‘I’m Too Short’ to ‘I Feel Amazing!’ How to Transform Your Dating Confidence NOW (Live Coaching with Ryan) Apr 01, 2025

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Do you ever feel like you’re not tall or good-looking enough for women you find attractive? What if the real turn-off for women isn’t your height or looks but your insecurities? In this live-coaching episode, author and dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Ryan crush those mindset blocks using a powerful process called the Authentic Awakening. It’s an effective way to build instant confidence by exposing the lies your insecurities tell you. The result? Ryan walks away with a whole new outlook on himself and on dating!
Highlights of this Episode Include:
2:01: Meet Your “Lower Self,” the Insecure Side that Kills Your Confidence
4:45: The Brutal Belief that Nearly Made Ryan Quit Dating
25:57: Ryan Sees the Cracks in His Toxic “I’m Too Short” Story
32:16: The Hidden Toll Your Fear-Based Mind Takes on You
44:25: The Truth About What Women Are Attracted to in Men
59:56: Connell Smashes Ryan’s Toxic Belief
1:22:41: Ryan Awakens His Higher Self—Ryan the Bold!
Listen now and transform your dating confidence, just like Ryan did!
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You Mar 27, 2025

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Odds are, you struggle to read women and you miss subtle signals. This can cost you real romantic connections and leave you second-guessing yourself. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett talks with insightful dating expert Talia Koren, host of the “Dating Intentionally” podcast. Talia reveals how to recognize when a woman is into you, how to avoid “nice guy” mistakes that kill attraction, and why first-date follow-up is more important than the date itself.
You’re About to Learn:
03:15: The Best First Date Talia Ever Had—and What the Guy Did Right!
07:15: How to Avoid a Huge First-Date Mistake
10:15: The Easy Way to Escape “Interview Mode”
12:30: How to Show Interest in a Classy, Non-Creepy Way
16:09: Why Following Up After a Date is So Important to Women
34:40: How to Instantly Feel Confident
41:43: How to “Read the Room” and Decode Her Signals
42:57: The Green Lights Women Give You to Approach
50:59: Exactly How Many Texts to Send Her on Hinge Before Asking Her Out
FOLLOW TALIA ON INSTAGRAM:
@‌Dating.Intentionally
LISTEN TO TALIA’S PODCAST, “DATING INTENTIONALLY, ON APPLE, SPOTIFY, OR WHEREVER YOU GET YOUR PODCASTS
BOOK A FREE, 1-1 DATING CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Ignore These 5 Dating Lies—Or Stay Single Forever! Mar 25, 2025

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Is your dating confidence low? Do you get stuck in your head around women? You might be falling for one of the 5 most toxic dating myths. These lies crush your confidence, make it hard to talk to girls, and keep you stuck. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett busts these myths—and gives you 5 powerful fixes to help you confidently meet smart, sexy women… and do it with charm and authenticity!
You’re about to learn:
09:02: Why Your Looks Don’t Matter to Women
17:59: The “Alpha Male” Lie that’s Killing Your Confidence
27:47: A Mistake that Turns Women Off (And How to Fix It)
37:36: How to Stop Running Out of Things to Say—Instantly
47:22: The Secret to Fearless Approaching
TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Why You Freeze When You Want to Approach Beautiful Women—& How to Fix it NOW (Live Coaching with John!) Mar 20, 2025

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John feels stuck and frustrated. He often sees attractive women he wants to talk to at bars and coffee shops, but he always freezes up and says nothing. (Sound familiar?) He’s about to break free of his approach anxiety—and you can, too! In this live coaching session, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the hidden mental roadblocks that stop men from talking to women. Plus, Connell shares simple, proven fixes that you can use today. Get ready to approach women confidently and authentically (no weird pickup moves needed!)
You’re About to Learn:
07:55: The 2 “Fear Factors” that Stop You from Approaching Women—and How to Fix Them
11:30: 5 Ways to Destroy Approach Anxiety TODAY
17:42: What Strangers Really Think of Men Who Approach
37:21: The 1 Simple Shift that Makes Her Happy You Talked to Her
45:03: How to Stop Making Excuses and Start Taking Action
54:36: What NOT to Say When You Approach in the Day (or Else You’ll Seem Creepy!)
If you’ve ever felt too scared to say hello to a beautiful woman, this episode will give you the mindset and tools to finally take action. Listen now!
WANT PERSONALIZED HELP? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL AND START CONFIDENTLY MEETING AND DATING WONDERFUL WOMEN:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project) Mar 18, 2025

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Do you struggle to attract the kinds of women you want to date? Chances are, you’re making some big mistakes that turn women off, and you don’t even realize it. Help is here! Lisa Hickey, CEO of the Good Men Project, joins dating coach Connell Barrett to identify—and fix—the hidden dating mistakes men make. You’ll learn how to connect with women authentically, flirt with charm, and boost your confidence. Plus, Lisa shares invaluable wisdom on modern masculinity. (Check out the Good Men Project for a treasure trove of practical advice, and to read Connell’s dating advice column.)
You’re about to learn:
2:30: What to NEVER do when talking to a woman you’ve just met
6:39: A simple first-date fix that turns women on
16:40: Why men feel more dating anxiety than ever
22:00: Practical ways to build self-esteem and confidence
25:50: How to give authentic compliments that women love
33:00: The single biggest dating mistake you’re making
39:10: Great topics to talk about that spark connection
47:30: How to turn fear and doubt into fun and excitement
59:17: Lisa’s no. 1 dating tip that every man must know
Are you ready to become an even better man? Listen now!
FOR GREAT READS AND PRACTICAL TIPS TO BE A BETTER MAN:
http://GoodMenProject.com
CHECK OUT THE GOOD MEN PROJECT’S DATING SUBSTACK:
http://gmpdating.substack.com
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com
Quotes
"Meaningful compliments celebrate deeper attributes beyond appearance."- Lisa Hickey
"Building modern relationships requires the courage to take the next step after a good interaction."- Lisa Hickey
Featured in the episode
Connell Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation
Website:https://datingtransformation.com
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation

3 Hidden Reasons Why Women Lose Interest in You—and How to Keep Them Attracted Long-Term! with Johnny Cassell Mar 13, 2025

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Have you ever had things start great with a woman only for her to suddenly pull away and say, “I’m not looking to date right now”? The truth is, that’s probably her polite way of saying, “I’m just not interested in you.” In this episode, renowned London-based dating coach Johnny Cassell reveals 3 hidden reasons why women lose interest—and how to keep them attracted to you for the long haul.
You’re About to Learn:
02:20: Why You Must First “Date Yourself” to Attract a Wonderful Girlfriend
18:55: How NOT To Go from a “Wild Tiger to Tubby Housecat” in Her Eyes
19:53: How to Escape the “Yawn Zone” When You Talk to Women
20:12: Johnny’s Amazing Drill to Flirt at Starbucks And ALSO Get a Free Coffee!
22:44: How Connell Approached and Instantly Attracted His Future Girlfriend
30:19: The Right Way to Approach a Large Group of Women at a Bar—and the Wrong Way
44:44: Johnny’s Secret to Talking to Women of Intimidating Beauty
1:01:00: The One Action You Should Take this Week to Improve Your Love Life
Listen now to attract—and keep—that incredible woman’s interest!
LEARN MORE ABOUT JOHNNY CASSELL OR TO APPLY TO WORK WITH HIM:
http://www.johnnycassell.com
FOLLOW JOHNNY ON INSTAGRAM:
@‌LondonDatingCoach
TO BOOK A FREE 1-1 CONSULTATION CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:
http://www.datingtransformation.com

The 7 ‘Friend Zone’ Destroyers: Go from Hearing ‘Let’s Be Friends’ to ‘Let’s Go to Your Place!’ Mar 11, 2025

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You think a date went well, only to get that frustrating text: “You’re a nice guy, but I just didn’t feel a connection...” The Friend Zone can be brutal. Dating coach Connell Barrett knows this from experience. “I didn’t just live in the Friend Zone,” he says. “I owned real estate there.” But he also knows the way out. Now he’s sharing the 7 Friend Zone Destroyers simple, tested moves that you can make to spark attraction on your next date!
You’re about to learn:
8:24: Friend Zone Destroyer #1: Send Her Flirty Messages Before the Date
10:34: Friend Zone Destroyer #2: Share an Authentic Personal Story
14:27: Friend Zone Destroyer #3: How to Give Her a Sexy Compliment
16:53: Friend Zone Destroyer #4: Find Emotional Commonalities
18:31: Friend Zone Destroyer #5: Touch Her the Right Way (NOT the Weird Way!)
21:41: Friend Zone Destroyer #6: How to Help Her Feel Connected to You
24:05: Friend Zone Destroyer #7: Three Smooth First-Kiss Moves
28:52: Bonus: Connell’s Favorite First-Date Game that Women LOVE to Play
Stop hearing “Let’s just be friends” and start hearing “Let’s go out again!” Listen now.
TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

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