How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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Special Series! Stop Trying to ‘Approach’—Do THIS to Meet & Attract Women IRL the Right Way (Part 1 of 4) Feb 12, 2025

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You’re tired of the apps, and you’d love to confidently talk to women at bars, cafes, stores or your gym. But hesitation and overthinking stop you. With Valentine’s Day here, it’s time to break free and start meeting women in real life. Dating coach Connell Barrett presents a special 4-part series to teach you how to meet women IRL the right way—not with weird “approach tactics” but with authentic confidence. In Part 1, Connell reveals the 5 mental blocks keeping you stuck and shares the 5 breakthroughs that will help you meet and flirt with wonderful women—anywhere, anytime.
Episode Highlights:
4:25: Why ‘Approaching’ Feels So Hard and Scary
13:37: Mental Block #1: ‘I’m Not Enough’ and Why This is Total B.S.
16:34: Mental Block #2: ‘She Doesn’t Want Me to Bother Her’ and What Women Really Think
17:18: Mental Block #3: ‘I Might Creep Her Out’ and How This Kills Your Confidence
19:45: Mental Block #4: ‘I Don’t Know What to Say’ and the Simple Move to Fix This
21:16: Mental Block #5: ‘What If I Get Rejected?’ and the Win-Lose Mindset That Hurts You
25:33: Breakthrough #1: ‘I Am Enough’ and the Truth About Attraction
31:45: Breakthrough #2: ‘She Wants Me to Talk to Her’—What Women Truly Want
38:37: Breakthrough #3: ‘Talking to Women Is Attractive’ and the ‘Aha!’ Shift You Need
50:12: Breakthrough #4: ‘I Don’t Need the Perfect Line’—How to Know What to Say
1:02:02: Breakthrough #5: ‘I Cannot Lose’—the Win-Win Mindset that Makes You Confident
Listen now and start confidently meeting women in real life!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
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Connell@datingtransformation.com

Tired of Being Ignored on Dating Apps? Steal My 10 Best Flirty Openers: #1 Works 81% of the Time! Feb 09, 2025

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Sick of sending openers that women ignore? Not sure what to write on Hinge, Tinder, or Bumble? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett shares his top 10 best flirty online-dating openers—tested and proven to get responses. You’ll get copy-and-paste openers for every type of woman to get them writing you back and going on dates with you. Plus, Connell reveals his no. 1 opener that works on ANY woman … and gets him replies 81% of the time!
You’re about to learn:
05:30: Connell’s Lowest Online-Dating Moment
06:45: His Comeback: 3 Great First Dates in 3 Nights—All from the Apps!
09:30: Flirty Opener #10: What to Write… when Her Bio is Empty
12:52: Flirty Opener #9: …when She Has Lots of Selfies14:31: Flirty Opener #8: …when She’s into Partying and Socializing
16:25: Flirty Opener #7: …when She Has a Dog in Her Photos
19:09: Flirty Opener #6: … when She Has Bold, Flirty Pics (Bikini shots, Cleavage)
23:30: Flirty Opener #5: …when Her Bio is Witty or Sarcastic
30:01: Flirty Opener #4: …when She’s Really into Travel
33:40: Flirty Opener #3: …when She’s an Artsy, Creative Type37:00: Flirty Opener #2: …when She’s Highly Career-driven
40:03: Flirty Opener #1: The Best Opener that Works On Any Woman 81% of the Time
Listen now and use these flirty openers to get women writing you back… and get dates!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

What’s YOUR Dating Superpower? Discover the 7 Attractors that Make Women Want to Date You Feb 07, 2025

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You want a bright, beautiful girlfriend, right? But you’re not sure how to connect with women. And maybe the girls you’re attracted to keep picking other guys over you. Not anymore! Because you’re about to learn the 7 Dating Superpowers. Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the 7 most powerful attractors that make women say, “I want him!” From confident flirting to texts she can’t resist, you’re about to go from Peter Parker to Spider-Man… no radioactive arachnid required! Plus, you don’t need all 7 superpowers—just unlocking one or two can change everything.
Here are the 7 Dating Superpowers You’re About to Learn:
9:43: Fearless Approaching so You Can Start Conversations with Women Anywhere
15:07: Effortless Flirting so You Can Be Charming and Attractive
21:15: Magnetic Charisma so Women Feel Drawn to Your Authentic Self
34:14: Unshakable Confidence so “Rejection” Can’t Hurt You
40:03: Top-Tier Texting so You’ll Go from “Unread” to Setting Up Dates
51:33: Vibe Mastery so Your Dates Feel Flirty and Sexy
59:48: Decisive Leadership so Women Trust You and See You as Boyfriend Material
Every dating superpower is here and learnable. What’s yours? Which one will you master? Listen now.
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Struggling with Dating Confidence? Try this Mindset Shift to Become Instantly Magnetic to Women (Live Coaching Results) Feb 06, 2025

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Do you ever feel like you’re just not what women want? Like you’re not charismatic or interesting or attractive enough? It’s frustrating. The good news? You can fix it—fast! In this special live coaching episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett guides his client Nick to a powerful breakthrough. In just one hour, Nick transforms from feeling insecure to truly magnetic, simply by destroying his biggest limiting belief. (This coaching session first aired in 2023. Now, in 2025, Nick is dating a wonderful woman!)
You’re about to learn:
2:00: The Real Cause of Dating Insecurity (and How to Fix It)
5:28: The Secret to Confidence: Awakening Your Higher Self
23:05: How to Identify the Limiting Belief that’s Hurting Your Dating Life
38:30: A Simple Way to Erase Self-Doubt for Good
52:17: Nick’s Aha Moment: Ditching his Insecurities and Realizing his True Worth to Women
1:07:14: The Confidence Breakthrough: Awakening Your Most Amazing, Authentic You
Listen now to stop feeling insecure and start feeling confident and magnetic to women.
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction Feb 05, 2025

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Are you just not sure how to talk to women, either on the apps or in real life? Top UK dating expert Hayley Quinn is here to show you how to flirt effortlessly, confidently read women, and get them asking YOU out. She knows exactly what creates attraction—and how you can get better results fast. You’ll learn how to talk to women in a way that feels authentic and sparks real connection, without overthinking or using weird “pickup” moves.
Hayley and dating coach Connell Barrett will teach you:
2:55: How to Overcome Your Fear of Rejection and Attract the Right Woman
4:00: Why Women Prefer Meeting Men in Real Life, and How to Make It Happen
7:58: How Her Client Approached a Woman in the Daytime and Turned it into a Deep Connection
15:30: Why Many Women Want Men to Talk to Them IRL, Not on the Apps
21:03: The Game-Changing Move that Instantly Improves Your Love Life
23:45: Hayley’s Top Tips for How to Read Women
36:33 The #1 Approach Mistake Men Make—and How to Fix It
50:27: How Hayley Changes Men’s Lives with In-Person Coaching
Listen now and let Connell and Hayley show you how to attract your dream girlfriend!
TO LEARN MORE ABOUT HAYLEY OR TO APPLY TO WORK WITH HER: http://www.hayleyquinn.com/
CHECK OUT HER TED TALK THAT HAS 3 MILLION VIEWS:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmUayKnHWWM
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

How to Meet Your Dream Woman—and How Jason Dated a Lakers Cheerleader! (Live Coaching) Feb 04, 2025

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You see a stunning woman across the room and want to talk to her… but what do you say? How do you start a conversation without fear of rejection? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Jason master this skill—live on air. Plus,
hear how Jason conquered crippling approach anxiety and dated an L.A. Lakers Cheerleader! Connell shares actionable strategies to help Jason (and you!) connect with women. No cheesy “pickup artist” tricks. Just authentic confidence that works.
You’re about to learn:
8:40: The #1 Shift to Overcome Social Anxiety and Build Dating Momentum
10:30: How Jason Walked Up to a Woman and Made Out with Her in Minutes (with Connell’s In-Person Help)
18:38: 3 Proven Anti-Flaking Techniques to Keep Her Interested
23:35: The 3-Text Rule that Gets Women Replying and Asking YOU Out2
9:23: The Risk-Taking Strategy that Makes You Instantly More Attractive
41:47: The One Thing She Secretly Hopes You’ll Do When You Approach Her
47:53: What to Write when She Doesn’t Reply to Your Text
52:57: The Right Way to Ask Her Out and Not Get Flaked On
This episode is like getting a personal coaching session with Connell—for free. Listen now!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Introducing ‘It’s Rom-Complicated!’ How to Find Love by Watching Rom-Com Movies (Seriously!) Episode 1: ‘Groundhog Day’ Feb 03, 2025

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What if watching so-called “chick flicks” could make you a chick magnet and bring romance into your real life? It may sound far-fetched, but dating coach Connell Barrett has learned a lot about finding love—what works and what doesn’t—from rom-com movies. Introducing “It’s Rom-Complicated,” a new series that reveals the dating wisdom hidden in Hollywood’s most beloved comedies. In the first episode, Connell and his special guest—his charming, witty girlfriend Jessamin—analyze “Groundhog Day,” the 1993 time-loop comedy starring Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell.
Episode Highlights:
4:05: What’s the One Day from Your Life You Would Relive Again and Again?
10:45 How ‘Groundhog Day’ Helped Connell Escape His Own Dating Time Loop
17:15: The Rom-Commie Awards: The Best and Worst Dating Moves in ‘Groundhog Day’
19:46: Why Arrogant Men like Phil Connors (Bill Murray) Make Women Cringe
26:17: The Best Dating Move You Should Absolutely Steal from Phil
27:39: The ‘Don’t Do This!’ Award: A Dating Mistake to Avoid IRL
31:08: The Creepiest Pickup-Artist Tip Connell Ever Got (And Why It’s So Wrong)
36:20: Bill Murray: Comedic Genius or Total Nightmare on Set? (It’s Complicated…)
44:46: What if ‘Groundhog Day’ got the Cinemax After Dark Treatment?
52:32: The Truth About What Makes Women ‘Chase’ Certain Men (It’s NOT Looks or Money)
57:35: The Movie’s Biggest Love Lesson that Every Man Needs to Know
If Phil can escape Punxsutawney, you can break out of your dating rut. Bing! Listen now!
Introducing ‘It’s Rom-Complicated!’ How to find love by watching—wait! Haven’t we done this before?
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

“I Went from Zero to 83 Matches in a Week!” The 6 Essential Photos You Need for Dating App Success Jan 30, 2025

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Not getting enough quality matches on Hinge, Bumble or Tinder? Here’s the problem: Your photos aren’t making the right impression. But there’s a simple fix. Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the 6 essential photos that he and his clients use to consistently get good matches on the apps. Connell’s client Ben puts it best: “I went from zero good matches on Hinge to getting 83 matches in one week. Suddenly I had too many dates!” Connell also reveals the 5 photo mistakes that make women swipe left—so you don’t sabotage your own success.
You’re about to get the blueprint for the perfect profile, down to the ideal photo order:
3:40: Essential Photo No. 1: The “Radically Authentic” Portrait to Hook Her Interest
9:25: Essential Photo No. 2: The “Intriguing Photo” that Makes Her Want to Learn About You
12:25: Essential Photo No. 3: The “Aww Factor” Image that Melts Her Heart
15:50: Essential Photo No. 4: The “Man of Action” Shot that Turns Her Head
18:55: Essential Photo No. 5: The “Social Man” Pic that Showcases Your Attractive Life
20:48: Essential Photo No. 6: The “Wildcard” Photo that Makes Swiping Right a No-Brainer
24:01: Plus! 5 Photo Mistakes that HURT You on the Apps!
Listen now, update your photos, and start getting dates with women you actually want to meet.
WATCH THIS VIDEO SHOWING YOU THE 6 ESSENTIAL PHOTOS:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lcSb0-cMbsU&t=4s
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

“Will You Be My Boyfriend?” The 10 Green Lights that Trigger Instant Attraction in Wonderful Women Jan 28, 2025

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How do you make her want YOU to be her boyfriend? It’s simpler than you think. Just show her these 10 “green lights.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches you 10 attraction triggers that help women see you as boyfriend material. And these are NOT sketchy pickup moves. They’re practical strategies to showcase your most authentic, confident self, and create true connections. Because women are drawn to authentic gentlemen!
You’re about to learn…
03:32: Green Light No. 1: How to Be Authentic and Spark a Romantic Connection
09:29: Green Light No. 2: How to Lead a Date with Confidence
12:42: Green Light No. 3: How to Play Up Your Passions to Stand Out from Other Guys
16:17: Green Light No. 4: How to Talk About Your Future in a Compelling Way
19:48: Green Light No. 5: How to Be Playful and Create Instant Chemistry
26:16: Green Light No. 6: How to Flirt in the Way Women LOVE, without Being Cringey
30:04: Green Light No. 7: How to Ask Great Questions that Keep Conversations Flowing
34:40: Green Light No. 8: How to Talk About Your Ex the Right Way
37:48: Green Light No. 9: How to Tell a Story that Helps Her Open Up to You
40:24: Green Light No. 10: How to Make Her Laugh and Feel Instantly Drawn to You
Listen now, apply these techniques, and find your dream girlfriend!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Exclusive! How to Win on Dating Apps—Secrets from the Man Who Invented Swiping, Tinder’s Jonathan Badeen Jan 23, 2025

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Ready to finally get great matches on Tinder? Who better to guide you than the man who invented swiping and changed dating forever: Tinder’s visionary co-founder, Jonathan Badeen. Back in the day, Jonathan was struggling to meet women and get dates. (Sound familiar?) He launched Tinder in part to help his own love life, and the world has never been the same. In this exclusive interview with dating coach Connell Barrett, Badeen shares the lightbulb moment when he came up with the swiping idea, reveals the biggest mistakes men make on the apps, and explains why he would absolutely swipe right on Minnie Mouse.
In this episode, Jonathan and Connell talk about:
2:37: Why Tinder is for More than Just Hookups
14:01: The Aha Moment when Jonathan Came Up with Swiping
17:26: Why Authenticity is What Women Want—on Tinder and in Real Life
26:33: The Real Reason You’re Not Getting Good Matches
30:15: The Myth that “Dating Apps Just Don’t Work”
34:04: How to Inject Fun into Your profile to Get Women Messaging You First
35:47: How Shy Guys and “Nerds” Can Win on the Apps
47:01: Why Jonathan Would Swipe Right on Minnie Mouse and Swipe Left on “The Godfather 3”
Listen now for wisdom from the man who changed dating—and start landing great Tinder dates today.
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

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