How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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10 Invisible Red Flags that Get You Rejected: Which Mistakes Are YOU Making? Plus 10 Fast Fixes Jan 21, 2025

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Ever had a woman ghost you, friend-zone you, or suddenly lose interest—and you had no idea why? Odds are, you accidentally pushed her away. There are 10 invisible red flags that turn women off, and most men don’t even realize they’re making these mistakes! In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals these attraction-killing errors and shares easy, practical fixes for each one.
Here are the 10 red flags that turn women off:
04:29: #1 Hiding Your Authentic Self and Being Someone You’re Not
06:03: #2 Coming Off as Insecure or Needy
09:20: #3 Long, Awkward Pauses in Conversations
11:26: #4 Lying or Exaggerating About Your Life
14:35: #5 Using Canned, Rehearsed Pickup Lines
16:01: #6 Touching Her Too Much…or Not Enough!
18:42: #7 Planning Boring, Forgettable Dates
22:38: #8 Failing to Be Playful and Fun
26:39: #9 Bringing Up Your Ex the Wrong Way
29:56: #10 Trying Too Hard to Impress Her
Listen now, to turn red flags into green lights—and get a great girlfriend!
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What to Write on Your Bio: 7 Secrets for Way More Matches! Plus: Steal These 10 Funny, Flirty Prompts Jan 16, 2025

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Do the apps frustrate you because you just don’t get many good matches? Here’s the problem: Your bio is boring women! Let’s fix this fast. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his 7 secrets for writing an online-dating bio that women
love—and that’s authentic to YOU. Using his simple formula, you’ll finally get good matches on Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge. Plus, his 10 funniest bio prompts will get women giggling… and swiping right.
You’re about to learn:
02:40: Why Authenticity is Your Online-Dating Superpower
4:43: The Bio Mistake that Costs You Matches—and How to Fix It
6:00: Don’t! Do! This!8:45: The Right Way to Flirt on Your Profile
12:00: The 3-Line Bio Formula that Women Can’t Resist
15:01: How to Write About Yourself in an Attractive Way
17:50: The Flirty Line that Gets Her Messaging You First
20:55: A Hinge Hack to Triple Your Matches
23:01: Connell’s Top 10 Funniest Bio Lines that Women Love—Steal Them!
Ready to flood your inbox with good dating leads? Listen now and write a bio that will bring you a BIG step closer to meeting your future girlfriend.
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
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http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
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Ask the Dating Coach: ‘HELP! She Wants Me to Baa Like a Sheep During Sex. What Do I Do?’ Jan 14, 2025

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It’s time to “Ask the Dating Coach!” as Connell Barrett takes your questions. If you struggle with what to say on dates, Connell shares three essential flirting moves to help you spark romantic connections. (Farewell, Friend Zone!) He also reveals why women prefer nice guys over so-called alpha males. And a listener has a “sheepish” question about talking dirty in bed.
Highlights from this episode:
01:51: Andrew Asks: “A Woman Wants Me to Baa Like a Sheep in Bed. What Do I Do?”
03:19: How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Awkward
08:57: Zach Asks: “Am I Too Nice? Do Women Only Want to Date Alpha Males?”
11:25: Why the “Alpha Male” Is a Total Myth
13:48: How Kindness, Confidence and Authenticity Will Help You Get a Girlfriend
24:30: Barry Asks: “Why Can’t I Get Past the First Date?”
25:52: Connell’s Aha Moment that Made Him Magnetic to Women
31:07: Three Flirting Moves to Escape the Friend Zone and Land Second Dates
Hit play and start transforming your love life today
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
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Dating Apps Are Broken—Inner Circle is the Fix! Find Love Using this Innovative App (Featuring David Vermeulen) Jan 09, 2025

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Burnt out on dating apps? The endless swiping, the lack of quality matches, the fake profiles—it’s exhausting! But Inner Circle is changing the game. Equal parts social club and dating app, Inner Circle is built for ambitious singles who want to swipe less and connect more, forming real, meaningful relationships. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Inner Circle’s founder David Vermeulen. He shares how his innovative platform helps successful, driven men and women connect authentically—first online and then IRL at fun, exclusive events in cities like New York, London, Paris and Rio.
With Connell and David as your guides, you’ll discover:
4:46: The Dating Horror Story that Inspired David to Start Inner Circle
6:38 How Inner Circle’s Technology Virtually Eliminates Fake Profiles
7:55 Why the Platform’s IRL Events is “Where the Magic Happens”
10:43 A Game-Changing Strategy for Introverts to Meet Women in the Real World
11:25: Connell’s One-Sentence Dating Mantra that Will Transform Your Love Life
19:29: How “Tinder is Like McDonald’s,” in David’s View
27:41: Why Quality Matches Always Beat Quantity
30:54: How to Decide if She’s Worth a Second Date
33:36: A Simple Writing Tip to Make Your Bio Magnetic to Women
35:32: David’s Surprising Rule for Online-Dating Success: “Opposites Don’t Attract”
Ready to finally connect with women on a dating app that actually works? Listen now!
LEARN MORE ABOUT INNER CIRCLE:
https://about.theinnercircle.co/
CHECK OUT INNER CIRCLE ON INSTAGRAM:
https://www.instagram.com/innercircleco/
DOWNLOAD THE INNER CIRCLE APP:
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/inner-circle-dating-community/id838136374
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
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Connell@datingtransformation.com

Forget Resolutions! Here's Your New Year's REVOLUTION: 5 Game-Changing Dating Strategies to Attract Your Ideal Girlfriend in 2025 Jan 07, 2025

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The new year is here, and now’s the time to attract your dream girl. But not knowing where to start can feel overwhelming. You need a clear, tested plan for success. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares 5 proven strategies that practically guarantee you’ll find love in 2025. These aren’t flimsy resolutions you’ll abandon by February. They’re bold, revolutionary daily rituals to authentically connect with wonderful women.
Using Connell’s tested moves, you’re about to learn:
01:30: Why Resolutions Fail—and How to Build Rituals that Get Dating Results
05:45: What Women Really Want—Authenticity!—and How to Give it to Them
14:20: How to Truly Connect with Women Who are Your Type
24:18: A Morning Ritual that Supercharges Your Motivation and Confidence
38:10: The Daily Practice that Virtually Guarantees You Will Find Love in 2025
51:10: The Online-Dating Secret to Skyrocket Your Number of Quality Matches
1:08:30: What You MUST Do Today to if You Want a Great Girlfriend
Your dream girl is waiting—don’t wait another day to start your journey. Listen now!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

From 10 Years of Loneliness to Landing His Dream Girl Allie: How Jake Found Love—and How You Can, Too! Jan 02, 2025

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Feeling stuck in a dating dry spell? So was Jake. At 30, this shy, nerdy engineer (and proud Creed fan) felt too afraid to talk to women. And he hadn’t had a girlfriend in a decade. But with personalized guidance from dating coach Connell Barrett, Jake learned how to confidently connect with women on the dating apps and IRL. In one whirlwind week, Jake went on five first dates. “That’s more than I’d had the entire previous year,” he said with a laugh. Then he met bright, bubbly Allie, who’s now his girlfriend. “I knew she was the one.”
Channeling Creed, this episode will take your love life… higher! Connell and Jake discuss:
09:30: The Missed Approach Opportunity that Ignited Jake’s Breakthrough
13:35: The Mindset Shift Every Man Needs to Attract His Dream Girlfriend
16:30: How Jake Landed Five Dates in Just One Week
17:28: The First-Date Aha Moment that Led to a Sexy Make-out
20:25: A 15-Minute Ritual for Instant Confidence22:06: How Connell’s “80-20” Flirting Rule Helps You Know What to Say to Women
34:17: A Playful Teasing Move that Builds Attraction on Dates
40:45: The Wordless Approach Technique that Works in Loud Venues
45:38: How to Help the Right Woman See You As Her Dream Guy
58:19: Connell’s No. 1 Daily Dating Tip to ApplyWith Allie as his partner, Jake’s decade of loneliness is behind him.
Listen now and start your journey to finding the girlfriend you deserve!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Which Dating App is Right for YOU? The Top 7 Apps to Swipe Right on Love and Find Your Soulmate Dec 31, 2024

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With over 1,000 dating apps out there, it’s hard to know which one is right for you—and which will waste your time and money. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his top 7 apps that he and his clients used in 2024. Whether you’re looking for meaningful connections or fun, casual dates, this guide will help you find the perfect app to help you get matches and dates… and even find your soulmate!
Here’s what Connell covers in this episode:
1:30: Why Choosing the Wrong App Costs You Matches and Dates
2:45: No. 7: The League—it’s About Quality, Not Quantity
4:45: No. 6: Why Badoo is Great if You Aren’t Hollywood Handsome
7:11: No. 5 and No. 4: Match and eHarmony—Which Long-Term Relationship Platform is Better for You?
12:45: How Coffee Meets Bagel Will Help You Get Coffee Dates with Your Type of Women
15:15: No. 2: Bumble’s Latest Innovations that Make Finding Love Easier than Ever
19:07: No. 1: The Top Dating App of 2024 is… Hinge! Here’s Why Every Man MUST Be on Hinge
22:37: Bonus Tip: A Clever Way Hinge Can Help You Succeed on Other Dating Apps
Tune in now to turn your swipes into sparks—and matches into love!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Bummed About NO Good Matches on the Apps? These 15 Quick Fixes Will Turn Your Profile into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Zach) Dec 24, 2024

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It’s Christmas, and Santa Connell has a gift for you: Matches galore on the dating apps! Because endless swiping and ZERO matches makes you say, “ho, ho, NO!” It’s getting old, right? In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Zach fix the same issues that frustrate you. Zach—a personal trainer and 40-year-old single dad—learns 15 proven online-dating moves to turn his phone into a date-generating machine. And hey, the more good matches you have, the sooner you can attract a wonderful girlfriend who loves you for you.
Here are some of the strategies Connell shares with Zach. You’re about to learn:
6:41: How to Maximize Online-Dating Success with Minimal Effort (15 Minutes Daily!)
8:49: Why Being a Single Dad is a Feature, Not a Flaw—and How to Talk about it On Your Profile
14:35: Connell Crafts a Clever, Authentic “DILF” Prompt for Zach that Women Will Love
17:49: The 3 Photos Every Man MUST Have on his Hinge, Bumble or Tinder Profile
21:08: The Secret to Writing Funny Prompts that Make Her Message YOU First
23:18: Boosting your Profile: When, Why and How to Do It
27:07: From Matching to Texting to Getting the First Date, in 3 Simple Steps
30:04: How to use Video Clips to Skyrocket Your Matches
32:15: The 5 Big Profile Mistakes You Didn’t Know You Were Making
55:43: Hinge Hack: How to Write Poll Prompts to Triple Your Matches
1:01:17: How to Date Without Drinking Alcohol and Still Have Fun
Hit “play” now and start getting good matches on the apps.
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com
Quotes
"Transparency fosters genuine connections and sets clear expectations." - Zach
"The focus on self-improvement paves the way for deeper connections and fulfilling relationships." - Zach

From Lonely to Locking Lips: My 25 Tested Approach Moves to Kiss a Total Cutie on New Year’s Eve Dec 19, 2024

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Are you facing a lonely New Year’s Eve? Just you, Ryan Seacrest, and the ball—along with your romantic hopes—dropping. (More like New Year’s ROTTEN Eve…) Guess what: 2024 doesn’t have to end that way! In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 25 powerful, practical approach moves to help you land that magical midnight kiss with someone special. You’ll learn how to defeat approach anxiety, confidently talk to women, and maybe ring in the new year with a new love—or at least a sexy make-out. And you’ll do it all with class. Think authentic charm, not creepy smarm.
With 12 years of experience helping men approach and talk to women, Connell shares these game-changing tips:
1:16: Why Ryan Seacrest Sucks (Let’s Vent)
5:17: A Mindset Tip to Fix Approach Anxiety
10:50: Three Openers to Use with Any Woman
12:01: How to Stop Fearing Rejection and Get in the Zone
14:39: The Bold Approaching Move that Dials Up Attraction with Women
18:12: The Three Questions to Ask Every Woman You Meet
20:45: The “Z Pattern”—a Technique to Create Romantic Tension with Eye Contact
22:11: Three First-Kiss Moves that Work Almost Every Time
Listen now and make this New Year’s Eve as fun and sexy as a first kiss.
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com
Quotes
"True confidence comes from commitment, not from fearing the outcome." - Connell Barrett"
What seems risky is often the safest path to success." - Connell Barrett

Make Her Your Girlfriend in Just 3 Dates (Seriously!) Live Coaching with Jack Dec 17, 2024

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Maybe you’ve been in Jack’s shoes. He goes on a few dates, and everything seems fine. Then—bam! She says, “I’m just not feeling a connection.” Frustrating? Absolutely. “It happens a lot, and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong,” Jack, a 33-year-old sales rep., admits to dating coach Connell Barrett at the start of their first session. By the end of their call, Jack has a proven 3-date plan to make the right woman see him as boyfriend material. Listen as Connell uncovers Jack’s hidden flirting weaknesses (Jack’s aha moment hits at 52 minutes) and turns them into strengths.
Jack’s coaching session with Connell will show you:
6:41 – Why Women May Not See You as Boyfriend Material
9:33 – 3 Simple Ways to Build Romantic Tension on Dates
13:25 – The 3-Date Roadmap to Help the Right Woman See You as the Partner She Wants
17:53 – Creative Date Ideas that Make Her Want to Keep Seeing You
24:19 – How to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting More Dates
27:30 – The Easy Way to Text Women without Seeming Needy
41:03 – How to Tease Women with Charm, NOT Tricks or Manipulation
52:49 – Jack’s Aha Moment: Why He’s Been Hitting the 3-Date Wall
57:12 – The Secret Flirting Move that Makes Nice Guys Irresistible
1:01:18 – How to Give a “Power Compliment” that Get Women Swooning
1:04:18 – The Power of Sharing AUTHENTIC Personal Stories on Dates
Listen now and start your 3-date journey to winning her heart!
FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com.
Quotes
"Recognizing where you’re stuck is the first step toward finding your way forward." - Jack"
Shared laughter and playful exchanges frequently initiate the best connections." - Jack

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