How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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I Approached Models in Miami Stone-Cold Sober… and Everything Changed (Sober Dating, Part 2 of 3) Nov 27, 2025

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Most guys need alcohol to approach women. But what if meeting women in bars actually gets easier when you’re sober—if done the right way? In Part 2 of his Sober Dating series, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 5-step framework for reaching a fearless flow state when out meeting women, no booze required.
Episode Highlights:
01:58: What Happened When Connell Approached Models Sober
10:03: Getting “Drunk” on Action: the Natural High that Beats Booze
13:48: The 5 Master Steps–Your Framework for Confidently Approaching Women
23:25: How Robbie Went from Frightened to Getting 5 Numbers in One Night
29:30: The Truth about What to Say When You Approach
BOOK A FREE CONSULT WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW YOU CAN APPROACH WOMEN WITHOUT THE CRUTCH OF ALCOHOL: DatingTransformation.com

I Chose My Girlfriend Over Johnnie Walker: Love Lessons from 1,000 Days Sober (Part 1) Nov 25, 2025

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If you struggle with dating, you’re probably addicted to something. Maybe it's “liquid courage,” or settling for so-so relationships, or choosing porn over approaching women. In this 3-part sober dating series, dating coach Connell Barrett shares his 1,000-day journey of sobriety—and offers 3 steps that can help you beat almost any addiction. Whether you want to date sober or get out of your comfort zone, this inspiring episode shows you how to upgrade your love life.
Episode Highlights:
06:54: How a 30-Day “Booze Break” Became 1,000 Days—and a Whole New Life
13:04: “This Is Not Me”: The Moment Connell Knew He Had to Change
19:01: The Liquid Courage Lie
28:00: The Lasting Way to Destroy an Addiction
37:30: Three Steps to Kick Any Habit—and Transform Your Dating Confidence
FOR A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL BARRETT TO SEE IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: Go to DatingTransformation.com

Ask the Dating Coach: ‘How Do I Start Conversations with Women without Making It Awkward?’ Nov 19, 2025

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If you struggle to start conversations with women, this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” will help. While taking questions, dating coach Connell Barrett gives you a simple, reliable ice-breaker you can use anywhere to talk to women—without it feeling awkward. He also reveals how much height and looks actually matter to women (hint: not much!). And you won’t believe what one guy is willing to do to his body to become taller.
Episode Highlights:
01:32: “Connell, How Do I Make Women Chase Me?”
08:25: “How Do I Start Conversations without Making It Awkward?”
11:55: “What Actually Makes Women Attracted to Men?”
17:30: “How Important Are a Guy’s Looks to Women?”
22:57: “Should I Get Leg-Lengthening Surgery to Become Taller?”
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T": Connell@datingtransformation.com

The E=MC² of Dating: How to Be Charismatic to Women (Even if You’re Shy or Introverted) Nov 13, 2025

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Do you feel like you’re just not charismatic? It’s frustrating to see outgoing guys succeed with women, while you feel stuck. But what if you could become charismatic to women today, without changing who you are? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his Charisma Code—the 3-part formula that helps introverts become magnetic to women. Get ready to discover the E=MC² of dating to unlock real charisma.
Episode Highlights:
01:48: The Charisma Code Formula: AE + P + Pl = Charisma
02:40: How Connell First Applied it for a Great First Date
07:37: Authentic Expression (AE): Why Your Uniqueness Unlocks True Charisma
12:42: Presence (P): How to Get Out of Your Head when Talking to Women
19:05: Playfulness (Pl): The Flirting Secret Women Want You to Know
BOOK A FREE CONSULT CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN ABOUT HIS 1-on-1 COACHING: http://www.datingtransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL AND HE WILL SEND YOU A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

From Boring to Banter! 5 Flirty Banter Secrets that Create Instant Romantic Chemistry Nov 11, 2025

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Are you unsure how to flirt with women? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 5 flirty banter secrets that help you create chemistry, avoid awkward silences, and get her into you. These simple techniques work both in-person and on the dating apps. It’s time to go from boring to being great at banter.
Episode Highlights:
2:11: Secret #1: How to Tease Her without Crossing the Line
6:48: Secret #2: Make Her the Seducer (A Fun Roleplay that Women Love)
10:40: Secret #3: The 5 Best Banter Topics that Ignite Chemistry
17:12: Secret #4: How to Spark Attraction with Sarcasm
20:28: Secret #5: The Playful Pivot: Never Run Out of Things to Say Again!
TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

“She Dumped Me for Her Ex! What Am I Doing Wrong?” Your Trickiest Dating Questions Answered Nov 06, 2025

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Have you ever liked a woman who chose a total jerk over you? It stings and makes you wonder, “What does he have that I don’t?” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps a listener learn why the woman he was dating went back to her toxic ex—and what to do differently to attract the wonderful relationship he deserves.
Highlights of this Episode:
01:31: The Real Reason Women Sometimes Choose Jerks Over Good Guys
07:12: Why Nice Guys like You Can Date Wonderful Women—If You Do One Thing
26:15: How to Fearlessly Ask Out Your Crush
TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

From No Dates to 2 Dates a Week: New Strategies to Fill Your Dating Dance Card Oct 30, 2025

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Has it been months—or even years—since you had a first date with an incredible woman? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why your options are scarce, and how to fix it. He’ll walk you through three proven ways to meet women so you can go from zero dates to two quality dates a week.
You’re About to Learn:
02:25: Why You’re Dateless (and Why It’s About to Change)
04:55: How Connell Went from Lonely to Landing 3 Dates in 3 Nights
07:03: A Trio of New, Powerful Ways to Get an Abundance of Dates
TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

How a Shy, Lonely Software Engineer Learned to Flirt and Found his Dream Woman—and How You Can, Too! Oct 28, 2025

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If you struggle to talk to women or feel stuck in the friend zone, you need to hear Tony’s story. A shy, single dad and software engineer, Tony was dateless when he began working with Connell. By learning how to flirt with women and bring confidence to every date, Tony met his dream girlfriend, Jennifer. In this episode, he shares the exact shifts and flirting techniques that helped him succeed—so you can find love, too.
Episode Highlights:
01:54: Why Tony Felt Women Didn’t Want Him
03:31: The Self-Doubt Voice that Keeps Men Single—and How to Silence It
12:36: Steal the “Time Traveler” Online Dating Opener that Got Jennifer’s Attention
17:36: How Tony Escaped the Friend Zone on His First Date
21:20: The First Date that Changed Everything
27:53: Tony’s Take—the One Move Every Shy, Single Guy Should Make
TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

“Nice Guys Are Sexy—if They Do This One Thing.” A Maxim Model’s Dating Secret Oct 23, 2025

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Do you worry you’re “too nice”? Tired of seeing women date jerks? It’s time to own being a nice guy! The truth is, women actually prefer kind men over “alpha males,” if you make 3 key moves. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares these tested tips. Plus—the powerful lesson he learned from a Maxim model. Nice guys can finish first with women, and this episode shows you how.
Episode Highlights:
04:41: Move #1: Ignore the “Alpha Male” Myth
09:05: What 64,000 Women Actually Want in a Man (It’s Not Looks or Money)
16:13: Move #2: Be a Man with a Game Plan
20:26: Maxim Model: “Nice Guys are Sexy, if They Do One Thing”
22:24: Move #3: Direct the Date to Quickly Spark Attraction
TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

How to TRIPLE Your Number of Hinge Matches (with ‘Date Smarter’ Author Tim Molnar) Oct 21, 2025

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Dating apps feel rigged, and IRL approaches are just plain awkward, right? How are you supposed to find love today? In this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” author Tim Molnar draws from his insightful new book, “Date Smarter,” to offer practical, research-backed dating strategies. A data-driven dating expert, Molnar shares what works both on the apps and in real life—including one move that has TRIPLED Hinge matches for some singles.
Highlights of this Episode Include:
05:11: The Primacy Effect: Why the First 5 Minutes of a Date are Make or Break
09:45: How to Make Sure You Get Date No. 22
1:07: How to Get 500 Percent (!) Better Approach Results with the “Small Favor” Strategy
26:13: 100,000 Swipes, Zero Dates—Why Some Men Fail on the Apps
44:16: Why Paid Dating Apps (Not the Free Ones) Give You a Better Shot at Love
47:12: How to Instantly Triple Your Number of Hinge Dates
54:07: Why Tim’s IRL Approaches Got Him 10 Times More Second Dates than the Apps Did
Listen now and triple your number of Hinge matches!
LEARN ABOUT TIM MOLNAR AND GET A COPY OF HIS NEW DATING BOOK, ‘DATE SMARTER’:
http://www.TimothyMolnar.com
GET ‘DATE SMARTER’ ON AMAZON: https://www.amazon.com/Date-Smarter-Strategic-Navigating-Romance-ebook/dp/B0DP3GJPZ5
DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com

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