How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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What’s Your Flirting Level? Why It’s the Secret to Less Ghosting and More Second Dates Apr 02, 2026

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There are 6 Levels of Flirting—and if you don’t get second dates, you’re likely stuck at a lower one. So what’s your flirting level? And how do you level up? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett brings the 6 Levels of Flirting to life through real-life stories. It’s time to stop overthinking, flirt with charm, and get a lot more second dates.
Episode Highlights:
02:24: The Fun Role-play Approach that Sparks Instant Interest
06:53: Ben’s Bold “I Want to Kiss You” First-Date Moment
11:15: How Connell Finally Escaped the Friend Zone
15:55: The Secret to Making Emotional Connections on Dates
18:45: How Trevor Ignited Attraction with Becca
BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND: DatingTransformation.com

I Was That Creepy Guy: 5 Brutal Mistakes That Pushed Women Away Mar 24, 2026

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Being creepy is every man’s worst fear in dating. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares five moments when he accidentally creeped women out. Learn what went wrong, why it happened, and how to avoid these mistakes so you can flirt with confidence, authenticity and charm.
Episode Highlights:
01:45: I Tried Being a Jerk… and Got Ice Water Dumped On Me
04:39: She Looked At Me and Said, “Does This Tactic Actually Work?”
07:45: One Crass Joke and the Whole Table Went Silent
12:05: I Handed Her a Note and Literally Ran Away
19:07: She Came Over with Wine, and I Totally Blew It
BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND: DatingTransformation.com

The 6 Lies About Dating Apps That Cost You Quality Matches Mar 19, 2026

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If dating apps don’t work for you, you likely assume that you’re the problem. You’re not. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down six common lies that sabotage your results. Get ready to fix your profile, attract better matches, and finally turn swipes into dates.
Episode Highlights:
01:39: Lie #1: You’re Just Not Attractive Enough
05:00: Lie #2: You Have to Be Really Good-Looking
08:03: Lie #3: You Need Amazing Openers
11:21: Lie #4: You Need to Say a Lot in Your Bio
14:10: Lie #5: More Matches = More Dates
20:02: Lie #6: Dating Apps Want You to Find Love
BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-1 DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:DatingTransformation.com

He Wrote WHAT On His Bio? Dating Coach Connell Barrett Roasts Cringe Online Dating Profiles Mar 10, 2026

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Online dating is a battlefield, and some bios are self-inflicted wounds. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett roasts a dozen of the worst online dating bios. Your profile sounds like Shakespeare compared to the guy who tells women “I want to taste the yum yum.” Plus, Connell shares a dating app strategy you can use today to stand out in your city and finally get some good matches. Listen now!
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
01:10: How to Make Your Profile a “Unicorn” in Your City for More Matches
14:35: Dating Coach Connell Barrett Roasts the Worst Online Dating Bios Ever
BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 DATING COACHING: DatingTransformation.com

I Failed at Approaching Women… Until One Night Changed Everything Mar 03, 2026

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Fifteen years ago, he was ready to quit approaching for good. He hated it. Nothing worked. Then a night in Miami changed everything. In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett talks about this fateful evening. He also shares inspiring success stories from his clients Ken, Jason, and Ray. If you freeze up around beautiful women, this episode is for you.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS
01:59: The Night in Miami that Changed Connell’s Dating Life
17:01: How Ken Went from Shy Virgin to Getting His First Kiss and First Girlfriend
30:08: The Moment Ray Stopped Freezing Up and Started Confidently Meeting WomenB
OOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL’S TEAM TO LEARN HOW HIS COACHING CAN HELP YOU APPROACH WOMEN: DatingTransformation.com

From ‘I’m Not Feeling It’ to ‘I Can’t Wait to See You Again’ — The 6 Levels of Flirting Mastery Feb 17, 2026

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Do you not know how to flirt with women? Have you ever heard those brutal words, “I’m just not feeling it”? Your confusion ends today. For the first time, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares the 6 Levels of Flirting Mastery, giving you a clear, revolutionary roadmap so you’ll always know exactly how to talk to women. Whether you want basic competence or true mastery, get ready to start hearing, “So, when can I see you again?”
The 6 Levels of Flirting:
02:00: Level 1: Play
05:50: Level 2: Clear Statements of Romantic Interest
10:31: Level 3: Banter16:10: Level 4: Emotional Connection
21:50: Level 5: Physical & Nonverbal Expressiveness
27:22: Level 6: Integration & Calibration
BOOK A FREE CONSULT TO FIND OUT IF CONNELL’S DATING-COACHING CAN HELP YOU BECOME AMAZING AT FLIRTING: DatingTransformation.com

7 Make-or-Break Dating Moments to Either Win Her Interest… Or Lose It Feb 13, 2026

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There are pivotal moments in dating that determine whether you create romantic sparks with a woman or lose your chance with her entirely. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down 7 make-or-break moments that will determine when and if you find the relationship you want.
Episode Highlights:
02:45: Make-or-Break Moment 1: To Approach or Not to Approach?
07:30: Make-or-Break Moment 2: When and How to Ask Her Out
12:15: Make-or-Break Moment 3: THIS Makes Her Swipe Right
16:45: Make-or Break Moment 4: Use Your First-Date Superpower to Escape the Friend Zone
23:20: Make-or-Break Moment 5: The Secret to Pre-Date Texting
26:05: Make-or-Break Moment 6: How to Pass Her Tests
30:10: Make or Break Moment 7: A Texting Move to Stop Getting Ghosted
BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.com

I Can’t Believe These Are Real: 15 Dating App Openers Men Actually Sent to Women Feb 02, 2026

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“I want to date you… you remind me of my mom.” Yep, a guy actually sent that as an opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down 15 real messages and sorts them into three categories: magnificent, meh, and mortifying. You’ll laugh, you’ll cringe, and you might even steal a line or two that actually works.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
01:47: The Insult Opener That Somehow Got a Reply
02:43: Say This on the Apps—It’s Genius
04:25: The One-word Christmas Message that She (Rightly) Hated
08:50: A Line Only Hannibal Lecter Should Use
13:43: The Most Painfully Boring First Message on Earth
20:02: The Secret to Writing Charming Openers
BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN WHY AUTHENTICITY IS THE SECRET WEAPON TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:www.DatingTransformation.com

“I Thought I Wasn’t Enough… and Then I Met Rachel” (Live Coaching with Charlie) Jan 27, 2026

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If you’re an introvert who freezes up around women, help is here. Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Charlie, a client who went from from doubting his romantic worth to meeting his dream girlfriend Rachel. Connell and Charlie cover the mindset shifts and real-world wins that worked—and they talk some baseball, too. If you want to find your person, this episode is your roadmap.
Episode Highlights:
11:38: The Two Toxic Thoughts that Kept Charlie Stuck
17:23: The Weekend of Approaching that Changed Everything
21:12: The Dating Lesson he Learned from MLB Baseball
34:44: The Moment Rachel Saw Him Differently
47:05: When He Destroyed His Fear of Rejection
53:11: Charlie’s Advice to Introverts who Feel Left Behind
BOOK A FREE CALL WITH BESTSELLING AUTHOR CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.com
EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: connell@datingtransformation.com

Stop Freezing Up IRL: How to Confidently Talk to Women Anywhere Without Overthinking Jan 22, 2026

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You see women you want to meet IRL, but you freeze up, and you don’t know what to say. So you beat yourself up for missing another chance. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method. You’ll learn three simple, authentic ways to confidently start conversations—no cheesy pickup lines required.
Episode Highlights:
01:40: Why You Freeze Up—and How to Break the Cycle
04:45: How the What-to-Say Method Gets You Out of Your Head
07:45: What to Say at a Coffeeshop09:49: What to Say at a Bar
12:04: What to Say at the Gym
25:03: Still Hesitating? Here’s the Real Reason You’re Not Approaching and How to Fix It
BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU APPROACH WOMEN IRL: www.DatingTransformation.com

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