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How To Navigate The Loneliness That Comes With Working On Yourself Nov 08, 2023

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Have you ever felt the loneliness that comes with personal growth and transformation?

As you shed your old life and embrace the new, it's natural to experience strong feelings of loneliness. How you handle those lonely periods can be the difference between growing and achieving your goals, or continuing to struggle.

In today's episode I share six essential insights for navigating the lonely chapters that are a part of your personal development journey.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Video clip from Chris Williamson: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/IU3cS5yivms
The Modern Wisdom podcast: https://chriswillx.com/podcast/

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How To Bounce Back Quickly When You're Dealing With Disappointment In Your Life (HIA Classic) Oct 31, 2023

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How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered?

Disappointment is interesting. It can be focused internally on ourselves, or externally on others. But no matter where the focus is, the root of it is some sort of attachment and typically judgement.

When you get swept up in the emotions around disappointment, it's easy to be carried off in the direction of disempowering emotions and thoughts. The sequence can go like this: you feel the disappointment, you start to judge or take something personally or get angry or react, which leads you to more fear based feelings and thoughts, which pulls you down further. But spotting this behavior and recognizing it at the moment of the triggering event is key to being able to rise above those feelings and stay in your power, in the face of the disappointment.

In today's episode I share with you what inspired me to jump off the couch, grab my mic, and record this very podcast!

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You Are Your Exit Out Of Being Undervalued Oct 18, 2023

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Have you ever wondered about the source of your self worth and personal value?

Whatever you deem as the source of your self-worth is going to directly influence your behaviors and habits.

If you make your net-worth as the source of your self-worth, then your money will become your focus. Many people do this, and when their money goes up so does their sense of worthiness, however when their money goes down....well, you already know!

In today's episode I help you unlock a never-ending source of self-worth, one that you have full control over and can tap into at any time! You'll walk away from this episode very clear on how you can increase your self worth and keep it high!

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Guided meditation "The Powerful Realization of Self Worth, Guided Meditation": https://youtu.be/PCLhTlVTO3c?si=aVEVHteuBW2eFMOI

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Releasing the Myths and Stereotypes Around Masculinity (HIA Classic) Oct 11, 2023

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What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding onto?

Over the years I've picked up all sorts of ideas around what it means to be a man, and many of those ideas reinforce dated and unhealthy stereotypes.

In today's episode I share my biggest stereotypes around masculinity, the things that trigger thoughts of comparison and feeling less than.

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Dream Big, Start Small: How To Achieve More, Set Goals and Stay Focused When You've Struggled In The Past (HIA Classic) Sep 26, 2023

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Do you have little faith in your ability to achieve your big goals?

I used to feel pretty low on myself as it related to setting goals and achieving them.

Didn't matter if it was a work goal, fitness goal, money goal or just a life goal -- a part of me seemed to always believe that no matter how much I wanted it, I just wouldn't achieve it

The problem wasn't that I didn't know what I wanted. I had PLENTY of things I desired to accomplish (my Big Hairy Audacious Goal list was massive). I was just ineffective at everything AFTER coming up with the goal. I didn't know how to plan, how to strategize, how to help myself overcome my own obstacles, how to check in with my goals, how to be smart with my goals --- none of that.

And so 95% of the time I ended up quitting and feeling crappy about myself. Each failed goal made me feel less and less capable, and that led me to set less and smaller goals.

Can you relate?

In today's podcast I'm tackling the big hairy beast that is GOAL SETTING, and my goal is that this approach to the topic will inspire a breakthrough within you.

You CAN set goals that are meaningful and will really move the needle for you.

You CAN create a plan and follow it.

You CAN overcome the inevitable obstacles that you'll run into along the way.

And you CAN achieve those things you really desire in life.

Ready to make it happen?

Let's do this together!

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Free worksheet "Your Guide To Achieving More, Crushing Your Goals, and Staying Focused" - https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BD3Sb5lVlVHyBCkTbG9TmVDc1Jnbj13X8AEZF4YqpPg/edit?usp=sharing

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The 2 Things Couples Need To Sustain A Long Sexual Relationship Sep 23, 2023

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What is the secret to sustaining a long sexual relationship with your partner?

Today's episode is inspired by a Ted Talk from sex educator and author Emily Nagoski, and we'll be discussing the two things that research has shown are necessary for couples to maintain a strong sexual connection for decades.

We'll explore why these things are important and how you can develop them in your relationship. We'll also cover how to overcome the challenges that can come up, such as the "layers" of stuff that can build up between couples over time.

If you're looking for ways to keep your sex life alive and thriving, this episode is for you. You'll walk away with clear action items that you can start implementing today.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Emily Nagoski's TED talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_how_couples_can_sustain_a_strong_sexual_connection_for_a_lifetime
Other episodes of Having It A.L.L. that will help your relationship - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/search/?q=relationship

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The Power Of Principles: A Guide To Understanding Principles And How To Use Them To Have It All (Part 2) Sep 15, 2023

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Are you unhappy in an area of your life? Are you failing to accomplish all that you wish to accomplish in your life?

If you’re unhappy with a particular area of your life, chances are that you are going against one or more principles. If you can identify the principle(s) that you’re not following, and begin to follow them, then you can start making the changes that will lead to the results that you want out of your life.

In part 2 of our series on Principles, we continue our deep dive into the principles that govern us all, and talk about how you can feel more in control of your life by living in alignment with these universal truths.

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Learn more about how principles can help you overcome codependency

https://youtu.be/GvsjjNSDFnw?si=iF7dmn_XTSwQQHPr

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The Power Of Principles: A Guide To Understanding Principles And How To Use Them To Have It All (Part 1) Sep 09, 2023

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What are the principles that govern your life?

The principles you live by are the foundation for effective and successful living. When you live your life in alignment with principles, things flow and you create the possibility for more joy, peace and abundance.

But when you're unclear on your principles and therefore don't live your life in alignment with principles, then things don't work. You may find yourself feeling frustrated, unfulfilled, hopeless and not in control of your own life.

Unfortunately, a Google search on "Principles" can create more confusion than clarity.

But that ends here!

In this episode, we'll explore the essential topic of principles and how they can help you live a more effective life. You'll learn what principles are, how they work, and the difference between principles and values. You'll also learn about 5 important principles, and what aligning and misaligning looks like for each.

Because this can be a dense topic I'm breaking this episode into two parts.

So if you're ready to learn how to live a more effective life where you feel like you HAVE IT ALL, tune in to this two-part series!

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A Quick And Dirty Way To Gauge The Quality Of Your Life (Inspired By Lewis Howes) (HIA Classic) Aug 30, 2023

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What is the quality of your life right now? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 8 key areas of life you want to take a look at periodically to assess the overall quality of your life.

This episode is inspired by fellow greatness seeker, Lewis Howes. It was on his Instagram page that I saw him post about these 8 areas, and it moved me to share it with you all.

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Instagram post from Lewis Howes - https://www.instagram.com/p/BpzmA9iA7rR/

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How To Find Meaning In Your Life Aug 16, 2023

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Are you struggling to find meaning in your life? Are you searching for purpose and clarity around why you're here and what you're meant to be doing?

So many people struggle with these questions, many spending the majority of their lives dealing with the stress, angst and confusion that comes with not having satisfying answers.

I have been there myself. I spent decades wrestling with these types of questions, never having an answer and constantly feeling like I was behind, missing out and failing to live into my potential.

It wasn't until I did some very specific things that all of that started to change.

In today's episode I help you answer the question "How do I find meaning in my life?" and I give you my formula for experiencing meaning, purpose and clarity.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE