Here's Why You Keep Getting Into Unhealthy Relationships Feb 27, 2025

Today's podcast was inspired by an email I received from a listener.

Her situation is something that I think many of us can relate to, and it has to do with RELATIONSHIPS.

Situation: you're in a relationship, it ends for whatever reason, you feel hurt/betrayed/wronged, you do some soul searching, learn a few things about yourself, seek out and find a new relationship, get hurt/betrayed/wronged all over again, and wonder "Why this keeps on happening to me?".

Sound familiar?

I'm proposing that you don't need to do more soul searching, meditating, or any of that stuff. What you need to do is develop relationship standards where you get crystal clear on the type of person you will ALLOW into your life (or your bed!) and stick to your damn standards!

The less than healthy relationships you have are due to a lack of accountability and STANDARDS around them.

What you'll hear in this episode:

Why creating relationship standards is only half of the equation
How creating standards can help you manifest the person who will uphold those standards
A simple process to get you started on creating your relationship standards

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What The Birth Of My Child Has Taught Me About Faith (It's Not What You're Thinking) Feb 20, 2025

This episode is all about FAITH, but not in the most widely used sense. I’m talking about having supreme confidence and trust in someone or something.

I look at faith like this: FAITH = TRUST + SURRENDER.

On Sunday September 11th, 2016 Sarah and I welcomed the birth of our daughter Maya. Through that experience I both witnessed and practiced the most humbling amount of trust and surrender that I have in my life thus far.

Sarah surrendered to her body, to the labor waves, to her coaches. I trusted in our preparation, in the team we assembled, and in my ability to support.

Witnessing what I can only describe as pure faith on the parts of everyone involved, I began to think about the other areas in my life where my personal faith is lacking. Where I’m failing to trust someone or something, and where I’m fighting for control rather than surrendering.

This episode is all about faith, trust and surrender. I briefly talk about Maya’s birth experience, but spend the bulk of the episode diving into what it looks and feels like when we lack faith in our lives.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

A powerful re-contextualization of faith that you can apply to your life
Examples of what lacking faith, trust and surrender look and feel like
A call for you to examine what processes you’re hindering through your lack of faith

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How To Expand The Great Things In Life Through Focus Feb 04, 2025

You've probably heard sayings like"What you think you become." (Buddha) and "What you focus on expands." (T. Harv Eker).

They are great and make for awesome social media quotes and refrigerator magnets.

But I think the fact that they are used (perhaps overused today) so much has watered down the impact of the message.

The things that we choose to focus our time, energy, thoughts and resources on, grow and multiply and become more real for us.

We can all conjure up examples of this in our lives. It doesn't take much mental effort to do.

But I know that for at least myself, I don't take it to heart enough, and I wonder why it may be hard to shake feelings of frustration, sadness or resentment.

It's because I'm focusing on them, instead of the amazing things in life!

This episode was inspired by an Epic Challenge that a friend of mine brought into our accountability group and received feedback on. Part of her feedback was that "the things you focus on expand", and it hit me in a powerful way because of the place that I was in at the time.

In this episode I talk about the Epic Challenge feedback, discuss examples of things that I've been focusing on that have expanded in my world, and provide some solutions for creating and experiencing more great moments and less sad moments.

What you'll learn in this episode:

How to experience more great things in life through focus
9 simple actions to help you form a gratitude habit

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Breaking Your Fear Patterns Once And For All Jan 25, 2025

By now you might have heard of the Tony Robbins documentary “I am not your guru”. It’s been making its way around Netflix and the internet. If you haven’t seen it, I recommend you give it a watch!

Well, I checked it out the other day and can honestly say that few other documentaries have inspired me as much as this one.

It wasn’t Tony Robbins who inspired me. Instead, I was inspired by the people in the documentary who recognized their opportunity for breakthrough, and boldly stepped into it.

This happens a handful of times in the documentary, and each time it’s amazing to watch them process the situation, become aware of their breakthrough moment, analyze the risk/reward, confront the terror that comes up, and take ACTION!

This episode is about what it really takes to experience a breakthrough in your life. To get unstuck. To start experiencing things in a dramatically different way. It takes action. It takes movement. It takes getting out of your head and getting into your heart and doing something that you know to be the best move for you, but scares you shitless.

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Your Relationships Are Killing You Jan 23, 2025

I truly believe that your relationships are the most important factor to your health (and I'm not talking about relationships in the way you might be thinking).

You don't want to miss this one because this episode will get you thinking!

What you’ll learn in this episode:

The types of relationships that take away from your health
How to reframe “stress” so you regain your power
A simple process for relating more powerfully to any circumstance

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The One Thing I Use to Get Back on Track to Achieving My Goals Jan 10, 2025

This episode was inspired by an article titled “The one sentence that finally inspired me to lose 70 pounds”.

I read that and thought to myself, “I want to know that one thing!!!”

Not because I feel I need to lose 70 pounds, but because anytime someone claims to know the one thing/secret/habit I really want to hear it.

So I checked it out….and liked what I read!

But the point of the article made me think about my one thing and about a topic that I address regularly on this show --- personal mission statements.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

Why you might have a hard time getting back on track when you fall off
How to keep momentum on your goals in life
How the “one thing” from the MBG article ties into your personal mission statement

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Who Will You Become In 2025? My Favorite Practice For Ensuring A Healthy, Wealthy and Amazing New Year Jan 01, 2025

Who will you become in 2018? We're all used to setting new years resolutions and goals for what we want to DO in the upcoming year, but rarely do we make time for a much more important exercise -- being clear on who we want to become in the new year.

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The 6 F's - Having It A.L.L. Framework Part 3 Dec 17, 2024

This is part 3 in my series where I'm breaking down the meaning of A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life, and where I'm sharing my framework for "having it all".

In the A.L.L. framework, I've chosen to focus on what I think are 6 key areas of life: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun.

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What is Your Love Conversation? - Having It A.L.L. Framework Part 2 Dec 10, 2024

Continuing our series on the Having It A.L.L. framework, today's episode is all about LOVE.

I have a special guest on this episode with me today, one perfectly suited to chat with me about love.

In this conversation you'll learn:

The difference between conditional and unconditional love
Where love falls in David R. Hawkin's "Scale Of Consciousness"
The distinction between attachment and connection when it comes to love

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What is Abundance and How Do I Invite More Into My Life? - Having It A.L.L. Framework Part 1 Dec 06, 2024

I’ve always been inspired by the genius men and women who were able to take a concept such as love, or effectiveness or even personal finance, and find the patterns within them that can allow ordinary mortals like you and I to tap into and experience these things fully.

Well before I had a podcast called Having It A.L.L., I had an idea about what “having it all” meant to me, and I witnessed much passion, anger, conviction, judgement, confusion and frustration around the topic.

I knew there was something there worth exploring, and I had the time and curiosity to do it.

I set out to create a framework for what having it all meant to me, so that I would be able to (from the most objective place possible), declare whether or not I felt that I had it all in life at that particular moment.

In this episode, and for the next several weeks, I’m exploring the framework that I developed thanks to my curiosity, experimentation, mentoring, researching and reflection.

Today’s episode is about ABUNDANCE and what that word truly means.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

A simple way to look at abundance
The key factor that you must have in order to experience abundance
1 simple tip to experience more abundance in your life

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A Simple Framework for "Having It All" in Your Life Dec 04, 2024

What does "having it all" mean to you?

It’s a question that I ask all of the guests I have on the show, and it’s a question to which I’ve never heard the exact same answer twice.

I started this podcast partly because of the polarizing nature of that question.

On one side you have people who believe that you can have it all, and who are quick to give their version of what it looks like. On the other side you have people who vehemently argue that having it all is not possible and that saying you can have it all is irresponsible.

Just do a quick Google search of the phrase and you’ll see all sorts of results that paint the question in a light or dark tone.

I’ve thought about that question for a number of years, and as I put together the bones of this show I decided that I wanted to create a framework around my belief about "having it all".

Pulling from personal resources for effectiveness, love and peace, as well as consulting with a number of trusted advisors and mentors, I developed a framework for "having it all" that allows me to, as objectively as possible, determine whether I truly have it all in my life.

In this episode I dive into that framework, breaking down the meaning behind A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life. I open up my toolbox for "having it all" and introduce concepts that I will dig into deeper in future episodes.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

The meaning behind Abundant Loving Life
The 6 F’s along with a powerful way to view and relate to each
6 powerful tools for creating an abundant loving life

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What To Do When Someone Challenges Your Beliefs Nov 21, 2024

We have all been in a situation where another person has challenged a belief that we held.

Big or small, we know what it feels like to be questioned and to then feel like we need to defend our beliefs.

Well, I'm no stranger to this either, and I had an excellent opportunity to experience this very thing during a recent podcast interview!

The episode that you're about to listen to was recorded just minutes after I had my belief challenged on air. I decided that I wanted to capture the moment as it was happening, and share my experience with you.

The original episode where my previously held belief was challenged will be publishing soon (most likely directly after this one), but this episode is about what happened and how I responded.

What you'll hear in this episode:

The experience that inspired me to record this episode
What I consider to be one of the purest pathways to growth
A personal challenge for you to experience growth

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A Story of Healing: Using Curiosity and Courage to Find Yourself with Monique Ruffin Nov 12, 2024

Monique Ruffin is a celebration of living. She is one of those people that folks say has “A beautiful soul”.

And I completely understand why.

Monique grew up in the neighborhood of Watts in Los Angeles. Yes, that Watts. It's where Sanford And Sons was set, and was where Denzel Washington and Ethan Hawke duke it out in Training Day.

That neighborhood is not known for many empowering things, but it’s where Monique called home.

Growing up in an area impacted by crack, with parents in and out of jail, many wouldn’t have been surprised if Monique failed to transcend her environment. But she did, and in a big way.

Monique is a mother, writer, creator, coach, radio host and group facilitator. But most of all she’s an example of what it looks like to live with heart, authenticity, courage, vulnerability and realness.

In our conversation, Monique and I talk about her childhood, the lessons she’s learned as a mother, and how we can all grow beyond our circumstances.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

How to understand yourself so you can navigate life’s challenging circumstances
The power of being curious
2 profound takeaways from motherhood

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Why You're Failing to Tap Into Your Full Creative Potential and How to Actually Do Something About It! Nov 07, 2024

“We are all creators. Whether or not we create is not up to us. We are human, and creating is what we do.” - Michael Gungor

You are a creator! Yes, you. Whether you not you believe it is irrelevant, because like Michael Gungor said, “We are human and creating is what we do.”

In every role we play in life -- parent, spouse, friend, lover, community member, coach -- we create experiences and meaning.

Today’s episode is an exercise in creation. I followed the advice of a friend and fellow podcaster, and recorded this episode with no notes and no script. Every part of this episode was created organically, on the spot.

I did that because I wanted to exercise my muscles of creation, and what resulted was a powerful reflection on creative, the creative process, and tapping into our creative potential.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

What happens when we fail to acknowledge our creativity (especially when we praise it in others)
How creativity ties into our gifts, talents and passions, and the difference of each of those
How to tap into your full creative potential

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Why Personal Mission Statements Are the Most Powerful Way to Uncover Your Direction and Path Nov 01, 2024

At the end of last week's episode I left you with a cliffhanger.

Last week I was talking about FEEDBACK and the power of feedback to ensure you stay on path in life. I introduced the question, "What's the point of being on path if you don't know where the path is leading you to?"

I left you with the promise that the next episode would be about Mission Statements and would feature a special guest.

Well...here we are!

This week I have an incredibly awesome guest with me, live in the studio (first episode with a guest in the flesh with me), and we get down and dirty on everything about Personal Mission Statements.

Most people have heard of Mission Statements within businesses or organizations. But have you ever thought about how a Personal Mission Statement might impact your life?

The difference between a life that's fueled by a clear, intentional mission, and one that is not, can be staggering.

What you'll learn in this episode:

Exactly what a Personal Mission Statement is, how they are used, and why they're important
A process for developing your own Personal Mission Statement
Stories and testimonies of people's experience of life before and after creating a Personal Mission Statement
A taste of a very unique way to create a more badass life

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Learning How to Be Awesome When Life Hits You With Circumstances with Faydra Koenig Oct 22, 2024

I’m a firm believer that life is always going to throw circumstances your way, especially when you say (or think) you’re ready to handle them.

Circumstances can look like a fender bender, a letter from the IRS, a pet needing to go to the vet, and pretty much whatever other not-sought-after experience that you can think of.

Enter Faydra Koenig, a woman who has been through her fair share of circumstances!

I was inspired to connect with Faydra after watching a personal and candid video on the circumstances that she has experienced in her life.

When we sat down, Faydra was an open book. And having listened to her podcast and spent time on her website, I didn’t expect anything less.

In our conversation Faydra and I talk about circumstances and how to not only survive them, but thrive!

What you’ll learn in this episode:

The Law Of Gestation
2 types of accountability groups (and which ignites powerful results)
How to thrive when life throw’s you circumstances

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Moving Through Hell and Rising Above Circumstances with Colleen Crain Oct 17, 2024

We’ve all been through situations that, at the time, felt never ending.

Time crawls by. Our bodies respond to the tension. Our minds race from present to future to past.

Going through hell feels like going through hell.

But if you’re reading this, if you’re here right now, then that means you made it through hell.You survived!

Because when you walk through hot coals, your feet get tougher and more resilient.

Colleen Crain knows that is like. A traumatic event as a child left her physically impaired fora time, and emotionally shaken.

But she also know, first hand, that rising above circumstances is what we are designed todo.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

How to relate powerfully to circumstances
How to thank fear for showing up
Colleen’s personal story of dealing with circumstances

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How Do I Make Sure I’m “On Path” To My Greatest Self? Oct 10, 2024

What is simultaneously the most significant factor and biggest barrier to becoming your greatest self?

Without this thing, airplanes would not make it to their final destination, corporate managers would have less work to do, and you would reach a ceiling with your potential.

It's something that confronts the ego so directly that many people shy away from it at any cost. Yet, it is a powerful tool for self realization, growth and transformation.

Any ideas yet?!?

What you’ll learn in this episode:

The one thing that can accelerate you on your path to greatness (or stop you in your tracks)
How to ensure you’re growing and moving in the most powerful direction for YOU in life
My personal mission statement for my life right now

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A Story of Dreams, Perseverance, and Taking the Road Less Traveled with Mike Mills Oct 02, 2024

This powerful conversation stemmed from a tip a friend gave me, “Matthew, you have got to interview this guy!”

The guy I was being encouraged to speak with was Mike Mills.

Mike is an exceptionally unique guy. He has what I call the Small “s” success and Big “S” Success. Mike is the owner and operator of the Buffalo Outdoor Center, a lodging and outfitting resort sitting on the historic Buffalo River in Ponca, Arkansas.

The Small “s” success is the thriving business that Mike has built over the past 40 years.

The Big “S” Success is the way that Mike describes his experience of life: Heaven.

In this conversation, Mike shares his story of growing up paddling the Buffalo River, learning discipline from his father and the Marines, jumping into entrepreneurship with little money and even less business experience, and growing a world renowned outfitting resort that attracts heads of state, National Geographic photographers, and thousands of nature seekers each year.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How a letter from his father became the biggest challenge in Mike’s life
Why society doesn’t encourage the pursuit of dreams
A common trait all world-changing entrepreneurs possess

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How Aware Are You of Your Influence on Others? Sep 26, 2024

We are all influencers.

Everyday we influence, without fail, we influence three groups: our Selves, Others and Life.

However, many of us go through life unaware of just how much we influence these groups, and unconscious of the power of influence we really have.

Yet, despite this lack of awareness and intention, we are still wielding this power of influence in many ways, some more responsibly than others.

In today’s episode I share a powerful story of influence and ask you to ponder a question that will change how you look at your ability to influence your Self, Others and Life.

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How to JUMP Into the Life You Truly Want to Live Sep 19, 2024

Love and Fear.

It's what all decisions in our lives can be boiled down to.

Fear can be one heck of a beast!

We all know because we all can recall times when we let fear overpower our ability to make clear decisions.

I lived much of my life in fear and can vividly remember making choices from a place a fear since early on.

And I also remember the feeling after those choices. The feeling of having to sit with myself knowing that I choose a lesser path.

This past weekend I faced a different kind of fear: the fear of physical death.

I JUMPED out of a plane, and in that choice I connected with so many other choices I had made throughout my life that illuminated the fact that when it boils down to the essence we always have a choice between FEAR and LOVE.

What you'll learn in this episode:

Why jumping is always the precursor to living
Why you will probably choose fear again and again
How to break the fear cycle

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How to Create the Biggest Shifts in Your Wellbeing - Dr. Michelle Robin Sep 12, 2024

How do you define "wellbeing"?

How about breaking down the word into it's two parts -- WELL and BEING -- what do those words mean to you?

My guest in today's conversation is clear on what those words mean to her, and is on a mission to spread her message of whole wellbeing.

Dr. Michelle Robin is a chiropractor by trade, but has expanded herself into an author, speaker, and podcaster.

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The Massive Difference Between Big "S" Success and Small "s" Success Sep 04, 2024

You have been lied to about success.

Like most of us, we've been told that success is determined by factors "out there".

Achievements, accolades, possessions, titles, certifications, promotions - you know the deal.

But you've also been told that success is simply a mindset. You are successful if you feel successful.

But I'm introducing a new concept to the mix. The concept of little "s" success and big "S" Success.

We may all define success in our own unique ways. But the big "S" and little "s" concepts are universal.

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Igniting Your “Guttural Brushfire”: The Impact of Mission Statements, Powerful Words, and Unconditional Love with Sandy Chambers Aug 28, 2024

What would your life look like if you were fully engaged? If you were living your life to the max? If you were experiencing a "guttural brushfire"?

That’s the question that my guest today has been meditating on.

Sandy Chambers is very close persona friend of mine and one of the most consciously mature people I know. She devours books, videos, podcasts -- anything that she can get her hands on that will elevate her consciousness. She has read and re-read the works of authors like David R Hawkins, Eckhart Tolle, and Marianne Williamson. She has studied and applied and surrendered to the processes that the sages and gurus have given us to follow. And every single time I have the chance to go in with Sandy on a conversation, I walk away feeling like I need to download all of the information I’ve just taken in, or else my brain might overload.

Now, Sandy wanted my help in crystallizing her passion -- she has been doing some deep and critical thinking on what her true passion is -- which is why we scheduled this call. But as you’ll hear, we end up going in on so many other crucial topics, like personal mission statements, the power of words, subconscious scripting, and much more.

Sit back and prepare yourself because this conversation is a powerful one.

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How to Use Discontent to Create Your Finest Moments with Dianne Crampton Aug 21, 2024

Have you experienced true discontent in your life?

That’s totally a rhetorical question because if you’re alive then that means you’ve been in situations that you haven’t liked. The real question is, how did you handle those situations?

My guest in today’s conversation is Dianne Crampton, and she would guess that you did one of three things: blamed someone else, ignored it all together, or asked yourself “What is this here to teach me?”

Dianne has spent most of her life asking herself “What is this here to teach me?”, and that has led her to many amazing realizations and experiences.

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The Secret Consequences of Being Authentic and Transparent with Paul Colaianni Aug 15, 2024

Paul Colaianni has not always led an authentic life.

Experiences as a child taught him that authenticity and self expression were detrimental to his health and the health of those around him, so he bottled them up. The result was a life rife with unsteady relationships, frustration, and disillusionment.

It wasn’t until facing the end of another relationship, that Paul reached an emotional, mental and spiritual breaking point, which sent him on a 10 year journey to study and self examine.

Today, Paul is a self empowerment coach who uses his life experiences and the insights he’s picked up along the way, to coach others through their challenges and help them reach their personal goals.

In this episode, Paul shares what he’s learned through a life of exploring what living

authentically means to him, and he gets personal with me and he talks about his experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, destroying relationships with judgement and fear, and going through life not being his true authentic self.

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How to “Lead From Center” and Create More Powerful Results in Your Life with Amy Balog Aug 07, 2024

What does it mean to “lead from center”?

It's a question that many high achievers ask themselves (or are asked of themselves), and it's a question that my guest today is going to help us answer.

To Amy Balog, leading from center means being so in-tune with yourself -- knowing who you are, and what makes you tick -- that you're able to create amazing results in your life and the life of others. It's about gaining clarity, calmness and conviction, and being acutely aware of the environment inside of yourself so that you may more powerfully impact the environments around you.

Amy’s passion is helping leaders tap into their center to create massive results within their organizations, and within themselves.

In this conversation Amy and I dive into what leading from center truly means and looks like, and we examine the impact that understanding your bigger WHY has on your life and the lives of those around you. Amy shares her journey of stepping into this work and the watershed moment that changed her career trajectory forever.

In this episode you will learn:

The formula for Leading From Center
The non-tangible elements for success many leaders are overlooking
How to shift your frame of mind from “performing” to “serving”

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The Practice of Manifestation, Self Compassion, and Making a Difference with Colleen Patrick Goudreau Jul 31, 2024

Colleen Patrick Goudreau lives a life of compassion.

She has compassion for animals, which influenced her to choose a vegan lifestyle (on which she is a leading authority). She has compassion for other people, which influenced the message she spreads to the world. And she has compassion for herself, which, through intentional practice, has allowed her to experience herself fully and manifest her deepest values.

In this episode, Colleen and I have a powerful conversation on the practice of manifestation, self compassion and the truth behind how we make a difference in this world (spoiler: you are ALWAYS making a difference, the question is whether you’re providing value or taking it away).

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YES, You Can HAVE IT ALL! My Final Episode Of The Having It A.L.L. Podcast Jul 24, 2024

Here we are, my friend. The final episode of Having It A.L.L.!

It has been an awesome 8 years, and in today’s episode I’m going to share my thoughts, memories and takeaways with you all.

Let’s do this!

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Mastering The Game of Emotional Regulation Jul 19, 2024

What is emotional regulation and what part does it play in having it all?

In today’s episode I’m diving deep into the world of emotional regulation and emotional intelligence because these two concepts (and their related parts) are critical components of living a self fulfilled life.

Without a healthy level of emotional intelligence, it’s extremely hard to get from where you are now in your life to where you’d like to be. It’s like trying to navigate an obstacle course with the lights off --- technically possible, but the odds are stacked against you.

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When You Understand THIS SIMPLE IDEA You Can IMPROVE ANY RELATIONSHIP! (HIA Classic) Jul 11, 2024

Can every relationship be improved? And if so, how would you actually do it??

Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor.

This episode pulls from my own personal life and the relationship experiences that I have created. The conversation today will impact how you engage in your current relationships, and will help you create amazing future relationships.

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From Victim to Victor: A Conversation About Overcoming Adversity, Redefining Privilege and Creating Change with Brian Thomas Jun 30, 2024

Which of life’s circumstances do you feel a victim to?

There was a time in my guest's life when his answer to this question might have been very lengthy.

In today’s episode I’m bringing you a conversation I had with my friend, Brian Thomas. Brian is an author, husband, father, and a man who is boldly choosing to have it all in his life.

When Brian was 13 he underwent the first of several kidney transplant operations. The experiences leading up to and after the surgery played a significant role in shaping how Brian viewed himself, his capabilities and his future.

Brian’s story reminds me that it truly is not our circumstances that define us, but how we choose to respond to those circumstances.

Things Brian talks about in this episode:

Living a cautious life vs living a courageous life
Being stuck in a rut and questioning how he was living his life
Working so hard that he was giving himself health problems
Being biracial and the feeling of never fitting in
Learning what it means to live authentically (and having the courage to do so)

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Treat Him Like A King, Treat Her Like A Queen: A Conversation About Fully Loving, Honoring and Supporting Your Partner (HIA Classic) Jun 21, 2024

What does it really mean to treat your partner like a King or Queen?

As Sarah and I have grown in our marriage, the concept of treating one another as a King and Queen has grown as well. At first the idea brought up our own issues with self worth, love and relationship roles. But today, we both powerfully fill our roles of King and Queen respectively, and we make it priority to not only treat one another with the utmost love and respect, but to do the same for ourselves as well.

In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we dig into the topic of "how to treat your partner like a King or Queen". This is a powerful conversation for anyone who has struggled with feeling like they deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, or anyone who feels their current relationship dynamic has room for growth.

For questions, comments and feedback on this episode, email me directly at matthew@matthewbivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens

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4 Myths and 3 Truths About This Thing Called “Balance” Jun 11, 2024

Do you believe that balance is possible for you?

So many people seek out balance, yet they fall short again and again.

It’s been my experience as a BALANCE Lifestyle Coach, that the biggest reason why people fail at balance isn’t because of their lack of effort or plan, it’s because of their perspective on balance in the first place.

In today’s episode I’m debunking common myths around balance, and I’m giving you 3 new perspectives on balance that are going to make it more simple and achievable for you.

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Is Your Life Feeling Out Of Control? Here Are 2 Simple Ways To Get Your Sense Of Stability Back May 27, 2024

What do you do when your life feels out of control?

Whether it’s a single area of your life, or everywhere all at once, when things feel out of control it can be debilitating.

I’ve been there and I know the feeling of helplessness and frustration that comes as a result.

However, you don’t have to stay there! There are simple things that you can do that are entirely effective at putting you back in the driver’s seat of your life.

In today’s episode I’m sharing with you 2 simple ways to regain control over your life, feel like you have more stability, and to get your sense of autonomy back.

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All Great Leaders Make Time To Do This ONE THING In The Morning (Are You?) May 15, 2024

What morning habits do all great leaders and people who are doing BIG things in life have in common?

(And no, it’s not meditation or cold showers!)

They all start their day off by building proactive momentum.

Not sure what that means? No worries!

In today’s episode I’m explaining the concept of proactive momentum and I’m helping you break the habits that are driving your stress, frustration and burnout.

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Here’s Why Affirmations Won’t Work For You May 07, 2024

Do you know why affirmations, self help and success books and “positive talk” just don't work for many people?

It has nothing to do with those things being ineffective, and everything to do with the emotional state a person is in when they attempt to connect with those things.

In today’s episode I’m breaking down exactly how this all works and helping you to unlock the true reason why you keep creating the same outcomes despite desiring new results.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

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How To Balance Out Your Health And Fitness In A Holistic and Sustainable Way (HIA Classic) May 02, 2024

What does living a balanced life mean to you?

Similarly, how do you define health and fitness? And how do your perceptions of these concepts impact your overall wellbeing?

In this episode I'm talking about how you can view the idea of "balance" in a way that doesn't leave you feeling defeated and frustrated. I'm here to present to you an idea of how you can balance out your health and fitness in a way that's sustainable and holistic.

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Overcoming Male Shame: Stories And Wisdom On How Men Can Finally Eliminate Their Shame (HIA Classic) Apr 24, 2024

What shame are you hiding?

Fellas, this episode is for you.

As a man, I've carried with me different types of shame through my life that have had a big impact on how I see the world and operate in it. I learned early on that burying my shame and pretending it wasn't there was the safest way for me to operate.

The truth is, it's not.

And for me, it took years of living in denial and robbing myself of true joy and fulfillment, that finally helped me see that.

In today's episode we're tackling a topic that lives within many men -- shame. I'm pulling from various sources here to help you understand shame, watch how it plays out in the lives of men like you, and see how other men are choosing to face it.

My intention with this episode is that it inspires you to look into those dark corners of yourself where you have been hiding your shame, and finally choose to bring it out into the light.

Do you want some support or coaching on overcoming your shame? Email me and take the next step towards eliminating shame from your life - matthew@matthewbivens.com.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Institute Of OM - https://instituteofom.com/
Article "Shame: The Core Issue For Many Men - https://menscenter.org/shame/
Will Smith Youtube series "Best Shape Of My Life", Episode 2: My Secret Shame -
https://youtu.be/ZvYPIJT6JpM
Will Smith Youtube series "Best Shape Of My Life", Episode 4: I'm Sorry Mama -
https://youtu.be/B2TlsHdpY_4
The Dad Edge Podcast interview with Lewis Howes - https://thedadedge.com/lewis-howes/

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?

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Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?

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A Behind The Scenes Look At Creating The Having It A.L.L. Podcast Apr 16, 2024

What does it take to create an episode of the Having It A.L.L. podcast?

If you’ve ever asked yourself that question then you’ll love today’s episode!

I was recently asked by a friend, “How do you continue coming up with ideas for your podcast after 8 years and 500 episodes?”.

It was a great question and one that got me thinking about sharing with you a behind the scenes look of what it takes to create an episode of the show as well as keep the podcast going for years to come.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Win a “Thank You!” bundle, take the quick Having It A.L.L. listener survey here - https://matthewbivens.com/survey

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What Does Your Calendar Say About Your Priorities? Apr 08, 2024

What does your calendar say about your priorities?

Whether you use an online calendar, a paper calendar, or simply store all of your appointments and todos in your head (which is impressive!), you have some sort of way of divvying out your most precious resource -- your time!

Where you invest your time says A LOT about what you prioritize!

A common trait of people who feel fulfilled in life and who “have it all” is that they regularly make time for the people, environments and things they value the most.

In today’s episode I talk about what your calendar says about the level of fulfillment you may or may not be experiencing in your life, and I give you a few simple action items that can help you experience more joy and fulfillment this week!

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?

Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?

Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?

Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!

https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

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Learning How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty (HIA Classic) Apr 03, 2024

How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life?

So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable.

In today's episode I talk about the challenge of saying "no", and give you very concrete and actionable tips for strengthening that muscle within you.

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

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T2B2: A Super Simple Practice I’m Using Fuel My Self-Improvement Mar 26, 2024

How do you relate to feedback?

Feedback scares the heck out of most people, but if you run from it then you're handcuffing your potential.

I was one of those people for a very long time. I did everything I could to NOT receive feedback, and when I did I usually took it very personally and sat in a funk for a few days afterwards.

Today, however, I understand how important feedback is to growth. Point blank: you will NOT grow without feedback. And that’s growth in ANYTHING -- your job, your health, your hobbies, your relationships, your SELF.

In today’s episode I’m sharing with you a very simple, yet effective practice that I’ve been using to improve my life. It’s called T2B2, and it centers around seeking out feedback from trusted people in your life. Tune in and I’ll share with you how it’s done and show you why you want to start implementing this simple practice in your life right now!

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Why 2023 Was My Most Difficult Year Yet (And What I'm Doing About It This Year): https://www.matthewbivens.com/why-2023-was-my-most-difficult-year-yet-and-what-im-doing-about-it-this-year/
Your Body Is Talking To You! Are You Paying Attention?? (Awareness: Day 1): https://www.matthewbivens.com/your-body-is-talking-to-you-are-you-paying-attention-awareness-day-1/
Check out the free "Trust Account" app from the YourDay Balance Game
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

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Feeling Stuck In Life? Here’s What You Can Do To Finally Get Yourself Unstuck (Awareness Week: Day 7/7) Mar 17, 2024

Are you feeling stuck in life?

We all feel stuck at some point in life. How long we stay feeling stuck depends on a few factors.

Today's day 7 of the awareness suite, and in this conversation we are applying the lessons from the last 6 days so you can finally get unstuck!

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

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Where Are You Spending Your Most Precious Resource? (Awareness Week: Day 6/7) Mar 16, 2024

How much of your time each day is spent with the people, places, and activities that you say matter most to you?

Today's day 6 of the awareness suite, and in this conversation we are taking a look at exactly where you invest your most precious resource: your time.

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

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Your Environments Are Keeping You Stuck! (Awareness Week: Day 5/7) Mar 16, 2024

How aware are you of the impact that your environment is having on you?

From where you spend most of your time, to who you spend most of your time with, your environments shape your health, your attitudes, and your behavior.

Today is day 5 of the Awareness suite, and in this episode we’re taking a look at the environments where you invest your time and energy, and shining a light on the fact that your environments very well may be keeping you from having it all.

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

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It’s Time To Get Real About Your Standards! (Awareness Week: Day 4/7) Mar 14, 2024

Do you have clear personal standards in your life? If so, what are they??

Most people understand the concept of a personal standard, but in practice have vague personal standards (at best). Yet, if you knew the impact that not having or holding personal standards was having across all areas of your life, I bet you’d get to work creating some!

Today is day 4 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode we’re getting real about personal standards, and why not having clear personal standards that you uphold to a high degree is keeping you stuck, sad and unfulfilled.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

YourDay Balance Game App (aka the Trust App)
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS

Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS

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Your Emotions Are Messengers, Are You Listening to Their Wisdom? (Awareness Week: Day 3/7) Mar 14, 2024

What emotions did you experience today and what insights into yourself did you glean from those emotions?

Most people go through their day feeling any combination of the spectrum of emotions, completely unaware that those emotions are giving insight into what’s going on in their inner world.

Today is day 3 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode we’re digging into the layered messages of your emotions, and making the case that your emotions pack so much more insight than you are aware of!

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Applying the CBT Model of Emotions: https://cogbtherapy.com/cbt-model-of-emotions

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS

Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684

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Don’t Believe Everything You Think! (Awareness Week: Day 2/7) Mar 13, 2024

Are most of your thoughts in a day empowering thoughts or disempowering thoughts?

Turns out, the VAST majority of most people’s daily thoughts are disempowering.

If every thought is a seed that’s being planted into your psyche, then what kinds of fruit are you growing in your life?

Today is day 2 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode I dive into the world of your inner monologue, and we talk about the importance of being aware of your thoughts and where they’re originating from.

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

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Your Body Is Talking To You! Are You Paying Attention?? (Awareness Week: Day 1/7) Mar 11, 2024

What communications is your body giving you right this very moment?

Today’s episode kicks off a suite that we’re doing all on the topic of Awareness.

When you’re seeking change in your life, no matter what area you want to shift, AWARENESS is step #1! If you are unaware of the thoughts, beliefs, words and habits that are keeping you stuck, then you’ll never be able to break free and build a life where you are having it all.

In today’s episode I dive into the communications of your body, and we talk about not only what your body is communicating to you but also how you can use those communications to steer your life in a powerful direction.

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS

Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS

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Understanding THIS Natural Law Will Save You So Much Suffering! Mar 05, 2024

Have you ever felt like life moves in a never-ending cycle of ups and downs, advances and setbacks, victories and defeats?

The Law of Rhythm teaches us that "Everything Flows, Out and In", "All Things Rise and Fall", and "The Pendulum Swing Manifests in Everything". From the waves of the ocean to the rise and fall of empires, this law governs the rhythm of life itself.

In this episode, we delve into practical ways to work with the Law of Rhythm rather than against it. Discover how to recognize the subtle shifts in the pendulum's swing and maintain focus on your desired outcomes, even in the face of setbacks.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

The Seven Universal Laws Explained: https://www.mind-your-reality.com/seven_universal_laws.html

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS

Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS

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This Perspective On Exercise Completely Changed My Life Feb 27, 2024

What do you feel are the biggest benefits to exercising?

Whether or not you’re currently exercising at the level you feel you should, you probably have some thoughts about why exercise is important and what the benefits are.

For years my perspective on exercise was one that most of us have: it’s important to keep you healthy and keep your body strong, it can improve your mood, it promotes longevity in life, it provides energy and vitality for a happy life, among other reasons.

But years ago I became aware of a different perspective on exercise, one that completely changed my life when I looked at the world of health & fitness through this new lens.

In today’s episode I’m sharing that new perspective on exercise with you, and I’m inviting you to try it out for yourself and see/feel what this perspective can offer you and your life!

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

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iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS

Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

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Elevate ANY Relationship In 10 Days With This Simple Method! Feb 20, 2024

Are you feeling like your relationships are stuck in a rut? Or are you simply wanting to see and feel your relationships improving?

In today’s episode I unveil a simple yet powerful method that has transformed my connections with others. It's not a quick fix or a manipulation tactic, but rather a genuine approach to fostering trust, intimacy, and understanding.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

2x10 Relationship Building: How to Do It (and Why It Works!)

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS

Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS

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Are You Living With Passion And Doing What You Love? (HIA Classic) Feb 11, 2024

Are you doing what you love in life?

Many times a question like this makes us think about turning our passions into a career. Pro athletes come to mind, the men and women who have taken a love for a childhood game and turned it into a lucrative career.

But that’s not the only way to do what you love and live a life with passion. You can 100% live with passion, joy and excitement EVERYDAY, without changing careers or completely shifting your life around (you can of course do that too if you want).

In this episode I’m sharing with you some questions to ask yourself that can help you identify your passions and build a life where you’re practicing and living them regularly.

Living life with passion is a key ingredient of “having it all”, and today’s conversation will help you get there!

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE

https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS

Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

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I Learned 3 Invaluable Lessons From This Single Moment (You Can’t Afford To Miss Them!) Feb 05, 2024

What crossroads moments has your life contained, and what lessons did you learn?

In 2013 I faced a major crossroad moment. The job path that I had chosen was making me miserable, and each day that I stuck on it I felt more frustrated, more helpless and more like a victim. I had experienced many crossroads moments in my life up to that point, and in the majority of them I chose to stay safe, remain comfortable, and give into the fear.

But not this time.

In today’s episode I share with you one pivotal moment from my life, and the three huge lessons that I’m so grateful I learned.

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How To Become Immune To Rejection Jan 29, 2024

Have you ever wondered how to become immune to rejection?

Rejections happen to all of us in life. It’s unavoidable. Yet, not everyone is impacted the same way by rejections. Some people are crushed, while others use the rejection to grow.

Which are you?

Today's episode dives deep into understanding why rejection impacts us and provides actionable steps to develop resilience and use rejection as a catalyst for growth. This one is inspired by a heartfelt listener email, and I’m grateful for the vulnerability!

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This GIANT Mistake Is Making It Impossible To Improve Your Life Jan 21, 2024

Wondering why your efforts for improvement often fall short?

If you've faced discouragement, tried various programs/plans/systems, or found yourself in the cycle of starting and stopping, this conversation is tailored for you.

In today’s episode, we uncover a colossal mistake that could be sabotaging your progress when you’re seeking change and improvement in your life, and I’m going to help you spot the mistake and overcome it if you’re doing it yourself!

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Don’t Be Unique In Your Excuses - https://www.matthewbivens.com/dont-be-unique-in-your-excuses/

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Why 2023 Was My Most Difficult Year Yet (And What I'm Doing About It This Year) Jan 14, 2024

Have you ever looked back on an experience in your life and thought, "Yeah, I don't want to go through that again!".

2023 held many of those moments for me.

Truth be told, there was a lot that I struggled with in 2023 that had me feeling overwhelmed, stressed and maxed out. But I didn't tell anyone, and so I struggled in silence.

In today's episode I'm breaking that silence and letting you in on why 2023 was my most challenging year yet, I'm sharing what contributed to my internal challenges, and I'm talking about what I'm going to do about it so that I have a different experience this year!

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Create Your BEST YEAR YET With A Word For The Year (2024 Edition) Jan 08, 2024

What is a simple yet effective tool that can help you create the best year of your life?

Answer: a Word For The Year!

Each year on the Having It A.L.L. podcast, I guide you to creating a Word For The Year. And it's that time once again!

New Year's Resolutions focus on the DOING, while Word For The Year focuses on the BEING. And that's where your best results will come from!

Join me in today's episode as I take you through the 6 simple steps to create your powerful Word For The Year, and teach you how to ACTIVATE your word and create your best year yet!

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The Big Self Help Mistake I Used To Make (Don't Fall For It In 2021...And Beyond!) (HIA Classic) Dec 29, 2023

Do you find yourself being overly self-critical when someone else's advice just doesn't work for you?

I've read, listened to and watched thousands of pieces of self help content over the years, and for a long time I thought that there was something wrong with me when I failed to incorporate someone else's advice into my life. I would blame a lack of discipline, focus, grit, or consistency as the reasons why I never made it past day two on someone else's stellar self help routine.

That was until I realized an important truth: their self help is not my self help.

What works for others may not (actually, probably will not) work for you.

In today's episode I'm giving you one huge piece of advice as you prepare to jump into the New Year that will help you to have a more joyful and successful year.

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Why Are Self-Help Books Not So Helpful After All?

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Do This One Thing BEFORE Planning Next Year's Goals And Resolutions (HIA Classic) Dec 23, 2023

Have you started planning your goals and resolutions for the new year?

Whether you have your goals already, or haven't even started, there's one thing you want to make sure you do before you write your goals in stone, and that's take a deep look at how you showed up this past year.

In today's episode I'm walking you through a self assessment process (the same one I use with all of my coaching clients) that will help you determine where you are right now, so you can chart the course for where you want to be in the coming year.

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These 3 Skills Will Make Or Break Your Success In 2024 Dec 13, 2023

What are 3 skills that you could develop and hone that would dramatically change your life?

This has been an amazing year in the coaching work that I do, namely because the amazing clients I work with have created some incredible results for themselves.

As I look at what they've overcome and accomplished, 3 distinct skills/traits stand out that they have in common.

In today's episode I share with you the 3 skills that they've all developed which have led to their success, skills that you MUST hone in order to see the results you want in 2024!

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4 Sobering Truths That Will Make You Rethink Your Life Dec 06, 2023

Are you aware that beliefs are not permanent?

It's true. You believe things today that you didn't believe when you were younger.

In fact it's healthy to challenge your beliefs, release the ones that no longer serve you, and adopt new, more empowering beliefs that align with who it is you desire to become.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you 4 sobering truths that will challenge some deep beliefs you have about yourself and your life, and in doing so I'm inviting you to be willing to let go of your limiting beliefs for something more empowering.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

4 Sentences To Rethink Your Life video: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/6ZZujjGrLLA

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How To Build Your MAGIC MUSCLE So You Can Overcome Any Adversity (No Matter How Tough!) Nov 23, 2023

How do you handle tough times in life?

As a coach for man years I have seen a pattern in people when it comes to how they handle adversity and tough circumstances in life: they are either REACTIVE or PROACTIVE.

In today's episode I'm sharing the concept of the "magic muscle" and revealing how you can learn this crucial skill so that you can overcome any adversity and create joy in the face of circumstances.

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Download the free YourDay Balance Game App

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A Proven Way To Raise Your Self-Worth In 3 Simple Steps Nov 14, 2023

How strong is your self-worth? Put a different way: do you believe in your own value and worthiness?

Low self-worth is at the heart of many challenges that people struggle with. From difficulties with relationships, procrastination and avoidance, a lack of confidence.....all of these things have low self-worth as the common thread.

So what do you do when you know you have low self-worth and you want to raise it?

Well, in today's episode I'm sharing with you a proven way to raise your self worth, and it comes down to 3 simple steps.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Check out the YourDay Balance Game (YDBG) app, which is the world's best app for raising your self trust and self worth.
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
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How To Navigate The Loneliness That Comes With Working On Yourself Nov 08, 2023

Have you ever felt the loneliness that comes with personal growth and transformation?

As you shed your old life and embrace the new, it's natural to experience strong feelings of loneliness. How you handle those lonely periods can be the difference between growing and achieving your goals, or continuing to struggle.

In today's episode I share six essential insights for navigating the lonely chapters that are a part of your personal development journey.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Video clip from Chris Williamson: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/IU3cS5yivms
The Modern Wisdom podcast: https://chriswillx.com/podcast/

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How To Bounce Back Quickly When You're Dealing With Disappointment In Your Life (HIA Classic) Oct 31, 2023

How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered?

Disappointment is interesting. It can be focused internally on ourselves, or externally on others. But no matter where the focus is, the root of it is some sort of attachment and typically judgement.

When you get swept up in the emotions around disappointment, it's easy to be carried off in the direction of disempowering emotions and thoughts. The sequence can go like this: you feel the disappointment, you start to judge or take something personally or get angry or react, which leads you to more fear based feelings and thoughts, which pulls you down further. But spotting this behavior and recognizing it at the moment of the triggering event is key to being able to rise above those feelings and stay in your power, in the face of the disappointment.

In today's episode I share with you what inspired me to jump off the couch, grab my mic, and record this very podcast!

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You Are Your Exit Out Of Being Undervalued Oct 18, 2023

Have you ever wondered about the source of your self worth and personal value?

Whatever you deem as the source of your self-worth is going to directly influence your behaviors and habits.

If you make your net-worth as the source of your self-worth, then your money will become your focus. Many people do this, and when their money goes up so does their sense of worthiness, however when their money goes down....well, you already know!

In today's episode I help you unlock a never-ending source of self-worth, one that you have full control over and can tap into at any time! You'll walk away from this episode very clear on how you can increase your self worth and keep it high!

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Guided meditation "The Powerful Realization of Self Worth, Guided Meditation": https://youtu.be/PCLhTlVTO3c?si=aVEVHteuBW2eFMOI

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME

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WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO

Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent

https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

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Releasing the Myths and Stereotypes Around Masculinity (HIA Classic) Oct 11, 2023

What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding onto?

Over the years I've picked up all sorts of ideas around what it means to be a man, and many of those ideas reinforce dated and unhealthy stereotypes.

In today's episode I share my biggest stereotypes around masculinity, the things that trigger thoughts of comparison and feeling less than.

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Dream Big, Start Small: How To Achieve More, Set Goals and Stay Focused When You've Struggled In The Past (HIA Classic) Sep 26, 2023

Do you have little faith in your ability to achieve your big goals?

I used to feel pretty low on myself as it related to setting goals and achieving them.

Didn't matter if it was a work goal, fitness goal, money goal or just a life goal -- a part of me seemed to always believe that no matter how much I wanted it, I just wouldn't achieve it

The problem wasn't that I didn't know what I wanted. I had PLENTY of things I desired to accomplish (my Big Hairy Audacious Goal list was massive). I was just ineffective at everything AFTER coming up with the goal. I didn't know how to plan, how to strategize, how to help myself overcome my own obstacles, how to check in with my goals, how to be smart with my goals --- none of that.

And so 95% of the time I ended up quitting and feeling crappy about myself. Each failed goal made me feel less and less capable, and that led me to set less and smaller goals.

Can you relate?

In today's podcast I'm tackling the big hairy beast that is GOAL SETTING, and my goal is that this approach to the topic will inspire a breakthrough within you.

You CAN set goals that are meaningful and will really move the needle for you.

You CAN create a plan and follow it.

You CAN overcome the inevitable obstacles that you'll run into along the way.

And you CAN achieve those things you really desire in life.

Ready to make it happen?

Let's do this together!

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Free worksheet "Your Guide To Achieving More, Crushing Your Goals, and Staying Focused" - https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BD3Sb5lVlVHyBCkTbG9TmVDc1Jnbj13X8AEZF4YqpPg/edit?usp=sharing

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The 2 Things Couples Need To Sustain A Long Sexual Relationship Sep 23, 2023

What is the secret to sustaining a long sexual relationship with your partner?

Today's episode is inspired by a Ted Talk from sex educator and author Emily Nagoski, and we'll be discussing the two things that research has shown are necessary for couples to maintain a strong sexual connection for decades.

We'll explore why these things are important and how you can develop them in your relationship. We'll also cover how to overcome the challenges that can come up, such as the "layers" of stuff that can build up between couples over time.

If you're looking for ways to keep your sex life alive and thriving, this episode is for you. You'll walk away with clear action items that you can start implementing today.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Emily Nagoski's TED talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_how_couples_can_sustain_a_strong_sexual_connection_for_a_lifetime
Other episodes of Having It A.L.L. that will help your relationship - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/search/?q=relationship

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The Power Of Principles: A Guide To Understanding Principles And How To Use Them To Have It All (Part 2) Sep 15, 2023

Are you unhappy in an area of your life? Are you failing to accomplish all that you wish to accomplish in your life?

If you’re unhappy with a particular area of your life, chances are that you are going against one or more principles. If you can identify the principle(s) that you’re not following, and begin to follow them, then you can start making the changes that will lead to the results that you want out of your life.

In part 2 of our series on Principles, we continue our deep dive into the principles that govern us all, and talk about how you can feel more in control of your life by living in alignment with these universal truths.

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Learn more about how principles can help you overcome codependency

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The Power Of Principles: A Guide To Understanding Principles And How To Use Them To Have It All (Part 1) Sep 09, 2023

What are the principles that govern your life?

The principles you live by are the foundation for effective and successful living. When you live your life in alignment with principles, things flow and you create the possibility for more joy, peace and abundance.

But when you're unclear on your principles and therefore don't live your life in alignment with principles, then things don't work. You may find yourself feeling frustrated, unfulfilled, hopeless and not in control of your own life.

Unfortunately, a Google search on "Principles" can create more confusion than clarity.

But that ends here!

In this episode, we'll explore the essential topic of principles and how they can help you live a more effective life. You'll learn what principles are, how they work, and the difference between principles and values. You'll also learn about 5 important principles, and what aligning and misaligning looks like for each.

Because this can be a dense topic I'm breaking this episode into two parts.

So if you're ready to learn how to live a more effective life where you feel like you HAVE IT ALL, tune in to this two-part series!

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A Quick And Dirty Way To Gauge The Quality Of Your Life (Inspired By Lewis Howes) (HIA Classic) Aug 30, 2023

What is the quality of your life right now? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 8 key areas of life you want to take a look at periodically to assess the overall quality of your life.

This episode is inspired by fellow greatness seeker, Lewis Howes. It was on his Instagram page that I saw him post about these 8 areas, and it moved me to share it with you all.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Instagram post from Lewis Howes - https://www.instagram.com/p/BpzmA9iA7rR/

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How To Find Meaning In Your Life Aug 16, 2023

Are you struggling to find meaning in your life? Are you searching for purpose and clarity around why you're here and what you're meant to be doing?

So many people struggle with these questions, many spending the majority of their lives dealing with the stress, angst and confusion that comes with not having satisfying answers.

I have been there myself. I spent decades wrestling with these types of questions, never having an answer and constantly feeling like I was behind, missing out and failing to live into my potential.

It wasn't until I did some very specific things that all of that started to change.

In today's episode I help you answer the question "How do I find meaning in my life?" and I give you my formula for experiencing meaning, purpose and clarity.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Youtube clip from Shaolin Master Shi Heng Yi: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/yYp3rn1A5no

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8 Clear Signs That You Are In A Codependent Relationship Aug 12, 2023

How do you know if you're in a codependent relationship?

Codependency is a relationship killer, but spotting the signs isn't always easy. Many times the behaviors that you think are indications of your love and devotion, are actually signs of an unhealthy relationship dynamic.

In today's episode we're going to explore codependency deeper and you'll learn 8 signs that you are in a codependent relationship.

And don't forget to watch the video I mention at the end of the episode so you can learn how to fix your codependency for good. Click here to access the video >> https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:

Heal codependency video: https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

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The Only Time Your Self Help Practice Matters Is When You're Asked To Prove It (HIA Classic) Aug 02, 2023

Are you the type who loves to read personal development books but stops short of actually applying what they read?

Be honest, because this happens more often than not.

In my years of coaching, I see many people fall into the trap of believing they are creating new results by reading more books, attending more seminars and enrolling in more courses. This is a trap because the real results come from APPLYING what has been learned (and applying again and again and again, until you gain wisdom from experience).

In today's Having It A.L.L. Classic episodeI talk about the importance of taking your practice out into the world and seeing if your walk matches your talk.

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QUICK FIX: Break Your Addiction To Being Distracted From Rich Roll Jul 29, 2023

How comfortable are you at the idea of spending alone time with just you and your thoughts?

Today's Quick Fix is all about breaking the addiction of constant distraction, and in the episode I'm sharing a message from Rich Roll -- podcaster, author and ultra-endurance athlete.

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BREAK Your Phone Addiction | Rich Roll: https://youtu.be/EsKGcMrKknc
The Habit That's Making You Miserable (And Why The Experts Are Missing The Point): https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/the-habit-thats-making-you-miserable-and-why-the-experts-are-missing-the-point/
4 Simple Ways You can Practice Mindfulness Everyday Without Meditating: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/4-simple-ways-you-can-practice-mindfulness-everyday-without-meditating/
A Quick Guide To Shower Meditations (My Go-to Tool For Beating Stubborn Stress): https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/a-quick-guide-to-shower-meditations-my-go-to-tool-for-beating-stubborn-stress/

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The Common Denominator Of Success (Do You Have It?) Jul 19, 2023

What do you think is the common denominator of success?

In 1940, Albert E.N. Gray, an official of the Prudential Insurance Company of America and a highly sought after speaker, delivered a speech to the National Association of Life Underwriters at their annual convention. His words have since become a source of great inspiration for many people.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you his famous speech "The Common Denominator of Success".

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Link to the speech transcript - https://jamesclear.com/great-speeches/the-common-denominator-of-success-by-albert-e-n-gray
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The 9 Things You Must Do To Live To 100 Jul 12, 2023

If life is a game of patterns, then what are the lifestyle patterns of people who live long and healthy lives?

That's a question many have set out to answer.

In the book "Blue Zones: Lessons for Living Longer From the People Who've Lived the Longest", author Dan Buettner explores why communities in certain parts of the world (known as "Blue Zones") live longer and healthier lives.

In today's episode I share with you the 9 evidence based reasons why people in Blue Zones live longer, and I open up the space for you to examine your own life to see which of these Blue Zone characteristics you can incorporate into your own life.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Blue Zones website - https://www.bluezones.com/2016/11/power-9/

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QUICK FIX: The Importance Of Vitamin "N" For Self-Discipline From Eliud Kipchoge Jul 08, 2023

What is "Vitamin N" and how will it help you live an abundant loving life?

Today's Quick Fix is all about "Vitamin N", and in the episode I'm sharing a message from Eliud Kipchoge -- a Kenyan long distance runner who is regarded as the greatest marathon runner of all time. He is an Olympic champion, world record holder, and in 2019 was the first person in history to run a sub 2 hour marathon!

Tune in to learn about "Vitamin N" and why it's essential to self-discipline.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Three rules for self-discipline - https://youtu.be/XJ8Rw-ZyBs0
WORLD'S FASTEST Man Shares How To Achieve Your MOST AMBITIOUS GOALS In 2023 | Eliud Kipchoge - https://youtu.be/X4la2sHwZB0
Learn How To Take Control Of Your Life By Answering This One Question! - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/learn-how-to-take-control-of-your-life-by-answering-this-one-question/

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Learn How To Take Control Of Your Life By Answering This One Question! Jun 20, 2023

What is one activity that, if you did it on a regular basis, would have a tremendous impact in your personal and professional life?

That's the question we focus on in today's podcast!

I was inspired by a lesson I was teaching a coaching group recently, and I'm bringing that conversation here because I want you to take back control over your life so that you can have it all.

In today's episode we break down two very important questions that will help you manage your time and energy more effectively, so that you can be back in the driver's seat of your life and create the results that you're desiring.

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How To Discipline Your Thinking So That You Get What You Really Want In Life! Self Mastery Wisdom From Dr. Joe Dispenza, Abraham Hicks and Shi Heng Yi (HIA Classic) Jun 13, 2023

What does it mean to "discipline your thinking" and how is this directly tied to you feeling like you have it all?

I want to shine light on what is probably the biggest thing keeping you from having it all in your life -- undisciplined thinking.

Undisciplined thinking is being a victim to your thoughts.

Undisciplined thinking leads to feelings of angst, fear, worry, anxiety, anger, resentment, and pain....consistently.

Undisciplined thinking, when left unchecked, will be what sabotages you from HAVING IT ALL and truly being in love with your life.

I had my own experiences recently that showed me where I was in my mental discipline, and laid out in front of me very plainly how chaotic things can get within my mind and body when my thoughts are left unchecked. More on that in a minute.

Ask yourself this question: how disciplined am I with my thoughts, one a 1-10? How effective am I at steering my thoughts in a direction I want them to go in? How comfortable am I being with my own thoughts?

In today's episode, I'm bringing you wisdom from Dr. Joe Dispenza, Abraham Hicks and Shi Heng Yi about the power of your thinking and the importance of cultivating control over your thoughts. Check out the links below for all the resources mentioned in this podcast.

Resources from this episode:

Study from Science.org - https://www.science.org/content/article/people-would-rather-be-electrically-shocked-left-alone-their-thoughts-rev2
Full Dr. Joe Dispenza video - https://youtu.be/YD7dsuiiRvs
Full Abraham Hicks video - https://youtu.be/c_sovnkUuMs
Full Shi Heng Yi video - https://youtu.be/JgwsQVUjkPQ

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The First Thing You Must Do Before Trying To Solve Your Next Life Problem Jun 06, 2023

When you're faced with a problem or challenge, what is the first thing you tend to do once you're ready to tackle it?

Your answer probably has something to do with "seeking a solution" or "taking action".

And that makes sense. When you have a problem or challenge and you're finally ready to solve it, you want to get moving.

However, there's one thing that you absolutely must do if you want your solution to succeed. However, many people miss this critical step and so they end up repeating their same problems, challenges and breakdowns over and over and over and over.....

Sound like you?

In today's episode I'm going to share with you why you may be failing to fix the challenges you're experiencing in your relationships, finances, career and life, and I will show you a way to see these problems in a new way so that you can finally create a solution that works.

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Don't Be Unique In Your Excuses May 30, 2023

Do you know someone who always seems to have an excuse as to why they don't follow through on an agreement or accomplish a goal? Do you have that tendency at times?

In today's bonus episode I'm sharing with you why, of all the things you want to be unique in in life, you certainly don't want to be unique in your excuses!

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This Is What You Need To Unlock That Higher Version Of Yourself May 23, 2023

Do you feel like you're capable of more? Do you want to unlock your higher self?

I spent too many years worrying about the idea of "figuring out my purpose", and all the stressing led to nothing more than a headache.

The question of "What is my purpose?" was not leading me anywhere satisfying, yet I didn't know what other questions to ask.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different approach to figuring out your Big Why, and I give you the ingredients that I used to crystalize my Big Why into something that I could put to use in my life.

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The Habit That's Making You Miserable (And Why The Experts Are Missing The Point) May 17, 2023

Can you think of one destructive habit that a significant amount of people do every day (and night) that is contributing to their stress, burnout and misery?

I can!

I won't make you listen to the whole episode to learn that the habit I'm talking about is using your cell phone first thing in the morning.

You've probably heard the experts talk about this habit and how it creates distraction, contributes to poor sleep, and perpetuates your technology addiction.

They aren't wrong, yet there's a bigger point that these experts are not talking about.

In today's episode I'm explaining exactly why cell phone use in the mornings and at night is such a ruinous habit, and helping you to see the patterns that are at play which are keeping you miserable and preventing you from having it all.

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Bare-Bones Self-Care Habits You Need In 2020 and Beyond (HIA Classic) May 10, 2023

Are you feeling like life has you struggling in all sorts of ways, and you just need to get back to some self-care basics?

If you've been feeling stressed, overwhelmed or imbalanced throughout the year, and your self-care routine has taken a back seat to life's never-ending demands, then tune in because I have a simple approach for you.

In today's episode I'm breaking down "bare-bones self-care" habits that can quickly and easily be incorporated into even the busiest schedule.

I'm not here to remind you of the importance of taking care of yourself. Rather, today I simply want to help you get to just bare-bones. If you don't have any other self-care routine, then this is one to adopt. These habits are super simple, some take seconds to perform and can be done virtually anywhere. But adding them into your life can be a game changer.

So get ready to take a baby step towards your health!

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How To Go From Feeling Lost & Uncertain To Having Direction & Clarity May 02, 2023

Are you struggling right now because you feel lost and uncertain about your life? Do you wish more than anything to have a sense of direction, clarity and purpose, but you have no idea how to achieve it?

Despite all of that sounding like the pitch in a corny informercial, those feelings are REAL and so many people struggle with feeling lost and uncertain in their lives.

That was me for many, many years.

I created a ton of anxiety, worry and stress around not knowing what I should be doing with my life and not feeling like I had clarity and a sense of purpose. And I exacerbated those feelings with how I chose to address it: by numbing out with my vices.

But today is a whole different story. I wake up each morning crystal clear on what I'm here to do. I move through life with purpose, with direction and with conviction. I am confident in who I am and what I'm here to do, and all of that came as a result of following a few specific steps.

In today's episode I'm discussing why you feel so lost and uncertain, what NOT to do when you don't have a sense of direction, and how you can finally arrive at a feeling of purpose and clarity.

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Learn about the YourDay Balance Game coaching program (enter your info to watch the video)

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How To W.A.T.C.H. Yourself Reduce Stress, Become Proactive and Take Control Of Your Life Apr 27, 2023

Were you aware that you have innate gifts that, when cultivated and used intentionally, will help you reduce stress, become proactive and take control of your life?

Yes!

These gifts are inside of you, you've had them since you were born. But if you've never activated them and used them intentionally, then you will continue to feel like you are at the whim on life's circumstances, doomed to experience overwhelming stress and anxiety, and feel powerless to do anything about it.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you the five gifts that are represented by the acronym W.A.T.C.H., and I teach you how these gifts works as well as how you can practice using them in your life today.

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Resentment, Holding Space and Digital Detoxing: Answers To Your Listener Questions Apr 18, 2023

Do you hold resentment towards someone?

Do you utilize the power of "possibility" to create new results in your life?

Do you have a healthy relationship towards devices, technology and social media?

In today's episode I'm answer three of your pressing questions, and giving some real time feedback on situations and topics that affect us all.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Doomscrolling Is Eating Away Your Happiness, Peace And Mental Health - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/doomscrolling-is-eating-away-your-happiness-peace-and-mental-health/

YDBG "Trust Account" app

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How Can I Overcome Feelings Of Victimhood And Powerlessness? Apr 11, 2023

Have you been asking yourself "How can I overcome feelings of victimhood and powerlessness?"

It's very common to find yourself in a situation where you feel like a victim and where you feel powerless to do anything about it.

The uncomfortable truth is that having it all and living your abundant loving life has several pre-requisites: you must be willing to take full responsibility for your life and you must adopt a proactive way of approaching life.

These things don't jive with being a victim that feels powerless.

In today's episode I'm breaking down the reasons why you're feeling like a powerless victim, and I'm giving you very clear and very feasible steps towards taking back control of your life.

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Less Is More: The Tools You Need To Manage Stress and Anxiety May Be Right Under Your Nose Apr 05, 2023

Do you feel like you're in need of more effective ways to manage stress, worry and anxiety? Are you searching for more tools to add to your arsenal?

The truth is that you most likely already have tools at your disposal to deal with the challenges that life throws your way, you just aren't using them to their full potential.

In this episode, we will explore the different tools that are available to help you manage your stress, worry and anxiety, and I will give you some tips on how you can build habits that you can rely on when the pressure of life builds up.

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The YourDay Balance Game App:

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Do You Eat Other People's Emotional Garbage? (HIA Classic) Mar 29, 2023

Do you have a tendency to take things personally?

Be honest with yourself.

In the book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz has this amazing description of taking things personally, he calls it "eating emotional garbage".

"You eat all their emotional garbage, and now it becomes your garbage".

In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I remind you to not take things personally and help create a different context around the garbage others try and feed you.

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The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz - https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

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You Must Ask Better Questions! Why Successful People Never Ask THESE Questions (And What They Do Instead) Mar 22, 2023

What is one key area that separates successful people from those who routinely fail to reach their potential?

Well if you read the title of this episode then you know it has to do with the QUESTIONS that successful people ask themselves.

In today's episode I'm explaining to you precisely why the questions you're asking yourself may very well be what's keeping you stuck, and I'm helping you broaden your mind so that you can get on the path to bigger and better results in your life.

Resources from this episode:

8 Habits That Changed My Life (Struthless YouTube Channel) -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gv22NkA8viE&t=535s

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7 Life Lessons On Health, Sex and Character From The Trust Challenge Mar 16, 2023

In today's episode I'm sharing with you 7 lessons and takeaways from the most recent Trust Challenge. These 7 lessons are common threads that come up again and again in my coaching work, and I'm going over them with you today so that you can avoid the pitfalls that leave you feeling hopeless, powerless and victimized.

Resources from this episode:

Sign up for the Trust Challenge: https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/
Having It A.L.L. episodes about your "sexual story":
Let's Talk About Sex: Understanding Your Sexual Story - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/lets-talk-about-sex-understanding-your-sexual-story/
Let's Talk About Sex: The Impact Of Your First Sexual Experience - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/lets-talk-about-sex-your-first-sexual-experience/
Let's Talk About Sex: Figuring Out What You Like In The Bedroom and Expressing Yourself Sexually - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/lets-talk-about-sex-figuring-out-what-you-like-in-the-bedroom-and-expressing-yourself-sexually/
Let's Talk About Sex: The #1 Reason Why You Aren’t Having Your Sexual Breakthrough - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/lets-talk-about-sex-the-1-reason-why-you-arent-having-your-sexual-breakthrough/
What Is The Goal Of Sex In Your Relationship And Life? - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/what-is-the-goal-of-sex-in-your-relationships-and-life/
Power vs Force by David R. Hawkins: https://www.amazon.com/Power-Force-David-Hawkins-M-D/dp/1401945074
7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey: https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/0743269519

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The Secret To Boosting Your Confidence And Keeping It High (It May Not Be What You Think) (HIA Classic) Mar 07, 2023

How high is your trust in yourself?

You may or may not be able to answer that question easily. But I bet you have an answer for this one - how confident are you?

The link between confidence and trust is so incredibly strong, yet we don't usually think of those two things as related.

Today I'm shining light on why confidence and trust go hand in hand, and I'm giving you a pathway to experience higher levels of both in your life.

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How To Overcome Codependency By Becoming Your #1 Investor Mar 01, 2023

How do you overcome codependency? And what does it even mean to be codependent?

The reality is that many relationships end up in codependency. That happens when your ability to count on yourself is very low, and so you turn to others for your security, guidance, love, acceptance, joy or power.

Because codependency results from having low trust in yourself, the solution to it often lies in building a greater sense of self trust and self worth.

That's where becoming your #1 investor comes in!

In today's episode I will show you the connection between codependency and your self trust, and I'll teach you how to turn your life around by becoming your #1 investor.

Resources from this episode:

Sign up for the Trust Challenge: https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/
11 Signs Of Low Self Esteem: https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-of-low-self-esteem-5185978

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Having It A.L.L. Announcements and A Brand New Trust Challenge in 2023! Feb 22, 2023

What's new with Having It A.L.L.? And when is the next Trust Challenge??

These are some questions I've received recently, and in today's episode I'm answering them!

Today I'm sharing with you some announcements from Having It A.L.L., including the return of one of the HIA community's favorite experiences: The Trust Challenge!

Resources from this episode:

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How To Love Deeply In Your 3 Most Important Relationships Feb 14, 2023

What does it really mean to love someone deeply?

We've all heard that "love is a verb", but when you attempt to put that into practice and have the goal of loving deeply, how is it done?

In today's episode I answer the question "what does it look like to love deeply?", and we focus the answer on the three most important relationships in your life.

Resources from this episode:

The Love Languages Quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/
The Odds Of You Being Alive Infographic from Business Insider: https://www.businessinsider.com/infographic-the-odds-of-being-alive-2012-6

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The Rule Of Thirds and How To Handle Crappy Days | Insights from Alexi Pappas and Robin Sharma Feb 07, 2023

How do you handle the ups and downs of life?

For many people, experiencing down moments is something to fret about. No one enjoys feeling down, but the way you relate to those moments (and what you do as a result) has such a tremendous impact on the direction your life goes.

In today's episode I'm talking about a few concepts that will help you ride the inevitable waves of life, and I'm bringing insights from Alexi Pappas and Robin Sharma to help you show up powerfully in the face of inevitable adversity.

Resources from this episode:

Alexi Pappas interview on Rich Roll Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ni5n8mRe9p0
Robin Sharma video on "How to Stay Positive on a Bad Day": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Muk9-0huE60

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Your Approach To Creating Change Is What's Keeping You Stuck | Advice From James Clear Jan 31, 2023

When you desire to create change in your life, how effective is your approach?

You'll know whether your approach is effective if you have a strong track record of making changes and reaching your goals!

For the vast majority of people who are not as successful with making change, your issue may just be with your approach and not your discipline, execution or willpower.

In today's episode I'm sharing insights from James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, on a more effective approach to make changes in your life. If you've struggled with making changes, and if you are feeling stuck in your currently ability to reach your goals, then this is an episode you don't want to miss.

Resources from this episode:

Interview with James Clear on The Drive podcast with Peter Attia:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ROV36xBFD20
Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://jamesclear.com/books

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Our Biggest Sexual Insecurities And How To Get Over Them with Kyla Sokol-Ward (HIA Classic) Jan 25, 2023

So, let’s get real personal for a second: what are your biggest bedroom insecurities? What are those thoughts, stories and emotions that you bring into the bedroom that create nervousness, anxiety, or fear?

Yeah, I went there.

Why am I asking this question? Because talking about our bedroom insecurities is incredibly important, yet we rarely ever do it.

Sometimes we may share a few things here and there to our closest friends (if you’re like me then that’s even off the table), but rarely do we sit down and have raw and honest conversations about what makes us most sexually insecure.

Today we’re having that conversation.

On today’s episode I’m talking once again with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward. We’re sharing our biggest bedroom insecurities, talking about why opening up is important, and giving you real action steps that you can take to dissolve your bedroom fears.

This is Kyla’s second time on the podcast. In our first conversation we talked about sexual energy, and you can listen to that episode below:

Resources from this episode:

Kyla's website - http://www.kylasw.com/
My first conversation with Kyla - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/exploring-sexual-energy-what-our-relationship-with-sex-reveals-about-ourselves-with-kyla-sokoll-ward/

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What Years Of Inconsistency Have Taught Me About Follow Through And Keeping My Commitments (HIA Classic) Jan 18, 2023

Do you feel you lack consistency in some important areas?

One of the biggest challenges that people share with me is their lack of consistency. Sometimes it sounds like "I never follow through", or "I lack dedication", or "I don't have perseverance when times get tough". All of those shortcomings live under the umbrella of consistency, and it's a real challenge that robs the joyful life experience for so many.

It did for me for many years. For most of my life I would never consider myself consistent, not in the areas that mattered most anyway. I could always find examples where I started something and stopped, where I wanted to do something and got all excited for a short period of time, then inevitably fell off. It seemed to happen again and again.

But there were two moments in my life that taught me some powerful lessons in consistency, that changed everything for me.

In today's episode I talk about what I've learned about my own lack of consistency and what those two examples taught me that has transformed me into the consistent, dependable, trust-worthy person I am today.

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5 Expert Rules To Make Goal Setting More Effective, Realistic and Fun Jan 10, 2023

Do you want this year to be different so badly, but secretly you fear that you'll fail at reaching any of your goals or desires?

I know what that feeling is like. To desire something, to see it in you mind's eye, and to get excited about the idea of putting it as a goal on paper. Only to have that tiny voice in the back of your mind telling you "C'mon, let's be honest, you're not going to be able to do it". It's deflating and makes the idea of creating change in your life feel improbable, if not completely impossible.

But what if I told you that, with a few simple shifts in how you're approaching goal setting and dreaming about your life, that you could actually FEEL different internally and CREATE some true change in your life!

In today's episode I'm bringing you tips from 5 experts who know a few things about achieving goals and creating change. By the end of this episode you'll feel prepared to take on the task of setting better goals for yourself, and actually making progress towards achieving them!

Resources from this episode:

Word For The Year episode - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/how-to-create-your-word-for-the-year-and-have-it-all-in-2023/
Day Adeogba - https://theydbg.com/
Rich Roll - https://www.richroll.com/
Chad Wright - https://3of7project.com/
Mel Robbins - https://www.melrobbins.com/

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How To Create Your Word For The Year And Have It All In 2023! Jan 03, 2023

Have you created your Word For The Year yet?

The "Word For The Year" is an annual tradition at Having It A.L.L.. We kick off each year with a powerful word or phrase that will provide focus, clarity and inspiration throughout the year, helping you to create real change in your life from the inside out.

New Year's Resolutions focus on the DOING, while Word For The Year focuses on the BEING (and that's where your best results will come from).

In today's episode I'm walking you through the 6 simple steps to creating your word for the year, and teaching you how to use this tool to make a big impact in 2023.

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The #1 Reason You Fail At New Years Resolutions (HIA Classic) Dec 28, 2022

How effective are you at keeping your New Year's Resolutions?

Today we're talking about new year resolutions and why so many of us fail at keeping them going throughout the year.

I look at the statistics behind new years resolution failure, the most common resolutions set each year, and explore some reasons why they fail and tips to avoid failure. I also share an interesting psychological angle into why we don't succeed with our resolutions. But all of this is overshadowed by the #1 reason why we fail to accomplish our new years resolutions, which I share at the end!

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Some Big News PLUS 5 Tools For Letting Go Dec 20, 2022

Do you struggle with letting go?

Me too!

It's been one of my biggest and most recurring challenges over the years, and it shows itself in so many different areas.

In today's special episode I'm sharing some exciting news with you, along with 5 simple tools that I've been using to help me LET GO and create more presence and peace in my life.

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Why Being Family Centered Leads To Pain (HIA Classic) Dec 13, 2022

What does family mean to you? Better yet, what does family FEEL like to you?

In today's episode we explore the idea of family. We look at what happens when we are family centered (that means we get our sense of security, wisdom, guidance and power from the people in our family and from our family reputation), and I talk about my experience of moving from a family center to something that better helped me to "have it all".

Resources from this episode:

The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey - https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/0743269519

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You Are What You Believe (HIA Classic) Dec 07, 2022

What beliefs are you currently holding that is robbing you of your health, happiness, and power?

Today I'm talking about the power (and consequences) of your beliefs. Your internal conversations and the beliefs associated with them are something you rep more than any workout.

So what beliefs have you been strengthening?

Resources from this episode:

Alexi Panos Instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/BsnwZP0l1ng/

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How I'm Using Visualization To Literally Reprogram My Life (HIA Classic) Nov 30, 2022

Are you familiar with visualization?

It's a technique that world class athletes and high achievers of all types, use to literally put themselves into a higher state of being, mentally and emotionally. Visualization helps these individuals live into their greatest selves.

And it can do the same for you as well!

I practice visualization techniques regularly, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you what the practice is all about, how it's done, and why I absolutely feel it's a powerful pathway to reprogramming your subconscious to live your best life.

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It's Time To Kill Work-Life Balance And Replace It With Something More Effective, Sustainable and Enjoyable (HIA Classic) Nov 22, 2022

Do you feel you have work-life balance? Or are you one of the millions of people who are feeling out of balance because they've been using this old context to look at their lives?

If you are, don't stress out. I was too.

But I've realized that this concept of work-life balance does so much more harm than good, and actually results in a very ineffective way of looking at our lives.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different perspective for looking at how you can balance out the important things in your life. This perspective is one that I practice and teach all of my clients, and if you give it a try it will change your life!

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How Gratitude Improves Your Productivity - Practical Benefits To Creating A Gratitude Habit In Your Life (HIA Classic) Nov 16, 2022

What role does gratitude play in your life?

In today's episode I'm talking about how gratitude can improve your productivity. There are very practical benefits to creating a gratitude practice, that honestly, until recently I was unaware of. But after reading an article by my good friend, Garland Vance (www.GarlandVance.com), I now have greater awareness around the role gratitude can play in our lives.

Tune in and I'll share the three ways that gratitude improves productivity, as well as one powerful way gratitude helps you deal with challenging circumstances. I also share my personal gratitude practice, which is about as simple as it gets.

Resources from this episode:

Garland's article "Why you should practice gratitude all year long" - http://www.garlandvance.com/why-you-should-practice-gratitude-all-year-long/

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Mind-Body Connection: How Labels & Fears Can Impact Our Health (HIA Classic) Nov 09, 2022

Are you familiar with the mind-body connection?

Every person needs to understand the physical impact of their thoughts and beliefs. If you're not being intentional about this right now, then the chances are great that your self-talk is taking a toll on your physical health.

In today's episode I talk about the mind-body connection, particularly as it relates to the labels we wear on about ourselves.

Resources from this episode:

Chopra center article: https://chopra.com/articles/mind-body-connection-understanding-the-psycho-emotional-roots-of-disease

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The Key To Building Real Self Confidence Nov 02, 2022

How do you build lasting self confidence?

I struggled with self confidence for a very long time. For years I operated with low self confidence and low self esteem, not having a clue as to how I could build them up. But as I found more personal development resources, I started reading books, watching lectures and listening to podcasts on the topic of "building self confidence". I became very well versed in what the experts had to say on the topic, yet none of that ACTUALLY helped me become more confident. The main reason wasn't because I failed to apply the lessons (although many times I did), the issue was that I didn't understand the groundwork of what self confidence is built upon.

In today's episode I bring to you some wisdom on self confidence that will help you - no matter how low your confidence is - take steps forward in developing real, lasting confidence with yourself.

This is no quick fix, but rather concrete insight from years of personal study, as well as thousands of hours coaching others on building their confidence. By the end of this episode you'll understand your missteps more clearly, and you will know how to walk the path of building real self confidence.

Resources from this episode:

Instagram post from Lewis Howes that inspired this topic: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cj_GwKDM99r/
Trust Account (aka Balance Chart) app from YourDay Balance Game: https://theydbg.com/
Take your free Codependency Test and get your score!: https://theydbg.com/codependency-test-tp/

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What To Do If You Struggle With Consistency (HIA Classic) Oct 26, 2022

Do you struggle with staying consistent?

You know the feeling. You start something, feel great for a while, then seemingly inevitably you fall off and quit. At that point the self doubt convos enter, the "I knew you couldn't do it!" self talk enters. All that stuff.

In today's episode I'm giving you some simple tips for helping you be more consistent in life.

Resources from this episode:

"How To Develop Grit So You Can Do The Things You Don't Want To Do" - https://youtu.be/Ph0BLJPbsD8

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How I Manage A Busy Life While Keeping Overwhelm At Bay (HIA Classic) Oct 19, 2022

How do you juggle all the different roles and responsibilities that you have?

That question was asked to me recently by a listener and client, and I think it's in such alignment with everything that we talk about on this podcast. A major part of living your abundant loving life is being able to experience peace, joy and flow in the midst of the life you've created.

It's not about how many balls you're trying to keep up in the air, it's about how effective you are and how much you're enjoying the experience.

In today's episode I share with you the mindsets, tools and personal practices that grant me the ability to peacefully and joyfully juggle many roles and responsibilities, while keeping overwhelm and imbalance at bay.

Resources from this episode:

Balance Chart app from the YourDay Balance Game: https://theydbg.com/

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Why I Embrace P.A.I.N. (And Why It's Important You Start Doing It Too!) (HIA Classic) Oct 11, 2022

When pain hits you, do you lean into it or run from it?

I used to be the person that ran from pain. Any type of pain, from physical to emotional, I wanted nothing to do with it!

And it made perfect sense to me: pain did not feel good, and so why would I want to experience something that didn't feel good?

Today I have an entirely different perspective towards PAIN. In fact, I embrace and love pain today, and doing so has been a critical step in my personal growth and healing journey.

Tune in as I give you a new way to look at PAIN and show you why leaning into pain will free you from your fears.

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Codependency: The Silent Killer Of Your Self-Worth And Relationships Oct 05, 2022

What is codependency?

As you read that question above, you probably have an idea of what codependency is in your mind. Most people can spot signs of codependent behavior when they see it in others, but fail to notice it in their own lives.

The truth about codependency is that it's much more prevalent, damaging and insidious than you might imagine, and in fact it's at the root of many of the biggest challenges that people face day-to-day.

Today's episode is the first part of a series that addresses codependency and how it shows up in our lives. In this conversation, I begin with the basics of codependency and share with you what it is, what it looks like, and how you can start overcoming it.

As you will see, codependency is not just something that happens to other people "out there", it's something that might be wreaking havoc on your most important personal relationships.

Resources from this episode:

Codependency Test - https://0bun98ovlt6.typeform.com/to/Fy2FnfnC
YourDay Balance Game YouTube channel - https://www.youtube.com/user/YourDayBalanceGame/videos

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QUICK FIX: Learn To Love Life's Hardships (HIA Classic) Sep 27, 2022

In today's quick fix I let you know why you need to learn to love and get excited about life's hardships

--- Rough episode transcript ---

If you’re listening to this podcast then I know that you’re into improving yourself and truly stepping into your greatness, and I can bet that you’ve been practicing. Maybe it’s meditating or journaling or being grateful or facing your fears or practicing humility. Whatever it is, this message for you.

WHEN STUFF HITS THE FAN IN LIFE, WHICH HAPPENS AND WILL NEVER STOP HAPPENING UNTIL YOU’RE DEAD, YOU NEED TO BE PSYCHED ABOUT IT!

Hear me out.

You’ve been doing all of these things to improve yourself.

You’ve been finding your strength, uncovering your gifts, revealing your mission and purpose.

You’ve been practicing getting organized and being compassionate and having courage.

You’ve been listening to podcasts and reading books and attending retreats and buying courses.

All of these things have been your training, and none of it matters when life is going smoothly. When life is great and everything is working out in your favor and the tides are rising, you’re not asked to be courageous and humble and intelligent and mature.

It’s only when things go south, when life smacks you in the face with circumstances, that your training is put to the test.

So, you have to start relating to life’s circumstances as GAME TIME!

Seriously.

When you create a fender bender on the way to work, or your kitchen floods, or your kid does something dumb and gets arrested, or your baby won’t stop crying, or your partner is withholding love — THAT is when you will really get a chance to see how far you’ve come. It’s in those moments that all the reps you’ve put in reading and meditating and working on yourself matter.

Because when you’re able to respond differently to a situation that you’ve responded to the same way your whole life, you’ve just won and you’ve stepped your game up just a little bit.

So get excited when things go south, because it’s in these moments when you actually have an opportunity to grow.

As I say all the time, HAVING IT ALL is about your relationship to life and what it serves up, so next time you’re presented with a circumstance that sucks, remember that’s it’s an opportunity to grow into a greater version of yourself.

That’s it for today.

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Now Is NOT The Time To Be Slacking On Your Exercise, And Here's Why (HIA Classic) Sep 21, 2022

Have you given yourself permission to slack on your exercise and overall physical health?

I get it, we're in the middle of a global circumstance that can be used as a great excuse to not exercise and neglect your health. But the ripple effects of doing so are far reaching, and you may be underestimating how detrimental it can be for your overall health & wellbeing if you've been putting physical exercise on the back-burner.

In today's conversation I'm illuminating the 5 key areas of your health - physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and social - and I'm showing you how they are all connected. Now is not the time to take your foot off the health gas. Especially if you're afraid for your physical health, now is the time to do MORE exercising, MORE clean eating and MORE healthy social connecting.

Resources from this episode:

Grab a copy of The Legend Of The Curl Girl on Amazon
Dasha Shaw aka "The Hair Doula" on Instagram @thehairdoula

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The Morning And Nighttime Routines That Help Me Win At Life (HIA Classic) Sep 14, 2022

How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day?

Here's the truth, there are people out there living incredibly fulfilling lives, they HAVE IT ALL, the Big S Success, and you can bet that it's not by accident.

The way you start your day and the way you end your day have a HUGE impact on not only what happens during the course of your day, but also how you feel about yourself and your life. A winning morning and nighttime routine doesn't have to be long and complicated and rigid, but it does need to be intentional.

In today's episode I share with you the very specific habits and routines I use in the morning and evening to set myself up for success each day.

Resources from this episode:

Episode on my Mission Statement - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/my-personal-mission-statement-why-knowing-what-youre-playing-for-will-change-your-life/
Balance Chart App - https://www.theydbg.com/
Headspace - https://www.headspace.com/
Evernote - https://evernote.com/

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The Key To Living A Life Of Purpose And Meaning Sep 07, 2022

Do you feel your life lacks purpose and meaning?

Many people (if not most) are on a journey to find purpose and meaning in their lives. And truthfully, many will never find what they're looking for....because they're looking in the wrong places.

On today's episode I'm sharing with you the key to living a life of purpose and meaning, and I'm revealing why so many people struggle in this area DESPITE having a strong desire to create a life they love living.

By the end of the episode you'll know exactly where you need to focus your energy to discover meaning and purpose in your own life.

Resources from this episode:

Regrets of the dying by Bronnie Ware - https://bronnieware.com/blog/regrets-of-the-dying/

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When Asking For Help Is Hard - A Simple Way To Practice Asking For And Receiving Help (HIA Classic) Aug 31, 2022

Do you struggle with asking for help or accepting help when it's offered to you?

For me, asking for help has been a challenge since I was young. I don't really know when I started to feel like I needed to take care of things on my own, but that belief follows me to this day.

In this episode I'm sharing with you a few common examples of when the universe places people or things in our path that are there to help us.

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Achieve Your Highest Dreams By Looking At Your Standards (HIA Classic) Aug 24, 2022

What if the path to achieving your highest dreams wasn't in the clarity of your vision, but in the standards you hold for yourself?

Todays episode explores the idea that, "We become our lowest standard, not our highest dream." I unpack this statement and give you action steps for raising your standards so that you can have it all!

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Why You're Failing to Tap Into Your Full Creative Potential and How to Actually Do Something About It! (HIA Classic) Aug 16, 2022

“We are all creators. Whether or not we create is not up to us. We are human, and creating is what we do.” - Michael Gungor

You are a creator! Yes, you. Whether you not you believe it is irrelevant, because like Michael Gungor said, “We are human and creating is what we do.”

In every role we play in life -- parent, spouse, friend, lover, community member, coach -- we create experiences and meaning.

Today’s episode is an exercise in creation. I followed the advice of a friend and fellow podcaster, and recorded this episode with no notes and no script. Every part of this episode was created organically, on the spot.

I did that because i wanted to exercise my muscles of creation, and what resulted was a powerful reflection on creativity, the creative process, and tapping into our creative potential.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

What happens when we fail to acknowledge our creativity (especially when we praise it in others)
How creativity ties into our gifts, talents and passions, and the difference of each of those
How to tap into your full creative potential

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What Is Your Joy-to-Sadness Ratio? (HIA Classic) Aug 10, 2022

If you looked at your average day, how much of it do you spend in a state of Joy vs Sadness?

My coach and mentor Day Adeogba shared with me a conversation he had with his kids recently, where he asked them "What do you think your Joy:Sadness ratio is?" That idea of a Joy:Sadness ratio totally fascinated me, and inspired me to think about it for myself....which of course led to this podcast episode!

Tune in to hear about the Joy:Sadness ratio, how you can determine your goal Joy:Sadness ratio, and what you can do to experience the amount of Joy you desire in life.

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7 Self Love Practices I Do Everyday (And 3 I Stopped Doing Altogether) Aug 03, 2022

How do you practice self love on a daily basis?

In today's episode I'm sharing with you 7 ways that I practice self love every single day. I'm breaking down the simple habits and practices that keep my tank full and provide a spark in my life. And I'm also sharing with you 3 habits that I STOPPED doing because they didn't support or honor me.

My intention is that this episode gets you to examine your self love practices and inspires you to level up how you love on yourself.

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Change Your Life Series: Why Is Change So Frustrating? (HIA Classic) Jul 27, 2022

Why is change so frustrating?

You'd think it wouldn't be so difficult to change something that you REALLY want to change. I know in the past I've been incredibly hard on myself for "not having the willpower" or "not wanting it enough" or "not being disciplined enough", when I failed to make change happen in my life.

But what I told you there were crucial pieces of the change equation that you were missing? Ones that illuminate why change is so hard, and how to actually make it work for you.

In today's podcast I get into the psychology behind making meaningful changes in your life, and I help you demystify this area that causes frustration in so many people.

I drew inspiration for this episode from a conversation I heard on The Life Coach School Podcast -- https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcast/1/

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Let's Talk About Sex: Understanding Your Sexual Story (HIA Classic) Jul 20, 2022

What is your sexual story?

No, I'm not talking about a romance novel type of story. I'm talking about the narrative you have around sex, the one that was started many years ago with your very first encounters with the ideas, feelings and attitudes around sex.

We all have a sexual story that was started when we were young and is being added to constantly. Many people's stories around sex are based in shame, judgement, embarrassment and expectation. That leads to sexual experiences and feelings that are unhealthy and certainly don't uplift and heal.

But it doesn't have to be that way! You can rewrite your sexual story, heal those sexual wounds you carry, and create an entirely new sexual experience for yourself that's based in love, feels authentic, and full of genuine connection.

Today I'm kicking off a series about sex which will help you transform your views on sex, from the inside out.

If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can do so by emailing me at matthew@matthewbivens.com

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The Balance Between Being A Leader And A Follower (And Why It's Important To Know Your Ratio) Jul 13, 2022

Are you more of a leader or a follower?

You might think that one of these roles is better or more preferred than the other. However, the truth is that it's your ability to balance between the two that will lead to your greatest success, and your goal is to understand your leadership-to-followership ratio.

In today's episode I help you rescript what it means to be a great leader and follower, and I give you the tools to create a greater balance between your inner leader and follower!

Resources from this episode:

YourDay Balance Game website: https://theydbg.com/

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What Does It Really Mean To Be An "Involved Dad"? (HIA Classic) Jul 06, 2022

How would you describe what being an "involved dad" is? And, if you're a father, would you currently consider yourself an "involved dad"?

This idea came up in a conversation Sarah and I were having on our other podcast, Doing It At Home, and I was clear that discussing fatherhood and what it looks like to show up powerfully as a dad was something to bring to Having It A.L.L..

Join me as I dive into what it really means to be an "involved dad" and why that label itself carries with it some controversy.

Resources from this episode:

Study Explains What It Means To Be An "Involved Father" - https://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2010/07/what-does-it-mean-to-be-an-involved-father/
The Involved Dad - https://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/the-involved-father/
Say Good Bye To The Involved Dad - https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/11/11/say-good-bye-to-the-involved-dad/

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Doomscrolling: What It Is, Why You Need To Know, And How It's Eating Away Your Happiness (HIA Classic) Jun 28, 2022

Have you ever found yourself up late at night, scrolling through social media, feeling worse and worse with every thumb flick, but unable to break away?

That my friend is known as "doomscrolling" and it's robbing you of your happiness, peace and mental health.

Doomscrolling is when you find yourself deep into an internet or social media hole, looking at posts and stories that leave you feeling anxious, depressed, hopeless, angry, disheartened, but you just cannot seem to break away. You scroll and scroll and scroll, knowing in the back of your mind that nothing productive or healthy is coming from it, but you feel unable to close the app and put your phone away. Doomscrolling has been going up in recent years, and as a result mental health and emotional health has taken a huge hit.

In today's episode I talk about Doomscrolling, break down why we do it, and give you some expert advice on how you can break the cycle and reclaim your health!

Struggling with Doomscrolling? I can help you. Learn about my coaching programs at www.matthewbivens.com/coaching, or email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com. My programs are designed to help you break bad habits, form new healthy ones, and reclaim your happiness!

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NOW Is The Time To Start Prioritizing Your Health (HIA Classic) Jun 21, 2022

Where does your personal health rank on your list of priorities?

Probably not at the top. Well, as you can guess from this title of this episode, I'm making a strong case for why you MUST begin to push your health to the top of your list. And I'm talking right now! Not next month, next quarter, over the summer. NOW!

And yes I do mean priority. Your health should be the first thing you're thinking about each day, before your kids your spouse your job your co-wokers, all of that.

I'm going to break down why your health needs to be priority, what exactly I mean by "Health", and give you clear steps to start making meaningful strides in your health right now.

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The 6 F's - HIA Framework Part 3 (HIA Classic) Jun 14, 2022

How do you know whether or not you "have it all" in your life?

One of my goals for you is that you move closer towards your definition of "having it all", and to do that you need to have an objective way of assessing whether you currently have it all. That's where the 6 F's come in!

Today's episode is part of a series I did where I breakdown the meaning of "Having It A.L.L." (particularly the A.L.L. acronym). In today's conversation I'm sharing with you the 6 key areas of life that are an integral part of the Having It A.L.L. Framework, the 6 F's: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun. In the episode you'll hear my definition of each of those areas, how they impact your life, and things you can do to improve or increase any of those 6 areas so that you can get closer to truly "having it all".

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The Hero's Journey: A Roadmap To Unlocking Your Greatest Potential Jun 08, 2022

What is the Hero's Journey and how does it apply to your life?

Patterns exist in our world, and those who learn how to read those patterns effectively can better navigate the ups and downs of life. The Hero's Journey is a story template (aka pattern) that is found in separate cultures all over the world, and can be seen in great works of literature and cinema.

But the framework of the Hero's Journey isn't just for entertainment! In fact, the Hero's Journey very accurately describes YOUR journey of overcoming your fears and limiting beliefs to become the best version of yourself!

In today's episode I'm breaking down the Hero's Journey, walking you through each of the 12 stages, and relating it back to your personal journey as you move from the background player of your story, to the Hero standing front and center!

Grab the free PDF that goes along with this episode at www.matthewbivens.com/hero.

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Is 2022 Not Turning Out The Way You Thought It Would? This Might Be The Reason Why... Jun 01, 2022

As we head towards the midway point of 2022, how are things shaping up? Have you made noticeable progress on achieving your goals, solving your problems or realizing your vision for the year? Or are you facing the tough reality that things haven't changed much since the beginning of the year?

There are patterns of effectiveness that can lead you to new results. Whether is a problem you wish to solve, a goal you want to accomplish, or a dream you desire to manifest -- the broad steps to getting there are the same. And once you know those steps you can use that knowledge to your advantage!

In today's bonus episode I'm talking about a huge reason why you might not be seeing the results you wanted by now, and I'm helping you get out of the rut before it's too late.

Resources from this episode:

Mel Robbins video - https://youtu.be/XZMCT30PHFU
Tracey Knight website - https://www.iamtraceyknight.com/

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7 Ways To Be More Bold When You’re Afraid Of Taking Risks (HIA Classic) May 25, 2022

Does the idea of taking risks scare the mess out of you?

I know it did for me, and for much of my life I was completely risk averse. But thankfully I grew to realize that everything I wanted -- a fulfilling career, a deep and loving relationship, healthy and vitality -- all could be mine if I was willing to take the necessary risks, and I started pushing my comfort zones.

And the beautiful thing is that it's a learned behavior, something that ANYONE can improve.

In today's episode I help you become more bold when you're afraid of taking risks, and I break down simple things you can do and think about that will get you moving in the direction of your abundant loving life.

Resources from this episode:

Take A Risk: The Odds Are Better Than You Think - https://www.forbes.com/sites/margiewarrell/2013/06/18/take-a-risk-the-odds-are-better-than-you-think/#715d993345c2
The Incredible Power Of Taking Risks In Life - https://www.thedailypositive.com/taking-risks-in-life/
Afraid Of Risks? How To Be Bolder - https://www.success.com/afraid-of-risks-how-to-be-bolder/
Why Taking Risks Is The Key To Getting What You Want - https://www.girlboss.com/life/how-to-take-more-risks
6 Ways To Be A Successful Risk Take And Take More Chances - https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/6-ways-successful-risk-taker-2.html
How To Take Intelligent Risks In The Pursuit Of Your Goals - https://blog.iqmatrix.com/intelligent-risks

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Toxic People, Negative Noise And Marriage Prep: Answering Your Life Questions Part 2 (HIA Classic) May 17, 2022

Do you have toxic people in your life? How about in your inner circle? Are there folks in your life who are constantly bringing negativity and noise into your world? And what are the things you should be reviewing and thinking about when preparing for marriage?

These are the questions I answer in today's episode of the podcast! The topics today were suggested by YOU and all have to do with OTHERS. Last week I focused on SELF, and today we're focusing on OTHERS (next week is LIFE).

I get fiery in this one, so buckle up for some real talk!

If you want to share an idea with me, reach out through my email: matthew@matthewbivens.com

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What To Do When You're Feeling Stuck! Our Story Of How We Got Unstuck After 2 Years May 10, 2022

What do you do when you're feeling stuck in life?

It's not uncommon to feel stuck at some point in life. It could be in a job that's no longer fulfilling, a relationship that has lost its intimacy, or just a general feeling of going through the motions in life.

The reasons for feeling stuck are as varied as you and I, but the solution to getting unstuck is often a few layers deeper than you might be thinking.

In today's episode I'm sharing my story of where my wife and I were stuck for 2 years, how we got unstuck, and why the way you are approaching the problem might just be making it worse.

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Getting More Out Of Life By Working Smarter, Not Harder (HIA Classic) May 03, 2022

In today's episode I'm sharing with you my tried and tested process for being more productive and feeling more fulfilled, by working smarter and not harder.

I have been somewhat obsessed with productivity and work efficiency ever since graduating college. Once I jumped into the working world and realized that I could easily eat up 12 hours of my day on menial tasks and still not feel like I had really done anything, I got to work developing a better system for myself.

I read articles and books, watched people's "life hack" tips, tried anything that seemed like it might work for me.

Many things did not work, but a few did.

Years later, I'm now in a new place in my life where being efficient and producing a lot in a short period of time is extremely important. I'm a new father to an 8 month old baby girl, I run multiple businesses from home, and I produce 2 podcasts. All of this happens from my house.

On top of that, I frequently have solo daddy-baby time while Sarah is out training clients. So my windows of free time are slim.

But that hasn't stopped me from taking on new and bigger projects, it has only encouraged me to hone a productivity system that worked for me

In this episode I'm sharing with you the system that Sarah and I currently are using to maximize our productivity in our lives. This system is very similar to the one used by John Lee Dumas -- the host and creator of Entrepreneur On Fire, and a guy who is known to publish 7 podcasts a week while running his EOFire empire (which is pretty darn large). He does all of this with a very small tea working less than 4 hours a day.

John was an early guest on this podcast, and even though we talked about productivity then, I didn't realize that our strategies to maximize our output were similar.

So check out the episode and I hope you walk away from it with some actionable tips you can put to use right away to regain time, feel more productive, and truly Have It A.L.L..

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Your Personal Growth Depends On 3 Types Of Feedback (Are You Open To Them?) (HIA Classic) Apr 27, 2022

Are you open to receiving feedback?

Feedback is an integral part of the growth and evolution process. It's one of the most important ingredients to making improvements, progressing towards your goals, and ultimately creating a life where you feel like you "have it all".

But it's also an area where many people struggle, because receiving feedback can be tough (especially to our egos). The best feedback coming from a loving, healthy source, means little to nothing if we take it personally and never do anything with the information.

In today's episode I'm sharing the three types of feedback that exist, and talk about why each one is essential for your own growth and evolution. I also dig into why you keep experiencing the same results over and over in your life.

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Excuses That Keep You From Abundance (HIA Classic) Apr 19, 2022

Are you aware of the impact of the excuses you make in your life?

Your desires, wants, goals, aspirations all move you in a certain direction in your life. Excuses pull you in the complete opposite direction. This is true for all of us (it's principle, not personal).

If you're playing for a life of abundance AND you're prone to making excuses, then buckle up because things are going to be rocky for you.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you 5 excuses that are keeping you from the abundance you desire, and showing you how to end the excuse so that you can get to living your abundant loving life!

Resources from this episode:

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Mastering Your Body Vehicle: A Deep Dive Into Improving Your Health, Fitness and Balance (HIA Classic) Apr 13, 2022

What does it mean to be healthy and fit? How healthy and fit are you right now?

I've shared a lot of different tools with you over the course of this podcast, and in today's episode I'm going to go deep into one particular tool/concept that I want you to really understand well, because your health depends on it!

I'm talking about your Body Vehicle and the 5 wheels that make up your Body Vehicle: Mental, Spiritual, Social, Emotional and Physical.

These 5 areas are what make up our health, and everyone is operating at different levels in each area. You may be operating at different levels in each area depending on what time of day it is!

The Body Vehicle is a great framework for looking at your overall health and fitness, but actually putting it to use can be tough if you don't know where to start. Today that ends because I'm going to not only break down all 5 areas, but I'm going to give you very specific habits you can perform and incorporate into your life that will help you heal and grow in each of the 5 areas. By the end of the episode you'll feel so much more equipped to begin addressing the wheels of your Body Vehicle.

Plus, I have a special offer if you're ready for the support, guidance and accountability in actually addressing your Body Vehicle so you can experience more health, fitness and balance.

Links:

Email me to talk about the Balance Chart and creating your personal Body Vehicle tool -- matthew@matthewbivens.com

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Healing My Wounded Inner Child Apr 06, 2022

What does it mean to heal your inner child?

The process of growing up into adulthood is filled with many impactful events, some empowering and others not. As children, we are experience life with little to no filter, leaving us open to experience hurts, fears, angers and traumas with an extreme level of intensity and realness. Those "wounds", when not addressed properly, carry into our adulthood and have a profound influence over our lives.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you a recent experience where I had the opportunity to look at, talk with and heal my wounded inner child.

Resources from this episode:

Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evil-deeds/200806/essential-secrets-psychotherapy-the-inner-child

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Personal Development Burnout (You Have Permission To HIT PAUSE) Mar 29, 2022

Have you experienced "personal development burnout"?

You may not know exactly what it is, but your best guess is probably not far off!

Personal development burnout is the feelings of overwhelm, guilt or obligation that can come up around the self improvement work you're doing to make empowering shifts in your life.

As you work on improving yourself and creating a life you love living, sometimes you can feel shame or judgement around being where you are. The books, courses or podcasts that are meant to help you rise up, are instead creating feelings that are weighing you down.

In today's episode I'm talking about personal development burnout and letting you know that it's okay to HIT PAUSE.

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How To Use Your Inner Genius To Get Unstuck! Mar 22, 2022

With your last major life challenge, did you seek out solutions from other people or from within yourself?

You have a vast amount of wisdom and knowledge within yourself that can be used to helping you get unstuck in life. However, you probably don't trust it right now. Most people are so used to seeking out answers from others, that they are presented with a challenge in life they toss their hands up in the air and claim they don't know how to overcome it.

I don't believe that at all, and after today's episode you won't either!

In today's conversation I'm helping you tap back into your inner genius so that you can coach yourself on overcoming your own challenges and getting yourself unstuck.

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6 Giant Life Lessons From 6 Years Of Having It A.L.L. Mar 16, 2022

What does it take to "have it all"?

That really has been the purpose of this entire podcast, hasn't it?!

Today we celebrate the podcast turning 6 years old, and it only seemed fitting to share with you 6 giant lessons from the last 6 years of Having It A.L.L.

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Answering Your Listener Questions On Big Impact Habits, Building Personal Momentum and Dealing With Criticism Mar 08, 2022

What are the habits that have created a big impact in your life? How do you keep positive momentum going when you get derailed? How do you deal with outside criticism and judgement?

These are the listener questions that I'm answering in today's episode!

Over the years you've sent in hundreds of questions for me, and today I'm taking a few of them and answering them from my perspective as both an individual working on leveling up their life, and as a personal transformation coach who has shifted many lives.

Tune in and you'll learn about:

The habits that I do regularly that have a huge impact (and how to keep from being overwhelmed while building habits)
Ways to keep feeling empowered about life and not fall into a depressed state
The difference between criticism and feedback, and how to not take the latter personally

What questions do you want answered in a podcast?

Email them to matthew@matthewbivens.com

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The Most Dangerous Part About Making Commitments Mar 01, 2022

How do you feel about making commitments? About going "all in" in life?

Making commitments is a part of success and part of turning a desire into reality. Anyone who has succeeded at anything significant has gone "all in" on themselves and on the results that they desired.

There's great payout to going "all in", but there's also great risk. The risk lies in spending too much time in the "danger zone" of commitment. In this episode I'm going to share with you the process of making commitments and going all in, and explain what the "danger zone" is and why you find yourself in it. Understanding this can free you and unlock your ability to create your abundant loving life!

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What Is The Goal Of Sex In Your Relationships And Life? (HIA Classic) Feb 22, 2022

When you think about sex, what is the goal for you? Is it to have an orgasm, or to make sure your partner has one? Is it to show your partner how much you love them and to validate your relationship? Is it something else?

For most of my life, the goal of sex was orgasm. My orgasm mostly, but at times her orgasm was my priority as well. I picked that goal up from porn, from media, from peers.

Sometimes the goal of sex for me was to fulfill the expectation (and sometimes obligation) of being "in love". It was a way to make myself feel like my relationship was mature, legitimate, and secure.

Having goals like that created some interesting beliefs about sex, myself, my partner, intimacy, love, and relationships. (and by interesting I mean unhealthy, judgmental, scarce, intimidating, self deprecating, and sexist).

But there are other goals of sex that can create a much more powerful, loving and connected experience.

In today's episode I'm diving into the goal of sex and am serving up a few alternative perspectives that can help you create a more powerful and healthy sexual experience.

It goes without saying on this one, but today's podcast is definitely explicit. So be mindful of listening around young ears.

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My #1 Piece Of Advice On Improving Your Relationships (From Personal Experience) (HIA Classic) Feb 15, 2022

How can you improve any relationship in your life?

Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from many past relationship experiences that have both improved and terminated. The advice today will totally change how you feel about your relationships and who you attract into your life.

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The Biggest Lessons I Learned From Bob Proctor Feb 08, 2022

How are the laws of vibration and attraction impacting your life RIGHT NOW?

Before being introduced to the words and works of Bob Proctor, I'd have no idea what the heck that question even meant! But today not only do I understand it, but I am very intentional about practicing it and aligning with these laws to create my Abundant Loving Life.

And this is all in large part to Bob Proctor.

On today's episode I want to take a minute to reflect on the life and lessons of Bob Proctor, who transitioned last week at the age of 87 years young. Bob Proctor's message came into my life when I was just starting to "work on myself" and became intentional about creating a better life for myself. I credit his ability to explain concepts which I was struggling to understand, for unlocking within me a way of looking at my life, my results, and my personal power.

If you do not know who Bob Proctor was then I encourage you to check out the links below and start exploring.

Much love!

Resources from this episode:

Video - How The Law Of Attraction Works -
https://youtu.be/5zvnFM2BXqY
Video - What You Don't Know About Law Of Attraction -
https://youtu.be/4KdNYA4pEAM
Proctor Gallagher Institute website - https://www.proctorgallagherinstitute.com/

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3 Things I'm Doing To Create Even More Results In 2022 (And Why You Probably Won't Do Them Yourself) Feb 01, 2022

What's holding you back from creating a greater life for yourself this year?

Well that's a loaded question, isn't it! Because if you knew what that answer was then maybe you'd feel more confident in making this your greatest year yet!

Don't worry though, because today I'm sharing with you 3 habits that I've doubled down on to create even more results for myself in 2022. AND, I'm also going to share with you the reasons why you will probably not follow me in adopting these habits as well.

My #1 goal is to help you HAVE IT ALL and create your own Abundant Loving Life. And my intention for today's episode is that you walk away feeling more confident in the tools you have at your disposal to build your dream life.

Let's do this thing!

Resources from this episode:

Mary J. Blige interview in Elle: https://www.elle.com/beauty/a38830509/mary-j-blige-the-state-of-black-beauty-super-bowl/
"Olympics 2012: Michael Phelps has mastered the psychology of speed" -
https://youtu.be/Htw780vHH0o
Mel Robbins "Why I NEVER keep my phone in my bedroom" - https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=351551332326843&_rdr

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Who Are You When No One Is Watching? (HIA Classic) Jan 25, 2022

The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these days, one could buy into the idea that self improvement is a public act.

But there's something so much more important than the things we're DOING to improve our relationship to our selves, others and life, and that's who we're BEING.

I've talked about Doing vs Being on the podcast before, but today's topic takes it a degree further. Today I'm going in on the question: Who are you when no one is watching?

So, I ask YOU -- when you're alone, in your secrecy, with no one watching and no one holding you accountable except for yourself, who are you? How do you treat yourself? What allowances do you give yourself? What language do you use to describe yourself and those around you?

The way you answer those questions reveals more about your true state of being than other more outward displays of wellness.

It's said that you have between 40,000 - 60,000 thoughts per day. If you were to categorize each as a LOVING thought or FEARFUL thought, what would your ratio be?

What you'll hear in this episode:

How my secret self was exposed recently, and the consequences of my seeing the truth
The self talk that contributes to us playing small
The costs of not doing what you say you will do

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Fix Your Leaks Jan 18, 2022

What "leaks" do you have in your life that need addressing?

As you plan out your goals and intentions for 2022, it's important to not only think about the new things you desire, but also to understand the old stuff that you need to address once and for all. These "leaks" can be tough to identify, because focusing on the immediate problem is easier than really getting to the root of what's going on.

But if you fail to identify the essence of your challenges, problems and breakdowns, then (1) they will never fully be resolved, (2) they will return in some form, and (3) you will not be able to reach the greatest heights of happiness, peace, freedom and health that you have the potential to reach.

My relationships, career and health were stuck for years because I didn't fix my leaks. But I chose to dig in, do the hard and uncomfortable work, and address the things that I had been avoiding (or completely unaware of). Those choices have led me to where I am today, and my relationships, career and health have reached levels I didn't think was possible for me.

Tune in as I share the story of my leaky basement, to help motivate you to finally address the leaks in your life.

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The 3 Step Formula To Creating Massive Results In 2022 Jan 11, 2022

What is it that you want to create for yourself and your life in 2022?

I have a tradition here on Having It A.L.L. that at the top of each year I help you create an amazing year. And in this episode I'm doing just that!

But today, we're taking things up a notch and I'm sharing with you the simple 3 step formula that you can follow to create massive results in your life in 2022. When you study the masters, you spot patterns of effectiveness and success. I'm excited to bring you a pattern of success that I've applied in my life to have it all, and I've seen at play in countless other success stories.

Get your pens and papers ready, we're about to do some work!

Resources from this episode:

Creating Your Word For The Year, 2021 Edition - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/creating-your-word-for-the-year-2021-edition/
Special LIVE Episode: Create Your Word For The Year Workshop - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/special-live-episode-create-your-word-for-the-year-workshop/
How To Discipline Your Thinking So That You Get What You Really Want In Life! Self Mastery Wisdom From Dr. Joe Dispenza, Abraham Hicks and Shi Heng Yi - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/how-to-discipline-your-thinking-so-that-you-get-what-you-really-want-in-life-self-mastery-wisdom-from-dr-joe-dispenza-abraham-hicks-and-shi-heng-yi/
Steve Harvey's message about "Ask, believe, work" - https://youtu.be/WKroVMnxnMI

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How Men Can Care For Women And Show Up Powerfully In Their Relationship (From The Holistic OBGYN Podcast) Jan 07, 2022

"What are 3 things you want the world to know about caring for women?"

My friend, Dr. Nathan Riley, asked me that question on his podcast, The Holistic OBGYN, and it sparked a really great conversation between the two of us.

I'm excited to share that full conversation with you today!

Here are links to Dr. Nathan Riley's podcast, website and Instagram:

Podcast - https://www.holisticobgynpod.com/
Website - https://www.belovedholistics.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nathanrileyobgyn/

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Relationship Misconceptions That Are Making You Unhappy with Sarah Bivens (HIA Classic) Dec 28, 2021

What are your core beliefs when it comes to relationships?

Your beliefs influence your thoughts and actions, and shape the results that you create. Hold onto a belief that's ineffective and not-so-powerful, and the result may be something that you don't like.

In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we're diving into some big relationship myths and misconceptions that we have believed that have lead to unhappiness in our relationships.

My intention with this episode is for you to be aware of the impact that your core beliefs have, and to start thinking about the beliefs that are shaping your relationships.

Fill out my coaching application and set up a free consultation call with me at matthewbivens.com/apply.

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New Years Resolutions: Why I'm Not A Fan Of Them And What I Recommend Instead (HIA Classic) Dec 21, 2021

Are you one of the 92% of people who never come close to completing their New Year's Resolutions?

As you can tell by the title, I don't like New Year's Resolutions at all. I'm all for people committing to better themselves, but the New Year's Resolutions framework is not set up for you to succeed.

In today's episode I share why I dislike New Year's Resolutions and what to do instead if you want to start off your year on a powerful note.

Now accepting applications for the 2022 HIA Personal Transformation Program

Apply today at https://www.matthewbivens.com/apply/

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My Interview On The Project UnchainED Podcast - Choosing Love Over Fear with Matthew Bivens Dec 14, 2021

Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads where you knew with all your soul that one decision was better for you than another, yet making that decision was terrifying?

I've shared various parts of my story over the 5+ years of this podcast, and there's a theme that comes up for me often: crossroads moments.

I can think to a handful of very specific, very powerful moments where the choices I made sent my life in a whole new direction.

On today's episode, I'm sharing with you an interview that I did with my good friend Ross Leppala, host of the great podcast Project UnchainED. In this conversation Ross is interviewing me, which is a great reversal of roles.

What I love about Ross is that he has his own very powerful story about a crossroads moment in his life, which propelled him down the path of spiritual and transformational self work. I won't share the details here because I really want you to go listen to Ross's podcast to hear the story (he shares it in the very first episode of Project UnchainED).

In this interview Ross and I get very open, raw and real about a lot of topics: love vs fear, sexual healing, monogamy, and more.

This was a fun conversation for me and I hope it brings up some uncomfortable things within you for you to look at and explore!

If you want to connect with Ross here's how you can do it:

Podcast: Project UnchainED
Instagram: ross.leppala
Facebook: Ross Leppala
Email: theakleprechaun@gmail.com

Announcements from me! I have 3 coaching slots opening up starting January 2022. So if you're looking to feel more purposeful, confident and clear about your life and what you want out of it, then fill out my coaching application at matthewbivens.com/coaching. You can also email me with any questions you have at matthew@matthewbivens.com.

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Overcoming Male Shame: Stories And Wisdom On How Men Can Finally Eliminate Their Shame Dec 07, 2021

What shame are you hiding?

Fellas, this episode is for you.

As a man, I've carried with me different types of shame through my life that have had a big impact on how I see the world and operate in it. I learned early on that burying my shame and pretending it wasn't there was the safest way for me to operate.

The truth is, it's not.

And for me, it took years of living in denial and robbing myself of true joy and fulfillment, that finally helped me see that.

In today's episode we're tackling a topic that lives within many men -- shame. I'm pulling from various sources here to help you understand shame, watch how it plays out in the lives of men like you, and see how other men are choosing to face it.

My intention with this episode is that it inspires you to look into those dark corners of yourself where you have been hiding your shame, and finally choose to bring it out into the light.

Do you want some support or coaching on overcoming your shame? Email me and take the next step towards eliminating shame from your life - matthew@matthewbivens.com.

Resources from this episode:

Institute Of OM - https://instituteofom.com/
Article "Shame: The Core Issue For Many Men - https://menscenter.org/shame/
Will Smith Youtube series "Best Shape Of My Life", Episode 2: My Secret Shame -
https://youtu.be/ZvYPIJT6JpM
Will Smith Youtube series "Best Shape Of My Life", Episode 4: I'm Sorry Mama - https://youtu.be/B2TlsHdpY_4
The Dad Edge Podcast interview with Lewis Howes - https://thedadedge.com/lewis-howes/

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How To Bounce Back Quickly When You're Dealing With Disappointment In Your Life (HIA Classic) Nov 30, 2021

How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered?

Disappointment is interesting. It can be focused internally on ourselves, or externally on others. But no matter where the focus is, the root of it is some sort of attachment and typically judgement. When you get swept up in the emotions around disappointment, it's easy to be carried off in the direction of disempowering emotions and thoughts. The sequence can go like this: you feel the disappointment, you start to judge or take something personally or get angry or react, which leads you to more fear based feelings and thoughts, which pulls you down further. But spotting this behavior and recognizing it at the moment of the triggering event is key to being able to rise above those feelings and stay in your power, in the face of the disappointment.

In today's episode I share with you what inspired me to jump off the couch, grab my mic, and record this very podcast!

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Being Deeply Introverted And Finding Direction In Life (HIA Classic) Nov 23, 2021

Have you ever felt completely lost in your life? Like you didn't know what you were "supposed" to do, who you should be as a person, and what your true passion was?

You can't see it, but I'm raising both hands at that!

I spent my teens and twenties in a state of confusion about all of those things. And truth be told, the fog is still lifting, as I'm constantly getting to know myself better and learning what it truly means to trust my intuition.

In today's episode I'm sharing the mic with Paul Colaianni - personal empowerment coach and host of The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast. Paul and I talk about introversion and finding your way in life. The topic comes by way of a listener email. In this case, a listener of Paul's podcast The Overwhelmed Brain reached out to him for advice. What you're hearing on today's show is me joining Paul on his podcast to answer his listener question.

If you consider yourself an introvert, have felt lost in life, have never really felt like you know who you should be as a person, and feel like you're lacking direction, then this is an episode to tune into!

Resources from this episode:

Paul's podcast and website: https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/
My free tool for you, the Abundant Loving Life Quiz (formerly the Abundance Benchmark): https://www.matthewbivens.com/quiz/

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How To Deal With A Confidence and Self Worth Breakdown (HIA Classic) Nov 16, 2021

When was the last time you had a major breakdown in confidence and self worth?

So often when our confidence is shook and we're questioning our own value, it's a major challenge to recover and get back into a powerful place. I have too many stories that are a testament to this.

In today's episode I'm sharing one of these stories - my recent experience attending my wife's high school reunion. I went through the gamut of emotions, limiting beliefs, and self deprecating stories, leading up to and during this reunion. I questioned my abilities as an entrepreneur, husband and provide. It was fascinating!!

The whole experience was so eye opening to me that I'm still extracting lessons from it months later.

In the episode you're going to hear me talk about:

What initially came up for me when I first heard we'd be going to the reunion
How my fears, judgements, and self-worth conversations impacted how I showed up
What I tried in the moment to get myself out of my head and ego, and into my heart and power
And what I would do differently next time now being on the other side of the experience

If you want to get in touch with me to ask questions, give feedback, or inquire about my coaching offerings, shoot me an email at matthew@matthewbivens.com.

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How To Discipline Your Thinking So That You Get What You Really Want In Life! Self Mastery Wisdom From Dr. Joe Dispenza, Abraham Hicks and Shi Heng Yi Nov 09, 2021

What does it mean to "discipline your thinking" and how is this directly tied to you feeling like you have it all?

I want to shine light on what is probably the biggest thing keeping you from having it all in your life -- undisciplined thinking.

Undisciplined thinking is being a victim to your thoughts.

Undisciplined thinking leads to feelings of angst, fear, worry, anxiety, anger, resentment, and pain....consistently.

Undisciplined thinking, when left unchecked, will be what sabotages you from HAVING IT ALL and truly being in love with your life.

I had my own experiences recently that showed me where I was in my mental discipline, and laid out in front of me very plainly how chaotic things can get within my mind and body when my thoughts are left unchecked.

Ask yourself this question: how disciplined am I with my thoughts, one a 1-10? How effective am I at steering my thoughts in a direction I want them to go in? How comfortable am I being with my own thoughts?

In today's episode, I'm bringing you wisdom from Dr. Joe Dispenza, Abraham Hicks and Shi Heng Yi about the power of your thinking and the importance of cultivating control over your thoughts.

Learning these tips WILL allow you to create what you desire in your life and truly feel like you have it all!

If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com.

Resources from this episode:

Study from Science.org - https://www.science.org/content/article/people-would-rather-be-electrically-shocked-left-alone-their-thoughts-rev2
Full Dr. Joe Dispenza video - https://youtu.be/YD7dsuiiRvs
Full Abraham Hicks video - https://youtu.be/c_sovnkUuMs
Full Shi Heng Yi video - https://youtu.be/JgwsQVUjkPQ

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Trust And Let Go Of What It "Should" Look Like (Rebroadcast) Nov 02, 2021

How attached are you to the way you feel your life should look like? If you're frustrated with the way things are right now... If you're annoyed because something in your life is not going according to your plan... If you're experiencing anxiety because the goals you set are not being met in the timeframe you wanted them to... Then we are in the same place, and this episode is for you.

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How To Start Your Own Podcast: A Not-So-Short-But-Totally-Worth-It Dive Into Podcasting For Beginners (Rebroadcast) Oct 26, 2021

Have you considered starting a podcast?

If yes: Awesome!

If no, why the heck not??

This is an amazing time to start a podcast: more and more people are listening each day, the space is not too crowded yet, your voice/story/message need to be heard right now, and you've got the time on your hands😉

So, I totally think you should do it. Seriously!

Podcasting has changed my life in ways I could not ever imagine, and I know it can offer so much to you as well.

In this robust episode I'm sharing with you tons of information about podcasting, including:

How podcasting has changed my life
Why you should consider starting a podcast right now
Myths that scare people away
How podcasting actually works
My process from turning your idea into a podcast
Mistakes to avoid
Tips from a seasoned podcaster

Let's dive in!

If you want to get in touch with me about podcasting or anything else, email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens

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The 5 Key Principles I Live By (Rebroadcast) Oct 19, 2021

Do you have principles? What are they? How do you use them? Are you confident that you know what living a principally based life means?

Today I'm shining light on this idea of "principles" that so many self help gurus and successful people tout as the key to living a great life. You will learn the 5 key principles that I choose to live my life by and I show you how you can live by them too.

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How To Stop Taking Things So Personally (Yes, It's Possible!) (Rebroadcast) Oct 12, 2021

Why does it feel so hard at times to not take things personally?

We hear the phrase "don't take this personally" all the time. You've probably said it to someone before making some potentially hurtful or offensive statement. It's such an easy idea, but boy can it be tough!

For me, I used to take things very personally. Growing up, my emotions would be triggered by the slightest look or question that I felt was off or directed at me in a malicious way. I made villains out of a lot of people, I felt small and hurt often, and I just plain took things personally really frequently.

But I had my breakthrough moment!

Yes, I was able to connect with some deep truths about myself and others that have helped me learn to not take things personally. And today I'm going to share those truths with you so that you too can break free from the trap of taking things personally in life.

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My Personal Mission Statement: Why Knowing What You're Playing For Will Change Your Life (Rebroadcast) Oct 06, 2021

What are you playing for in life?

Each of us have something we're striving for in our lives. Some reason that we're waking up each morning and doing what we do. You already know the power of being intentional and having a vision for your life. One powerful tool that I've used to help me become the person I want to become, is a personal mission statement.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you my new personal mission statement and unpacking all of its elements.

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Do Something You've Always Wanted To Do This Fall (Rebroadcast) Sep 28, 2021

What is something that you've always wanted to do, but you know you've let fear and discomfort hold you back? It's the first week of September, and that means Fall is officially here. You've been putting in deposits into your tank for a while now, and now it's time for you to act. In today's episode I'm setting up a context for getting into action to do things you've been afraid to do, to experience things you've always wanted to experience.

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A Powerful Method For Changing Your Relationship Towards Stress - How To Learn To Love Stress Through Exercise (Rebroadcast) Sep 21, 2021

In today's episode I'm sharing a way for you to learn how to change your relationship towards stress. If you're used to feeling stressed out with ish hits the fan, and you have been unable to shift that feeling, then tune in! I'm going to share with you how you can use exercise to learn how to deal with stress more effectively.

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What The Birth Of My Child Has Taught Me About Faith (It's Not What You're Thinking) (Rebroadcast) Sep 14, 2021

This episode is all about FAITH, but not in the most widely used sense. I’m talking about having supreme confidence and trust in someone or something.

I look at faith like this: FAITH = TRUST + SURRENDER.

On Sunday September 11th, 2016, Sarah and I welcomed the birth of our daughter Maya. Through that experience I both witnessed and practiced the most humbling amount of trust and surrender that I have in my life thus far.

Sarah surrendered to her body, to the labor waves, to her coaches. I trusted in our preparation, in the team we assembled, and in my ability to support.

Witnessing what I can only describe as pure faith on the parts of everyone involved, I began to think about the other areas in my life where my personal faith is lacking. Where I’m failing to trust someone or something, and where I’m fighting for control rather than surrendering.

This episode is all about faith, trust and surrender. I briefly talk about Maya’s birth experience, but spend the bulk of the episode diving into what it looks and feels like when we lack faith in our lives.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

A powerful re-contextualization of faith that you can apply to your life
Examples of what lacking faith, trust and surrender look and feel like
A call for you to examine what processes you’re hindering through your lack of faith

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“I Can’t F*&%$#@ Do This” - Breaking Your Fear Patterns Once And For All (Rebroadcast) Sep 07, 2021

By now you might have heard of the Tony Robbins documentary “I am not your guru”. It’s been making its way around Netflix and the internet. If you haven’t seen it, I recommend you give it a watch!

Well, I checked it out the other day and can honestly say that few other documentaries have inspired me as much as this one.

It wasn’t Tony Robbins who inspired me. I love his approach to personal transformation. I love how raw and real he is. I love his boldness and that he’s not afraid to call people on their bullshit. All of that makes for some compelling tv!

But no, it wasn’t Tony who inspired me.

Instead, I was inspired by the people in the documentary who recognized their opportunity for breakthrough, and boldly stepped into it.

This happens a handful of times in the documentary, and each time it’s amazing to watch them process the situation, become aware of their breakthrough moment, analyze the risk/reward, confront the terror that comes up, and take ACTION!

This episode is about what it really takes to experience a breakthrough in your life. To get unstuck. To start experiencing things in a dramatically different way. It takes action. It takes movement. It takes getting out of your head and getting into your heart and doing something that you know to be the best move for you, but terrifies you completely.

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Not Feeling Fulfilled In Life? Here's What You Need To Do To Be More Fulfilled And Content (Rebroadcast) Aug 31, 2021

Are you able to answer the question -- "What would have to happen in order for you to feel fulfilled in your life?"

If you're struggling with feeling fulfilled then LISTEN UP!

Today I'm sharing with you a very simple method for answering that fulfillment question, so you can both FEEL and BE more fulfilled in your life.

Links:

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How To Be More Consistent When Building Healthy Habits (Rebroadcast) Aug 24, 2021

In today's episode I'm sharing an example of consistency that I experience in my life every week.

His name is Robert Monroe and he has been on this podcast before. In the episode titled "“You Have To Move Your Feet”: A Story About Seeing the Beauty in All of Life’s Circumstances", Robert shares his inspiring story and message about moving through life's circumstances.

This past week I received a lesson in consistency and was inspired by just how consistent Robert had been over the past 12 months in being intentional about transforming his health.

I leave with you some very simple tips about creating more consistency in your life that will help you build momentum and have it all.

Show notes:

Check out my earlier conversation with Robert - “You Have To Move Your Feet”: A Story About Seeing the Beauty in All of Life’s Circumstances

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The 5 Taboo Topics You Need To Stop Avoiding And Start Getting Real With (Rebroadcast) Aug 17, 2021

What subjects are off limits to you? What things do you avoid in your life like the plague?

Most people have some topics that they refuse to address. These "taboo subjects" are robbing you of your power, your freedom and your life! If you want to truly have it all and live the life you're meant to live, then you MUST start addressing these things in a real way.

Today I talk about how to do just that.

Curious about working with me 1:1? Learn more and connect with me here: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/

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How Much Life Can You Handle? 7 Ways To Show Up Powerfully To The Life You've Created (Rebroadcast) Aug 10, 2021

As your responsibilities go up (new children, new job, more lovers), is your capacity to handle these new responsibilities going up as well?

For most, the answer is something like "I don't even think about my capacity when I take on new life stressors". And if that sounds like you, then this episode will help you become aware of your current capacity and will give you very actionable steps to raise your ability to handle the life you've created.

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The Key To Living A More Proactive Life (Rebroadcast) Aug 03, 2021

Where do you spend most of your emotional time and energy: in things you can influence or in things you have zero control over? If you're a proactive person who takes response-ability for their lives, then you absolutely focus on the things you can influence. Reactive people spend their time focusing on things that they have zero control over. The difference between circle of influence and circle of concern is at the heart of today's podcast.

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Yes, You Can Have It All! Why So Many Get It Wrong (And How You Can Get It Right) Jul 27, 2021

Can you have it all?

This was the question that launched this podcast.

5 years later, and my answer to that question hasn't wavered one bit: Yes, you absolutely can!

There's no "...BUT" at the end of the statement either. You can have it all in life, AND I'll show you how it's possible!

In today's episode I'm talking about why so many people get it wrong when they're talking about and pursing having it all, and how you can do it in a more effective, joyful and fulfilling way.

If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can do so in two ways:

Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com
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Let's Talk About Sex: The #1 Reason Why You Aren't Having Your Sexual Breakthrough Jul 20, 2021

Why do people, supplied with wisdom and a clear path of action, not experience breakthroughs? Why is it that we can be so clear that addressing our beliefs, paradigms and traumas around sex will be so healing and beneficial, but we never take the next step?

Sex has been the most challenging and rewarding space for healing in my life. Challenging because the pages of my sexual story (like so many others) were written many years ago and reinforced by unhealthy beliefs and habits around sex.

But I experienced a massive breakthrough around sex (many, actually), and as a result I've seen my self esteem, self worth and self acceptance reach heights I didn't know possible for myself.

If you've been a listener for a long period of time, you've heard me chronicle these things on the show.

As a life coach, I help men and women who are seeking their own breakthroughs in life. And sex is an area where so many of us are stuck, unexpressed and overall have unhealthy relationships with.

On today's episode I share with you things I've learned from my experience as a life coach, and wisdom I've gained from addressing my biggest fears around sex.

Everyone, yes everyone, is capable of experiencing sexual breakthroughs. You can absolutely feel different about sex, your sexual past, and your sexual future. Nothing is written in stone, and you have the power to rewrite your story.

Links from this episode:

Sex Work Is Soul Work article by Kimberly Ann Johnson
Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com
DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens
Search and find all Having It A.L.L. episodes on my website at matthewbivens.com

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Let's Talk About Sex: Figuring Out What You Like In The Bedroom and Expressing Yourself Sexually Jul 13, 2021

What do you enjoy in the bedroom? How do you express yourself sexually (or not)?

In life, self expression is a major part of understanding yourself, growing, living life to the fullest.

It's the same in the realm of sex!

Often we choose not to fully express ourselves in sex because of fear of judgement, pushback, ridicule, condemnation, and so many other things rooted in fears.

In today's episode I'm helping you get clear on what you enjoy in the bedroom, and we're discussing how to express yourself more in the bedroom.

If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can do so in two ways:

Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com
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How We Keep Our Sex Life Hot As New Parents (Rebroadcast from the Doing It At Home Podcast) Jul 06, 2021

Does your sex life have to change for the worse after kids?

We know of course the answer is “No, it doesn’t”, but how do you keep it from turning stale? How do you keep the fire burning for your partner after you’ve had a kid or two?"

Today I'm bringing you a "SEX-PISODE" from my other podcast, Doing It At Home, where my wife Sarah and I get real about what our sex life has been like after having a baby.

There are three main areas we’re going to focus on:

How we schedule sex into our busy lives
Why keeping the flame burning is important to us
The ebbs and flows our sex lives have taken as we progressed from a married couple, to being pregnant, to having a brand new baby, to now being parents for a period of time

We’re getting raw and honest in this episode, and it’s our hope that hearing us talk about these topics will give you permission to explore these things on your own. We want to create and hold a space of open and honest communication, first and foremost with yourself, but also with the person/people you choose to share a bed with.

Sexual energy is life energy, and it’s time to create a more empowered conversation around sex.

If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can do so in two ways:

Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com
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Resources from this episode:

Doing It At Home website: https://www.diahpodcast.com/
Doing It At Home Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diahpodcast/
Doing It At Home Facebook Group: https://bit.ly/3jKtIYv

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Let's Talk About Sex: Your First Sexual Experience Jun 29, 2021

How was your first sexual experience? How would you describe it in two words?

Our first experience with sex tends to leave a lasting impression on us. Sex is viewed as a right of passage, a transition point where there's no going back. Some people enter into their first sexual experience having had healthy, mature and empowering conversations about sex, but many do not. They are equipped with the ideas, beliefs, stories and feelings about sex that they picked up from their peers, tv, society and parents and teachers who themselves may not have a healthy and empowering view of sex.

As a result, our first sexual experiences leave a lasting impression on us that set the stage for the rest of our lives.

In today's episode we're diving into our first sexual experiences with the goal of examining it from an empowered and mature perspective. You have the power to rescript what sex means to you, and to write your personal sexual story (past and future) in a way that leaves you feeling confident and uplifted.

If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can do so in two ways:

Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com
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Resources from this episode:

Can Your Sexual Debut Predict Your Future?

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Let's Talk About Sex: Understanding Your Personal Sexual Story Jun 22, 2021

What is your sexual story?

No, I'm not talking about a romance novel type of story. I'm talking about the narrative you have around sex, the one that was started many years ago with your very first encounters with the ideas, feelings and attitudes around sex.

We all have a sexual story that was started when we were young and is being added to constantly. Many people's stories around sex are based in shame, judgement, embarrassment and expectation. That leads to sexual experiences and feelings that are unhealthy and certainly don't uplift and heal.

But it doesn't have to be that way! You can rewrite your sexual story, heal those sexual wounds you carry, and create an entirely new sexual experience for yourself that's based in love, feels authentic, and full of genuine connection.

Today I'm kicking off a series about sex which will help you transform your views on sex, from the inside out.

If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can do so in two ways:

Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com
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Get Your 7 Minutes Back! A Breakthrough In Relating To Stress, Anxiety and Overwhelm Jun 15, 2021

How stressed out do you feel right now? Have you dealt with stress earlier today or this week?

We all experience stress, it's part of life. But not everybody relates to stress in the same way. You have your own go-to methods for dealing with your stress, and some are more effective than others.

Years ago it became a personal mission of mine to get on top of my stress and anxiety, and learn how to deal with it in more healthy ways. Drinking, smoking and pornography were not leading me down the path I wanted, and so I sought out other means of relating to the circumstances in my life.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you a massive breakthrough I had that led to me looking at stress in a whole new way. The "7 minutes" breakthrough as I like to call it, has helped me get back into my center when life's stressors have knocked me out of alignment. I'm sharing this with you today with the goal of inspiring you to take a harder look at your triggers and the things that stress you out in life, and to seek out true healing so you can experience the joy you truly desire.

If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can do so in two ways:

Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com
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Resources from this episode:

Other Having It A.L.L. episodes about stress with action items and takeaways:

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A Quick Guide To Shower Meditations (My Go-to Tool For Beating Stubborn Stress) Jun 07, 2021

How do you feel about meditation? What about meditating in the shower??

Meditation and mindfulness are two of the most powerful self care habits available to all of us. If you don't have a meditation or mindfulness practice currently, I highly recommend you start creating one (see my episodes on meditation for simple ways to get started).

Over the years I've developed a nice arsenal of self-care tools that I can deploy when I'm feeling stuck, challenged, frustrated or stressed.

Meditating while in the shower has been very effective for me over the years as a way to eliminate stress and get back into my "sweet spot".

In today's episode I break down what shower meditation is, how I practice it, and walk you through steps to trying it our for yourself.

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Here's The Thing About Pain And Discomfort In Life... Jun 01, 2021

Do you enjoy pain?

Most people don't, and it makes sense. Pain hurts. Pain is uncomfortable. Pain isn't something that a sane person wants to run towards.

Yet, what if I told you that pain was inevitable....that whether you chose to step up, stay put or step back, pain would be present. Would that change the choices you made?

In today's episode I share with you the illusion of pain, and how we trap ourselves believing that we are avoiding pain.

A quote from the psychiatrist R.D. Laing sums it up nicely:

“Pain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is avoidable.”

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Quit Holding Back! How Not Expressing Yourself Fully Is Keeping You From Having It All May 26, 2021

Where are you not feeling fully expressed?

Self expression is one of the most important aspects of Having It All. Allowing yourself to be, do and say what is real and true for you is as important as breathing. However, it's a habit that can easily be overlooked and brushed aside.

In today's episode I break down the importance of feeling fully expressed, the consequences of not living a life of authenticity, and how you can start expressing yourself more and more in your everyday life.

Buckle in because you will feel inspired to take action after listening to this episode!

If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can do so in two ways:

Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com
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The Most Powerful Way To Practice Self Love (Rebroadcast) May 18, 2021

What does "self love" really mean?

Self love conversations are ubiquitous these days. Everyone's talking about. But beyond "positive self affirmations" and "choosing healthy foods" do we really know what self love means? Do we understand what the essence of self love is and how certain activities that we do, many times without thinking, are undermining all of the surface level self love work we put so much effort into?

In this episode I'm going to give you a completely new way to look at self love. It's not another thing for you to do, but a lens through which to look at all of your self love activities.

This was a fun episode for me because I recorded the entire thing while I was walking to the movies. Sarah was out of town with the car for the weekend, and when I wanted to go catch a movie it meant I was walking. During my walk I was observing how taking myself to movies was an act of self love, and the idea for this episode was born.

Once you listen, I'd love to hear your thoughts, comments, and feedback on the episode. You can email me directly at matthew@matthewbivens.com or reach out on Instagram @matthew_bivens.

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I Fasted For 3 Days. Here Are 3 Things I Learned That Can Transform Your Life! May 11, 2021

No matter what your thoughts are on fasting, one thing that's undeniable is that you currently have some sort of relationship with food, with eating and with your emotions, and they are doing a dance together that's either raising your health or lowering it!

For me, I love fasting as a tool for healing (physically as well as emotionally, mentally and spiritually). I've been turning to fasting on a consistent basis since 2015, and it has changed my life.

In today's conversation I'm sharing with you my biggest insights from a 3-day juice fast I recently did, and I'm relating these insights in a way that you're guaranteed to be able to apply them to your life (whether you've ever fasted or not).

Bottoms up!

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Progress Over Perfection: How To Focus On Small Steps Forward And Stop Stressing About Being Perfect May 04, 2021

Do you consider yourself a Perfectionist? Are you constantly feeling like you're not doing or being enough? Do you judge yourself harshly because you're failing to live up to your standards or expectations?

So many of us suffer from the need to be "perfect". Logically you understand that perfection is not possible, yet you still hold this impossible standard for yourself in life (perhaps as a parent or entrepreneur or friend or just as yourself).

I have had my struggles with perfectionism, and as I've wrestled with it over the years I've discovered a way to stop stressing about being perfect and instead focus on making incremental progress.

In today's episode I'm talking about progress versus perfection, and I'm giving you real strategies that you can apply in your life to focus more on making small steps forward and less on being perfect.

Want to get in touch with me to share your experience with perfectionism? Email me at matthew [at] matthewbivens [dot] com, or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens.

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My Recent Epic Challenge Of Control Issues, Scarcity Mindset and Not Trusting Myself Apr 27, 2021

Where are you feeling stuck in life?

We all have an "Epic Challenge" - an area in our lives where we're feeling stuck, where we're not enjoying the experience and are having a hard time changing things.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you my most recent Epic Challenge which was creating a lot of stress and frustration in my life. I'm peeling back the layers on what I go through to face my challenges, and the people and processes that I've brought into my life to help me.

Want to get in touch with me to share your Epic Challenge? Email me at matthew [at] matthewbivens [dot] com, or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens.

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How To Stop Emotional Manipulation In Relationships Apr 20, 2021

In what ways do you manipulate in relationships?

I asked the question in that way because manipulation is something we can all easily do in relationships. It's not always overt and easy to spot. Sometimes it's very subtle and may not even be something you're consciously aware of. Yet, no matter the type of manipulation, it's evidence of deeply unhealthy feelings and beliefs about ourselves.

In today's episode I'm reading an email from a listener who wants some help with her manipulative tendencies in relationships. I talk about the origins of manipulation, how to peel back the layers to address what's really going on, and ways to stop the manipulative behavior as it's happening.

I encourage you to listen to this episode whether you're in a relationship or not, because as you'll learn the origins of manipulation have nothing to do with other people. They have everything to do with how we feel about ourselves.

Want to reach out to me directly with episode ideas, feedback or anything else? Email me at matthew [at] matthewbivens [dot] com or direct message me on Instagram @matthew_bivens

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Learning How To Deal With Resistance In life Apr 13, 2021

Where are you experiencing a lot of resistance in your life?

Chances are, the thing you're resisting most is actually the thing that contains that answer to you getting unstuck and ultimately having what you want in life.

Today I'm talking about resistance: why we resist, what it looks like, what it does to us, and how to learn to level up our maturity so that we can ultimately get what we want in life.

Resources

The Challenge Of Change: Are You The River Or The Rock? article by Dennis Merritt Jones

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Monthly Habit Focus: Creating A Fitness Routine That Works For You Apr 06, 2021

How well are you caring for your fitness?

We experience life through our bodies. Our health and fitness reveals the relationship that we have with life. So what is your fitness telling you about how you deal with life?

No matter where you are in your fitness, there's room for improvement so that you can create the results and the EXPERIENCE that you truly desire.

This is the first episode in April, which means it's our Monthly Habit Focus series. And as you've already guessed, this month we're focusing on your FITNESS.

In today's episode I'm going to answer questions like:

How do you get motivated to build a fitness routine?
What helps make working out and exercising easier?
How do you overcome the biggest obstacles to sticking with a fitness routine?

By the end of this episode you'll walk away with a deeper internal motivation for improving your fitness, practical tips on creating a winning fitness routine (no matter where you're starting from), and some of the biggest mental blocks keeping you from improving your fitness.

If you want to get in touch with me, email me at matthew [at] matthewbivens [dot] com, or hit me up on Instagram @matthew_bivens.

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The Morning And Nighttime Routines That Help Me Win At Life (Rebroadcast) Mar 30, 2021

How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day?

For years I completely neglected the importance of my morning and nighttime routines. No one taught me to think otherwise and therefore I simply rolled out of bed into life and went from there.

But as I began to take on more roles and responsibilities in my life (like becoming a parent and starting a new business), and began to feel the weight of life itself, I realized that the way I began and ended my day had a tremendous impact on what happened during my waking hours.

In today's episode I share with you the very specific habits and routines I use in the morning and evening to set myself up for success each day.

Show Notes:

Episode on my Mission Statement - https://www.havingitallpodcast.com/single-post/My-Personal-Mission-Statement-Why-Knowing-What-Youre-Playing-For-Will-Change-Your-Life
Balance Chart App - https://www.theydbg.com/
Headspace - https://www.headspace.com/
Evernote - https://evernote.com/

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The Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying: Are You Creating A Life Of No Regrets? (Rebroadcast) Mar 23, 2021

What regrets do you have in life?

In today's episode I'm sharing a moving and insightful essay written by Bronnie Ware - a nurse who took care of patients in their final days of life. Over the years of her work, she asked her patients if they had any regrets from their life as they faced their death. The patterns she saw emerge with deep and powerful. I share with you the 5 regrets of the dying in this episode, so you can take a moment to evaluate whether you're on the path to experience any of them in your life.

Resources:

Bronnie Ware’s article “Regrets Of The Dying”

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Sexual Confidence and Male Performance Anxiety: A Vulnerable Sex Conversation Inspired By Jason Rogers (Rebroadcast) Mar 16, 2021

Are you ready for a raw and honest conversation about sexual confidence?

Today I'm talking about sexual confidence and male performance anxiety: what it looks like, how it happens, how we feed it, and how we heal it.

This episode was inspired by an article in Mens Health by Jason Rogers. In the powerful article, Jason opens up about his challenges with performance anxiety and how it impacted him in the bedroom and on the Olympic stage.

Jason's article in Men's Health

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How To Finally Stop Self Sabotage (Rebroadcast) Mar 09, 2021

How do you stop the process of self sabotaging? That's a million dollar question if I've ever heard one! I think most, if not all, of us can relate to self sabotage. We know what it feels like to see the potential for our greatness, and to do things to undermine our success. In today's episode I'm answering a great question from a listener that starts with self sabotage, and ends up going into some really awesome directions addressing goals, visualization and mission statements.

Here is the original question from listener Kayla that I answer in the episode:

How do I stop self sabotage? I feel like I am so good at setting goals and visualizing my perfect life but when the universe throws me a giant test to live into my mission statement and goals, I feel like I fail. Even whenI am disciplined I feel like it is short lived and I end up right where I started. How can I bridge the gap between creating goals and actually attaining them for true transformation?

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Monthly Habit Focus: Get A Handle On Your Money Mar 02, 2021

What thoughts, feelings and emotions come up for you when you think about your MONEY?

Money is one of those taboo topics in society -- it's not cool to ask another person about their money, many people feel uncomfortable talking about their own money with even their spouse or best friend, and yet money is something that touches every single one of us.

We either feel abundant about money, or scarce. Excited or intimidated. Confident in our ability to manage and multiply it, or scared and inexperienced around it (which leads to immature money money behavior and habits).

It's time that ends! You can feel different about money. You can have a different money situation (if you choose). You have the ability to make it so!

Therefore, for the month of March we are going to focus on getting our money in order. No matter how much money you make or where you are in your relationship to money, there are always things you can address. So get ready to address them starting today!

Here are the resources I mention in this episode:

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Listen To This If You're Going Crazy In This Pandemic Feb 23, 2021

Need some relief from the stress of the pandemic?

It's been a very stressful year with no end in sight, and that's left many people feeling like they're going to crack. Let me help you deal with the stress, fear, anxiety and weight of the current situation, by offering you some words of comfort and motivation.

We've all been in this pandemic together, yet not everyone has dealt with it the same way. The stress you're in right now is real, and there may be simple remedies to the overwhelm that you're feeling.

This is a continuation of my new Pep Talks series that I'm delivering to you monthly, that are designed to help you overcome challenges in your path as you create your abundant loving life.

Remember, I'm YOUR Balance Lifestyle Coach. I'm in your corner, here for you, supporting you, and holding space for you. You're not alone. Reach out if you need more than just this Pep Talk: matthew@matthewbivens.com

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What Do You Need To Have In Common With Your Partner To Make It Work? Feb 16, 2021

What makes a relationship work?

"Common interests" is a typical answer, and for good reason. It makes sense that we need to have things in common with our partners if we want relationship success.

But are there certain common interests that rise above others? And are there some common interests that are essential for relationship success?

In today's episode I invite my Queen, Sarah Bivens, back on the podcast to talk about how to create real synergy in relationships, and what things you want to be fully aligned on with your partner (and what is okay for you to differ on). This is a great conversation whether you're in a relationship right now or not, because it will get you thinking about the purpose of relationships and what makes a "successful" relationship in your eyes.

If you want to get in touch with either Sarah or I you can find us on Instagram @sarahmbivens and @matthew_bivens, and you can always reach me at matthew@matthewbivens.com.

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Learning How To Connect With Yourself When The Concept Feels Unfamiliar Or Challenging Feb 09, 2021

How do you "connect with yourself" and why is it important?

I received an email from a listener that asked that very question. This is such an important conversation to have because being able to have and feel a deep, intimate connection with yourself is part of having it all. It's the first step in creating deep, meaningful relationships with others. And it's part of what I believe our search for meaning and purpose entails.

So connecting with yourself is more than just a phrase that you might see on blogs or cute trending Instagram posts.

In today's episode I discuss what it means to connect with yourself, how you might be fueling disconnection with yourself, and discuss ways that you can explore and find your own connection.

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Monthly Habit Focus: Getting Grounded Feb 02, 2021

How do you handle the stressors of everyday life?

Each one of us encounters stress in life, it's part of the agreement. But not everyone handles it in the same way.

The concept of "getting grounded" is something you've probably heard of and perhaps even have a practice in.

For me, getting grounded is all about returning to your center when life knocks you off course. As I've taken on more and more responsibilities in life - and as life has whooped my butt again and again - I've developed effective ways to return to my center and get grounded so that I can get back into the game.

In today's Monthly Habit Focus episode I'm talking all about Getting Grounded, and I'm helping you learn simple and effective ways to ground yourself when life is coming at you fast and hard.

You will learn:

what it actually means to "get grounded"
why it's an essential part of having it all
various methods to ground yourself
my go-to grounding habits when life gets more and more stressful

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Listen To This When You're Scared To Take The Next Step Jan 26, 2021

Need a some motivating words to help you take a leap of faith?

Let me give you some encouragement and remind you of what you've forgotten about yourself, as you're feeling scared to take the next step.

I've been there before, I know what it's like to be in your shoes right now. And I have a few words for you.

This is part of a new series of Pep Talks that I'll be delivering to you monthly to help you overcome challenges in your path as you create your abundant loving life.

Remember, I'm YOUR Balance Lifestyle Coach. I'm in your corner, here for you, supporting you, and holding space for you. You're not alone. Reach out if you need more than just this Pep Talk: matthew@matthewbivens.com

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Relationship Misconceptions That Are Making You Unhappy with Sarah Bivens Jan 19, 2021

What are your core beliefs when it comes to relationships?

Your beliefs influence your thoughts and actions, and shape the results that you create. Hold onto a belief that's ineffective and not-so-powerful, and the result may be something that you don't like.

In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we're diving into some big relationship myths and misconceptions that we have believed that have lead to unhappiness in our relationships.

My intention with this episode is for you to be aware of the impact that your core beliefs have, and to start thinking about the beliefs that are shaping your relationships.

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Creating Your Word For The Year, 2021 Edition Jan 12, 2021

Are you ready to show up with purpose, integrity and intention over the next 12 months?

It's time for the annual Having It A.L.L. tradition of creating your Word For The Year!

This simple yet effective tool acts like a North Star, helping to guide your intentions, actions and thoughts as you navigate yourself towards an awesome year.

We've been doing Word For The Year since the early days of the podcast, refining the process each year.

In today's episode I'll be walking you through my process for developing your Word For The Year in 2021. By the end of the episode you'll be fully equipped to create a personally empowering word for this year that will help you light a fire within your soul to make this an absolutely incredible year!

Click here to get the free Word For The Year download:

https://www.matthewbivens.com/word/

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Kicking Off A Year Of Having It ALL - 12 Months Of Transformation, Breakthrough And Greatness Jan 05, 2021

Are you ready to have it all this year?

Seriously, are you ready to start believing in your greatness and proactively shaping the life you desire for yourself?

Well if so, I'm here as your coach, guide, and supporter this year (and beyond).

We have a whole new slate of amazing content coming at you in 2021, all designed to help you ACTIVATE the Having It A.L.L. mindset in your life. In today's episode I'm breaking down what you can expect from this program over the next 12 months, and I kickoff our brand new series where we focus on a new lifestyle habit each month that will help you live your Abundant Loving Life.

Let's do this!

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The Big Self Help Mistake I Used To Make (Don't Fall For It In 2021!) Dec 29, 2020

Do you ever get down on yourself when someone else's self help advice just doesn't work for you?

I've read, listened to and watched thousands of pieces of self help content over the years, and for a long time I thought that there was something wrong with me when I failed to incorporate someone else's advice into my life. I would blame a lack of discipline, focus, grit, or consistency as the reasons why I never made it past day two on someone else's stellar self help routine.

That was until I realized an important truth!

In today's episode I'm giving you one huge piece of advice as you prepare to jump into 2021 that will help you to have a more joyful and successful year.

Here's the article that I reference in the episode:

Why Are Self-Help Books Not So Helpful After All?

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Do You Know What A "Sponsoring Thought" Is? Uncovering The True Cause Of Everything Dec 23, 2020

Have you heard of the concept of a "sponsoring thought"?

Whether or not you're aware of it, sponsoring thoughts are driving the way in which your life is playing out.

In today's episode I'm breaking down the concept of a sponsoring thought, showing you the essence of what all of life's choices really boil down to, and helping you get down to the weeds of what might be keeping from your abundant loving life. And as always, I'm sharing my examples of how I'm flowing with the idea of sponsoring thoughts, and how I'm utilizing the tools at my disposal to have it all (and in the process giving you permission to do the same, in your own way).

Resources:

I highly recommend checking out the book Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsch if today's conversation resonates with you.

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How To Stop Taking Things So Personally (Yes, It's Possible!) Dec 15, 2020

Why does it feel so hard at times to not take things personally?

We hear the phrase "don't take this personally" all the time. You've probably said it to someone before making some potentially hurtful or offensive statement. It's such an easy idea, but boy can it be tough!

For me, I used to take things very personally. Growing up, my emotions would be triggered by the slightest look or question that I felt was off or directed at me in a malicious way. I made villains out of a lot of people, I felt small and hurt often, and I just plain took things personally really frequently.

But I had my breakthrough moment!

Yes, I was able to connect with some deep truths about myself and others that have helped me learn to not take things personally. And today I'm going to share those truths with you so that you too can break free from the trap of taking things personally in life.

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Bare-Bones Self-Care Habits You Need In 2020 and Beyond Dec 08, 2020

Are you feeling like life has you struggling in all sorts of ways, and you just need to get back to some self-care basics?

2020 has been a year where a lot of things have been upended, including self-care habits. If you've been feeling stressed, overwhelmed or imbalanced throughout the year, and your self-care routine has taken a back seat to life's never-ending demands, then tune in because I have a simple approach for you.

In today's episode I'm breaking down "bare-bones self-care" habits that can quickly and easily be incorporated into even the busiest schedule.

I'm not here to remind you of the importance of taking care of yourself. Rather, today I simply want to help you get to just bare-bones. If you don't have any other self-care routine, then this is one to adopt. These habits are super simple, some take seconds to perform and can be done virtually anywhere. But adding them into your life can be a game changer.

So get ready to take a baby step towards your health!

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How To Deal With Sadness and Overwhelm In A Healthy Way Dec 01, 2020

How do you process the periods in life of prolonged sadness or overwhelm?

We've all experienced sadness and periods where we felt like life was overwhelming.

This year alone has been a major source of stressful circumstances that have brought on the sadness and overwhelm BIG TIME!

But do you have to simply suffer through these periods, or can you learn methods of coping and dealing with your feelings that create an entirely different (and more favorable) experience?

Well, you already know my answer to that question, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you my strategies for dealing with sadness and overwhelm in a healthy way that allows you to honor the feelings while creating momentum to rise above them. Tune in and you'll walk away with habits, mindsets and strategies to more powerfully deal with the circumstances that life is throwing at you right now.

Want to get in touch with me?

You can email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens

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7 Thoughts On Gratitude You Haven't Heard Before (Rebroadcast) Nov 24, 2020

When was the last time you intentionally stopped and expressed some gratitude?

You've probably heard all throughout your life of the importance of "gratitude". In personal development circles it's touted as a powerful tool for happiness and success. As kids many of us are reminded constantly about the importance of being grateful.

But is it a part of your everyday routing and a strong tool in your toolbox? Do you even believe in the power of gratitude?

In this episode I'm talking all about Gratitude. I'm giving you 7 things you probably haven't heard before about gratitude.

We're talking about gratitude in your personal finances, tools for helping you form a gratitude habit, how gratitude can improve your relationships, the power of gratitude to totally flip your mood, how we feel more gratitude for experiences rather than things, and why gratitude in conflict is more powerful than forgiveness or acceptance.

If you have some tips, thoughts or stories on gratitude, I'd love to hear them. Reach me on my personal email address at matthew@matthewbivens.com or on Instagram @matthtew_bivens.

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The Buck Stops Here! Making A Commitment To Break The Cycle Nov 17, 2020

What patterns of unhealthy behavior did you pick up from others (perhaps the environment you grew up in), that you're continuing to do yourself?

In today's episode I'm introducing an idea and exercise to help you break the cycle of unhealthy ways of thinking, acting and being. It's called "the buck stops here!".

The phrase comes from US President Harry Truman, who used the phrase to communicate to others that he was taking responsibility for decisions that he made, accepting all the consequences of his decisions.

For this conversation, I'm asking you to think about those unhealthy or disempowering habits and tendencies you have, and to make a commitment to stop the spread down to future generations.

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Treat Him Like A King, Treat Her Like A Queen: A Conversation About Fully Loving, Honoring and Supporting Your Partner Nov 10, 2020

What does it really mean to treat your partner like a King or Queen?

As Sarah and I have grown in our marriage, the concept of treating one another as a King and Queen has grown as well. At first the idea brought up our own issues with self worth, love and relationship roles. But today, we both powerfully fill our roles of King and Queen respectively, and we make it priority to not only treat one another with the utmost love and respect, but the do the same for ourselves as well.

In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we dig into the topic of "how to treat your partner like a King or Queen". This is a powerful conversation for anyone who has struggled with feeling like they deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, or anyone who feels their current relationship dynamic has room for growth.

For questions, comments and feedback on this episode, email me directly at matthew@matthewbivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens

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Creating Amazing Relationships: How Courage and Consideration Come Together In Successful Relationships Nov 03, 2020

In your relationships would you say you lean more on the side of Courage or Consideration?

We each fall somewhere in the spectrum of Courage vs Consideration. When there's an imbalance, relationships suffer and life gets challenging.

In today's episode I'm teaching you how courage and consideration come together to create mature, synergistic relationships, and I'm giving you the tools to evaluate for yourself whether you need to amp up the courage or the consideration in your life.

Don't forget!

Get yourself a copy of 7 Habits Of Highly Successful People by Stephen Covey. And if you have any questions, comments or feedback for me, email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens

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Choose Your Hard Oct 27, 2020

How do you feel about challenges in your life?

Challenge is a part of life.

My belief is that challenge is a necessary ingredient to growth. It helps us step up to and through our comfort zones. It helps us come to know ourselves on a deeper level.

Challenge is what makes you dig deep into parts of yourself you may not have known were there.

But we don't always relate to challenges in that way.

For today's episode I'm sharing with you a post I first saw on Instagram about challenges, and giving you some food for thought around how you may be approaching those uncomfortable moments in your life.

Your abundant loving life may be on the other side of your comfort zone, and my intention for you is that you see your own areas of opportunity, and boldly step into them.

Want to get in touch?

Email me at matthew at matthewbivens dot com, or message me on Instagram at matthew_bivens

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Are You Living With Passion And Doing What You Love? Oct 20, 2020

Are you doing what you love in life?

Many times a question like this make us think about turning our passions into a career. Pro athletes come to mind, the men and women who have taken a love for a childhood game and turned it into a lucrative career.

But that’s not the only way to do what you love and live a life with passion. You can 100% live with passion, joy and excitement, EVERYDAY, without changing careers or completely shifting your life around (you can of course do that too if you want).

In this episode I’m sharing with you questions to ask yourself that can help you identify your passions and build a life where you’re practicing and living them regularly.

Living life with passion is a key ingredient of “having it all”, and today’s conversation will help you get there!

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**Interested in learning more about the Having It A.L.L. Blueprint or 1-on-1 coaching? Drop me a note and let me know how I can serve you: https://www.matthewbivens.com/contact/

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6 Mental Tricks To Help You Power Through Your Workouts (And Maybe Even Enjoy Them!) Oct 13, 2020

Are you aware of the most important piece of equipment for working out?

It's your BRAIN!

Your mental chatter and internal conversation will either elevate your workouts, or can take you out. And right now (especially if this is something you haven't been paying attention to) it's probably doing more of the latter.

I've been an athlete my entire life, and over the past 4 years I've trained hundreds of people in health & fitness. During that time I've learned and spotted patterns of effectiveness when it comes to exercising and working out.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you 6 of my top mental tricks that will help you power through your workouts, and can even help you turn your exercises into a fun and enjoyable experience!

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How To Let Go And Gain Closure (When It Seems Totally Impossible) Oct 06, 2020

How do you let go when you’re feeling very attached? How do you gain closure when you felt like you’ve been wronged?

Those are some million dollar questions right there! Figure that out, and you might just be able to life a happy, drama free life for the rest of your years!

But that's the thing about letting go and closure - they are simple in concepts, but very hard to accomplish in reality.

In today's episode I'm going to take on both of these big ideas, and I'm going to help you navigate your way to letting go and gaining closure. I share a personal account from my life where letting go has been a challenge, and I give feedback on a listener email all about getting closure after years of unrest. My goal for this episode is that you walk away with not only tips on how you can let go and gain closure, but examples of what it looks like in real life that you can use as a model and inspiration.

If you're looking for help letting go and gaining closure in your life, I can help you. Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com to learn more.

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A Raw and Vulnerable Conversation on Conception, Pregnancy and Surrender Sep 29, 2020

When was the last time you wanted something so strongly, but it just wasn't happening and you had no answers as to why?

Each one of us knows what it's like to experience the vast range of emotions that come with having unmet desires.

For Sarah and I, it's no different.

In this episode we’re sharing in the spirit of vulnerability and transparency - we’ve been “open to conceive” for 6+ months now. At the time of publishing this episode we are not yet pregnant. The process over these past 6+ months has been incredibly emotional for both of us, with ups & downs of all types.

We decided to get on the mic and record our raw feelings about where we're at. No fluff. No filter. Just our honest emotions.

We wanted to do this while we were in it, rather than after we get to the other side (whatever that may look like), because we feel there's something important about visceral, "this is happening right now", sort of sharing.

Both Sarah and I feel this is important to share this conversation with you all. In the spirit of vulnerability and transparency.

We thank you so much for allowing me to share this with you, and I appreciate you listening.

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Learn How To Master Your Stress (Instead Of Running From It) So That You Can Be Calm In The Face Of Fire Sep 22, 2020

How do you deal with stress?

For many people, one big goal in life is to reduce the amount of things that stress them out. Getting the "stress inbox" to zero is a noble feat, but one that I believe is completely missing the point!

The goal should not be to eliminate stress -- because guess what, that's never going to happen! Life is stressful and that's just a fact. Instead, the goal should be to work on your RELATIONSHIP to the stress, ie how do you FEEL about the stress and what decisions do you make in the face of that stress.

These are things that can be learned, but first you must un-learn your conditioned response to stress, trigger, anxieties, worries, etc.

In today's episode I'm recommending that you stop running from stress and quit trying to get your stressors down to zero, and instead you focus on mastering your SELF in relation to the stress. Can you sit in an incredibly stressful situation, and be cool, calm and peaceful? The answer is YES, but are you able to do it right now?

As we continue our series on "back to basics" it's important to understand how we deal with stress, because you might just be feeling like you would "have it all" if only there was less stress in your life....

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A Pragmatists View On Affirmations: How To Get Positive Self Talk To Work For You (Rebroadcast) Sep 15, 2020

How do you feel about affirmations: Do you do them? Do you feel they can be effective? Do you believe they are bogus?

Affirmations can be a tool to help you on your growth journey. But a tool is only as effective as the user's knowledge and wisdom.

In this episode I'm talking about affirmations and positive self talk, and giving you my perspective as a self-diagnosed pragmatist.

I've tried my hand at affirmations many times, and have had mixed feelings and experiences. I do believe in the power of planting new thought seeds, however, and so I've stuck with affirmations and found methods for making them "work" to create the experience in life I'm seeking.

In this episode I share my method for making affirmations and positive self talk work for you.

Notes:

Louise Hay Affirmation Calendar

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Do Less, Get More Sep 08, 2020

Do you feel like the only way to get what you want in life is by doing MORE?

I held this belief for a LONG time, and the result was that I absolutely got more….more stress, more worry, more tension in my shoulders, more anxiety looking at my bank account, more feelings that I wasn’t doing enough, more frustration, more fights with my partner.

In today’s episode I am giving you permission to do LESS, and I’m telling you exactly why doing less is actually the key to more peace, presence and joy in your life.

Want to get in touch?

If you have some episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast, you want to share something from your life or just ask me a general question, best way to do it is by emailing me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or by DMing me on Instagram @matthew_bivens.

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Some of Our Biggest Breakthroughs in Sex and Intimacy Sep 01, 2020

What is the difference between sex and intimacy?

How does this play out in your relationship and how you feel about your own sex and intimacy both before and after kids?

In today's episode I'm bringing you a raw and honest conversation that Sarah and I had about sex and intimacy. Sex is on all of our minds, but how often are you able to listen in to an empowering, healthy and mature discussion on the topic?

This conversation took a lot of turns that we didn’t expect, and we share a lot of our own personal experiences in healing our relationship to ourselves as individuals and then as a couple. Our desire is that someone listening can take something from our examples and use it to create magical and pleasurable experiences that they are so worthy of!

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Infinite Patience Yields Immediate Results Aug 25, 2020

Where are you lacking in patience right now? In what area of your life would your experience be greatly improved if you could just be patient?

For me, it's a lot of things! In the past I did not consider myself a very patient person. When things weren't happening on my timeline, I would brood over it constantly. Internally I would complain, feel like a victim to time, and just not handle it well.

That's changed today, as I now consider myself a very patient person (I think fatherhood has honed that for me).

Yet, there are still things that come up where I find myself fighting against divine time and my ego.

In today's conversation I'm sharing with you a concept "infinite patience yields immediate results" and I'm passing along some stories to help you connect with your most patient self. It's in there, trust me! And when you connect with your infinite patience, you'll feel like you have it all.

Links from the episode:

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Cultivating Humility, Keeping Your Ego In Check And Succeeding In Life Aug 18, 2020

Does your ego run the show?

If you answered anything other than "Yes, at times", then today's episode for you!

In our conversation today I'm digging into humility and talking about why a healthy practice of humbling yourself regularly is a necessary ingredient to any significant change or growth you're seeking.

The more you think you don't need this conversation, the more you want to open your ears (close your mouth) and just receive the message.

All of the things you're playing for in life might just rest in you cultivating humility and keeping your ego in check.

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Doomscrolling Is Eating Away Your Happiness, Peace And Mental Health Aug 11, 2020

Have you ever found yourself up late at night, scrolling through social media, feeling worse and worse with every thumb flick, but unable to break away?

That my friend is known as "doomscrolling" and it's robbing you of your happiness, peace and mental health.

Doomscrolling is when you find yourself deep into an internet or social media hole, looking at posts and stories that leave you feeling anxious, depressed, hopeless, angry, disheartened, but you just cannot seem to break away. Doomscrolling has been going up since the pandemic and racial tensions of 2020, and as a result mental health and emotional health has taken a huge hit.

In today's episode I talk about Doomscrolling, break down why we do it, and give you some expert advice on how you can break the cycle and reclaim your health!

Struggling with Doomscrolling? I can help you. Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens. My programs are designed to help you break bad habits, form new healthy ones, and reclaim your happiness!

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4 Self Awareness Examples To Help You Improve Your Life Aug 04, 2020

How self aware are you?

That's a loaded question, huh!

Abraham Maslow once said "what is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself". I believe that self awareness is a foundational skill that can unlock your abundant loving life, and without it you're destined to stay frustrated, scared, anxious and stuck.

I certainly don't want that for you!

In today's episode I'm sharing with you 4 real examples from my life where I've succeeded and struggled with self awareness. These simple examples will help you see how I'm actively working on being more self aware each day, and you'll learn tips for improving your self awareness as well.

Do you want to take it to the next level?

Get in touch with me if you're tired of letting your inner critic run the show. If you don't want to constantly compare yourself to others, if you don't want to feel anxious all the time, if you want to feel unstuck and get your life moving in the right direction, I can help. I've walked many people through this process and I can help you as well. Email me at matthew@mathtew.bivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens.

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How To Know Whether You're In A Relationship Or Partnership With Special Guest Sarah Bivens Jul 28, 2020

How is the state of your relationship? How about your partnership?

I never used to look at the two as separate. The "relationship" included everything -- the romance, the intimacy, the day-to-day life dynamics, the household management.

But for me, as my primary relationship has matured and as new things like marriage and kids have entered the picture, I now see that there's a distinction between the relationship (influenced more by the heart) and the partnership (influenced more by the mind).

In today's special episode I invite my amazing wife Sarah in on this conversation, and together we talk about the difference between relationship and partnership, how ours has evolved over the years, and how we navigate breakdowns in each area.

If you want to reach out, share your thoughts, offer episode suggestions, or anything else, you can reach me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or on Instagram @matthew_bivens.

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A Little Conversation About Surrender, Humility and Self Mastery Jul 21, 2020

What does surrender mean to you, and how practiced are you at it?

I took my GameDay recently and was offered up a supreme opportunity for some surrender!

(If you're not sure what a GameDay is, I explain it in the episode)

The ability for me to surrender is at the center of my self mastery journey. It finds it's way into my relationships, my health, my fitness, my self talk, the visions for my life, and everything else.

I've spent years working on my ability to surrender. I've gone from being very concerned, attached, closed off and rigid, to much more surrendered, loving, open and flow. I love the growth I've made, and I'm constantly humbled by the fact that there is no destination. this never stops. I will always be presented with opportunities to surrender. It's humbling, and frustrating at times as well!!!

In today's episode I'm giving you a real peek behind the curtains at how I'm working on surrender, humility and self mastery, and how all three showed up in my GameDay. I bring you into my thought process, emotions, relating and ultimately responses to this huge opportunity that I created for surrender.

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Transform Your Sex By Doing These 3 Intentional Things, Works If You're Single Too! (Rebroadcast) Jul 14, 2020

Do you know what it means to be intentional with sexual intimacy?

Intention means something done for a purpose.

Sexual intimacy is a deep, pure connection with yourself and/or another person, where sexual energy is exchanged.

Put them together and what you have is a recipe for massive healing, growth and personal transformation.

So, how intentional are you with sex?

Sex is a thing that requires zero maturity or acquired knowledge to participate in, yet can be extraordinary risk from both a physical and emotional standpoint.

In today's episode I'm talking about the practice of setting intentions for your sexual intimacy, and how it can transform not only your experience of the sex you're about to engage in, but also what happens after the sex is complete.

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Now Is NOT The Time To Be Slacking On Your Exercise, And Here's Why Jul 07, 2020

Have you given yourself permission to slack on your exercise and overall physical health?

I get it, we're in the middle of a global circumstance that can be used as a great excuse to not exercise and neglect your health. But the ripple effects of doing so are far reaching, and you may be underestimating how detrimental it can be for your overall health & wellbeing if you've been putting physical exercise on the back-burner.

In today's conversation I'm illuminating the 5 key areas of your health - physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and social - and I'm showing you how they are all connected. Now is not the time to take your foot off the health gas. Especially if you're afraid for your physical health, now is the time to do MORE exercising, MORE clean eating and MORE healthy social connecting.

Links from today's episode:

Follow Dasha Shaw aka "The Hair Doula" on Instagram @thehairdoula
Grab a copy of The Legend Of The Curl Girl on Amazon

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Make It Fun Jun 30, 2020

Would you describe your life as "fun"?

Fun is one of those things that many people have given up on. As kids, fun came naturally - you didn't need to be taught how to have fun, how to play, how to create joy in the mundane. But as you got older and took on the responsibilities of adult life, fun may have fallen lower and lower on your list of priorities.

In my opinion, FUN is a vital element of having it all. It's the final F in our 6 F's Framework (Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance and Fun)

Fun gives life meaning and flavor and has us returning for more.

But if fun doesn't come naturally to you, OR if you've decided that fun is not necessary, then it may feel very distant and unfamiliar.

In today's episode I'm discussing the importance of intentionally injecting FUN into your life, and I'm giving you some simple tips on how you can have more fun each and everyday.

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The Magic In Doing One. Thing. At. A. Time. Jun 26, 2020

Are you a multitasker?

We all like to think that we're pretty efficient at doing multiple things at a time. We switch between different work tasks at once, we try and clean the house while disciplining the kids and ordering food over the phone, we put on our clothes while checking Instagram and talking with our partner. All in an attempt to be more productive, have more time, and feel more effective.

But I'm about to burst your pretty little multitasking bubble! Multitasking is a lie and a trap!! It's not really a thing and falling into the trap robs you of the very experience you want to have: a sense of peace, more time, feelings of effectiveness and productivity.

We fall into the trap because our society rewards "doingness". The busier you are, the more valued you are. So we try and stuff more and more into our 24 hour days. That leads to multitasking, which leads to feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, anxious, hurried, impatient and frustrated.

I'm guilt of this as well (which is why I recorded this podcast 😉

In today's episode I expose the trap of multitasking, and show you the magic of doing one thing at a time.

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Your Conscience Compass: A Built-In Tool For Navigating Your Life Jun 23, 2020

What is "conscience" and how can you use yours to help you find your way through life?

As you're trying to navigate through life - figure out who you are, what you're passionate about, how to create some balance - you need tools to help you navigate. Chances are, you have navigational equipment that you're not using, one of those tools is your CONSCIENCE.

We all have it, the little voice that tells us whether something will serve us or not.

I like to look at my conscience as a compass -- it tells me if I'm moving North, South, East or West. And I use that compass to navigate through life.

In today's episode I talk about how your conscience compass works, how you can learn to trust it more, and how to use it to navigate your life more effectively.

More for you:

If you're interested about my working on your Conscience Compass, check out my newest programs: Habits Power Up! and the Life Navigator. Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens to learn more.

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Protect Your House Jun 19, 2020

Are you fully aware of the impact the people you hang around, the environments you put yourself in, and the content you consume is having on you?

In sports there's this concept of "protecting your house", which is all about not letting the opponent through your defenses. In life, we must protect our health, psyche, spirit, joy, peace. Because outside factors are constantly bombarding us, trying to pull our energy down and keep us there.

In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment you will why protecting your house is a vital piece of having it all, and you'll learn how you can start doing it today.

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The 3 Types Of Meditation I Use To Weather The Storms Of Life Jun 16, 2020

How are you weathering the storms that you're in right now?

Life will drop circumstances in your lap, you can count on it. What's not always a sure thing is handling those storms with peace and confidence.

One of my goto tools for weathering the storms of life has been meditation. And over the years I've found that I turn to different types of meditations depending on what I'm going through.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you the three types of meditation I use to help me cope with life's challenges. By the end of the episode you'll be more equipped to create some inner peace in the midst of outer turmoil.

Links to my current favorite meditations:

5 minute morning meditation - https://youtu.be/taxs_vhlxgs
15 minute morning meditation - https://youtu.be/LpAzmyrUswg
Sleepcast from Headspace - https://youtu.be/9OHvPNatlBc
Headspace app - https://www.headspace.com/

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Quit Ignoring Your Intuition (Do This Instead) Jun 11, 2020

When your intuition/gut/instincts speak to you, how do you respond?

In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I share the importance of paying attention to your intuition and I give you a simple way to learn how to trust your instincts more that will have you going from skeptical to faithful.

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How To Figure Out Your Personal Values: Your Guide To Living Authentically Jun 09, 2020

How clear are you on your personal values? And are you allowing your personal values to guide your life?

A huge part of living an authentic life is operating in accordance to your personal values.

The truth is that you really don't know who you are if you don't know your personal values. Many people have a vague understanding of their personal values, but few are crystal clear AND EVEN FEWER live their life according to those values.

On today's episode I'm sharing with you a simple process to re-discovering your personal values, helping you uncover what's most important to you, and teaching you how to live an authentic life through your values.

Get your pen and pad ready for this one!

And if you're interested in doing a deep dive on your personal values (as well as 4 other necessary components to having it all), then check out the Having It A.L.L. Blueprint course: https://www.matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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How I Manage My Busy Life While Keeping Overwhelm At Bay Jun 02, 2020

How do you juggle all the different roles and responsibilities that you have?

That question was asked to me recently by a listener and I think it's in such alignment with everything that we talk about on this podcast. A major part of living your abundant loving life is being able to experience peace, joy and flow in the midst of the life you've created.

It's not about how many balls you're trying to keep up in the air, it's about how effective you are and how much you're enjoying the experience.

In today's episode I share with you the mindsets, tools and personal practices that grant me the ability to peacefully and joyfully juggle many roles and responsibilities, while keeping overwhelm and imbalance at bay.

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Put Your Stank On It! May 28, 2020

Is the life you're living one of your own design, or are you trying to follow someone else's blueprint?

We spend so much time comparing ourselves to others. Looking at how they do life and believing that their path is the only path. And then when we try to replicate what we see, we find that it doesn’t work and we get frustrated, judge ourselves, and feel stuck.

Stop doing that!

Just because someone does something one way, doesn’t mean that’s the only way!

In today’s Having It A.L.L. Moment I’m giving you permission to put your stank on it and live a life that’s unique to you.

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Episode 300: Reflection, Gratitude & Inspiration May 27, 2020

In today's special episode of the podcast, I acknowledge reaching the 300th episode and I talk about some of the highs, lows, and insights that helped us get to this point.

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Why I Embrace P.A.I.N. (And Why It's Important You Start Doing It Too!) May 19, 2020

When pain hits you, do you lean into it or run from it?

I used to be the person that ran from pain. Any type of pain, from physical to emotional, I wanted nothing to do with it!

And it made perfect sense to me: pain did not feel good, and so why would I want to experience something that didn't feel good?

Today I have an entirely different perspective towards PAIN. In fact, I embrace and love pain today, and doing so has been a critical step in my personal growth and healing journey.

Tune in as I give you a new way to look at PAIN and show you why leaning into pain will free you from your fears.

Links:

Fight Club Chemical Burn Scene

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The Math Of Human Behavior: What's Your Sign? May 15, 2020

If you were to assess how your presence impacts the world, would you be the type of person that adds, subtracts, multiplies or divides?

That's the topic I'm exploring in today's Having It A.L.L. Moment!

Each one of us, at all times, is doing one of those things. But how aware are you of the impact you're having? And is the impact you're having the one that you desire?

Today you'll be asked to think about your sign and the impact you're having in the world.

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What Years Of Inconsistency Taught Me About Follow Through And Keeping My Commitments May 12, 2020

Do you feel you lack consistency in some important areas?

One of the biggest challenges that people share with me is their lack of consistency. Sometimes it sounds like "I never follow through", or "I lack dedication", or "I don't have perseverance when times get tough". All of those shortcomings live under the umbrella of consistency, and it's a real challenge that robs the joyful life experience for so many.

It did for me for many years. For most of my life I would never consider myself consistent, not in the areas that mattered most anyway. I could always find examples where I started something and stopped, where I wanted to do something and got all excited for a short period of time, then inevitably fell off. It seemed to happen again and again.

But there were two moments in my life that taught me some powerful lessons in consistency, that changed everything for me.

In today's episode I talk about what I've learned about my own lack of consistency and what those two examples taught me that has transformed me into the consistent, dependable, trust-worthy person I am today.

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Do You Eat Other People's Emotional Garbage? May 07, 2020

Do you have a tendency to take things personally?

Be honest with yourself.

In the book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz has this amazing description of taking things personally, he calls it "eating emotional garbage".

"You eat all their emotional garbage, and now it becomes your garbage".

In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I remind you to not take things personally and help create a different context around the garbage others try and feed you.

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Just Breathe May 05, 2020

How are you breathing right now?

You take over 20,000 breaths per day, but how many of those are you aware of and present to?

Breathing is one of the most powerful habits that is so overlooked and under-appreciated.

In today's episode I'm taking it back to basics and am teaching you a very simple breathing technique that you can use to get you back to your center, equalize your mind/body/spirit, and simply ground yourself.

Links:

Sarah's episode on breathing "Breathe Damnit!"

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Stop Trying To Be Good At Everything Apr 30, 2020

When did we buy into this idea that we have to be proficient and skilled at all things at all times?

I know for me, as I started working on myself more and more, whenever I'd read about some new technique or practice that I could envision myself doing, I would add that to my "Must get great at" list and then I'd be hard on myself for not doing it consistently.

Gratitude journaling, meditating, clean eating, you name it -- at some point I held the belief that if I wasn't really good at them all (and consistent 100% of the time) then I was a lazy failure who obviously didn't really love themselves.

What is that all about?!?

In today's episode I share with you how I kicked that way of thinking, and I give you a different way to approach gaining new life skills.

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How I Clean Up The Mistakes I Make In Relationships (With Others And With Myself) Apr 28, 2020

When was the last time you made a mistake in a relationship? Did you clean it up??

In relationships it's hard to admit when you've did something wrong or made a mistake or just stepped out of line with your character. I've had a tough time in the past admitting to and owning my relationship missteps, and I've had plenty of instances where I powerfully owned them and plenty when I did not.

In the instances that I DID clean it up, it always felt so much better afterwards! I felt lighter, felt like I could move forward (move on), felt more excited and energized. Even when the conversation didn't go well.

Cleaning it up is important because there's a big impact when something is off in a a relationship that's important to you. Those missteps and tensions weigh heavily on us emotionally, mentally and physically. It's a weight and drain when you have messy relationships. Not just relationships with others, but with your self too.

Cleaning it up is a way to acknowledge what you did or where you messed up, own it, do what you need to to make amends, so that you can move on!

In today's episode I share examples of how I apply the "clean it up" idea to relationships (both with others and myself), and I show you how you can take full responsibility in relationships so that you can create more powerful connections.

Episode link:

www.matthewbivens.com/clean-it-up/

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All Work And No Play....Who Wants That?!? Apr 23, 2020

Do you approach your life more with a sense of Play or Work?

One of these perspectives creates joy and sustainability, the other will wear you out. Which do you think is which?

In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I talk to you about the Play Perspective and invite you to imagine how different areas of your life would look and feel if you approached them from the space of Play.

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How To Become A Better Sleeper Apr 21, 2020

On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate your ability fall asleep? How about the quality of your sleep?

If you're like many folks, sleep does not come easily. The act of getting to sleep can be frustrating and can have you thinking that you need sleeping aids, drugs or a whole host of other things to help you fall asleep and stay asleep.

I struggled with sleep for many years, and I turned to a number of things to help me out. But the one thing I didn't try until many years later, was investigating the ways in which I had taught myself to be a poor sleeper. That idea of conditioning myself for bad sleep didn't even cross my mind.

In today's episode I'm going to share with you what has helped me become one of those people who falls asleep instantly and wakes up feeling rested and energized! I believe it's totally possible for you to change both your relationship to sleep and the quality of sleep you're getting.

Episode link:

https://www.matthewbivens.com/get-better-sleep/

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What "Life Of Pi" Taught Me About Having It All Apr 16, 2020

Have you seen the film Life Of Pi?

If you. haven't, put it on your list because not only is it a film with an incredibly powerful story and the visual chops to go with it, the movie delivers some invaluable lessons about life.

I watched the film this week for the first time and was inspired by the themes of faith, surrender, trust, and gratitude that were peppered through the movie.

But even more humbling than that was the lesson the main character learns about how God and the Universe answers our requests.

In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I break down a central theme from the movie and relate it to your life in a way that will have you thinking differently about challenges and adversity.

If you have thoughts, questions or feedback from this episode, share it with me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or on Instagram @matthew_bivens

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How To Coach Yourself Through The Chronic Stresses Of Everyday Life Apr 14, 2020

When was the last time you were in chronic stress (that’s stress lasting over a long period of time)?

You might be in the midst of some chronic stress right now! Work, kids, relationships, and just the responsibilities of daily life put mild stress on your body that persists over a long period of time. When you don’t know how to deal with chronic stress, it always turns into acute stress.

There are 2 ways to relate to chronic stress: you can be PRESENT or you can be ABSENT.

In today’s episode I’m teaching you how to coach yourself through the chronic stress of life, and I’m sharing with you a very recent example of how I overcame some incredible chronic stress using the very tips from this episode.

If you need some help with dealing with the chronic stress in your life, I can help you.

Get in touch with me to learn how I can teach you the mindsets, practices and tools that can literally allow you to coach yourself through the ups and downs of life. Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com.

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The Quick Path To Happiness, Growth And Success Apr 09, 2020

Are you looking for a quicker path to growth, happiness and success?

Sorry to burst your bubble, there is no shortcut to getting what you want! And if you're seeking out a shortcut in the first place, that's a clue as to why you're stuck and not seeing the results you want in your life.

Brands and influencers in all industries have done an excellent job in making you believe that a quick path to getting what you want, feeling better about yourself, being happy and prosperous actually exists. They have you thinking that you can swipe a credit card, get some surgery, take some pills, or wish your way to what you want.

But the truth is that THERE IS NO QUICK PATH TO GROWTH, HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS!

It does not exist.

There are no shortcuts, there is no fast track, there is no magical wand you can wave to get to where you want.

You cannot fast track the process to growth.

The reason why there are no shortcuts is because arriving at the place you desire to arrive in -- whether it's greater health, a better economic situation, a more fulfilling career, deeper relationship -- all of that requires a shift in your character.

My goal for this HIA Moment is that you recognize where you're seeking out shortcuts, and you begin to embrace the reality that the process is the process. It takes what it takes in order to get what you want.

I want to help you!

If you're struggling with achieving your goals of growth, happiness and success because building the habits and character has been hard, then email me. I can help you figure out the path and process, walk it with consistency, learn to find enjoyment in the growth, and build the habits and character needed to achieve your goals. Email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com I'm currently taking on new 1:1 clients and I'd love to help you have it all and create your abundant loving life.

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3 Types Hobbies You Want To Have In Your Life Apr 07, 2020

Do you have any hobbies?

I'm talking about those things you do during your down time simply because you enjoy doing them.

Maybe you're laughing to yourself thinking, "I don't have any leisure time, I'm way too busy" or maybe you have one or two things you enjoy but don't do them frequently enough to consider them hobbies.

Well at the end of this episode you're going to feel inspired to intentionally create new hobbies in your life.

Hobbies provide so many benefits including stress relief, improving physical health, better performance and creativity at work. Hobbies also help you stay in an abundant mindset, because you don't fully enjoy a hobby unless you have let go of time scarcity.

Today you'll learn why hobbies are important, how to change your feelings around being "busy", and what the three different types of hobbies are.

If you want to get in touch with me to ask a question, suggest a topic, or just say what's up, you can email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens

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How To Start Your Own Podcast: A Not-So-Short-But-Totally-Worth-It Dive Into Podcasting For Beginners Apr 04, 2020

Have you considered starting a podcast?

If yes: Awesome!

If no, why the heck not??

This is an amazing time to start a podcast: more and more people are listening each day, the space is not too crowded yet, your voice/story/message need to be heard right now, and you've got the time on your hands😉

So, I totally think you should do it. Seriously!

Podcasting has changed my life in ways I could not ever imagine, and I know it can offer so much to you as well.

In this robust episode I'm sharing with you tons of information about podcasting, including:

How podcasting has changed my life
Why you should consider starting a podcast right now
Myths that scare people away
How podcasting actually works
My process from turning your idea into a podcast
Mistakes to avoid
Tips from a seasoned podcaster

Let's dive in!

If you want to get in touch with me about podcasting or anything else, email me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens

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What Station Are You Picking Up? Apr 02, 2020

What kind of conversations and stories are you hearing these days?

I've been hearing and seeing such amazing examples of love, humanity, abundance and sharing. It's been so inspiring and it has been so intentional. The reason I'm receiving such empowering vibes, is because my tuner is set to those frequencies. The beliefs and thoughts I'm choosing to hold in my mind support me seeing examples of love and abundance.

So again I ask you, what examples are you picking up?

Just like a car radio, you can tune your awareness to whatever station you want to pick up. Being aware of the station you're picking up and the impact that station is having on you is so important, if you want to remain in your peace, joy and centeredness throughout the whole situation.

In today's episode I help you bring more awareness to the station you're tuned into, and discuss ways to change the station so you can enhance your experience of life.

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A 15 Minute Meditation For Easing Stress, Fear and Anxiety (from Katie Krimitsos of the Women's Meditation Network Podcast) Apr 01, 2020

Are you feeling more stressed out than usual?

I get it. The global situation that we all find ourselves in the midst of currently has added a whole new layer of stress, anxiety and fear out into the world. And even the most steadfast self-care junkies aren't immune to feeling the impact of this.

If you're having a hard time kicking the fear, stress and anxiety of corona virus and covid-19 talk, then I have something for you.

For today's episode I'm bringing you a meditation that was created specifically for coronavirus anxiety. In fact it's called the "Coronavirus Anxiety Meditation" and it comes from Katie Krimitsos of the Women's Meditation Network.

I'll let Katie tell you a bit about herself:

"I’m a woman who is deeply interested in continually evolving herself, in becoming more mindful, trying to live the most vibrant life I can possibly live. I’m a mom, a wife, a daughter, sister, aunt and friend. I’ve been a podcaster since 2014 and have had the privilege of supporting women in business under my Biz Women Rock banner. I’m an athlete, a vegan, an adventurer, a recovering perfectionist and gladiator. I doubt myself, have struggled with loving my body, have felt the pangs of comparing myself to others, let fear keep me from doing things I really wanted to do and have carried way too many things on my shoulders. I am perfectly imperfect and always searching to understand myself better."

I'm excited to bring you something different, all in an effort to help you stay focused on creating your abundant loving life.

Please support Katie's podcast by tuning in and subscribing!

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Dream Big, Start Small: How To Achieve More, Set Goals and Stay Focused When You've Struggled In The Past Mar 31, 2020

Do you have little faith in your ability to achieve your big goals?

I used to feel pretty low on myself as it related to setting goals and achieving them.

Didn't matter if it was a work goal, fitness goal, money goal or just a life goal -- a part of me seemed to always believe that no matter how much I wanted it, I just wouldn't achieve it.

The problem wasn't that I didn't know what I wanted. I had PLENTY of things I desired to accomplish (my Big Hairy Audacious Goal list was massive). I was just ineffective at everything AFTER coming up with the goal. I didn't know how to plan, how to strategize, how to help myself overcome my own obstacles, how to check in with my goals, how to be smart with my goals --- none of that.

And so 95% of the time I ended up quitting and feeling crappy about myself. Each failed goal made me feel less and less capable, and that led me to set less and smaller goals.

Can you relate?

In today's podcast I'm tackling the big hairy beast that is GOAL SETTING and ACHIEVING MORE IN YOUR LIFE, in the hopes of helping to ignite a breakthrough within you.

You CAN set goals that are meaningful and will really move the needle for you.

You CAN create a plan and follow it.

You CAN overcome the inevitable obstacles that you'll run into along the way.

And you CAN achieve those things you really desire in life.

Ready to make it happen?

Let's do this together!

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Stay At Home Date Night Ideas For Singles, Couples and Families (from Nancy & Bill Jamison of the Sex, Money & Real Estate Podcast) Mar 30, 2020

Give me a virtual hand raise if keeping a "normal" schedule has been tough right now! Keep it up if your date nights were one of the first things to go as you shifted to staying at home.

At the time of publishing this episode, much of the country is entering week 3 of the stay-at-home experience because of the Covid-19 situation. Schools are closed, businesses are closed, and daily life has been thrown on its head.

I'm sure one of the first things to go has been date time, whether that's with your partner, with yourself or with your family.

But I know that you know the importance of making that deposit. Carving out time for dating is one of the most powerful deposits you can make into a relationship, and it's even more important now with emotions high and fear prevalent.

For today's episode I'm doing something different, and I'm bringing you a great conversation from the Sex, Money & Real Estate podcast hosted by my friends Nancy and Bill Jamison.

The Jamison's are a badass pair of business owners, real estate agents, Balance Lifestyle Coaches, and parents. They are an inspirational power couple that have navigated the ups and downs of being married for 20 years in such a real, raw and authentic way. There's no sugar coating it: they've been through it in their relationship. From bankruptcy, to almost divorce, to figuring out how to break out of a codependent relationship and create something that is healthy, loving and intimate.

Their podcast Sex, Money & Real Estate contains their insights and advice for creating a relationship, business and life that's sexy, fun, and rewarding. Check them out on Apple, Google or wherever you get your podcasts.

From this episode I hope you walk away with a few ideas you can incorporate into your life.

Share with me your thoughts and feedback at matthew@matthewbivens.com or on Instagram @matthew_bivens.

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One Question To Help You Beat The Corona Crisis Anxiety And Get Out Of Your Head Mar 24, 2020

Are you having a hard time staying present, optimistic and focused with the corona virus situation that has gripped the world and seems to be never ending?

You might be having a really tough time not feeling anxious, worried, scarce and stuck in your head right now. As the news seems to get worse everyday, it's understandable that your perspective and hope for a resolution seems to get more dire each day.

This as an opportunity for us all, and even if you're not in that headspace just yet, I want to share with you a question that can help you get back into a more grounded frame of mind where you can have a more empowering influence and impact over your unique situation. The question is: If you were to fast forward to when all of this has blown over, and you reflect on how you showed up during the time of crisis, what will have you feeling inspired by how you chose to show up?

Literally, think about when all of this is over and you're reflecting back on how YOU handled it all, what is going to make you say to yourself "Wow, I'm so proud of myself for how I showed up!"

For example, with me I will be incredibly inspired if I am MORE giving and loving to others throughout all of this. If I'm reaching out to family, friends, current clients, former clients, people from my past, to genuinely check up on them and see if they need anything. Setting that intention, and following through on it, will have me feeling great about how I chose to rise up in the face of this adversity.

Performing the same exercise for yourself can truly help you get out of your head, and get into a plan of action that will restore your power and your ability to positively impact your situation.

So answer the question, make a list of everything that comes up for you, keep that list top of mind (print it up or put it on your phone), and each day work towards BECOMING that version of you.

As you do that you'll be spending less time focusing on your problems and worries, and more time helping others, creating things, serving, innovating and overall just being in your circle of influence.

Timestamps

Magic (03:05)
Listener love (05:42)
Context around the one question (06:55)
The one question to ask yourself (12:38)
I want to personally help you if you need it (28:53)

Reach out if you're struggling with everything going on

Seriously, if you want to jump on a Skype call because you're having a tough time dealing, I'm making myself available to you. If you want some perspective or some advice, reach out. If you want me to cover something specific in an episode that will help you deal with everthign going on, reach out and let me know.

Email: matthew@matthewbivens.com

Instagram: @matthew_bivens

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How To Crush It When Working From Home For The First Time: Expert Tips, Tricks And Mindset Strategies for Being Super Productive When Working From Home Mar 17, 2020

Are you now being asked to work-from-home and you're a bit nervous you won't be able to do it successfully?

Fear not! I've been successfully working from home for 8 years, and I'm here to give you tips, strategies and ideas that will help make this time productive, enjoyable and easy.

The myths that working from home are impossible, or that it's a time for relaxing and taking it easy, have created a bit of a bias around the concept of being productive outside of the office. But truthfully, you can get MORE done at home in LESS time than you would in an office, and I'm going to show you how.

Timestamps:

Magic (03:42)
Listener Love (10:25)
Working from home episode agenda (12:58)
My story of working from home (16:18)
Tips for successfully working from home (24:01)
What to watch out for when working from home (45:06)

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Special Episode: Choosing Love In A Time Of Fear Mar 14, 2020

In these interesting times we find ourselves in, are you coming from a place of LOVE or FEAR?

What a few weeks it has been! The world is being gripped by a couple of things right now, one of them being a FEAR virus. And the impact is being felt by just about everyone.

In this episode I'm taking a moment to talk about how we can all spread some love instead of fear right now, and I'm giving you some tips for how you can get yourself back into a loving and centered place when those around you seem to be caught up in the fear.

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7 Ways To Be More Bold When You’re Afraid Of Taking Risks Mar 10, 2020

Does the idea of taking risks scare the mess out of you?

I know it did for me, and for much of my life I was completely risk averse. But thankfully I grew to realize that everything I wanted -- a fulfilling career, a deep and loving relationship, healthy and vitality -- all could be mine if I was willing to take the necessary risks, and I started pushing my comfort zones.

And the beautiful thing is that it's a learned behavior, something that ANYONE can improve at.

In today's episode I help you become more bold when you're afraid of taking risks, and I break down simple things you can do and think about that will get you moving in the direction of your abundant loving life.

Links:

Take A Risk: The Odds Are Better Than You Think - https://www.forbes.com/sites/margiewarrell/2013/06/18/take-a-risk-the-odds-are-better-than-you-think/#715d993345c2
The Incredible Power Of Taking Risks In Life - https://www.thedailypositive.com/taking-risks-in-life/
Afraid Of Risks? How To Be Bolder - https://www.success.com/afraid-of-risks-how-to-be-bolder/
Why Taking Risks Is The Key To Getting What You Want - https://www.girlboss.com/life/how-to-take-more-risks
6 Ways To Be A Successful Risk Take And Take More Chances - https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/6-ways-successful-risk-taker-2.html
How To Take Intelligent Risks In The Pursuit Of Your Goals - https://blog.iqmatrix.com/intelligent-risks

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Get Over Yourself Already And Ask For Some Help! Mar 06, 2020

Do you feel like you're in a rut in some area of your life?

Chances are there is some person somewhere that knows exactly how to get you unstuck. Well, why aren't you asking that person for some help? The time, money and headache that you could save is incredible, but still you'll fight to remain frustrated. In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I recommend you get over yourself already and ask for some help!

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Identity, Intuition and Deprogramming: My Interview On The Young Legends Podcast Mar 03, 2020

Let's play a game! Imagine I told you I was putting together a book of all the cheat codes to life, and I asked you to contribute: what life cheat codes would you share?

Today's episode is cool because I'm sharing with you an interview that I did on another show called Young Legends. In it, host Kaption Red explores the "cheat codes for life" and brings empowering conversations meant to inspire greatness. I had a blast on the show as we explored everything from personal identity and trusting your intuition, to deprogramming unhealthy learned behavior and building healthy habits.

I really think you'll like this conversation!

Links:

Young Legends Website - https://www.younglegendspodcast.com/
Young Legends on iTunes - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/young-legends/id1461522242

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How To Cultivate Faith When It's Low & Dealing With A Passive Aggressive Partner (Listener Q&A) Feb 25, 2020

How do you find and cultivate faith when you haven't felt it before? And what can you do when your partner uses passive aggressive behavior when faced with conflict?

These are things that we all face, life situations that feel unclear, frustrating and unenjoyable. I've been there and I've had to navigate my way through them.

In today's episode I'm reading a couple of listener emails, and sharing my thoughts.

If you have a question you'd like to ask me or a topic you'd like to suggest, you can reach me at matthew@matthewbivens.com or matthew_bivens on Instagram.

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The Secret To Boosting Your Confidence And Keeping It High (It May Not Be What You Think) Feb 20, 2020

How high is your trust in yourself?

You may or may not be able to answer that question easily. But I bet you have an answer for this one - how confident are you? The link between confidence and trust is so incredibly strong, yet we don't usually think of those two things as related. Today I'm shining light on why confidence and trust go hand in hand, and I'm giving you a pathway to experience higher levels of both in your life.

Links:

The TRUST Challenge - https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/

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What Does It Really Mean To Be An "Involved Dad"? Feb 18, 2020

How would you describe what being an "involved dad" is?

I believe being an involved dad is the goal of the vast majority of fathers, yet not all fathers are showing up in that way. There are some basic tenants to being an involved dad (and being a powerful man) that aren't taught in schools. In today's episode I'm exploring what it really means to be an "involved dad" and why that label itself carries with it some controversy.

This idea came up in a conversation Sarah and I were having on our other podcast, Doing It At Home, and I was clear that discussing fatherhood and what it looks like to show up powerfully as a dad was something to bring to Having It A.L.L..

Links:

Study Explains What It Means To Be An "Involved Father" - https://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2010/07/what-does-it-mean-to-be-an-involved-father/
The Involved Dad - https://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/the-involved-father/
Say Good Bye To The Involved Dad - https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/11/11/say-good-bye-to-the-involved-dad/

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Change Your Life Series: Creating Change Even When You Don't Feel Like It Feb 13, 2020

How often do you really FEEL like doing something hard?

Be honest.

If you're being real with yourself you probably never really feel like it. Mustering up the desire to do something uncomfortable or frightening can definitely be tough. But I'm here to tell you there's a way to bypass those feelings and get to the results you're truly wanting!

Tune in as I share this hack with you and how I use it on a daily basis.

Link:

Learn more and sign up for the Trust Challenge (starting February 20, 2020) - https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust

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Change Your Life Series: How To Change Your Life In 5 Seconds! Feb 11, 2020

How often do you talk yourself out of doing something empowering?

Probably more than you're comfortable admitting! Today I'm sharing with you a powerful mental hack that can help you shut out those fear voices and get to doing the things you know you should be doing. It's called the 5 Second Rule, and it's inventor Mel Robbins is a tour de force when it comes to personal change.

Links:

Trust Challenge info and sign-up at www.matthewbivens.com/TRUST
Mel Robbin's website - https://melrobbins.com/
Mel Robbin's powerful video called "One Of The Best Talks Ever on Self-Motivation" - https://youtu.be/_BNDdamTDak

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Change Your Life Series: Why Is Change So Frustrating? Feb 04, 2020

So why is change so frustrating?

You'd think it wouldn't be so difficult to change something that you REALLY want to change. I know in the past I've been incredibly hard on myself for "not having the willpower" or "not wanting it enough" or "not being disciplined enough", when I failed to make change happen in my life.

But what I told you there were crucial pieces of the change equation that you were missing? Ones that illuminate why change is so hard, and how to actually make it work for you.

Today's episode was inspired by a conversation I heard on The Life Coach School Podcast -- https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcast/1/

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It's Time For A Check-in Feb 02, 2020

January 2020 is in the can, so how did it go? Did you show up the way you wanted to? Do you feel like you've made some meaningful progress on your goals for the year? If you set new years resolutions, are they still in play?

It's time for a check-in on how your year has been so far. If you set concrete goals for the year, or if you simply know you wanted to make 2020 better than 2019, then checking-in periodically needs to be a part of your regular routine.

So do it now!

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Mastering Your Body Vehicle: A Deep Dive In Improving Your Health, Fitness and Balance Jan 28, 2020

What does it mean to be healthy and fit? How healthy and fit are you right now?

I've shared a lot of different tools with you over the course of this podcast, and in today's episode I'm going to go deep into one particular tool/concept that I want you to really understand well, because your health depends on it!

I'm talking about your Body Vehicle and the 5 wheels that make up your Body Vehicle: Mental, Spiritual, Social, Emotional and Physical.

These 5 areas are what make up our health, and everyone is operating at different levels in each area. You may be operating at different levels in each area depending on what time of day it is!

The Body Vehicle is a great framework for looking at your overall health and fitness, but actually putting it to use can be tough if you don't know where to start. Today that ends because I'm going to not only break down all 5 areas, but I'm going to give you very specific habits you can perform and incorporate into your life that will help you heal and grow in each of the 5 areas. By the end of the episode you'll feel so much more equipped to begin addressing the wheels of your Body Vehicle.

Plus, I have a special offer if you're ready for the support, guidance and accountability in actually addressing your Body Vehicle so you can experience more health, fitness and balance.

Links:

Email me to talk about the Balance Chart and creating your personal Body Vehicle tool -- matthew@matthewbivens.com

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Strap In, Because The Only Way Out Of Your Problems Is Through Them Jan 25, 2020

What problems are you avoiding right now? What challenges are right there in front of you, that you're denying or doing everything in your power to not face?

I know what it's like to be so afraid to face my problems and to make every rationalization, justification and excuse as to why facing them is a bad idea. I know what it feels like to constantly choose the victim role to my problems.

But I also know what it feels like to ultimately gear up, strap on my boots and march head first into my problems.

Today I'm here to prepare you for the inevitability that is you finally facing your problems, challenges and fears. Because yeah, it's going to happen!

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Special LIVE Episode: Create Your Word For The Year Workshop Jan 21, 2020

Do you have a word for the year yet? If not, what are you waiting for?!?

Not to worry, if you still haven't created your word for the year I promise you that you'll want to jump on it after hearing today's episode! We did something totally cool that we haven't done yet on the podcast for this one -- we recorded LIVE in front of an audience. This episode was recorded at the Word For The Year Workshop, part of the Monday Motivational Mindset series, here in Atlanta, Ga. Together we went through the process to creating a word for the year, and what you're going to hear in the episode are attendees of the workshop sharing their word and what it means to them.

To get the free Word For The Year Tool (the same one we used in the workshop) just go to www.matthewbivens.com/word

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The People You Admire Are No Different Than You Jan 16, 2020

Who are the people in your life that you admire?

It's all too common that you see someone that you admire -- whether it's because of something they've accomplished, some measure of success they've reached, how they show up for other people, aspects of their personality -- and you think that you will never be able to be like them. That there's something you lack that they possess, and that the thing you admire in them is not available to you.

That's some BS!

I'm here to tell you that fundamentally there is NO DIFFERENCE between you and those folks you admire. You can do/be/have what they have done/been/created. It all comes down to CHOICES.

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NOW Is The Time To Start Prioritizing Your Health Jan 14, 2020

Where does your personal health rank on your list of priorities?

Probably not at the top. Well, as you can guess from this title of this episode, I'm making a strong case for why you MUST begin to push your health to the top of your list. And I'm talking right now! Not next month, next quarter, over the summer. NOW!

And yes I do mean priority. Your health should be the first thing you're thinking about each day, before your kids your spouse your job your co-wokers, all of that.

I'm going to break down why your health needs to be priority, what exactly I mean by "Health", and give you clear steps to start making meaningful strides in your health right now.

Links:

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This Is Precisely Why You Want To Cut The Crappy Self Talk Jan 10, 2020

Do you realize just how impactful your words can be? Travis Moawad has an idea. Just check out a thought he shared on the Long Story Short podcast (link below): “When I say it out loud, it’s 10 times more powerful than when I think it. And if it’s negative it could be a multiple of 7 times more powerful than positive.” Today I help you become aware of the power of your self talk. Link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trevor-moawad-the-importance-of-mindset/id1111787417?i=10004

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My Biggest Pet Peeves and Other Things You Might Not Know About Me with Special Guest Host Sarah Bivens Jan 07, 2020

What do you REALLY know about the Having It A.L.L. podcast host, Matthew Bivens? No, this isn't an expose episode, but this is a fun conversation where the tables are turned a bit. Join us in the Season 5 opener for Having It A.L.L. as we switch things up, and hopefully you walk away having laughed, connected and learned a thing or two.

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Season 5 Preview! Jan 07, 2020

Are you ready for season 5 of the Having It A.L.L. Podcast!!? Well ready or not, it's coming! In today's episode I'm sharing with you all the awesome things coming in Season 5 of the podcast. From new topics to all new types of episodes (and more), there's a lot to look forward to! If you have a suggestion for an episode topic you want to share with me, here are a few ways you can get in touch: Website: www.matthewbivens.com/contact Email: matthew@matthewbivens.com Instagram: @matthew_bive

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New Year, New Decade, New Beginning...Bring It On! Dec 31, 2019

Are you ready for the New Year!? It's the eve of 2020, and for today's episode I wanted to take a few minutes to reflect on the past year and past decade. I share some of the highs (and lows) from the past 10 years, I give you some things to chew on as you reflect on the past year, and I leave you with a few intentions and words to inspire and empower you to 2020 and beyond. I'm so grateful for everything we experienced together in 2019, and am super excited for everything we have come up in 2020!

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Stop Doing This One Thing In 2020 And It Will Be Your Best Year Yet, Guaranteed! Dec 24, 2019

Is there something new or different you'd like to have in 2020? Maybe it's a more successful career, or a more fulfilling love life, or a greater sense of abundance. In today's episode I talk about the one thing that you need to stop doing in order to have those things you are truly desiring. Links: Mike Robbins "Be Do Have" https://mike-robbins.com/be-do-have/ Unravelling the Be Do Have Paradigm https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/5446465

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Create Your Word For The Year (2020 Edition) Dec 17, 2019

Are you prepared for the next 12 months to be your best year yet? I want to equip you with the tools to make next year the best it possibly can be, and in today's episode I will help you do just that! For the past 3 years not I've been using a word for the year to help me accomplish my goals in the new year, and today I'm sharing with you a process for developing your own word for the year. Links: Grab the free Word For The Year Tool - www.matthewbivens.com/word

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The "Snapback Effect" And Why It Will Make All The Difference For You In 2020 Dec 10, 2019

Have you ever failed at reaching a goal? Or launched a New Years Resolution, only to see it crash days or weeks later? In today's episode I'm unpacking a concept called the "snapback effect", and sharing how it keeps you from reaching your goals and resolutions. Links: "How to get out of your comfort zone and succeed in new territory" -- https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/340874 Abundance Benchmark - https://www.matthewbivens.com/quiz/ Balance Chart - https://www.theydbg.com/

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How To Create A Life Of Purpose, Profit and Principle with Day Adeogba (Rebroadcast) Dec 04, 2019

Today's episode is part 2 of my series on the YourDay Balance Game. For the episode today, I'm bringing you a powerful conversation I had with the founder of the YDBG, Day Adeogba. Day is a transformational specialist, the creator of the YourDay Balance Game, the CEO of YourDay Enterprises, the creator of the Balance Chart app, and my coach and mentor for the past 5 years. Links: The Make Everyday YourDay Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/make-everyday-yourday/id1386360493

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A Deep Dive Into My #1 Tool For Radical Self Growth: The YourDay Balance Game Dec 03, 2019

For the past 10 years I've been on a very intentional journey to learn, understand and connect with my inner self more powerfully, for the purpose of healing, growth and transformation. And over that time I've come across a TON of tools and resources that I used along the way. One of them stands out above the rest, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you my #1 tool for radical self growth: the YourDay Balance Game. Links: The YourDay Balance Game Website - https://www.theydbg.com/

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2 Harsh Life Truths You Need To Know To Create The Life You Want Nov 26, 2019

Ready for a bit of tough love? I read an article recently which triggered me and I decided to record this episode dedicated to sharing with you the two harsh truths about life which can help you move beyond your blockages and ultimately create the life you want. Links: The article which inspired this episode: https://www.inc.com/scott-mautz/why-you-need-to-accept-harsh-truth-that-nobody-cares-you-need-to-work-harder.html Link to the new HIA Swag Shop: https://www.matthewbivens.com/store/

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Two Choices Nov 23, 2019

“You are ready and able to do beautiful things in this world, and as you walk through those doors today, you will only have two choices: love or fear. Choose love, and don’t ever let fear turn you against your playful heart.” - Jim Carrey All choices in life can be boiled down to a choice between LOVE & FEAR. Today I want give you some A.I.M. - Affirmation Inspiration Motivation - to help you choose love. Links: Grab your "Choose Love" shirt in the new HIA Swag Shop -- www.matthewbivens.co

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How To Totally Level Up Your Relationship Using The 5 Love Languages (Rebroadcast) Nov 19, 2019

How do you like to be loved? How does your partner prefer to be loved? Are they loving you in the style in which you like to be loved, and vice versa? Today I'm rebroadcasting an episode from the HIA archive where I talk about my favorite tool for creating a powerful relationship - The 5 Love Languages. Links: HIA Swag Shop - https://www.bonfire.com/store/having-it-all-podcast/ The Balance Chart Website - https://www.theydbg.com/ 5 Love Languages - https://www.5lovelanguages.com/5-love-languages/

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Healthy Ways To Deal With A Breakup Nov 12, 2019

Breakups are hard. When a significant relationship ends it can send you in a tailspin of emotions that can easily lead to destructive behaviors and thought patterns. But within every breakup are the insights for healing and growth. In this episode I'm sharing healthy ways to deal with a breakup, so that you can emerge stronger, more confident, and more in love with the most important person in your life - You!

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What To Do If You Struggle With Consistency Nov 05, 2019

Do you struggle with staying consistent? You know the feeling. You start something, feel great for a while, then seemingly inevitably you fall off and quit. At that point the self doubt convos enter, the "I knew you couldn't do it!" self talk enters. All that crap. In today's episode I'm giving you some simple tips for helping you be more consistent in life. Link: Video: "How To Develop Grit So You Can Do The Things You Don't Want To Do" -- https://youtu.be/Ph0BLJPbsD8

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The 5 Key Principles I Live By Oct 29, 2019

Do you have principles? What are they? How do you use them? Are you confident that you know what living a principally based life means? Today I'm shining light on this idea of "principles" that so many self help gurus and successful people tout as the key to living a great life. You will learn the 5 key principles that I choose to live my life by and I show you how you can live by them too.

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My Process For Creating A Vision Board That Isn't Useless Oct 22, 2019

Do you think vision boards are useless? A lot of people do. And I don't blame them. The idea of making a dream list for your life and watching as it magically appears, does seem pretty unrealistic. But what if you could make the tool work in your life with a few tweaks? In today's episode I share with you my process for creating a vision board that isn't useless, and in fact can be like a wish list for your life. Link: Join me on my Purpose Webinar - https://www.matthewbivens.com/purpose/

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The 5 Taboo Topics You Need To Stop Avoiding And Start Getting Real With Oct 15, 2019

What subjects are off limits to you? What things do you avoid in your life like the plague?! Most people have some topics that they refuse to address. These "taboo subjects" are robbing you of your power, your freedom and your life! If you want to truly have it all and live the life you're meant to live, then you MUST start addressing these things in a real way. Today I talk about how to do just that. Links: Work with me 1-on-1 https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/

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"I am concerned for your life": A Conversation About Killing Busyness And Living With Purpose, Productivity and Peace with Dr. Garland Vance Oct 08, 2019

I am concerned for your life. Real talk. If you identify yourself as "busy" and wear your busyness like a badge of honor, then there's a great chance you're putting your health at risk. Today I'm bringing you a conversation with Dr. Garland Vance, who not too long ago was told by his doctor "I am concerned for your life". Garland and I dive into the events that led up to his doctor visit, and the dramatic life changes he made as a result. Link: http://www.gettinunbusybook.com/home-page

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Don't know your life purpose? YOU'RE SCREWED!! Oct 01, 2019

Don't know what your purpose is? YOU'RE SCREWED! You know I'm just playing, but that's how so many of us feel when we cannot answer the all important question, "What is your life purpose?" Today's conversation may seem a bit contradictory from what I've been talking about the last two weeks, but trust me that it's all connected! Links: Register for my FREE webinar on finding your life purpose: https://www.matthewbivens.com/purpose/

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Not Feeling Fulfilled In Life? Here's What You Need To Do To Be More Fulfilled And Content Sep 24, 2019

Are you able to answer the question -- "What would have to happen in order for you to feel fulfilled in your life?" If you're struggling with feeling fulfilled then LISTEN UP! Today I'm sharing with you a very simple method for answering that fulfillment question, so you can both FEEL and BE more fulfilled in your life. Links: My Free Purpose Webinar - http://matthewbivens.com/purpose My Course on Purpose, Fulfillment, and Passion - http://matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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The 1 Question I Asked Myself That Led Me To Discover My Life's Purpose Sep 17, 2019

What is your life's purpose? There was a time when hearing that question made me feel ashamed (that I didn't have an answer), jealous (of all the other people who were seemingly on their path), and confused (at not having a clue about how to figure it out). But all of that changed in an instant for me, and that's what I'm sharing with you in today's podcast! Links: My free "Find Your Purpose" webinar - https://www.matthewbivens.com/purpose/

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A Different Take On Purpose, Vision and Passion (Rebroadcast) Sep 10, 2019

How do you define purpose, vision and passion? I've had a love hate relationship to purpose, vision and passion. I love them because they are at the heart of creating a truly fulfilled and magical life, and that's what I'm playing for. But I hate them because when I've felt I've lacked any or all of them, I judged myself so harshly. Today I'm talking about the difference between purpose, vision and passion, how they interact with one another, and why they're key ingredients to having it all.

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The Balance Experts Have Spoken! 10 Expert Tips On Living A Life Of Balance (Plus 15 More You're Really Going To Want To Use In Your Life) Sep 03, 2019

How can you create more balance in your daily life? Do you have a clear answer to this question based off of personal experience, empirical evidence and thorough research? Probably not, and that's totally cool because I did it for you! I researched the current expert advice on living a life of balance and compiled a list of their top tips. The 10 best tips are in this episode, and the entire list of 25 tips is on my website for free. Links: Get the whole list at www.matthewbivens.com/balancetips

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Opening Up About My Biggest Recent Struggles Aug 30, 2019

This is not a typical HIA episode. Today I wanted to let you in on a few things that I have been struggling with, which have impacted my life, relationships, business and this podcast.

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The Thinking That Lead To No Boundaries At Work (And How To Counter It) Aug 27, 2019

Do you have a hard time setting and holding boundaries with work? I know the feeling of struggling with holding boundaries. The fear of saying "no", of telling someone you're unavailable, of turning your phone off at night because "what if I miss something important?". In this episode I explore how to create and hold boundaries at work, even if you're starting from the ground floor. Links: https://www.matthewbivens.com/balance-ebook/

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3 Underlying Reasons Why You Don't Have Balance (And What To Do About Them) Aug 20, 2019

What do you do when you're feeling imbalanced, burnt out and overwhelmed? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 3 hidden reasons why you're not feeling balanced in your life, and I give you action items to make a change. Links: Balance System Ebook - http://www.matthewbivens.com/balance-ebook/ Forbes article - https://www.forbes.com/sites/ashleystahl/2018/10/22/the-importance-of-work-life-balance-and-how-to-achieve-it/#4b71c5e94e05

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What Is Your Joy-to-Sadness Ratio? Aug 13, 2019

If you looked at your average day, how much of it do you spend in a state of Joy vs Sadness? My coach and mentor Day Adeogba shared with me a conversation he had with his kids recently, where he asked them "What do you think your Joy-to-Sadness ratio is?" That idea of a Joy-to-Sadness ratio totally fascinated me and inspired this episode! Tune in to hear about the Joy-to-Sadness ratio, how you can determine your goal ratio and what you can do to experience more joy in life.

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My #1 Piece Of Advice On Improving Any Relationship (From Personal Experience) Aug 06, 2019

How can you improve any relationship in your life? Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from many past relationship experiences that have both improved and terminated. The advice today will totally change how you feel about your relationships and who you attract into your life.

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Excuses That Keep You From The Abundance You Desire Jul 30, 2019

Are you aware of the impact of the excuses you make in your life?

Your desires, goals, & aspirations all move you in a certain direction in your life. Excuses pull you in the complete opposite direction.

This is true for all of us (it's principle, not personal). If you're playing for a life of abundance AND you're prone to making excuses, then buckle up because things are going to be rocky for you.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you 5 excuses that are keeping you from the abundance you desire.

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The Simple Habit That Can Totally Change Your Happiness, Relationships, Money and Health (And How It Boosted My Recent Vacation!) Jul 23, 2019

What are you grateful for? Answering this simple question [regularly] can have a tremendous impact on your happiness, relationships, wealth and health. On today's episode I'm digging into GRATITUDE in all it's awesomeness! You'll hear why sharing gratitude has such a powerful impact, two simple gratitude practices you can incorporate into your life, tips for making it easier to get started and keep going, and how gratitude is connected with abundance.

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12 Habits Unsuccessful People Have In Common Jul 16, 2019

Do you have the habits of an unsuccessful person? You are a compilation of your habits. There are powerful habits that will move you towards success, and less than powerful habits that will take you in the opposite direction. In today's episode I'm sharing 12 habits that unsuccessful people have in common (inspired by an article written by Darius Foroux). Link: Blueprint- http://matthewbivens.com/blueprint Tools- https://www.matthewbivens.com/tools/ Darius's article- https://dariusforoux.com/

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You Are Meant To Have An Extraordinarily Badass Life (And Here's Exactly Why) Jul 09, 2019

Do you feel like you're just surviving, staying stagnant or settling in life? LISTEN UP because there's a reason living life that way feels totally awful! Recently I started reading "You Are A Badass At Making Money" by Jen Sincero, which is full of powerful truth nuggets about authenticity and living a badass life. Today I tell you exactly why your purpose is to be your most badass self and truly have it all. My website: https://www.matthewbivens.com/ Jen's website: https://jensincero.com

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Achieve Your Highest Dreams By Looking At Your Standards Jul 02, 2019

What if the path to achieving your highest dreams wasn't in the clarity of your vision, but in the standards you hold for yourself? Todays episode explores the idea that, "We become our lowest standard, not our highest dream." I unpack this statement and give you action steps for raising your standards so that you can have it all! *Contact me for individualized help in developing or raising your standards, personal accountability and achieving your goals >> matthew [at] matthewbivens [dot] com.

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Simple Tricks To Help You Become A More Patient Person Jun 25, 2019

How do you deal with impatience? We all know the feeling of being impatient. We live in a culture today where we expect things to happen fast. But patience is one of those important qualities that has a direct impact on how we experience our work, families, health, and life. Today I answer a listener email about being a more patient person, and I share with you my tricks for becoming more patient in your life. Links: Having It A.L.L. Blueprint Course - https://matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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You Are Who You’ve Been Looking For: A Powerful Conversation With Poet, Coach, Speaker and Lover, Adam Roa (Rebroadcast) Jun 19, 2019

In today’s episode I’m bringing you a great conversation I had with Adam Roa. What I found awesome about Adam was his humility. I think you'll dig this conversation because we were just two guys choppin it about how we can all love ourselves fully and unlock our superpowers. Links: You Are Who You’ve Been Looking For poem - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nt5_3cbo31I Adam’s Website - http://www.adamroa.com/ Adam on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/adam.roa/

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How To Prioritize Your Life And Juggle Your Responsibilities To Create More Balance Jun 11, 2019

How do you currently feel about your ability to juggle multiple priorities and competing responsibilities? It's incredibly easy to feel imbalanced when you feel you have many priorities all of equal importance. That's a recipe for feeling overwhelmed, stressed out and unfulfilled. In today's episode I share with you a simple process for learning how to prioritize your life and create balance amidst all of the things you've got going on. Links: HIA Blueprint - http://matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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The STOP Method For De-Stressing and Reclaiming Balance In 30 Seconds Jun 04, 2019

What do you do when you find yourself totally out of balance and feeling the stress? Well, after you listen to today's podcast you can add the STOP Method to your toolbox! In today's episode I break down the STOP Method for de-stressing and reclaiming balance.

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6 Big Work-Life Balance Mistakes (And How To Fix Them) May 28, 2019

Are you feeling like this idea of work/life balance is a pipe dream that you're just never going to achieve? In today's episode I'm covering 6 of the most common mistakes people make when trying to achieve work-life balance. One of the most frustrating things is feeling like you're always out of balance, and I don't want that for you. I'll be doing a whole series on balance over the coming weeks, so get ready to get back into alignment in your life!

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Learning How To Self-Hype (You Have Permission To Be Awesome!) May 21, 2019

How comfortable are you with speaking highly about yourself? For many people, talking highly about themselves (or even speaking kindly about themselves), is an incredibly challenging thing. In this episode I'm here to tell you that there's 100% absolutely nothing wrong with speaking highly of yourself! I talk about why it's important that we be our biggest hype man/woman. And at the end I do something bold that gives you permission to shout from the rooftops how incredible you are!

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Empowerment Team Assemble! How To Build A Super Team To Help You Win At Life May 14, 2019

Who do you have in your corner helping you create your best life? It's a fallacy that we do anything in life alone. All of the greatest achievements -- personal, group, business, etc. -- happened with a team. The same is true for creating your dream life. When you have a team of amazing people around you, you can create and experience your dream life. But how do you go about assembling your Empowerment Team? In today's episode I tell you how you can assemble your own squad of life superheroes!

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How To Get Out Of A Funk Quickly And Easily May 08, 2019

How do you get yourself out of a funk? In today's episode I'm giving you a very simple and very effective method for getting yourself out of a funk, that you can do anywhere at any time.

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Sexual Confidence and Male Performance Anxiety: A Vulnerable Sex Conversation Inspired By Jason Rogers Apr 30, 2019

Are you ready for a raw and honest conversation about sexual confidence? Today I'm talking about sexual confidence and male performance anxiety: what it looks like, how it happens, how we feed it, and how we heal it. This episode was inspired by an article in Mens Health by Jason Rogers. In the powerful article, Jason opens up about his challenges with performance anxiety and how it impacted him in the bedroom and on the Olympic stage. Orgasmic Mama: https://www.sarahbivens.com/om

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Avoiding Burnout, Business Planning and Content Creation: Answering Your Life Questions Part 3 Apr 23, 2019

Are you feeling the pains of being a Type A personality? Do you feel like you're great at go, go, go but don't know how to take a break? Are you wondering how to create a business plan to launch your new venture? Or maybe you're in a business currently and want to take it to the next level through content like blogs, podcasts and vlogs? These are the questions I answer in today's episode of the podcast!

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The Not-So-Secret (Yet Super Effective) Strategy Top Performers Use To Win Apr 23, 2019

What games are you playing in life? Depending on your context around the word "game" you might answer this question in many ways. My response is MANY, because I believe we're all playing many games in our lives.....and we're all WINNING at the games we're playing! In today's bonus episode I'm sharing with you a not-so-secret (yet still super effective) strategy that top performers in all fields use to win at the games they're playing

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Toxic People, Negative Noise And Marriage Prep: Answering Your Life Questions Part 2 Apr 16, 2019

Do you have toxic people in your life? How about in your inner circle? Are there folks in your life who are constantly bringing negativity and noise into your world? And what are the things you should be reviewing and thinking about when preparing for marriage?

These are the questions I answer in today's episode of the podcast! The topics today were suggested by YOU and all have to do with OTHERS. Last week I focused on SELF, and today we're focusing on OTHERS (next week is LIFE).

I get fiery in this one, so buckle up for some real talk!

If you want to share an idea with me, reach out on Instagram @matthew_bivens.

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Authenticity, Fear And Abundance: Answering Your Life Questions Part 1 Apr 09, 2019

What does it mean to be your authentic self? How do you tackle moving through your biggest fears? What does the phrase "having it all" mean to you personally? Today's episode is a cool one, because I'm answering your questions about authenticity, fear and having it all! Over the next few episodes I'll be addressing questions and topics inspired directly from you, covering the areas of Self, Others and Life. You can learn more about the Blueprint at http://matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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Mind-Body Connection: How Labels & Fears Are Impacting Your Health Apr 02, 2019

Are you familiar with the mind-body connection? It's truly fascinating! Your mind and body are connected, and the former has a huge influence on the health and wellbeing of the latter. In today's episode I talk about the mind-body connection, particularly as it relates to the labels we wear on about ourselves. Chopra Center Article Link: https://chopra.com/articles/mind-body-connection-understanding-the-psycho-emotional-roots-of-disease

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Let's Get A Bit Uncomfortable Mar 26, 2019

When was the last time you were triggered by someone or something, and felt really uncomfortable? I had 2 conversations in the past few days that brought up some discomfort in me. One had to do with my money and the other had to do with my weight. It got me thinking - what has made you feel uncomfortable recently and are you willing to do something about it? Today I'm sharing the scenarios where I was triggered and I'm issuing a challenge if you're bold enough to do something about your discomfort.

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7 Big Self Help Mistakes To Avoid When You're Working To Improve Your Life Mar 19, 2019

What are you doing that's keeping you stuck, playing small, in your denial or fearful? Yes, every "mistake" can be seen as a lesson which can lead to learning and growth, however if you're unaware of things you're doing which are keeping you in denial or feeding your ego, then the ultimate growth or healing you say you're playing for will not arise. In this episode I'm sharing 7 mistakes that I've made and that I've seen others make as they work to heal, grow, and improve themselves.

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Porn In Relationships: An Open Conversation About Pornography, Transparency and Responsibility with Sarah Bivens Mar 12, 2019

How do you feel about your partner watching pornography? It's a topic that I wouldn't be surprised comes up in most relationships in some way. I know it certainly has in mine. On today's episode, Sarah joins me to answer a listener email about porn in relationships. This one gets real. It's also important I say that neither Sarah nor I are therapists, counselors or doctors, and that we're speaking on this subject purely from out own experiences. Listen for entertainment purposes only.

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How Big Is Your Money Game? Mar 06, 2019

How big is your money game? That's the question at the heart of today's episode. You see, there are many beliefs out there around money and personal self worth that impact your financial reality. Money is a topic that can be so complex because of all of the emotions we wrap up in it. So today's episode is sure to create a bit of friction within you! Having It A.L.L. Blueprint Online Course -- www.matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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Mini Episode: Raise Your Standards, Change Your Life Mar 03, 2019

Today's mini episode quotes are all about having personal standards in your life, and they come from Mastin Kipp, Joel Brown and Tony Robbins. Setting and holding personal standards are so important to me in fact, that they make up the final 3 sections of the Having It A.L.L. Blueprint. To learn more about the course visit www.matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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Mini Episode: Your Unique Mission Mar 03, 2019

Today's quotes are all about the power of having a personal mission in your life, and come from Zig Ziglar and Victor Frankl. I'm a HUGE fan of personal mission statements (it's one of my most returned to topics on the podcast), and it's the subject of section 4 of the Having It A.L.L. Blueprint. To learn more about the course visit www.matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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Mini Episode: The Lie Of Abundance Mar 01, 2019

"There is a lie that acts like a virus within the mind of humanity. And that lie is, ‘There’s not enough good to go around. There’s lack and there’s limitation and there’s just not enough.’ The truth is that .... there is enough for everyone." Today's quote is from Michael Beckwith and is about Abundance. Abundance Mentality & Environments are the subject of section 3 of the Having It A.L.L. Blueprint. To learn more about the course visit www.matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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Mini Episode: Spend Your Talents Lavishly Mar 01, 2019

Today's mini episode is all about TALENTS. Each of us have them. They're the skills we've learned over time, developed through practice and intention. When we are proactive about using them in our lives, we feel more accomplished and fulfilled. My course, the Having It A.L.L. Blueprint, launched this week, and to celebrate the launch I'll be bringing you mini quote episodes throughout the rest of this week. To learn more about the course visit www.matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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Mini Episode: Values & Decision Making Feb 27, 2019

"When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier". That quote is from Roy E. Disney, and is the topic for today's special mini episode. My course, the Having It A.L.L. Blueprint, launched this week, and to celebrate the launch I'll be bringing you mini quote episodes throughout the rest of this week. To learn more about the course visit www.matthewbivens.com/blueprint

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Stop Avoiding Breakdowns Feb 26, 2019

Are you avoiding breakdowns in your life? You might be saying "Of course I do, why wouldn't I?" Well, buckle up because in today's episode I'm letting you know that if you're living a life of avoiding breakdowns (not being your authentic self, not speaking your truth, not sharing boldly, not asking for what you want, not stepping into the ring), then you cannot expect to experience massive breakthroughs that lead to transformations. They just won't happen.

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Why Personal Mission Statements Are the Most Powerful Way to Uncover Your Direction and Path (Rebroadcast) Feb 20, 2019

What is your personal mission in life? Why do you get out of bed and do what you do each day? I talk a lot about personal mission statements in this podcast. I believe in the power of a personal mission statement. I've seen how having one for the past 6 years has shaped my life, and I've witnessed the power they unlock within my clients. On today's episode I'm rebroadcasting an awesome conversation I had with Sarah all about the power of personal mission statements to create your best life.

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Most People Will Never Have It All (Are You One Of Them?) Feb 12, 2019

What are the beliefs, stories, experiences that you've pushed down so deep into your soul, that the thought of bringing them into the light is terrifying? That's what we're talking about in today's episode! If you're listening to this show it's because you desire to have it all and you're hoping to get some ideas, motivation, tools, belief systems to help you achieve that. My message today is simple: You will not have it all because you're unwilling to do this one simple thing.

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Transform Your Sex By Doing These 3 Intentional Things (Works If You're Single Too!) Feb 06, 2019

How intentional are you with sex? Sex is a thing that requires zero maturity or acquired knowledge to participate in, yet can be extraordinary risk from both a physical and emotional standpoint. So today I'm talking about the practice of setting intention for your sexual intimacy, and how it can transform not only your experience of the sex you're about to engage in, but also what happens after the sex is complete.

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You Are What You Believe Feb 03, 2019

What beliefs are you currently holding that is robbing you of your health, happiness, and power? Today I'm talking about the power (and consequences) of your beliefs. Your internal conversations and the beliefs associated with them are something you rep more than any workout. So what beliefs have you been strengthening? Links: http://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/ https://www.instagram.com/p/BsnwZP0l1ng/

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A Different Take On Purpose, Vision and Passion Jan 30, 2019

How do you define purpose, vision and passion? I've had a love hate relationship to the ideas of purpose, vision and passion. At times I've been fired up to connect with my purpose, create my vision, and feel my passion. And at other times I've compared myself to others I thought had them, and judged myself for not. In today's episode I'm talking about the difference between purpose, vision and passion, how they interact with one another, and why they're key ingredients to having it all.

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If You Pursue Profit Without Purpose You Will Never Have It ALL Jan 22, 2019

Are you pursuing money believing that when you get it your life will finally be better? Today I'm going to shatter a few cases of denial, by letting you know that if you're chasing profits without purpose then you will NEVER have it all. Why? Because having it all is so much bigger than the next $10,000 in income, or the next business deal (or the next romantic relationship). Yet, it's very easy to convince ourselves that "I'll be happy when ___". So tune in because it's about to get real!

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Trust And Let Go Of What It "Should" Look Like Jan 15, 2019

How attached are you to the way you feel your life should look like? If you're frustrated with the way things are right now... If you're annoyed because something in your life is not going according to your plan... If you're experiencing anxiety because the goals you set are not being met in the timeframe you wanted them to... Then we are in the same place, and this episode is for you.

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Getting Started With Budgeting And Building Financial Maturity Jan 09, 2019

Do you know where your money is going? Knowing where your money is going each month (aka budgeting) is one of those habits that is incredibly challenging for a lot of us to build and maintain. But part of having it all means that we have a handle on our finances, and so in this episode I'm taking you through some basics of budgeting and sharing with you a few tools and methods I use in my household to stay on top of my money.

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Create Your Word For The Year: A Simple Process For Creating Clarity, Focus And Drive All Year Long Jan 01, 2019

What is your word for this year? You may be used to creating new years resolutions or setting yearly goals. But I have something even more simple and effective - coming up with a single word that embodies the life you wish to live, the person you wish to become and the results you wish to create in the coming year. In this episode I share with you a simple process for coming up with your word for the year. Download the free "Word For The Year" tool -- http://matthewbivens.com/tools

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Do This BEFORE Planning Your 2019 Goals And New Year's Resolutions Dec 30, 2018

Have you started planning your goals and resolutions for 2019? There's one thing you want to make sure you do before you write your goals in stone, and that's take a deep look at how you showed up in 2018. In today's episode I'm walking you through a self assessment process (the same one I use with all of my coaching clients) that will help you chart the course for where you want to be in 2019. Get your free self assessment tool here: http://www.matthewbivens.com/tools/

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A Little Bit Of Holiday Magic And Gratitude Dec 26, 2018

Did you know that magic and gratitude were major factors in "having it all" to me? That's sort of a trick question, because if you've listened to the show before you know that they are DEFINITELY ingredients to the having it all formula. In today's episode I'm using this Christmas holiday to share magic and express gratitude to the seldomly celebrated people who make the holidays possible and magical.

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Feeling Stuck In Life? Here's The Secret To Getting Unstuck Dec 23, 2018

Are you feeling stuck in life right now? Feeling stuck is something that we all can relate to, because at one point or another we've been there. It's not a fun feeling, and normally it turns into self criticism and judgements that we're not doing/being enough (smart enough, hard working enough, creative enough, opportunistic enough). For today's episode I was inspired by a message I heard from Mel Robbins where she changes the context around feeling stuck in life.

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The Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying: Are You Creating A Life Of No Regrets? Dec 18, 2018

What regrets do you have in life? In today's episode I'm sharing an essay written by Bronnie Ware - a nurse who took care of patients in their final days of life. Over the years of her work, she asked her patients if they had any regrets from their life as they faced their death. The patterns she saw emerge with deep and powerful. I share with you the 5 regrets of the dying in this episode, so you can take a moment to evaluate whether you're on the path to experience any of them in your life.

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How To Finally Stop Self Sabotage Dec 12, 2018

How do you stop the process of self sabotaging? That's a million dollar question if I've ever heard one! I think most, if not all, of us can relate to self sabotage. We know what it feels like to see the potential for our greatness, and to do things to undermine our success. In today's episode I'm answering a great question from a listener that starts with self sabotage, and ends up going into some really awesome directions addressing goals, visualization and mission statements.

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Feel Like Your Life Just Isn't Working? Here's What To Do Dec 09, 2018

Have you ever felt like your life was not working? That in one (or many) areas of your life, things are just off and not where you want them to be? Maybe you're in that place right now. I recently had a very powerful and humbling experience that showed me why a few areas in my life were off, and today I'm sharing that insight with you. In today's episode you'll hear about the one area where, if you're not showing up here then your life WILL be off, guaranteed!

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The Magic Of Paying Forward Positivity (Rebroadcast) Dec 05, 2018

When was the last time you were truly inspired by someones act of kindness and love? For me, it was just a few minutes ago, and this gesture is the reason for today's episode. I'm rebroadcasting an episode from a few months ago called Paying Forward Positivity, and it's because of what I just saw on my Instagram account -- an example of one of you, a listener of Having It A.L.L., taking me up on a call to action to support fathers dating their daughters.

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How Daddy-Daughter Dates Can Heal The World Dec 03, 2018

What was the last empowering and loving daddy-daughter interaction you witnessed or experienced? Hopefully you don't have to think too hard to come up with an example. But unfortunately it can be harder to think of examples of loving interactions between daddy's and daughters than disempowering ones. Today I'm sharing exactly why and how I believe daddy-daughter dates can heal the world. This episode is for EVERYONE! Fathers, daughters, mothers, friends, people with kids or without kids.

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New Years Resolutions: Why I'm Not A Fan Of Them And What I Recommend Instead Dec 02, 2018

Do you set new years resolutions? If so, how often do you complete them? And more importantly, what is your experience of your new years resolution? As you can tell by the title, I don't like new years resolutions at all. I'm all for people committing to better themselves, but the new years resolution framework is not set up for you to succeed. In today's episode I share why I dislike new years resolutions and what to do instead if you want to start off your year on a powerful note.

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My Interview On "Her Brilliant Health Radio" with Dr. Kyrin Dunston Dec 01, 2018

For today's episode I'm bringing you an interview that I did with Dr. Kyrin Dunston on her podcast "Her Brilliant Health Radio". I had a great time talking with Dr. Kyrin about nurturing relationships, achieving an abundant loving life, finding balance in life, discerning your own inner voice, and living life from a place of passion. Links: https://www.kyrindunstonmd.com/herbrillianthealthradio/hbhr013

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This Is Why You Don't Have The Life You Want Nov 29, 2018

Do you have the life you want today? Very few people can honestly say "yes" across the board. And that's totally cool. Many of us are on the journey to creating the experience we want in life. But there is a large group of people who reject the journey altogether, and are frustrated that they aren't getting the results they way. If that's you, then tune in because I'm about to give you a reality check.

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The Universe's Timing Is Perfect (Even If It Doesn't Suit Your Ego) Nov 29, 2018

Can you think of a time when you questioned the timing of something? Maybe you've taken a big step in your life recently, and you're judging the fact that it didn't happen earlier. Or you so desperately want something to happen TODAY, and you're frustrated because it doesn't seem to be anywhere in sight. In today's episode I'm sharing a perspective with you that will impact how you think about the timing of things in your life.

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Why Men Don't Show Emotion (And How To Help Us Out) Nov 27, 2018

Why do some men seem like completely emotionless creatures? Why does it seem like men go out of their way to bury and hide their feelings? Why do men avoid vulnerability so vehemently? In today's episode I'm sharing the truth that all men have feelings and emotions, and I'm discussing why so many of us choose not to show them.

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Shipped Is Better Than Perfect Nov 26, 2018

What is the cost of your pursuit of perfection? Today I'm bringing you a bonus episode (actually you'll get a few bonus episodes this week!). I'm talking about perfection and the belief that things need to be perfect in our lives before we take action. Many times we seek perfection because we're scared of something, and by the end of today's episode my intention is that you have greater insight on this for yourself.

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It's Time To Kill Work-Life Balance And Replace It With A More Powerful, Sustainable and Effective Idea Nov 21, 2018

Do you feel you have work-life balance?

If you are, don't stress out. I was too. But I've realized that this concept of work-life balance does so much more harm than good, and actually results in a very ineffective way of looking at our lives.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different perspective for looking at how you can balance out the important things in your life. This perspective is one that I practice and preach, and it will change your life!

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How I'm Using Visualization To Literally Reprogram My Life Nov 14, 2018

Are you familiar with visualization? It's a technique that world class athletes and high achievers of all types, use to literally put themselves into a higher state of being mentally and emotionally. I've been practicing it for a bit now, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you what the practice is all about, how it's done, and why I absolutely feel it's a powerful pathway to reprogramming your subconscious to align with the greatest version of yourself and live your best life.

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I'm Not Here To Make You Happy Nov 11, 2018

Be completely honest with yourself: are you currently taking on the responsibility for another person's emotions? If so, you want to listen to this episode several times. In today's episode I'm giving some raw and honest feedback directed at those of us who feel like our jobs are to make others happy. It's a dangerous game to play that almost always results in frustration, resentment, and the breakdown of relationships.

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A Quick And Dirty Way To Gauge The Quality Of Your Life (Inspired By Lewis Howes) Nov 06, 2018

What is the quality of your life right now? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 8 key areas of life you want to take a look at periodically to assess the overall quality of your life. This episode is inspired by fellow greatness seeker, Lewis Howes. It was on his Instagram page that I saw him post about these 8 areas, and it moved me to share it with you all. Here is the original IG post from Lewis Howes: https://www.instagram.com/p/BpzmA9iA7rR/

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You Must Choose To Let Go Moment To Moment Nov 05, 2018

Did you know that letting go in life is a choice? Yes, it’s moment-to-moment choice where you decided whether you will release what you’ve been fixating on, or add to your fixation. Many of us can get down with the idea of “letting go”, but we fail to realize that it’s a constant choice that we must make again and again through our days, weeks, months, years. We falsely believe that we can “let go” once, and be healed forever.

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Sexual Healing: The Magic Of Being Proactive And Setting Intentions In The Bedroom Oct 30, 2018

Are you practicing sexual healing? So many different things can come up when we think about sexual healing. From healing past traumas to healing physical conditions to Marvin Gaye (seriously, that was my entire context until a number of years ago) -- we each have our own relationship when it comes to healing things in a sexual context. In today's episode I'm joined by my incredible wife, Sarah Bivens, and together we get raw and intimate on some current sexual healing that we're both doing.

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The Key To Living A More Proactive Life Oct 23, 2018

Where do you spend most of your emotional time and energy: in things you can influence or in things you have zero control over? If you're a proactive person who takes response-ability for their lives, then you absolutely focus on the things you can influence. Reactive people spend their time focusing on things that they have zero control over. The difference between circle of influence and circle of concern is at the heart of today's podcast.

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If You Want To Have It All Then You Have To Be Proactive (Here's Precisely Why) Oct 21, 2018

What does being proactive mean to you? I would say "It means taking initiative". But I have learned that to Be Proactive means so much more. And understanding this meaning is imperative if you want to have it all and lead an abundant loving life. In today's episode I bring in one of my favorite books, Stephen Covey's 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People. Get ready to get your learnin on!

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When To Come Clean And Apologize -- Say Sorry Or Let It Go? Oct 16, 2018

When do you apologize for something you've done? When is it appropriate to come clean in a situation, versus letting things go and moving on? In today's episode I'm replying to a listener message about knowing when to come clean, clear the air or let it go. This is such a common thing for all of us, and my intention is to give some perspective on fully owning your decisions.

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It's Time For You To Take A Hard Look At Your Environments Oct 10, 2018

If you were to take an audit of the environments you spend most of your time in, would you say that they uplift you, do nothing for you, or drag you down? In today's episode I explore environments and talk about why it's so important that we are picky with the people and places we surround ourselves with. I also give you a few action items for taking a hard look at your environments and making some powerful changes.

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How To Totally Level Up Your Relationship Using The 5 Love Languages Oct 02, 2018

How do you like to be loved? How does your partner prefer to be loved? Are they loving you in the style in which you like to be loved, and vice versa? Today I'm sharing my favorite tool for creating a powerful relationship, and I'm taking up a notch by showing you how Sarah and I have turned the 5 Love Languages into a much more powerful tool for building our amazing relationship. Oh, and are you in the TRUST Challenge yet? Learn more at www.matthewbivens.com/trust.

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Stop Waiting For Your Abundant Loving Life To Happen...Matthew! (This One's Personal) Sep 30, 2018

Be real with yourself: are you waiting for someone or something outside of yourself, to come and give you the life that you desire? At any level? Today's episode is a deep look into my own beliefs that have been keeping at a certain place in my life. I'm sharing a raw audio, recorded in my car as an epiphany was washing over me. *EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT* The new TRUST Challenge is here! Join us as we build our trust & confidence within ourselves. 100% free. Learn more at www.matthewbivens.com/TRUST.

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How To Create A Life Of Purpose, Profit and Principle with Day Adeogba Sep 26, 2018

What does "having it all" mean to you? It's a question I have asked so many people on this podcast. And I've received so many unique answers. Well, today I'm bringing you an interview/conversation with the man who helped me develop that question (and this very podcast), and who has been an incredible influence in my life -- Day Adeogba. We go wide and deep on this one, and I promise you'll understand why it's been a privilege to call Day my coach for the past 5 years.

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What Is The Goal Of Sex In Your Relationships And Life? Sep 22, 2018

When you think about sex, what is the goal for you? Is it to have an orgasm, or to make sure your partner has one? Is it to show your partner how much you love them and to validate your relationship? For most of my life, the goal of sex was orgasm. But there are other goals of sex that can create a much more powerful, loving and connected experience. Today I'm diving into the goal of sex and am serving up a few alternative that can help you create a more powerful and healthy sexual experience.

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How Much Life Can You Handle? 7 Ways To Show Up Powerfully To The Life You've Created Sep 19, 2018

As your responsibilities go up (new children, new job, more lovers), is your capacity to handle these new responsibilities going up as well? For most, the answer is something like "I don't even think about my capacity when I take on new life stressors". And if that sounds like you, then this episode will help you become aware of your current capacity and will give you very actionable steps to raise your ability to handle the life you've created.

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How To Bounce Back Quickly When You're Dealing With Disappointment In Your Life Sep 14, 2018

How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered? In today's episode I share with you what inspired me to jump off the couch, grab my mic, and record this very podcast! Also, check out the Life By Design, Not By Default Virtual Summit where I'm speaking about love, relationships and sex. Here's the website: https://lifebydesignsummit.com/register

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The Day I Became A Father: A Story Of Feminine Power, Personal Transformation And Unconditional Love Sep 11, 2018

What is a moment or experience that completely transformed who you were as a person? For me the biggest one was experiencing the birth of my daughter, Maya. Today is Maya's 2nd birthday (September 11, 2018), and on this special day I wanted to do something different on the podcast. So I'm sharing the story of her birth, from the early signs that Sarah and I realized labor was starting, to when we welcomed her Earth side in our bedroom (Maya was born at home, right in our master bedroom).

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Do Something You've Always Wanted To Do This Fall Sep 04, 2018

What is something that you've always wanted to do, but you know you've let fear and discomfort hold you back? It's the first week of September, and that means Fall is officially here. You've been putting in deposits into your tank for a while now, and now it's time for you to act. In today's episode I'm setting up a context for getting into action to do things you've been afraid to do, to experience things you've always wanted to experience.

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What Being Arrested Taught Me About Surrender Aug 29, 2018

What does surrender mean to you? When I started working with a coach I would hear the word "surrender" a lot. I had a hard time with that word, because for a long time "surrender" was a word of weakness and giving up. Today my context around surrender is much different, and I use the word all the time. In this episode I want to give you an alternative context for "surrender" that can empower you and create a much more enjoyable experience of life.

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I'm On Vacation (Maybe You Should Be Too) Aug 21, 2018

When was the last time you intentionally created time for you to check out and recharge? Last week I talked about balance and gave you a different way to think about the elusive work-life balance. Well today, I'm putting it into practice! Sarah and I decided to take an impromptu vacation. We were feeling the impact of going hard for the last few months, and recognized we needed a break.

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Change The Way You Experience Life Aug 19, 2018

How are you currently experiencing life? I'm not talking about the results you're creating. I'm talking about your EXPERIENCE of it all. In today's episode I'm digging into why your experience of life is truly what matters, and how you can change it for the better.

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How To Balance Out Your Health And Fitness In A Holistic and Sustainable Way Aug 14, 2018

What does living a balanced life mean to you? Similarly, how do you define health and fitness? And how do your perceptions of these concepts impact your overall wellbeing? In this episode I'm talking about how you can view the idea of "balance" in a way that doesn't leave you feeling defeated and frustrated. I'm here to present to you an idea of how you can balance out your health and fitness in a way that's sustainable and holistic.

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Codependency and Unhealthy Attachments In Relationships Aug 08, 2018

How healthy would you say your attachment is with your partner? I don't know where I picked it up, but somewhere in my adolescence I adopted the belief that a healthy relationship was one where I could not be happy if my partner was not happy. In today's episode I share an email from a listener who opens up on her relationship attachment. I appreciate her vulnerability and courage in this one because it gives us all a chance to heal and grow.

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Your Personal Growth Depends On 3 Types Of Feedback (Are You Open To Them?) Jul 31, 2018

How willing are you to receive and surrender to healthy feedback that comes from a trusted source? Be honest with yourself. In today's episode I'm sharing the three types of feedback that exist, and talk about why each one is essential for your own growth and evolution. I also dig into why you keep experiencing the same results over and over in your life.

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How Much Do You Really Trust Yourself? (Special Announcement) Jul 29, 2018

How full is your personal TRUST account? I'm not talking about a financial trust account. But the account we all have within us that measures how much TRUST we have in ourselves to do the things we say we're going to do. Chances are, it could use a few more deposits! Join us in the TRUST Challenge and make the commitment to daily deposits for the month of August 2018, and experience the massive impact that showing up for yourself constantly has on your life! Sign up at www.MatthewBivens.com/trust

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Paying Forward Positivity Jul 21, 2018

Today is a bit of a deviation from the normal episode. I was very inspired last night by something I saw on Instagram (it's rare, but when it happens it's potent), and I wanted to share this message with you all. There are people in your life who you know, and many who you don't, who are influenced and inspired by you everyday. They see who you are choosing to be, and it gives them strength and hope that they can overcome the situations in their lives.

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Releasing the Myths and Stereotypes Around Masculinity Jul 18, 2018

What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding and giving strength to? What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding and giving strength to? Throughout my 31 years I've picked up all sorts of ideas around what it means to be a man. So many of those ideas reinforce dated and unhealthy stereotypes. In today's episode I share my biggest stereotypes around masculinity, the things that trigger thoughts of comparison and feeling less than.

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Learning How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty Jul 11, 2018

How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life? So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable. In today's episode I talk about the challenge of saying "no", and give you very concrete and actionable tips for strengthening that muscle within you.

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What Does It Look Like To Create Your Ideal Life RIGHT NOW? Jul 03, 2018

What does it look like to create your ideal life RIGHT NOW? I want you to seriously ask yourself this question. Because chances are you're reciting some version of this to yourself: "My ideal life is when I have XYZ, or when I accomplish 123, or when ABC things happen for me". It's a normal thing to do. But what's on the other side of that coin is the feeling that we are not able to create and experience our ideal version of our lives UNTIL some point in the future.

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3 Beliefs That Have Radically Transformed My Life Jun 27, 2018

What is one belief that you know has radically transformed your life for the better? Beliefs are something I talk about a ton on this show. The beliefs that you choose to wear on impact your actions, your habits, your relationships, your perspective on life. I use the phrase "choose to wear on" incredibly intentionally as well. In today's episode I share with you three specific beliefs that I have chosen to wear on in my life that have radically transformed my life in powerful ways.

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The Success Rituals That Empower My Health, Relationships, Business and Spirituality Part 2 Jun 24, 2018

How are your rituals impacting your life? Big question, I know, but the point is to get you to reflect on your rituals and how they are impacting your day-to-day. Today's episode is part 2 of my series where I share with you the rituals that I've cultivated and use to help me win in my health, relationships, business and spirituality. Today I'm talking about Business and Spirituality.

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The Success Rituals That Empower My Health, Relationships, Business and Spirituality Part 1 Jun 20, 2018

How are your rituals impacting your life? In today's episode I share with you the rituals that I've cultivated and use to help me win in my health, relationships, business and spirituality. The habits I've created in these areas help to raise my energy, improve my health, enrich my relationships (with my spouse and others), and deepen my connection with myself and with source.

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Creating Thriving Relationships: My interview on The Extraordinary Life Podcast Jun 16, 2018

What does your extraordinary life look like? On today's episode I'm bringing you something different. Normally I'm the one interviewing other people, but today I'm the one being interviewed! This past week I was interviewed by Tiago Buhr, host of The Extraordinary Life Podcast. On his show, Tiago interviews people to learn insights on how to create an extraordinary life in all areas: business, freedom, spirituality, finances, health, sexuality, relationships and purpose.

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Rejection Therapy and How Seeking Rejection Leads To Happiness with Alex Grodnik Jun 12, 2018

When was the last time you intentionally tried to get rejected? I was talking with a friend recently and he told me about a concept called “Rejection Therapy” that he was introduced to in business school, which completely changed his relationship to fear and rejection. On today’s episode I invite my friend Alex Grodnik onto the show to talk to me about rejection therapy and how it helped him gain confidence and humility.

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Being Deeply Introverted And Finding Direction In Life Jun 09, 2018

Have you ever felt completely lost in your life? Like you didn't know what you were "supposed" to do, who you should be as a person, and what your true passion was? Geeze, I sure have! I spent years in a state of confusion about all of those things. And truth be told, the fog is still lifting. In today's episode I'm sharing the mic with Paul Colaianni - personal empowerment coach and host of The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast - to talk about introversion and finding your way in life.

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The Morning And Nighttime Routines That Help Me Win At Life Jun 05, 2018

How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day? For years I completely neglected the importance of my morning and nighttime routines. But as I grew older, began to take on more roles and responsibilities in my life, and began to feel the weight of life itself, I realized that the way I began and ended my day had a tremendous impact on what happened during my waking hours. In today's episode I share with you the habits and routines I use to set myself up for success each day.

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A Message To Younger Me About School And Work May 30, 2018

If you could deliver a message to younger generations, or perhaps your younger self, what would you say? I had a chance to do that in today’s episode, thanks to a great listener email from Marcus. In today’s episode I reply to Marcus’s email, sharing the advice I’d give my former self around college and the workplace.

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Our Biggest Sexual Insecurities And How To Get Over Them with Kyla Sokol-Ward May 27, 2018

So, let’s get real personal for a second: what are your biggest bedroom insecurities? What are those thoughts, stories and emotions that you bring into the bedroom that create nervousness, anxiety, or fear? Yeah, I went there. Why am I asking this question? Because talking about our bedroom insecurities is incredibly important, yet we rarely ever do it. Today, along with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward, I'm talking about my biggest sexual insecurities and how to get over them if you experience them too.

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My Personal Mission Statement: Why Knowing What You're Playing For Will Change Your Life May 22, 2018

What are you playing for in life? Each of us have something that we're playing for in our lives. Some reason that we're waking up each morning and doing what we do. You already know the power of being intentional and having a vision for your life. One powerful tool that I've used to help me become the person I want to become, is a personal mission statement. in today's episode I'm sharing with you my new personal mission statement and unpacking all of its elements.

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Dealing With The Ebbs And Flows Of Life May 19, 2018

When was the last time you felt like you were in a low point in your life? When things were just not flowing like they usually do, and you wanted to get back on your horse. On the flip side, when did you last feel like your life could not get sweeter and that more and more blessings were coming your way? These my friends are the ebbs and flows of life. The ups and downs that we all experience. Constantly.

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Abundant Love Q&A with Matthew and Sarah May 15, 2018

Who wants to talk about Abundant Love again?! Judging from your response to the first abundant love episode, YOU DO! In today's episode Sarah and I answer your most pressing questions about Abundant Love and how we make our unique love-style work for us. This one is raw and honest, so get yourself in the space to listen some authentic sharing before you press play (and it's a good idea to not listen around young ears for this one).

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Exploring Sexual Energy: What Our Relationship With Sex Reveals About Ourselves with Kyla Sokoll-Ward (Rebroadcast) May 08, 2018

For today's episode I'm sharing with you one a great conversation I had with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward, all about sexual energy. This episode made me excited and nervous all at the same time, and the topics we dive into are great because they give us a chance to confront some ideas and beliefs we hold that may no longer be serving us. I'm also republishing this today to tease you about a new conversation with Kyla I'll be publishing in the coming weeks, this time about insecurities in the bedroom!

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Here's One Reason You May Be Unfulfilled In Your Job And Relationships May 02, 2018

Do you hold the expectation that your relationship must check off all of your fulfillment boxes? How about your job, are you telling yourself that your job must be the perfect alignment of your passions, gifts and talents? I don't know where I picked up this story, but somewhere in my life I convinced myself that my partners (girlfriends and then wife), were SUPPOSED to fulfill me in every way: sexually, emotionally, mentally, socially, and every other way I can think of.

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How To Be Grateful For Family Emotional Triggers Apr 29, 2018

When was the last time a family member set you off? Family has this amazing ability to press our buttons like nothing else. They seem to know exactly what to say and how to say it to get behind our defenses, and find those tiny areas where they can trigger a huge emotional eruption. And they do is so effortlessly. It's enough to make you feel incredibly anxious, angry and defensive just thinking about it!

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Why Being Family Centered Leads To Pain Apr 24, 2018

What happens when we derive our sense of security, wisdom, power and guidance from our family? By the title of this episode you can guess that my argument is "Nothing good comes from that!" In my life, I've experienced the consequence of attaching my happiness, sense of peace and overall wellbeing to the perceptions of my family. The result was an emotional rollercoaster that, at times, I'm still trying to get off.

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Using Faith, Trust And Surrender To Expand Your Life Apr 18, 2018

What is faith? How does it differ from religion and spirituality? And how can you grow faith in your life? If you've ever asked yourself these questions then you're going to get some answers in this episode! I wanted to explore faith today because I know for myself, the idea of faith wasn't always clear to me. In my mind I connected faith with religion, so when I left religion in my teen years I also left faith.

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What To Do When Your Relationship Feels Forced Apr 10, 2018

What do you do when your relationship feels forced? When you feel like you're at an emotional crossroads and both decisions ahead of you feel scary? In today's episode I'm answering a listener email from "Kim". I talk about: - Self worth conversations - Confidence and fulfillment - Being at a relationship crossroads - Consequences of asking deep questions I know that a ton of you will be able to relate to this conversation!

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Here's How Fasting Has Helped Me Deal With My Emotions Apr 07, 2018

How aware are you of the connection between your emotions and your ability to keep commitments? Until recently, I really didn't think much about it. But a few things have come up with me recently that really shines the spotlight on how huge of a roll my emotions play in my decision making.

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5 Lessons Learned From Authentic And Honest Conversations With My Parents Apr 03, 2018

Transparency and authenticity have certainly been theme of this podcast recently! And for great reason. There is no abundant loving life when we're living lives of withhold, fear and attachment. It just doesn't happen. I experienced this lesson first hand recently, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you that experience and the 5 lessons I learned.

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Speaking Your Voice And Showing Up Authentically Mar 28, 2018

How often are you speaking your truth, displaying courage over consideration and sharing the thoughts, feelings and ideas that are really on your heart? How frequently are you being UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU, without all the things you do, say and wear on to please others?

Today's episode is all about the importance of speaking your voice and showing up authentically in every interaction.

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Being Abundant Lovers: How We Create Healing, Empowering and Joyful Relationships In and Outside Of Our Marriage with Sarah Bivens Mar 20, 2018

Are your most intimate relationships (sexual and otherwise) creating healing, empowerment and joy within you?

For years my paradigm around sex and intimate relationships was fixed. I viewed sex as a way to have fun, make babies, and relieve stress. And all of my sexual encounters pretty much fell into those boxes.

I also had a very fixed view around relationships, marriage, and masculinity. I had beliefs about how relationships were supposed to look and operate, what marriage meant and the rules of engagement within that type of agreement, and how men were supposed to act and feel within all of that.

Yet, my views and paradigms about relationships didn't match with what I felt I wanted to experience. My head and my heart were pulling me in opposite directions. What I was modeled and taught was clashing with how I felt, and I didn't know what to do.

The result was an immense amount of guilt, shame, confusion, frustration and a whole host of other emotions that I laid onto myself to deal with this internal state of flux.

Today I am at a much different place. I have a new understanding of what's possible within the most intimate of relationships.

This episode is incredibly vulnerable for me because I'm talking about something that I've only hinted at before. I share the style of LOVING and the style of LIVING that I've chosen for myself, one that created the biggest opportunities within me for personal growth, healing and transformation.

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How Are You Sacrificing Joy By Killing Possibility? Mar 17, 2018

How are you sacrificing your joy, abundance and greatness by killing possibility?

In today's episode I'm sharing an experience I had recently that shined light on how I was completely destroying possibility in my life. This self-destructive habit was operating completely on auto-pilot, and I know I'm not alone!

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What My Weed Habit Taught Me About Fear and Dependency Mar 13, 2018

What can your past habits, attachments, and behaviors tell you about how you relate to life? For me, taking a look at my past gives me so many insights and tools which I can use in my life today. One area which has proven to be a rich source of lessons, is my previous attachment to weed (marijuana). So tune in as I share what my weed habit taught me about fear, dependency and the nature of how I relate to challenging circumstances in my life.

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Building Greater Trust And Honesty In Your Relationships: Part 1 Mar 06, 2018

If you were to rate from 1-10 the level of trust, honesty and authenticity in your current most important relationships, where would you rate them? You already know that trust is a crucial element for a powerful relationship, and it's probably something that's come up in your past or current relationships.

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My Experience, Struggles and Lessons Of Being Biracial Feb 27, 2018

Can you relate with feeling uncomfortable in your own skin? I can. In this episode, I'm diving deep into my own experience of growing up biracial, and the disempowering (and sometimes empowering) stories, perceptions and beliefs that I carried around with me.

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How To Jumpstart Your Life When You’re Feeling Lost, Confused and Lacking Motivation Feb 25, 2018

How many of us can relate to feeling like we don’t know where we’re going in life? Or the feeling of being lost and confused, even when you’re “supposed” to have it all together? Maybe you’ve always felt that way, or perhaps you’ve just slipped into that state and are looking for a way out. In today’s episode I’m doing something I haven’t done yet on the Having It A.L.L. podcast, I’m answering an email from a listener.

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How To Deal With A Confidence and Self Worth Breakdown Feb 20, 2018

When was the last time you had a major breakdown in confidence and self worth? In today's episode I'm sharing the story of attending my wife's high school reunion. I went through the gamut of emotions, limiting beliefs, and self deprecating stories, leading up to and during this reunion. I questioned my abilities as an entrepreneur, husband and provide. It was fascinating!!

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Exploring Sexual Energy: What Our Relationship With Sex Reveals About Ourselves with Kyla Sokoll-Ward Feb 17, 2018

What is sexual energy? Before a few years ago, I wouldn’t have a clear answer for you. Today I can shed a little more light on the topic, from my experiences and conversations, but I’m still a baby in that area (and that keeps me humbled and excited!) One thing I know is that sexual energy is life energy, and it’s a vital part of who we are as humans. That’s what I choose to believe anyway.

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How Are Your Fears Preventing The Greatness Of Others? Feb 13, 2018

How are the decisions you're making and the person you're being, giving those around you permission to play small and stay in their fears? In this episode I'm exploring why we look to others to help us stay in our fears, and am giving you things to think about next time you are on the fence yourself.

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What's The Point Of Going After Anything That's Reasonable? Feb 06, 2018

What's the point of going after anything that's reasonable in life? I absolutely love this question because I believe answering it gets to the core of what we are all playing for in life. HAVING IT ALL and experiencing an unreasonable amount of abundance and love in every area of life. That's worth going after! I'm psyched for this episode because it marks the kickoff of the new Having It A.L.L. season.

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Your Relationships Are Killing You (Rebroadcast) Jan 24, 2018

How aware are you of the impact your relationships are having on your health? In today's episode (which is a rebroadcast of the show from July 11 2016), I'm diving into relationships (and I'm not talking about relationships in the way you might be thinking). This episode will get you thinking.

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Holding Onto A Lie To Keep The Relationship Going - My Guest Appearance On The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast Jan 16, 2018

When you discover that your partner has been holding onto a lie, how does that impact your relationship? Today I have a special episode for you! I'm bringing you my entire conversation with Paul Colaianni where we talk about lies in relationships, from The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast, .

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A Sneak Peak At The Balance and Motherhood Podcast Jan 09, 2018

When it comes to podcasting, I'm not just a guy behind the mic. I'm also a guy behind the people behind the mics, meaning that I also produce shows for folks! You can learn about that at www.Done4UPodcasting.com One of the shows I produce is for my badass wife, Sarah Bivens. Her new podcast is called "The Balance and Motherhood Podcast", and on today's episode I'm giving you all a sneak peak into her new show.

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Who Will You Become In 2018? My Favorite Practice For Ensuring A Healthy, Wealthy and Amazing New Year Jan 01, 2018

Who will you become in 2018? We're all used to setting new years resolutions and goals for what we want to DO in the upcoming year, but rarely do we make time for a much more important exercise -- being clear on who we want to become in the new year.

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The 3 Mindsets That Have Transformed My Confidence, Relationships and Wealth (Rebroadcast) Dec 27, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing with you three mindsets that have been the biggest catalysts for my personal transformation over the past 4 years. From my self confidence, to the quality of my relationships, to my ability to attract money and create wealth, these 3 things have been the spark for them all. This episode was inspired by a question I was asked last week, "What would you attribute to the huge transformation you've made in your life over the past 4 years?".

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The Truth About My Marriage - How We've Created An Abundant Loving Relationship Dec 19, 2017

Have you ever wanted to get a look behind the curtain at someones relationship? My wife Sarah and I host a podcast together called Doing It At Home. On that show listeners hear us being ourselves - a fun, goofy, dynamic couple that enjoys a bit of banter, a few mild jokes at the others expense, tons of love and support for each others greatness. All of that comes through on that show. And listeners of the show reach out to show us appreciation for how we appear on the podcast.

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How Removing Accountability From My Life Has Impacted My Health, Business and Personal Growth Dec 12, 2017

Who is holding you accountable to stepping into your greatness, healing your traumas and living your best life? We hear a lot in personal growth circles the “importance of accountability”. In my opinion it’s the biggest factor to moving through blockages and achieving your goals. Not just corporate, career or business goals, but personal growth, healing and happiness goals!

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You Are Who You’ve Been Looking For: A Powerful Conversation With Poet, Coach, Speaker and Lover, Adam Roa Dec 06, 2017

In today’s episode I’m bringing you a great conversation I had with Adam Roa. Sometimes I feel like I have the coolest gig in the world, because I get to spend time hanging out with people like Adam. He is a coach, poet, speaker, podcaster and lover. I through that last descriptor in there because one of the ways in interpreted Adam’s mission is to help people remember that they are love, and to move them closer to a state of being love - towards themselves, others and life itself.

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Where Are You Wasting Emotion, Energy and Time In Your Life? - Reflecting On The Final Words Of David Cassidy Nov 27, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing my comments on the final words of David Cassidy, who passed away this past Tuesday at the age of 67. As shared by his daughter Katie Cassidy, his final words were "So much wasted time." Those words impacted me in a profound way.

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Building Your Net Worth By Giving To Others - The Power Of The Emotional Deposit Nov 22, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing with you a concept called "The Hour Of Giving". What would happen if you spent the first hour of every day making deposits into the emotional bank accounts of others? What shifts do you think you'd see in your relationships? In your job? In your business? In your health?

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Gratitude Is Everything Nov 20, 2017

Today's episode is a about gratitude. I've talked about gratitude twice in the past week because of how important it is to experience an Abundant Loving Life. I recommend creating a moment each day to express gratitude in some sort of way. Doesn't need to be fancy, although that's fine as well. I'm grateful to you and your support. Join me and express your gratitude for something in your life.

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The 8 Habits Of A Humble Badass (Rebroadcast) Nov 19, 2017

On this episode I'm joined by my wife Sarah as she breaks down the 8 habits of a Humble Badass. What is a Humble Badass you ask? Well you'll have to tune in to find out! The premise of this show is looking at how we can create more ABUNDANCE and LOVE in our LIVES so that we can have the experience of life we truly desire. Sarah's message aligns perfectly with that because her approach to wellness (Sarah is a Balance Lifestyle Coach and Personal Trainer) is one that emphasizes the values of the show.

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4 Simple Ways You Can Practice Mindfulness Everyday Without Meditating Nov 18, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing with you 4 everyday activities that you can use to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is about bringing your attention to the present moment. Meditation is one way you can practice mindfulness. But there are other ways.

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How Gratitude Improves Your Productivity - Practical Benefits To Creating A Gratitude Habit In Your Life Nov 17, 2017

In today's episode I'm talking about how gratitude can improve your productivity. There are very practical benefits to creating a gratitude practice, that honestly, until recently I was unaware of. But after reading an article by my good friend, Garland Vance (www.GarlandVance.com), I now have greater awareness around the role gratitude can play in our lives.

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A Powerful Method For Changing Your Relationship Towards Stress - How To Learn To Love Stress Through Exercise Nov 16, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing a way for you to learn how to change your relationship towards stress. If you're used to feeling stressed out with ish hits the fan, and you have been unable to shift that feeling, then tune in! I'm going to share with you how you can use exercise to learn how to deal with stress more effectively.

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Does Your Walk Match Your Talk? Nov 15, 2017

Today's episode is examining our expectations and our effort, and seeing if our walk truly matches up with our talk. As we go on our separate personal development journeys towards greater peace, health, wealth, clarity, relationships....whatever it is....it's important to check in with ourselves and be truly honest as to whether we hold expectations and intentions about the results we'd like to see in our lives, that don't end up matching with the effort we're putting in.

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The Only Time Your Self Help Practice Matters Is When You're Asked To Prove It Nov 14, 2017

Today's episode is all about the rubber meeting the road. I'm talking about the only time when your self help, personal development, self empowerment....whatever you want to call it....practices matter, is when you have to prove it. We know that talk is cheap. But so too is practice. Practice means nothing if we choke come game day.

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How To Become A Great Leader Through Committing To Yourself: Part 2 With Chris Perez Nov 09, 2017

In today’s episode I’m bringing you part 2 of my inspiring conversation with Chris Perez. This time around, we kick things off by tackling perhaps the underlying theme to this entire podcast: stepping into your fears. Chris shares a story of a recent military deployment and how it impacted his mental and emotional wellbeing, and what he did to find joy and peace despite the circumstances. We end our conversation by talking about leadership. You don’t want to miss it!

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A Simple Method For Feeling More Courageous In The Face Of Anxiety Oct 30, 2017

In this episode I'm sharing a very simple and effective practice for not only building your courage in the face of anxiety and current challenges, but building your overall sense of belief in yourself that you can overcome any challenge or obstacle that you're presented with. This episode was inspired by The O Project - a powerful photography project that aims to "[break] down the barriers of female sexual well-being", created by Marcos Alberti.

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7 Must Haves For Stellar Relationships (They Are Not What You Might Think) Oct 25, 2017

In today’s episode I’m sharing with you 7 must haves for healthy, sexy, thriving relationships. This list is not what you may be expecting. I’m not listing off things like “Be an effective communicator”, or “Spend more time looking into each other’s eyes”. Nope, I’m giving you ingredients that get to the core of who YOU are, so that you are as powerful as you can be before you enter into a new relationship (or while you’re in them).

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Unleashing Your Personal Potential and Achieving Greatness with Chris Perez - Part 1 Oct 18, 2017

In today's episode I share with you a fantastic conversation I had with an incredibly inspiring man, Chris Perez. Chris is all about empowering leaders to "Unleash Personal Potential" through emotional, physical, and spiritual balance.

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Getting More Out Of Life By Working Smarter, Not Harder (Rebroadcast) Oct 09, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing with you my tried and tested process for being more productive and feeling more fulfilled, by working smarter and not harder. I have been somewhat obsessed with productivity and work efficiency ever since graduating college. Once I jumped into the working world and realized that I could easily eat up 12 hours of my day on menial tasks and still not feel like I had really done anything, I got to work developing a better system for myself.

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Health, Success, Relationships & Fear: My Greatest Lessons From 100 Episodes of Having It A.L.L. Sep 27, 2017

In today's episode I celebrate reaching the 100 episode milestone and share the four greatest lessons I've learned throughout the run of the show. The 4 areas which spoke to me on this episode were health, success, relationships and fear. Each of these topics represents an area of profound transformation for me, an area where I've experienced breakdowns and breakthroughs.

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How To Know When You’re On The Right Path - Seeing The Signs When You Are Out Of Alignment Sep 22, 2017

Today's episode I predict will be a powerful one for many. I'm talking about how to know when you're on the right path in life, and how to see the signs when you are out of alignment.

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A Pragmatists View On Affirmations - How To Get Positive Self Talk To Work For You Sep 13, 2017

In this episode I'm talking about affirmations and positive self talk, and giving you my perspective as a self-diagnosed pragmatist.

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Star Wars, Hypnobabies and Kiddie Pools: Our Home Birth Story (Rebroadcast from Doing It At Home Podcast) Sep 11, 2017

Today I have a special BONUS episode for you. 1 year ago today, on September 11, 2016, my daughter Maya was born. Sarah and I welcomed here into the world in a planned home birth. We shared the entire birth experience on our podcast Doing It At Home, and today I thought it would be fun to share that conversation with you all.

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How To Connect With Your Inner Beauty - Practical Self Love Tips To Transform Your Life With Michelle Khouri Sep 06, 2017

In today's episode I have an awesome conversation with Michelle Khouri about connecting with your inner beauty, seeing the beauty in others, practical self love tips, and all around how to level up your life.

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The Unspoken Truth About Seeking An Abundant Life Aug 30, 2017

In this episode I'm shining light on something that frequently happens when we seek an abundant life. It's not always talked about, and often is judged. However it's completely natural and common and happens to pretty much everyone who is seeking to experience more abundance in their life. I'm talking about abundanc-itis.

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Embracing Life’s F**k it Moments - Why Taking A Leap Of Faith Changes Everything Aug 23, 2017

Today I wanted to talk about those moments that come across our path in life where you just have to say "f**k it!" and take a leap of faith (sometimes, literally).

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The Law Of Attraction - A Down To Earth Approach To Positive Thinking Aug 19, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing my thoughts on The Law Of Attraction. I talk about why it's controversial, share my thoughts on it, and give you some practical advice on how to put The Law Of Attraction to use in your life.

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The Often Overlooked Step Of Goal Setting & Making Sure You Can Actually Chew What You Bite Off Aug 16, 2017

In today's episode I'm recalling some significant, and almost missed lessons from a recent client call. What I share is applicable to everyone, whether you're working in a corporate setting, a stay-at-home parent (holla!), or grinding away in school.

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What You Need Versus What You Want - How To Feel Okay When Life Hands You The Unexpected Aug 02, 2017

In today's episode I'm referencing the well known saying that you are given "what you need, not what you want". I explore this belief and share a story of a recent encounter when this belief was shared with me first hand.

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How To Stay Focused In Life To Achieve Results Jul 27, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing tips on how to focus your life to achieve results.

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When Asking For Help Is Hard - A Simple Way To Practice Asking For And Receiving Help Jul 21, 2017

In this episode I'm sharing with you a few common examples of when the universe places people or things in our path that are there to help us, and yet we refuse the help.

For me, asking for help has been a challenge since I was young. I don't really know when I started to feel like I needed to take care of things on my own, but that belief follows me to this day.

I'll say "no" to an offer of assistance, even when I want it or when it would make my life easier. I'll refrain from sharing a challenge I'm having and instead keep it inside and struggle with it on my own. And I'll create stories in my mind that people don't want to give me help, or that I'm being needy or a ton of other crazy things.

Similarly, I'm not great at delegating, which impacts my work and which I believe is a consequence of my issues with receiving help.

I've become more aware of my hangups around asking for help, and have started being more intentional about accepting the gifts of help when the universe presents them.

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How To Be More Consistent When Building Healthy Habits Jul 13, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing an example of consistency that I experience in my life every week.

His name is Robert Monroe and he has been on this podcast before. In the episode titled "“You Have To Move Your Feet”: A Story About Seeing the Beauty in All of Life’s Circumstances", Robert shares his inspiring story and message about moving through life's circumstances.

This past week I received a lesson in consistency and was inspired by just how consistent Robert had been over the past 12 months in being intentional about transforming his health.

I leave with you some very simple tips about creating more consistency in your life that will help you build momentum and have it all.

Show notes:

Check out my earlier conversation with Robert - “You Have To Move Your Feet”: A Story About Seeing the Beauty in All of Life’s Circumstances

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What I Liked About Tim Ferriss's Latest TED Talk On Fear Jun 21, 2017

In today's episode I'm breaking down Tim Ferriss's most recent TED talk titled "Why you should define your fears instead of your goals". In this TED talk, Tim shares a simple exercise he calls "Fear Setting" which helps him break out of the paralyzing grips of fear, and focus on what he can control in situations.

In the episode I share a personal example of using this Fear Setting Exercise to weigh the costs and benefits of a fearful situation in my life.

I highly recommend watching Tim's TED talk, which you can see here: https://www.ted.com/talks/tim_ferriss_why_you_should_define_your_fears_instead_of_your_goals?utm_source=tedcomshare&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=tedspread

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Unraveling The Be-Do-Have Paradigm Jun 14, 2017

In this episode I'm breaking down the Be-Do-Have paradigm from the book Beyond Body Beyond Mind by Dr. Sukhi Muker.

Two friends introduced me to this book, and I'm extremely grateful they did, because in it Dr. Muker helps me finally grasp my mind around a concept that has been eluding me for some time -- what it means to BE something.

You've probably heard someone say something along the lines of "All you have to do is BE it. Don't try to do anything. Just BE."

Well if you haven't, I sure have and each time I'm left feeling stumped and frustrated.

Stumped because I'm someone with a very grounded, step-by-step mind. I strive to understand the steps behind the exercises I jump into, whether they be physical or like in this case, mental.

I was frustrated because I had heard so many times this idea of BEing. It comes up in books I read, podcasts I listen to, conversations I have in my community.

Everyone else seemed to be grasping it, but I was completely in the dark.

So when I picked up Beyond Body Beyond Mind and there were very clear instructions on how to BE, I was extremely excited!

In this episode I jump into the book and share the passages that resonated so powerfully with me. I also take the text a step further and share my examples how you can Be-Do-Have in your life.

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The Most Powerful Way To Practice Self Love Jun 12, 2017

In today's episode I'm talking about self love, but not in the way you're probably used to. Self love conversations are ubiquitous these days. Everyone's talking about. But beyond "positive self affirmations" and "choosing healthy foods" do we really know what self love means? Do we understand what the essence of self love is and how certain activities that we do, many times without thinking, are undermining all of the surface level self love work we put so much effort into?

In this episode I'm going to give you a completely new way to look at self love. It's not another thing for you to do, but a lens through which to look at all of your self love activities.

This was a fun episode for me because I recorded the entire thing while I was walking to the movies. Sarah was out of town with the car for the weekend, and when I wanted to go catch a movie it meant I was walking. During my walk I was observing how taking myself to movies was an act of self love, and the idea for this episode was born.

Once you listen, I'd love to hear your thoughts, comments, and feedback on the episode. You can email me directly at mattcbivens@gmail.com, or use the contact form on my website www.MatthewBivens.com.

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The Secret Behind Delayed Gratification And Success May 31, 2017

In this episode I'm exploring Delayed Gratification, and how it's linked to success. I discuss the famous Stanford Marshmallow Study, describe my relationship with delayed gratification in key areas of my life (relationships, business, gardening), and reveal why I think we have been looking at delayed gratification in the wrong way.

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Getting More Out Of Life By Working Smarter, Not Harder May 24, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing with you my tried and tested process for being more productive and feeling more fulfilled, by working smarter and not harder.

I have been somewhat obsessed with productivity and work efficiency ever since graduating college. Once I jumped into the working world and realized that I could easily eat up 12 hours of my day on menial tasks and still not feel like I had really done anything, I got to work developing a better system for myself.

I read articles and books, watched people's "life hack" tips, tried anything that seemed like it might work for me.

Many things did not work, but a few did.

Years later, I'm now in a new place in my life where being efficient and producing a lot in a short period of time is extremely important. I'm a new father to an 8 month old baby girl, I run multiple businesses from home, and I produce 2 podcasts. All of this happens from my house.

On top of that, I frequently have solo daddy-baby time while Sarah is out training clients. So my windows of free time are slim.

But that hasn't stopped me from taking on new and bigger projects, it has only encouraged me to hone a productivity system that worked for me.

In this episode I'm sharing with you the system that Sarah and I currently are using to maximize our productivity in our lives. This system is very similar to the one used by John Lee Dumas -- the host and creator of Entrepreneur On Fire, and a guy who is known to publish 7 podcasts a week while running his EOFire empire (which is pretty darn large). He does all of this with a very small tea working less than 4 hours a day.

John was an early guest on this podcast, and even though we talked about productivity then, I didn't realize that our strategies to maximize our output were similar.

So check out the episode and I hope you walk away from it with some actionable tips you can put to use right away to regain time, feel more productive, and truly Have It A.L.L..

Notes from this episode:

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Learning How to Choose Happiness and Create The Life You Want with Heather Gray (rebroadcast) May 21, 2017

Today's episode is a rebroadcast of an amazing conversation I had with Heather Gray. The original podcast episode is titled "Learning How to Choose Happiness and Create The Life You Want".

There’s a fundamental belief that separates the people who feel like they have it all from the people who don’t, and that’s the belief that you have the power to CHOOSE.

It’s all about CHOICE. That’s the difference maker.

People who feel in their heart and soul that they have it all, have made a conscious choice to feel that way. They’ve literally decided that they can have it all in life, and subsequent choices aligned with the core belief.

My guest today is a powerful example and evangelist of that belief!

Heather Gray’s business name says it all: Choose To Have It All. Sounds sort of familiar, huh?

Heather is an executive coach, working with entrepreneurs and business leaders who have achieved that EXTERNAL success - you know, the great career, fat bank account, titles behind their name, but that success has come at the expense of their internal well being. What Heather does is she helps them have the lifestyle and wealth that they want, but also the personal fulfillment that they truly desire.

If you’ve read Stephen Covey’s landmark book The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People, then you may remember that Habit #1 is “Be Proactive”, and that the essence of that habit (the major takeaway) is CHOICE. Proactive people are aware of their ability to choose: choose their response to circumstances, choose their relationship to themselves, others and life, and choose their level of joy and peace in life.

That’s the recurring theme in my conversation with Heather.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How to tap into your previous experience to find strength and add to your personal toolbox
Why you sometimes have to “embrace the suck” in order to move forward
How to show compassion and empathy in the face of someone else’s struggle

Powerful quotes

You have to choose your own happy!

Notes from this episode:

Heather’s website ChooseToHaveItAll.com
Susan Cain’s book Quiet

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How I'm Moving From Grief To Gratitude May 11, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing a very personal recent experience of having to say goodbye to our family dog, and how I have been able to shift my feelings and emotions from those of grief to gratitude.

I missed publishing an episode last week. It's only the second or third time that's happened in the 12+ months of this show. I felt bad knowing that you all were waiting for a new episode, however I was struggling to relate to a personal family challenge that was going on last week.

Last Wednesday we said goodbye to our family dog Olive. It was one of the hardest, most emotional experiences of my life. It was unexpected, quick, and when it was over I was left with a big hole that didn't feel like it would be filled anytime soon.

Sarah and I adopted Olive 4 years ago from a shelter here in Atlanta. She was a pitbull mix with pretty bad mange damage to her hair, so she was most likely not going to be adopted. We fell in love with her when we first saw her photos online. She joined our family and quickly assumed her role as sister to our hound dog Watson and loyal friend to Sarah and I. When baby Maya was born, Olive relished in her new role as doggy sister.

For 2 days after we said goodbye to Olive, my emotions were all over the place. I cried more and harder than I had in probably 20 years. I had no appetite, no desire to do work. I was in it deep.

It took me a while to start to see the blessings in the situation. But when I did, the flood of gratitude poured over me and almost immediately lifted me up.

I became so grateful that I was able to say goodbye to my friend. Not only that, I was able to hold her, talk to her and tell her I loved her as the vet gave her the injection that would end her life. It was a very moving experience for Sarah and I. One that I am very grateful to have been able to experience with Olive.

I also because incredibly grateful at the 4 amazing years we had her as a friend. From day 1 she was so full of love. If you rearrange the letters in her name they spell "I Love", and that's exactly what she did every single day. I became grateful that I was able to experience that and see what it's like to be loved unconditionally.

Once the gratitude hit me, the sadness and pain weren't as strong.

This experience has reminded me that gratitude can be found in any situation. There is always something we can take away from it that will shift our perspective and uplift our lives, if we choose.

The experience also reminded me that we are not promised tomorrow. As cliche as that is, none of us know what may happen in the next hour, day, week. Understanding that can help us become more present, patient, and loving today. I make more of a point to greet friends and family with genuine love when I see them and when they leave. I am stopping more frequently to BE instead of do. I am communicating my gratitude for others and sharing how people inspire me. Overall, I'm smelling the roses more and it has created more joy in my life.

This episode is a reminder of how much we have to be grateful for and how we are all experiencing abundance in every moment. What we're experiencing an abundance of is up to us.

Music:

Theme song is “Love” by maxzwell

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Envying Others' Successes Apr 28, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing something that I am working on doing less of in my life, and that's envying others successes. It's been something that happens almost automatically at times. I might see someone who has more money than I do, a [seemingly] more in tact family than I do, has achieved more business success than I have, and the gut reaction I have is slight envy. I want what they have.

I do this knowing full well how risky it is to build a story about someone else's perceived "successes", without knowing anything about that person.

I'm guilty of if, and in today's episode we're exploring that.

The episode was inspired by a conversation I was having with a listener. We were talking about our families and upbringings, and both of us have parents who are doctors. In what I feel is a pretty fascinating parallel, despite both of our families having an outward appearance of American Success (middle to upper middle class, parents who are doctors, living in the burbs), we both remember our families struggling financially.

On the surface we had the things that many label successes, but the truth was that our families were having trouble putting food on the table.

That same day I was engaging in an online business group I'm a part of, and a member posed the question "Of businesses who report making $1,000,000 in revenue, how much of that do you think is profit?"

Again it made me think about the outward story vs the inward truth.

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The 5 W's Of Radical Self Awareness Apr 21, 2017

In this episode I'm giving you the 5 W's of radical self awareness. Each of the 5 W's will give you questions to ponder about your life: the people you surround yourself with, the environments you place yourself in, the path that you're currently on, the destination you want to make it to, the catalysts that will inspire you to leave your safety net.

Now, the credit for this episode has to be given to listener Benjamin Foley. Benjamin reached out to me via email this week and we started a dialogue. I quickly learned that Benjamin has a similar beliefs about health and happiness, and we share a unique relationship to fear and anxiety -- we lean into them.

I also learned that Benjamin is a great writer and shares his thoughts on his blog. That's where I found the article which inspired this podcast episode. That article is called "Advice On Anxiety No One Tells You" (link below).

In this episode you'll get some great tools for introspection that are guaranteed to help you realign your life to healing and love. It takes courage to do this kind of work, but I know you're just the bold person to do it!

Notes from this episode:

Music:

Theme song is “Love” by maxzwell

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A New Way To Think About Life Balance Apr 14, 2017

In today's episode I'm introducing a simple and new way to think about life balance. It's called "The Body Vehicle" and in the episode I'm breaking down exactly what the Body Vehicle is, what it reveals about life balance, and how you can apply it to your own life.

This concept of The Body Vehicle is not of my own creation. I learned it through the YourDay Balance Game (a health and fitness game governed by love and balance). Since balance is in the title of the YourDay Balance Game, you can believe that achieving a work-life balance is part of the makeup! The Body Vehicle is actually just one of many different ways I've learned to conceptualize and approach life balance through the YDBG, and I'll be covering a few more of those ways in future episodes.

But today I'm focusing on the Body Vehicle.

Here's a thought for you to chew on: if your body were a car on the road of Life, how smooth is your ride? To take it a step further, if your car had 5 wheels on it (Spiritual, Mental, Social, Emotional and Physical) and the smoothness of your ride was determined by how inflated or deflated those tires were, what does your ride feel like now?

Are you riding through life with a few under-inflated tires?

Is your ride bumpy because you've over-inflated some of your wheels, and maybe don't even have certain wheels at all?

I'm going to break down this helpful analogy further in the episode, explain to you each of the 5 wheels and how they interact, and give you a few things to chew on that will help you evaluate just how smooth or bumpy your ride through life is on your Body Vehicle.

Music:

Theme song is “Love” by maxzwell

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The 8 Habits Of A Humble Badass Apr 04, 2017

On this episode I'm joined by my wife Sarah as she breaks down the 8 habits of a Humble Badass. What is a Humble Badass you ask? Well you'll have to tune in to find out!

The premise of this show is looking at how we can create more ABUNDANCE and LOVE in our LIVES so that we can have the experience of life we truly desire. Sarah's message aligns perfectly with that because her approach to wellness (Sarah is a Balance Lifestyle Coach and Personal Trainer) is one that emphasizes the values of the show.

In our conversation we go through the 8 frameworks of Unleash Your Humble Badass, the process that Sarah takes her lifestyle coaching clients through. It's this same process and framework that allows Sarah to show up powerfully in all her roles in life, and I'm super excited to hand these tools over to you and see what you do with them!

Everything we're talking about are simply tools. You may choose to pick them up and use them, or not. There is not one single path to experiencing abundance and love in life (if someone tells you there is, you may want to turn the other way). What I'm offering you up in this episode is a path that might resonate with your spirit.

Check it out and get ready to unleash your Humble Badass!

Show notes:

Learn more about Unleash Your Humble Badass at www.SarahBivens.com/badass
The 5 Love Languages
Simon Sinek "Why"
The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People
The YourDay Balance Game
My first conversation with Sarah -- Why Personal Mission Statements Are The Most Powerful Way To Uncover Your Direction And Path

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A Story of Healing: Using Curiosity and Courage to Find Yourself with Monique Ruffin (Rebroadcast) Mar 30, 2017

Today's episode is a rebroadcast of an episode from the first few weeks of the podcast. In it, I'm having an amazing conversation with Monique Ruffin.

Monique Ruffin is a celebration of living. She is one of those people that folks say has “A beautiful soul”.

And I completely understand why.

Monique grew up in the neighborhood of Watts in Los Angeles. Yes, that Watts. It's where Sanford And Sons was set, and was where Denzel Washington and Ethan Hawke duke it out in Training Day.

That neighborhood is not known for many empowering things, but it’s where Monique called home.

Growing up in an area impacted by crack, with parents in and out of jail, many wouldn’t have been surprised if Monique failed to transcend her environment. But she did, and in a big way.

Monique is a mother, writer, creator, coach, radio host and group facilitator. But most of all she’s an example of what it looks like to live with heart, authenticity, courage, vulnerability and realness.

In our conversation, Monique and I talk about her childhood, the lessons she’s learned as a mother, and how we can all grow beyond our circumstances.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

How to understand yourself so you can navigate life’s challenging circumstances
The power of being curious
2 profound takeaways from motherhood

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The Real Benefit Of Intermittent Fasting Mar 23, 2017

In this episode I’m talking about my experience with intermittent fasting - a pattern of eating and fasting that has become popular in the health and fitness community lately. I have been doing intermittent fasting for the past 4 years, yet my reasons for it are probably much different than most.

Intermittent fasting most recently came into public awareness by Terry Crews - the actor and former football player with the crazy fit body and totally weird Old Spice commercials. He was interviewed on Business Insider about his eating patterns. In the interview he shared how intermittent fasting has helped him stay in shape.

Perform a Google search of "intermittent fasting" and you'll see plenty of people in support, and some against.

In this episode I'm not giving you any medical advice on advice on physical health or nutrition. Instead, I'm sharing with you one of the consequences with intermittent fasting, and that's how it reveals your attachments.

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The 3 Mindsets That Have Transformed My Confidence, Relationships and Wealth Mar 15, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing with you three mindsets that have been the biggest catalysts for my personal transformation over the past 4 years. From my self confidence, to the quality of my relationships, to my ability to attract money and create wealth, these 3 things have been the spark for them all.

This episode was inspired by a question I was asked last week, "What would you attribute to the huge transformation you've made in your life over the past 4 years?".

Here's where I was:

I didn't trust myself. I had low confidence that I could do and achieve what I wanted to in life (financially, career wise, goal wise, in relationships, etc.)
I wore a mask of physical confidence -- friends saw me as a person who was confident in my body, but internally I judged, and compared and told myself that I was never big, strong, "black" enough.
I had complete financial immaturity. I was totally scarce minded. Afraid to look at my bank account. Anxious during financial conversation. I was swimming in student loan and credit card debt, and had no plan to get out because I was so scared of my personal finances.
I had a lukewarm intimate relationship with my wife (dating at the time). We both came into the relationship with fears, judgements, negative self talk, and that created a lukewarm bedroom.

Where I am 4 years later:

Insane confidence in myself, that's grounded with humility. I have come to understand things about myself, how I operate, what I'm capable of, that I never knew before. realized I'm stronger, smarter, more resourceful, kind, compassionate, passionate, sexy, courageous than I ever knew possible. Also realized that I don't know it all, that my growth is contingent upon my ability to seek and receive feedback powerfully. That's where my humility comes from.
I have a strong, passionate, loving, trusting relationship with my wife. connected, not attached. Amazing sex and intimacy. We feel confident to explore the parameters of our relationship and what loving one another unconditionally means. For us that looks like non-monogamy. We're married and love each other completely, and we support one another in creating powerful, intimate relationships with other people (physically, spiritually, emotionally....all of that)
Iv'e opened myself up to receive abundance and generate more money today than I ever have, with much less effort. I have confidence in my ability to achieve the goals I set out. I'm able to take risks and do things that no one else around me is doing (quit my job to pursue a passion, right before having a baby, start a podcast, leverage my gifts and talents, build an online empire).

Listen to the episode to hear the 3 mindsets that have led to all of these personal transformations.

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How To Stop Making Fear Based Decision Mar 07, 2017

In today's episode I'm sharing with you some steps to help you to stop making fear based decisions in your life, especially around major life decisions, and to start deciding from a place of love.

I think we all know what it's like to be at a crossroads, and to choose the path of fear. I've done it countless times in my past and each time it left me feeling regretful, shameful, guilty or another one of the many fear based emotions that are available to choose from.

Most of us also know what it's like to choose the path of love and growth as well, and we've experienced the freedom, excitement, energy, healing, and possibility that comes from choosing in that state of mind.

In this episode I explore the consequences of both types of decision making, and I give you some tips on how to avoid making fear based decisions that leave you feeling less than.

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The Secret Consequences of Being Authentic and Transparent with Paul Colaianni (Rebroadcast) Mar 02, 2017

This episode is a rebroadcast of a powerful conversation I had with Paul Colaianni -- host of The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast and author of "The Overwhelmed Brain: Personal Growth For Critical Thinkers".

Paul Colaianni has not always led an authentic life. Experiences as a child taught him that authenticity and self expression were detrimental to his health and the health of those around him, so he bottled them up. The result was a life ripe with unsteady relationships, frustration, and disillusionment. It wasn’t until facing the end of another relationship, that Paul reached an emotional, mental and spiritual breaking point, which sent him on a 10 year journey to study and self examine. Today, Paul is a self empowerment coach who uses his life experiences and the insights he’s picked up along the way, to coach others through their challenges and help them reach their personal goals.

In this episode, Paul shares what he’s learned through a life of exploring what living

authentically means to him, and he gets personal with me and he talks about his experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, destroying relationships with judgement and fear, and going through life not being his true authentic self.

Notes From This Episode:

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The Consequence Of Breaking Promises To Yourself Feb 23, 2017

In today's episode I'm talking about the importance of keeping the promises you make to yourself. As with many things in life, our ability to keep promises to others is linked to our ability to keep promises to ourselves. If we break internal promises we're more likely to break external promises, both big and small. The idea of integrity is at stake here -- doing what you say you will do. Each time you don't keep a promise to yourself, you let yourself down. Your confidence is shook. You don't believe you'll be able to do it next time. And at that point you're sunk. Failing to keep a promise communicates that you don't value the person you made the promise to, which in this case is YOU. Failing to keep promises erodes trust. It messes with your self esteem, confidence, our experience of life. In short, there are many crappy consequences to failing to keep promises to yourself. Yet we continue to do it. For me, it wasn't until I became aware of (A) just how frequently I was breaking promises to myself, and (B) the impact that breaking those promises was having on my ability to keep my word with other people, that I truly started understanding the significance of my actions, and started making a change. Here's how to keep more of the promises you make to yourself (borrowed from this blog article):

Make it concrete -- smart goals
Write it down
Start small

if you can do the small, you can do the big (opposite is also true: if you CANT do the small, how can you do the big?)

Do it no matter what

you may make excuses, rationalize not doing it, have 100 great reasons why something else is more important -- do it anyway

Hold same standard for others

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How I'm Fixing My F'd Up Relationship Towards Money Feb 16, 2017

In this episode I'm talking about an aspect of health and wellness that I don't think gets a lot of attention, and that's your relationship towards money. For 18 years I've had an incredibly disempowering relationship with my personal finances. I went years without looking into the state of my personal finances, dodging creditor phone calls, never checking my credit score, and blowing all my cash as soon as it was payday. What that got me was massive anxiety around just about anything money related.

But things changed for me 2 years ago when I became very intentional about shifting my relationship towards money.

Now, I believe that a healthy relationship towards and knowledge of your personal finances is vital to feeling like you have it all. Remember, A.L.L. stands for "Abundant Loving Life", and Life can be broken down to the 6 F's of: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, FINANCE and Fun. How can you have an abundant and loving relationship with Finance if you're afraid of it?

I'm sharing with you some of the mindset shifts that have happened with me that has ushered me down a new path in how I experience my finances and with what I'm attracting. I'm also sharing with you the tool that Sarah and I use to get out household finances in order and finally feel like we're adults who are on top of things!

Notes from this episode:

The 7 Baby Steps in Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace

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I'm Feeling Tired Of Working On Myself Feb 16, 2017

I'm coming clean in this episode and am sharing something I've been feeling for a little while now: I'm tired of working on myself.

I'm tired of feeling like I need to constantly improve myself, fix things, heal wounds, grow and transform. At the moment - and I stress that I understand this to be a momentary feeling and not a permanent state, but nevertheless - I feel the desire to unplug, get out of my environment for a bit, and live on a beach. Yes, I want to spend my days in the sun and sand : )

I'm sharing this for a few reasons: First, it's my truth and this show is all about transparency. So there's that. Second, because I know other people out there are feeling similar. You are feeling totally inundated with "self help" stuff. You can't open up your social media without seeing inspirational quotes and videos with dramatic music. You can't walk through a bookstore without someones guide to improving everything that's wrong with you being broadcast from a shelf. You can't hop into a podcast without people giving you tips for how you can "level up" and "hack" your life. I'm probably guilty on that one myself.

But if you're feeling the way I have been feeling lately, then this episode is giving you permission to vent, let it out, confess the mortal sin of feeling fed up with self help, and be a real person.

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Be Aware Of How Your Thoughts Impact Your Performance Feb 16, 2017

In this episode I'm giving two examples of how your thinking impacts your ability to perform. I talk about the consequences on your body of holding loving and empowering thoughts versus fearful and scarce thoughts. And I challenge you to become more aware of the individual thoughts you choose to hold and replay in your mind that are influencing how you feel about yourself, others and life.

Your thoughts have a huge impact on how you show up in life physically, emotionally, mentally, socially and spiritually. The conversations you have in your head, the beliefs you hold about yourself, others and life, all impact your ability to perform.

My examples today both come from the local gym I'm a member of, and I think gyms are a great place to illustrate the power of your thinking. In a gym, when stress is being applied to our bodies, we are presented with fantastic circumstances to become aware of our thinking and to experience the consequences of those thoughts.

If you hold negative, disempowering thoughts while you're body is under physical stress, you will most likely break under the pressure. In a gym this looks like not making it through an exercise, dropping the weights, screaming breathlessly. But when we hold empowering, loving thoughts, we're able to more easily tap into flow and stay in our power. If you haven't experienced it yourself then simply walk into a gym and observe the people around you. You will see many examples of people's minds dictating their output.

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The Importance Of Acknowledging Your Own Growth Feb 06, 2017

In today's episode I'm talking about how important it is that you periodically take time to acknowledge how far you've come in your personal growth journey. So frequently we are caught up in the pursuit of whatever it is that we're going after -- peace, joy, greatness, self mastery, personal development -- that we neglect to realize how far we've come. We spend our time thinking about how much further we have to go, and totally disregard the tremendous amount of healing and growing we had to do to get where we are today.

I give you a couple of personal examples that I experienced very recently where I had an opportunity to recognize growth: one example with my wife and one example with both my wife and myself.

If you're listening to this show then I can safely bet that you have been doing some sort of "work" on yourself. It will look different to different people, but I'm confident that one of your personal goals is to be a better person today (however you define better) than you were yesterday. I think that's great and love the fact that you're into self improvement.

But I feel that self improvement needs to come with context and a point of reference in order to be truly appreciated, and to not simply become something that you're pursuing without knowing the end in mind.

I share you with you stories and experiences in the hope that you will take something away from them that you can apply to your life. We're all connected, we all experience the same emotions with different catalysts, and in recording this episode I'm giving myself permission to stop and recognize my own healing and growth.

Notes from this episode:

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QUICK FIX: Learn To Love Life's Hardships Jan 26, 2017

In today's quick fix I let you know why you need to learn to love and get excited about life's hardships

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If you’re listening to this podcast then I know that you’re into improving yourself and truly stepping into your badassness, and I can bet that you’ve been practicing. Maybe it’s meditating or journaling or being grateful or facing your fears or practicing humility. Whatever it is, this message for you. WHEN SHIT HITS THE FAN IN LIFE, WHICH HAPPENS AND WILL NEVER STOP HAPPENING UNTIL YOU’RE DEAD, YOU NEED TO BE PSYCHED ABOUT IT! Hear me out. You’ve been doing all of these things to improve yourself. You’ve been finding your strength, uncovering your gifts, revealing your mission and purpose. You’ve been practicing getting organized and being compassionate and having courage. You’ve been listening to podcasts and reading books and attending retreats and buying courses. All of these things have been your training, and none of it matters when life is going smoothly. When life is great and everything is working out in your favor and the tides are rising, you’re not asked to be courageous and humble and intelligent and mature. It’s only when shit goes south, when life smacks you in the face with circumstances, that your training is put to the test. So, you have to start relating to life’s circumstances as GAME TIME! Seriously. When you create a fender bender on the way to work, or your kitchen floods, or your kid does something dumb and gets arrested, or your baby won’t stop crying, or your partner is withholding love — THAT is when you will really get a chance to see how far you’ve come. It’s in those moments that all the reps you’ve put in reading and meditating and working on yourself matter. Because when you’re able to respond differently to a situation that you’ve responded to the same way your whole life, you’ve just won and you’ve stepped your game up just a little bit. So get excited when things go south, because it’s in these moments when you actually have an opportunity to grow. As I say all the time, HAVING IT ALL is about your relationship to life and what it serves up, so next time you’re presented with a circumstance that sucks, remember that’s it’s an opportunity to grow into a greater version of yourself. That’s it for today. Check out the show notes for this episode for links to the music. You can find them at Fireside Network.com. Keep the emails coming. I appreciate them. You can hit me up at mattcbivens@gmail.com. If you got something from today’s episode then I’d really appreciate a review on iTunes. Just search “Having it all” and you’ll find it. And I’m out!

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QUICK FIX: What Games Are You Winning At? Jan 10, 2017

I 100% believe that you are a winner!

I'm not talking about in the blow smoke up your ass self help type of way.

You are winning at the games you're choosing to play in life.

Some of us are playing the game of VICTIM, others are playing the game of being BROKE, others are playing the game of NOT VALUING THEMSELVES.

What games are you winning at in life?

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I watched the College Football National Championship game last night between Clemson and Alabama. Great game, had everything you want in sports: drama, great plays, last minute heroics. Half of the players and fans enjoyed the outcome of the game, half hated it. Reminded me that we are all winning at the games we're playing in life. Here are some common games that we play:

Playing the game of being led by your emotions - There are much bigger games than your emotions. But when you don't see it that way, people show up in your life to ride the emotional roller coaster with you, or to turn that roller coaster into high gear.
Playing the game of “I ain’t got no power, no influence, no voice, no impact”
Playing the game of being an overworked mom
Playing the game of being under-appreciated - People don’t value you. You don’t matter. YOU don’t value you.
Playing the game of being the victim

I’ve certainly won at that game. In my past, I’ve won at the game of “Life doesn’t want me to experience massive joy” I’ve won at the game of “You’re not smart enough, strong enough, clever enough, sexy enough to have the life you want” I’ve won at the game of “You will never experience the abundance that you seek” I’ve certainly won those games. But you know what, someone else can keep those trophies because I’m through with that! These days I’m playing different games:

Playing the game of Self Mastery
Playing the game of personal greatness
Playing the game of positively impacting everyone you contact

SO what games are YOU winning at? And are you enjoying the spoils of your triumphs? If not, why the hell are you still playing them?

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How To Cope When S*** Hits The Fan Jan 07, 2017

In today's episode I'm giving you two new beliefs to wear on for when the stuff hits the fan in your life. If you've ever felt like life keeps dealing you a raw hand, that you keep on being served up trial after trial, and that the next challenge seems bigger than the last, then you want to pay attention!

A while ago I was handed two new beliefs to try on for when circumstances arise. Beliefs are like t-shirts, you can try them on to see how they fit. Keep the ones that work for you and put them on again whenever you need them. Or discard them if they don't work for you. That's the great thing about beliefs, they are abundant!

The things I'm talking about today will help you remain in your power when adversity comes your way.

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This week I was presented with circumstances that trusted my Faith. Faith is TRUST + SURRENDER. My basement flooded, destroying some things I had stored down there, and knocking out my hot water. Not the worst situation in the world, but definitely something that I could at one time have made a big deal over. 2 beliefs I’ve adopted that help me deal with circumstances of all sizes:

God, The Universe, whatever NEVER presents you with something you cannot handle.
You’re equipped to handle everything that comes your way. it may not seem that way, it may hurt and you may cry and scream and curse, but if it’s presented to you that means you can handle it. Always. Never fails. Don’t believe me? Think about this: if you’re hearing my voice right now, listening to this podcast, that means that you’ve survived every single hardship that has come your way. No matter how insurmountable it seemed at the time. You made it. Today, in this present
You are always able to choose how you will respond to situations
You may not be able to control what happens, but you can always control how you choose to respond.

The way I chose to relate to my circumstance absolutely impacted how it ended up. People went out of their way to fix our basement for us. They got us a hotel, came over after hours and stayed late into the night in the freezing temps to fix our issue.

The situation was 100% impacted by how I chose to view and respond to the circumstance.

It all comes down to your relationship to the circumstance and your response to the circumstance.

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QUICK FIX: What is your word for 2017? Jan 01, 2017

Bonus episode today. This episode is all about being intentional on how you want to experience 2017. It's about mindset and creating the context for how you will approach circumstances that come at you in the next year. It's probably the easiest activity you can do to get clear on how you'll have it all next year.

I was getting my mind focused on 2017, who I wanted to be, what I wanted to experience, and what I wanted to create in the year, and it got me thinking about my word for the year.

Last year my word was "Creation" and I did a whole lot of that during the year. My wife and I created life and welcomed our daughter Maya in September. I created multiple businesses and products. I launched 2 podcasts - this show and Doing It At Home (my home birth podcast with my wife). I created new friends and created new experiences with old friends. I also created countless opportunities to practice humility, surrender, and patience.

This year my word -- well actually my phrase -- is BEAST MODE. To me that means being bold, courageous, fearless and loving. It's the mindset I will have as I step into the fire and uncomfortable circumstances. It's the person I will be in the most important roles in my life. It's how I'll approach business and creating new opportunities.

So what is your word for 2017?

Email me at mattcbivens@gmail.com and tell me your word. Or use the contact form on www.MatthewBivens.com.

The theme music from this episode is called Love by maxzwell - https://soundcloud.com/maxzwell/love

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The #1 Reason You Fail At New Years Resolutions Dec 30, 2016

Today we're talking about new year resolutions and why so many of us fail at keeping them going year after year. I look at the statistics behind new years resolution failure, the most common resolutions set each year, and explore some reasons why they fail and tips to avoid failure. I also share an interesting psychological angle into why we don't succeed with our resolutions. But all of this is overshadowed by the #1 reason why we fail to accomplish our new years resolutions, which I share at the end.

It's 2 days before the new year, and I want to talk about NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS. I've got some statistics and psychology in this episode, and I'll link to all of the resources that I used in the show notes on Fireside Network. What you'll hear in today's episode:

The research on New Years Resolutions and why they fail
An interesting psychological phenomena that could be hurting your chances of succeeding with your resolutions
My #1 reason why resolutions fail, and what to do about it

Resources from this episode:

* LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684

* CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/

* LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/

* SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com

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The Consequences Of Brutal Honesty Dec 21, 2016

In today's episode I'm talking about the consequences of brutal honesty. There can be a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety associated with honesty, despite the freeing impact that complete honesty can have on ourselves and in our relationships.

This episode was inspired by an article I read titled "The Pros And Cons Of Brutal Honesty". The following quote from the article sets up this episode perfectly:

"People that stop growing are individuals who decide they can no longer handle brutal honesty. " I believe part of what it means to love someone unconditionally - yourself included - is being honest with them. Honest with how they are showing up, your feelings towards them, how you experience them, what you'd like to experience with them, what you see for them, the impact they have on your life. This show is about rewriting beliefs, moving through fears, discovering your truth, and viewing life through a lens of abundance and love -- and getting there, for most of us, takes growth. What you'll hear in this episode:

The common consequences, both welcomed and not, of being brutally honest
My experience with being deceptive and opaque in relationships
A great free tool to help you practice honesty with yourself

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Trusting Yourself and Living Life On Your Terms with Dr. Tiffany Stewart Dec 14, 2016

In today’s episode I’m talking with Dr. Tiffany Stewart on living life on your own terms and using visualization and goal setting to create the life you want to live.

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Remember in grade school when we wanted to be excused from class to go to the bathroom, what did we need to make that happen? A permission slip!

Well, somewhere between then and adulthood many of us neglected to drop that belief when it came to living our most joyful and authentic lives! We believe that permission is needed to create a life that we are passionate to live.

My guest today has built her career off of rescripting that belief and helping people create the life that they want.

Dr. Tiffany Stewart. Tiffany is a mother, coach, professor, counselor, businesswoman and speaker. Her passion is to help individuals who may be stuck in some area of life, tap into their power and give themselves permission to step into their purpose and create the life they want to live. What you'll hear in this episode:What you'll hear in this episode:

Tiffany’s story of rewriting the beliefs of her childhood
How to flip the script on the “imposter syndrome”
5 questions to ask yourself to find your purpose

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Epic Challenge: Learning Compassion and How To Trust Your Intuition with Anthony Strayhorn Dec 07, 2016

In today's episode I'm going in with Anthony Strayhorn on his Epic Challenge - an area of his life where he is feeling stuck, frustrated, confused and unable to make a change. We’re getting personal, we’re getting real, and we’re playing for breakthroughs!

Anthony's Epic Challenge is about learning how to toe the line between consideration and courage with his clients. He is a personal fitness coach and works with people who are looking to shift their fitness, lifestyle and consciousness. Anthony is looking to tap into his compassion more, but not at the expense of tough love. It's the balance of these two things he's striving for.

No small feat. But that's why it's called an EPIC Challenge afterall!

Once again, some of the things we discuss in this episode may not be for young ears so you may want to vet this one before letting the kiddos listen.

What you’ll hear in this episode:Anthony gets honest on his current Epic Challenge and why he’s sought feedback
The real feelings and emotions that come up when you give someone feedback they may not want to hear
How to juggle between coming from the mind and heart

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How Going Off The Beaten Trail Can Help You Find Your Path with Jake Heilbrunn Nov 29, 2016

In today's episode I talk to Jake Heilbrunn about his inspiring story of dropping out of college to go on a soul searching journey through Central America, all captured in his new book "Off The Beaten Trail".

This self discovery journey gave Jake the opportunity to overcome fears, expand his perspective, and inspire himself to do (and be) things he didn't think possible.

Not only is the book itself an example of intention at work, but also the way that Jake sought out funding and endorsements.

Jake is also a speaker who uses his story to inspire people to follow their intuition and believe in their own greatness.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Jake’s amazing story of his solo backpacking journey through Central America
Embracing fear and moving through it to accomplish your goals
Simple ways to practice gratitude and abundance

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7 Thoughts On Gratitude You Haven't Heard Before Nov 24, 2016

In this episode I'm talking all about Gratitude. I'm giving you 7 things you probably haven't heard before about gratitude. We're talking about gratitude in your personal finances, tools for helping you form a gratitude habit, how gratitude can improve your relationships, the power of gratitude to totally flip your mood, how we feel more gratitude for experiences rather than things, and why gratitude in conflict is more powerful than forgiveness or acceptance.

I used a few resources to create the list for this episode and I'm going to post them all in the show notes at www.FiresideNetwork.com. Just go there, select this show from the Shows list, and click on today's episode.

If you have some tips, thoughts or stories on gratitude, I'd love to hear them. Reach me on my personal email address at mattcbivens@gmail.com. I'd particularly love to hear how you've cultivated a regular gratitude habit into your life. If you send me your tips I'll do a follow up to this episode where I share them on air.

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The Danger Of Seeking Work-Life Balance Nov 19, 2016

In this episode I tear apart the concept of “work-life balance” and explain why it’s dangerous, leads to unhealthy living, and why we have to replace it with a healthy and sustainable construct.

We’re all familiar with the idea of work-life balance. It’s a phrase and concept we’ve been fed for years. But have you really thought about the implications? What the phrase implies? And have you been able to create a work-life balance in your life for a significant period of time, and kept it going?!

I consider myself a student of balance. Truly, it’s something that when I realized I needed I got into action (both on the doing AND being side), to create a healthier balance of all things important in my life. For the past almost 4 years I’ve been playing a health and fitness game called the YourDay Balance Game (yup, “balance” is in the title!). I’ve tried different tools and trackers and systems to create balance, and I’ve discovered some powerful things about the concept of “work-life” balance that I want to reveal on this episode.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Why we must do away with work-life balance as we know it
A much more powerful construct of balance that’s holistic, realistic and sustainable
An amazing tool to create meaningful and lasting balance in your life

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Epic Challenge: "Who Do I Need To Be To Release Self Judgement?" with Kelly Lynn Prime Nov 10, 2016

It’s Epic Challenge time again! That means I’m going in with my guest on the area of their life where they are feeling stuck, frustrated, confused and unable to make a change. We’re getting personal, we’re getting real, and we’re playing for breakthroughs!

This week I’m joined by Kelly Lynn Prime. Kelly’s Epic Challenge is about releasing self judgement, shifting the conversation of the inner critic, and surrendering to unconditional love.

No small feat. But that's why it's called an EPIC Challenge afterall!

Once again, some of the things we discuss in this episode may not be for young ears so you may want to vet this one before letting the kiddos listen.

What you’ll hear in this episode:Kelly get honest on her current Epic Challenge and why she’s sought feedback
The lenses through which Kelly sees and relates to herself
Methods of deflection used to avoid addressing the Epic Challenge
Raw and honest feedback Kelly received from her community on her Epic Challenge, and how she received it

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How To Melt Your Fears Like Butter Nov 02, 2016

I’ve talked about facing fears a number of times on this show.

Most people who have a "self help" type of show probably talk a lot of about fears. And for great reason: Fears keep us from experiencing LOVE in life.

You can boil your decisions down to a choice between fear and love, and that includes your decision on how and who to BE in life.

So yes, fear is worth talking about!

Today I’m sharing with you a powerful new way to look at your fears, and what it takes to overcome them, that gave me one of those "mind = blown" moments when it was told to me.

This new paradigm around overcoming fears was shared with me by my coach, Day Adeogba, and has completely shifted how I think about and step into fears in my own life.

Chew on this:

“Fear is like butter, and courage is like fire.”

What does this mean? Well, I’m unpacking this powerful statement in today’s episode.

What you’ll hear in the episode.

The meaning of the phrase “Fear is like butter, and courage is like fire”.
A very personal example of me applying that wisdom
How to truly dissolve fears (and not repeat them)

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Do You Know Your Center? The Success Of Your Relationships Depends On It! Oct 27, 2016

This episode was inspired by a conversation I had with my father. Like many topics I cover in this podcast, my own life is the testing ground where I attempt to choose LOVE over FEAR, and share with you the things I've learned.

Today I'm talking about the importance of knowing what your center is - the lens through which you see the world and relationship that shapes your values, thoughts and behaviors.

There are many different centers you can have. You can be Spouse centered, Money centered, Family centered, Work centered, Possession centered, Pleasure centered, and more.

Each of these centers has a consequence. The person who is Spouse centered, for example, feels secure when their spouse treats them well, and insecure when they don't. The person who is Money centered derives their sense of self worth from their net work.

Each center carries with it a way of looking at and relating to the world.

As you can see by now, these centers are incredibly important because they shape how we see the world.

Quick note: the centers I'm referring to come straight from Stephen Covey's book The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People.

In this podcast episode I share with you a consequence of being Family centered, and how relationships hinge on not only knowing your loved ones center, but also understanding how those centers shape how they perceive the world and how they prefer to be treated.

What you'll hear in this episode:

A breakdown of the consequences of being Family centered
The 5 Love Languages
The importance of knowing not only your center and your Love Language, but that of the people closest to you

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Who Are You When No One Is Watching? Oct 19, 2016

The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these days, one could buy into the idea that self improvement is a public act.

But there's something so much more important than the things we're DOING to improve our relationship to our selves, others and life, and that's who we're BEING.

I've talked about Doing vs Being on the podcast before, but today's topic takes it a degree further. Today I'm going in on the question: Who are you when no one is watching?

So, I ask YOU -- when you're alone, in your secrecy, with no one watching and no one holding you accountable except for yourself, who are you? How do you treat yourself? What allowances do you give yourself? What language do you use to describe yourself and those around you?

The way you answer those questions reveals more about your true state of being than other more outward displays of wellness.

It's said that you have between 40,000 - 60,000 thoughts per day. If you were to categorize each as a LOVING thought or FEARFUL thought, what would your ratio be?

What you'll hear in this episode:

How my secret self was exposed recently, and the consequences of my seeing the truth
The self talk that contributes to us playing small
The costs of not doing what you say you will do

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Epic Challenge: Walking Into My Authentic Self with Sandy Chambers Oct 05, 2016

On today’s episode we explore another EPIC CHALLENGE!

This time I’m sitting down with my great friend Sandy Chambers as we explore her current challenge: Who do I need to be to feel powerful, healthy and light in my body, and graduate to the Intermediate playing field in the YourDay Balance Game*?

Sandy holds nothing back as she shares why she considers this challenge EPIC, the feedback she received about how she can power through her epic challenge, and the actions she has taken to heal and grow.

Some of the things we discuss in this episode may not be for young ears. We talk about some grown folks stuff here!

The YourDay Balance Game is a world class health and fitness game that is governed by balance and love. The YourDay Balance Game (YDBG) has three dimensions (Fitness, Lifestyle and Consciousness) and each of these three dimensions can be measured (through the Gameday, Balance Chart and COI respectively). The fitness assessment (Gameday) measures body composition, strength, endurance and flexibility. There are 5 levels in the Gameday (Beginner, Intermediate, Advanced, Pro and All Star) with the requirements and exercises in each growing in difficulty as you progress. Sandy is currently a Beginner player in her Gameday, and a major part of her current Epic Challenge is who she needs to be to graduate to the Intermediate level.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Sandy open up on her current Epic Challenge and why she’s sought feedback
The three major areas to address in order to move through the challenge
Some very intentional and powerful actions Sandy has gotten into to create a new experience for herself

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Learning How to Choose Happiness and Create The Life You Want with Heather Gray Sep 29, 2016

There’s a fundamental belief that separates the people who feel like they have it all from the people who don’t, and that’s the belief that you have the power to CHOOSE.

It’s all about CHOICE. That’s the difference maker.

People who feel in their heart and soul that they have it all, have made a conscious choice to feel that way. They’ve literally decided that they can have it all in life, and subsequent choices aligned with the core belief.

My guest today is a powerful example and evangelist of that belief!

Heather Gray’s business name says it all: Choose To Have It All. Sounds sort of familiar, huh?

Heather is an executive coach, working with entrepreneurs and business leaders who have achieved that EXTERNAL success - you know, the great career, fat bank account, titles behind their name, but that success has come at the expense of their internal well being. What Heather does is she helps them have the lifestyle and wealth that they want, but also the personal fulfillment that they truly desire.

If you’ve read Stephen Covey’s landmark book The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People, then you may remember that Habit #1 is “Be Proactive”, and that the essence of that habit (the major takeaway) is CHOICE. Proactive people are aware of their ability to choose: choose their response to circumstances, choose their relationship to themselves, others and life, and choose their level of joy and peace in life.

That’s the recurring theme in my conversation with Heather.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How to tap into your previous experience to find strength and add to your personal toolbox
Why you sometimes have to “embrace the suck” in order to move forward
How to show compassion and empathy in the face of someone else’s struggle

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Here's Why You Keep Getting Into Unhealthy Relationships Sep 20, 2016

Today's podcast was inspired by an email I received from a listener.

Her situation is something that I think many of us can relate to, and it has to do with RELATIONSHIPS.

Situation: you're in a relationship, it ends for whatever reason, you feel hurt/betrayed/wronged, you do some soul searching, learn a few things about yourself, seek out and find a new relationship, get hurt/betrayed/wronged all over again, and wonder "Why this keeps on happening to me"

Sound familiar?

I'm proposing that you don't need to do more soul searching, meditating, or any of that stuff. What you need to do is develop relationship standards where you get crystal clear on the type of person you will ALLOW into your life (or your bed!) and stick to your damn standards!

The less than healthy relationships you have are due to a lack of accountability and STANDARDS around them.

What you'll hear in this episode:

Why creating relationship standards is only half of the equation
How creating standards can help you manifest the person who will uphold those standards
A simple process to get you started on creating your relationship standards

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What The Birth Of My Child Has Taught Me About Faith (It's Not What You're Thinking) Sep 16, 2016

This episode is all about FAITH, but not in the most widely used sense. I’m talking about having supreme confidence and trust in someone or something.

I look at faith like this: FAITH = TRUST + SURRENDER.

On Sunday September 11th, Sarah and I welcomed the birth of our daughter Maya. Through that experience I both witnessed and practiced the most humbling amount of trust and surrender that I have in my life thus far.

Sarah surrendered to her body, to the labor waves, to her coaches. I trusted in our preparation, in the team we assembled, and in my ability to support.

Witnessing what I can only describe as pure faith on the parts of everyone involved, I began to think about the other areas in my life where my personal faith is lacking. Where I’m failing to trust someone or something, and where I’m fighting for control rather than surrendering.

This episode is all about faith, trust and surrender. I briefly talk about Maya’s birth experience, but spend the bulk of the episode diving into what it looks and feels like when we lack faith in our lives.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

A powerful recontextualization of faith that you can apply to your life
Examples of what lacking faith, trust and surrender look and feel like
A call for you to examine what processes you’re hindering through your lack of faith

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Epic Challenge: Knowing Whether to Move On or Dive In with Larry Nichols Sep 07, 2016

Since January 2014 my wife and I have been a part of a weekly accountability group called a Circle Of Influence (COI). A standard part of each COI meeting is to cover one person’s Epic Challenge.

Through sitting in dozens and dozens of Epic Challenges (some of them my own), over the past 2.5 years, I’ve experience just how transformational of a process it can be when a person is willing to explore a stuck area in their lives, open to receiving feedback that’s coming from a loving and honest place, and willing to act (or not) on the feedback to impact their growth.

I wanted to bring the power of the Epic Challenge to more people, and that inspired this brand new series in the podcast where we will be diving into people’s Epic Challenges!

First up is Larry Nichols. Larry is a great friend of mine and a true source of inspiration for me and many others. He has an incredibly big heart and does not hold back on pouring love into everyone he meets, from lifelong friends to strangers on an airplane. He’s just one of those people with an infectious smile that makes you think, “Why is this man so happy??”

In this episode Larry talks with me about his current Epic Challenge, which centers on two things: how his current work aligns with his passions, and his ability to maintain his personal integrity in everything he does.

Larry’s challenge is incredibly relatable to anyone who has questioned their job or the business they are in, and who has searched for meaning behind the work they do.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Larry and I dive into his Epic Challenge to uncover the root of where he’s stuck
The feedback Larry received around his Epic Challenge that helped him get unstuck
Actions that Larry has taken to create a new experience for himself

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How To Expand The Great Things In Life Through Focus Aug 30, 2016