Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

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Why I Started Sharing Recovery Wisdom with the World | Episode 299 Jan 20, 2025

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As I am nearing another massive milestone in my podcasting journey (300 episodes!), I wanted to go back and share the origin story of how I grew from a fragmented, lost person in recovery to an entrepreneur, boundaries coach, and podcast host sharing my experiences and lessons with the world. This week’s episode 299 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why I started sharing recovery wisdom with the world.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

The series of events that led me to start a podcast, sharing my wisdom with the world.
Where the name Fragmented to Whole came from.
My tendency to lie and put on different masks to please others was just part of the source of my fragmented nature.
How I came to be a boundaries coach, not just a life coach.
The serendipitous moment the universe planted the desire to start a podcast in me before podcasting even existed.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

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How to Go From Chaos to Composure- The Power of Refusal Skills | Episode 298 Jan 13, 2025

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Drop the Rock: Removing Character Defects - Steps 6 and 7

As young people, we are often taught refusal skills as it relates to saying no to drugs, alcohol, or unwanted sexual advances. Recovery has taught me that refusal skills are not just for the realm of substance use or sexual behavior. If we’re learning how to set boundaries, refusal skills are an essential part of it. This week’s episode 298 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from chaos to composure- the power of refusal skills!

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

My journey of learning to “stop dragging the story”- a habit of retelling the same story of negative experiences, perpetuating chaos and trauma in my life.
Sharing an excerpt from the book Drop The Rock that introduced me to the invaluable tool that refusal skills are in protecting my peace.
Things to consider and scripts to use when developing your refusal skills in real-world scenarios.

By developing refusal skills, you’ll be empowered to honor your needs, cultivate self-care, and create the life you truly desire. Start practicing these skills today and watch as your chaos transforms into composure.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

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LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Ep. 111 How and Why to Stop Dragging the Story with You

Ep. 8 My Tools of Recovery Part I: Pausing

Ep. 217 Why Pausing Is So Important and What To DO When You Pause

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How Acceptance Changed My Life: Peace, Resilience, and Self-Love | Episode 297 Dec 30, 2024

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Learning how to be accepting of myself and others was one of the most important things I learned in recovery. I have made several episodes on the life-changing impact of this acceptance, and today, I wanted to continue that by sharing the long-term impact of being accepting of the people, places, and circumstances of your life. This week’s episode 297 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how acceptance changed my life: peace, resilience, and self-love!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the profound impact that learning to be accepting has had on my relationships and circumstances in hopes that you, too., can move towards a more accepting, peaceful life.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Ep 2: Acceptance

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The Ripple Effect of Gratitude- How Small Moments Spark Big Changes | Episode 296 Dec 23, 2024

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The practice of keeping a daily gratitude journal has had such a considerable impact on my life that I now make a gratitude list both morning and night. I’ve found that the benefit of creating this list is that you have to search for things to be grateful for. You almost become wired to look for things to be grateful for in every moment, shifting your perspective to focus on the positives. This week’s episode 296 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the ripple effect of gratitude- how small moments spark big changes.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

Using morning and nightly gratitude journaling as a way to shift my perspective and recognize more good in my life.
How practicing gratitude has helped me recognize the pivotal moments and people that have shaped the trajectory of my life.
Two powerful instances where a chain of events led up to something bigger, for which I am incredibly grateful.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Simple Abundance: 365 Days to a Balanced and Joyful Life by Sarah Ban Breathnach

Ep 11: Gratitude

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Boundaries Made Simple- How to Communicate Clearly, Honestly, and Politely | Episode 295 Dec 16, 2024

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Ep 294: How to Master Communication, Avoid Conflict, and Create Healthier Relationships

As we know, boundaries are essential for our well-being, but communicating them effectively can be a challenge. Last week on the podcast, I shared the importance of mastering communication to create healthy relationships. As a continuation of that, I wanted to share my tips for how to clearly communicate our boundaries with others. This week’s episode 295 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to communicate clearly, honestly, and politely

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

Boundaries only become more difficult when you wait to set them.
Politeness can go a long way in communicating boundaries.
Take ownership of your boundaries; be truthful and avoid lying to justify them.
Setting a boundary is not something to apologize for - it's your right to protect your needs and boundaries.
Establish clear, consistent rules to depersonalize boundaries and make them about you, not the other person.
If you’re unsure what your boundaries are, take time to pause, gather your thoughts, and communicate your boundaries when you’re sure.
Offer an alternative or compromise to show your willingness to collaborate.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

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Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

How to Master Communication, Avoid Conflict, and Create Healthier Relationships | Episode 294 Dec 09, 2024

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Before getting into recovery, I thought that I was a good communicator. While that may have been the case when it came to my work, I came to realize that interpersonally, I was actually a horrible communicator. This week’s episode 294 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to master communication, avoid conflict, and create healthier relationships!

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

Examples of how I communicated poorly by speaking indirectly, beating around the bush, and expecting people to automatically know things or read my mind.
How I experimented with the ways I communicated my boundaries early in my recovery from compulsive overeating and sugar addiction.
Practical tips you can use to communicate more effectively, especially when setting boundaries.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:

Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

How Building Boundaries Helps You Achieve Emotional Sobriety | Episode 293 Dec 02, 2024

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Emotional Sobriety - The Next Frontier

Most people know that the goal of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is sobriety, but what they don’t know is that the goal of Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) is emotional sobriety. And if you’ve listened to my podcast for some time, you will not be shocked to hear that the way to achieve emotional sobriety is through building healthy boundaries! This week’s episode 293 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how building healthy boundaries helps you achieve emotional sobriety.

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing some literature that helped me achieve emotional sobriety, with my own struggles and illuminating insights sprinkled in. Whether you’re navigating addiction, codependency, reparenting, or simply seeking greater emotional balance, I hope these excerpts help you as much as they helped me.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

The ACA Yellow 12-Step Workbook

12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: Getting Your Sobriety Unstuck by Allen Berger

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Rediscovering Love for My Father- A Journey Through Resentment and Healing | Episode 292 Nov 25, 2024

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I have been following a guy named David Bayer for some time now and have been greatly influenced by him. One of the many pieces of wisdom he shares about limiting beliefs is that when we have a core limiting belief that we can’t seem to let go of, no matter how many tools we use, it’s often because that belief is connected to a person. Specifically, it may be connected to a resentment toward that person. When I heard that, I had the epiphany that my core limiting belief is that there will never be enough, particularly when it comes to money. And this belief stems from experiences I had with my dad. This week’s episode 292 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about rediscovering love for my father- a journey through resentment and healing!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my process of doing resentment and forgiveness inventories to uncover underlying resentments I was holding about my father and the reparenting work that came as a result of it - leading me to the realization of how much I truly loved my father as a child. The work I did as a result of this realization allowed me to experience profound emotional healing and vulnerability that was not possible in my real-life relationship with him.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Reclaiming My Inner Teen's Voice- How to Say No With Inner Strength | Episode 291

David Bayer

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Reclaiming My Inner Teen's Voice- How to Say No With Inner Strength | Episode 291 Nov 18, 2024

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