Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

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Why Mindset Matters More Than You Think: Boundaries, Recovery, and Belief | Episode 319 Jul 14, 2025

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What we believe is real becomes real in its consequences. And when our beliefs are negative, self-depricating, or otherwise limiting, they can create barriers in our lives. But when we rewire our brains and our beliefs shift, our behavior also shifts. This week’s episode 319 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why mindset matters more than you think: boundaries, recovery, and belief!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of defining our limiting beliefs and actionable steps you can take right now to rewire your brain away from them.

Your mindset is your most powerful tool for transformation. What single limiting belief are you ready to challenge today? Start by identifying its opposite and begin seeking evidence for your new truth.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

David Bayer’s podcast A Changed Mind and his book A Changed Mind

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How to Go From Permeable to Protected- Building an Emotional Force Field | Episode 318 Jun 23, 2025

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One of the most common themes I see in my clients (and something I have experienced myself) is that we literally feel other people’s feelings. We’re permeable to them because we don’t have a boundary. This week’s episode 318 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from permeable to protected- building an emotional force field.

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how, through setting healthy boundaries, you can create an energetic force field that keeps you from absorbing other people’s emotions and protects your inner peace!

If you're tired of feeling overwhelmed by others' emotions and ready to create meaningful boundaries, this episode is your first step towards emotional freedom. Take a moment to reflect on your own emotional patterns and consider how setting healthy boundaries can transform your life, one intentional choice at a time.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:

Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

Why Controlling Everything Still Doesn't Make You Feel Better | Episode 317 Jun 09, 2025

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Many of us find ourselves in this delusional thinking that the outside world could give us satisfaction, if only things went our way. The truth? There is no external solution to internal pain, and it only brings you deeper into a victim mentality. This week’s episode 317 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why controlling everything still doesn’t make you feel better!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my insights about the dangerous illusion of external control and its impact on recovery and how, through internal healing and self-acceptance, we can find serenity.

Identify one area where you're trying to control external circumstances. Instead, turn your focus inward and ask yourself, "What can I change about myself?" Remember, you can't control the world, but you can always control your response to it.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:

Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

How to Backfill the Love You Didn't Get as a Child | Episode 316 May 26, 2025

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Recovery showed me that I abused and neglected myself physically, psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually. I stayed in relationships and workplaces that were toxic, and I put up with abuse from bosses, colleagues, sweethearts, and others. This was all because I had this internalized belief from my family that you just put up with things like that. It wasn’t until I was reading the ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) Big Red Book and read about backfilling the love you didn’t get as a child that I realized I could make a change. This week’s episode 316 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to backfill the love you didn’t get as a child!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how recovery has taught me to backfill the love I was missing from my childhood and how you, too, can rewrite your emotional narratives, set healthy boundaries, and cultivate deep self-love.

Your childhood doesn't define your future. By committing to inner healing, you can break generational cycles and create the emotional support you always needed.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:

Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

Keep the Focus on Yourself- The #1 Boundary Setting Rule | Episode 315 May 12, 2025

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People tend to hear the motto “keep the docus on yourself” and think it means “be selfish.” That could not be further from the truth. It’s actually about stopping your focus on what other people, places, and things are doing (or not doing) and turning that focus inward. This week’s episode 315 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the number one boundary-setting rule: keep the focus on yourself.

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing what it really means to keep the focus on yourself and 5 actionable pieces of advice you can take to start practicing this today.

Your journey to wholeness begins with turning the focus inward. Start today by asking yourself what you truly want, need, and prefer. Remember, you are a unique "peach" - not everyone will like you, and that's exactly how it should be.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:

Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

How I'm Choosing Depth Over Hustle and What That Means for You | Episode 314 May 05, 2025

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When I started this podcast, I had no idea that it would turn into such a meaningful part of my work and my connection to you all. What started as a place for me to share my lessons and experiences through recovery turned into a place for creativity, learning, and service, and for that, I am forever grateful. This podcast has given me the opportunity to take a deeper step into my business and serve people in a much more focused, intentional way. This week’s episode 314 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how I’m choosing depth over hustle and what that means for you!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a voice memo I received from a past coaching client that came at a time when I needed to hear it most, and some updates to my offerings, podcast schedule, and newsletter release.

Whether you’re a long-time listener or brand new, I wanted to thank you. Thank you for being part of this podcast, this community, and this evolving journey through life. I can’t wait to see what this next chapter brings.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:

Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

How to Go from Victim Mentality to Empowered Living - You Have Choices | Episode 313 Apr 28, 2025

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Before recovery, I had no idea how many areas of my life I didn’t even perceive as having a choice in. I thought, ‘This is just the way it is; this is just how life works.’ But one of the greatest freedoms recovery has given me is learning that I actually do have choices, and the greatest of those freedoms is the freedom to choose what I think and believe. This week’s episode 313 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from victim mentality to empowered living!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I share how I went from feeling powerless to living an empowered life by recognizing that I have choices! I delve into the concept of victim mentality, how our internalized beliefs can limit our choices and keep us feeling trapped in destructive patterns, and ultimately, how to choose peace and intentionality over reactivity.

I encourage you to start by identifying one area in your life where you've been playing the victim. Make a conscious choice today to approach that situation with intention, personal responsibility, and hope.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

GETTING OUT OF VICTIM MENTALITY EPISODES:

Ep #3 Victim Mentality (8 min)

Ep #106 How to Overcome Victim Mentality Even If You've Been Victimized (15 min)

Ep # 126 How Understanding Your Part in Things Brings You Out of Victim Mentality (15 min)

Ep. #152 How to Stop Taking Things Personally and Come Out of Victim Mentality (14 min)

Ep. #172 Seven Steps to Coming Out of Victim Mentality (21 min)

Ep #176 What Is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of It (19 min)

Ep. 266 How to Stop Victimizing Yourself and Reclaim Your Power (23 min)

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The Humbling Truth Behind My Need to Rescue and How I Got Out of It | Episode 312 Apr 21, 2025

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For much of my life, I've known that one of my most hated human characteristics is arrogance. So, imagine my surprise when I learned in recovery that I was arrogant. Recovery also helped me understand that I hated it because it was something in me that I didn't like. And you know what we say in recovery: you spot it, you got it, and often, if you're spotting something regularly in other people, it's because you have it and probably don't like it. This week’s episode 312 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the humbling truth behind my need to rescue and how I got out of it.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

Recovery helped me realize that my desire to help others stemmed from the need for control and superiority.
Pointing out the different types of arrogance: intellectual, moral, spiritual, and social.
Strategies for overcoming the need to rescue or fix others (including some language to use when doing so).

I encourage you to reflect on your own "helping" behaviors. Are you truly supporting others or subtly trying to control outcomes? Challenge yourself to approach relationships with genuine curiosity and respect for others' capabilities.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Ep 176 What Is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of It

Donna Zajonc and David Emerald can be found at the Center for the Empowerment Dynamic

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Choosing Peace Over Panic- Why I Stopped Watching the News | Episode 311 Apr 14, 2025

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When my homeless friend moved in with me, we often listened to music instead of NPR, which was typical for me at the time. I came to realize that replacing politics with music shifted my mood drastically. When I was no longer filling my ears with the horrible things happening in our world, I noticed how much more at peace I felt and how much of a game changer this was for me. This week’s episode 311 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about choosing peace over panic- why I stopped watching the news.

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my transformative journey of prioritizing my mental health by stepping away from constant news consumption, some options if you want to limit your news intake, but don’t want to be kept out of the loop completely, and a prayer you can read before watching the news should you choose to do so.

A Prayer Before Reading the News

Written by Rabbi Irwin Keller in early 2016

My God, the soul you have placed in me is pure and vulnerable.

I am afraid that looking at today’s news will be painful.

Encircle me in a robe of light

so that I can witness the wounds of the world

without being wounded myself.

Let me learn what I need to know

In order to be of greatest use

without being overwhelmed by despair.

I feel your protective light now

as I open myself to the world’s suffering and the world’s joys.

Amen

Remember, you are not obligated to be constantly informed about every world event. Your mental peace is more important than feeling perpetually anxious about things outside your control. Take a moment to evaluate how news consumption affects your daily life, and give yourself permission to make changes that support your emotional wellness.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

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