Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

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How to Find Peace: Mastering Acceptance in Difficult Times [Replay] | Episode 309 Mar 31, 2025

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Before recovery, I had heard all about the importance of acceptance, but my question still remained: How do I do it? It wasn’t just one thing that helped me but a series of lessons that helped me change my thinking, reduce emotional suffering, and create inner peace. And I wanted to share those lessons with you. This week’s episode 309 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to find peace: mastering acceptance in difficult times!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the process I followed to lean into acceptance, some of the powerful lessons I learned along the way, and practical strategies you can use when practicing acceptance for yourself.

Remember, serenity doesn't come before acceptance - acceptance leads to serenity. Start your journey today by meeting life exactly where it is, one moment at a time.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

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How to Go Beyond 'Woe is Me'- Sylvia's Powerful Shift to Self-Ownership | Episode 308 Mar 24, 2025

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Regardless of how long I have been working with clients as a boundaries coach, I am still amazed by the mind-blowing revelations my clients have as a result of working with me. Today, I am sharing one of these profound experiences by sharing a story from “Sylvia,” one of my clients who confidently took back ownership of her life. This week’s episode 308 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go beyond ‘woe is me’- Sylvia’s powerful shift to self-ownership.

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a story from a client call where, with the help of boundaries coaching, “Sylvia” was able to overcome years of trauma, workplace challenges, and personal struggles to emerge stronger and more confident.

Some key takeaways I go over in this episode include:

You have the right to set boundaries because you get to live your life the way YOU want.
You don’t have to engage with people who have hurt you.
You don’t need to explain yourself to everyone.
You own your narrative; other people don’t get to tell you who you are or were.
Give yourself grace, treating yourself as you would a beloved friend.

Sylvia's story is a powerful reminder that we all have the ability to change our narratives and reclaim our power– and that's something we can all learn from.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:

Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

Compulsive Overeating Recovery- Discovering Unconditional Love After a Food Slip | Episode 307 Mar 17, 2025

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One of the most profound things I have worked on in my recovery journey is showing love to myself even after I make a mistake. So, when I had a recent experience where my unconditional love was tested after a slip-up with food, I had to share it with you. This week’s episode 307 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about discovering unconditional love after a food slip!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a recent food slip I had during a dinner with friends, eating unplanned seconds, and how, through recovery, I discovered the transformative power of loving myself, regardless of my mistakes.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

Sharing the backstory of what led to my food slip and how I immediately contacted my sponsor about it.
The profound moment of self-love I had while doing my inner family work.
Realizing that I still get to be loved, regardless of my mistakes or actions.
The importance of honesty and vulnerability in my recovery and self-healing journey,

Remember that you are worthy of love exactly as you are. Embrace your journey, be kind to yourself, and know that one slip does not define your recovery.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:

Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

How to Unpack Emotional Unavailability- My Journey to Feeling My Feelings (and Yours) | Episode 306 Mar 10, 2025

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For years, I thought emotional unavailability happened to me, not something I actively participated in. Spoiler alert: I was dead wrong. Today, I'm pulling back the curtain on my journey from emotional unavailability to emotional availability and how recovery helped me understand and embrace my own feelings and the feelings of others. This week’s episode 306 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to unpack emotional unavailability- my journey to feeling my feelings (and yours).

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing what it looked like for me to be emotionally unavailable and practical steps to become more emotionally available, feeling your feelings and giving space for others to do the same.

Your emotional journey is a continuous process of growth and self-discovery. Start today by being curious about your feelings and treating yourself with the same compassion you would offer a dear friend. Remember, becoming emotionally available is not about perfection but about progress and self-understanding.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Ep. 273 - The ACA Solution and How to Overcome Intergenerational Family Dysfunction

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From Reactor to Responder- How to Break Free from Old Patterns | Episode 305 Mar 03, 2025

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One of the promises of ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) is that we go from being a reactor to an actor in our lives. This means taking a proactive approach to our lives rather than reacting to what is happening. It means that we are being thoughtful, giving conscious consideration to what's going on around us, and making conscious decisions instead of reacting based on habits or patterns from the past. This week’s episode 305 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from reactor to responder: breaking free from old patterns!

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

The difference between reacting and responding, and why it’s a significant paradigm shift in recovery.
The role that awareness, decision-making, and learning to pause play in becoming a proactive person.
Practical strategies for experimenting with different behaviors and getting feedback to determine what works best for you.
Learning to view yourself as the solution, not the problem, and take empowered action towards the life you desire.

Moving from being a reactor to a responder is a journey that requires patience and practice, but the rewards are immense. By becoming more aware, making conscious choices, and experimenting with new ways of being, you can break free from old patterns and start living a life of purpose and fulfillment.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Ep 8 - My #1 Tool of Recovery: Pausing

Ep 217 - Why Pausing Is So Important and What to DO When You Pause

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How to Handle Life's Demands Without Losing Your Shit | Episode 304 Feb 24, 2025

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Changes in medicine, technology, currency, and so much more are happening at an exponential rate, and our ability to adapt is either going to make or break us. If you're able to adapt, you'll be able to thrive instead of just surviving or existing. That’s where the concept of adaptation energy comes into play. This week’s episode 304 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to handle life’s demands without losing your shit!

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

Defining adaptation energy, as introduced to me by my meditation teacher, Emily Fletcher, the founder of Ziva meditation.
Why filling our adaptation energy tank is essential to avoid emotionally burning out.
Consistent self-care practices you can do to refill your adaptation energy tank.
Sharing an example of how recovery has allowed me to keep calm in stressful situations.

Don't wait until you're running on empty to prioritize your self-care. Start building up your adaptation energy reserves today so you can handle whatever life throws your way with grace and resilience. Your future self will thank you.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Ziva Meditation

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When Love Means Letting Go- How to Break the Cycle of Codependency | Episode 303 Feb 17, 2025

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Codependency in relationships can be a complex cycle to break, especially when it comes to family members. We tend to tolerate toxic behaviors for the sake of love and loyalty. That’s why today I wanted to unpack some of the myths around loyalty and tolerance in dysfunctional family dynamics and how true love requires setting healthy boundaries. This week’s episode 303 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about breaking the codependency cycle!

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

Love and loyalty do not mean tolerating abuse; when we excuse harmful behavior in the name of love, we're being loyal only to the dysfunction.
True love includes boundaries, truth, and valuing yourself as a person, not just as a parent.
The belief that "I don't matter" is a common issue for those in codependent relationships, leading them to prioritize the happiness of others over their own well-being.

If you're struggling with codependency and setting boundaries in your relationships, know that you're not alone. Recovery is about unlearning patterns handed down to us and choosing a different way forward. It's never too late to change, and I am living proof of that.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:

Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

Lessons from a Zen Farmer- The Truth About Luck | Episode 302 Feb 10, 2025

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I recently heard a parable about a Zen farmer and how we perceive “good luck” vs. “bad luck.” I wanted to share it on the podcast this week because I think it reflects such an important mindset shift for how we view life’s unexpected twists and turns. This week’s episode 302 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about lessons from a Zen farmer- the truth about luck.

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the parable I read that has such a profound message about how we perceive “luck,” drawing parallels to my own journey of recovery from co-dependency, trauma, and compulsive overeating.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Ep. 296. The Ripple Effect of Gratitude: How Small Moments Spark Big Changes

CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:

Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery

How to Reconnect with Your Feelings- A Key Step in Recovery | Episode 301 Feb 03, 2025

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