Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

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Today's guest is Robin McIntosh, Co-CEO & Co-Founder of Workit Health which provides online drug and alcohol treatment with medication. Robin shares of her idyllic childhood that was ruptured with tragedy. She learned of the generational abuse of alcohol in her family at that time, then later because a polysubstance user who relapsed repeatedly. When she finally got clean, sober and abstinent, she realized that treatment wasn't working for many of her peers who were dying. This led to the creation of Workit Health, which provides online drug and alcohol treatment,

Workit Health provides xpert care for substance use, mental health, and co-occurring disorders and can be found at https://www.workithealth.com/ or @workithealth on Instagram.

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Why People Get Offended When You Set Boundaries with Them | Episode 129 Oct 11, 2021

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I share a couple of stories to illustrate how people get offended when someone sets a boundary with them, and how it (often) is because they don't have healthy boundaries themselves. You'll also learn how it's up to you where and when you want to set boundaries, and whether you want to explain about your boundary.

Group coaching on boundaries begins 10/26: https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries/
Free webinar on boundaries 10/17/21: https://tinyurl.com/abusm875
Free resources on boundaries: https://higherpowercc.com/start-setting-boundaries/

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Are You a Peach or a Pear? Not Everyone Is Going to Like You | Episode 128 Oct 04, 2021

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Coming to understand that we are flawesome (flawed + awesome) and that not everyone is going to like us is a GAME CHANGER for many of us in recovery! When we realize that we're fine just as we are, and some people are just never gonna like us, life gets easier. I give a metaphor for thinking about this which is that - maybe you're a peach, and not everyone likes peaches. No one blames the peach, and no one blames the person for not liking peaches. That's just the way it is. Not everyone likes peaches.

My other episodes mentioned today were:#31 Overcoming Unrealistic Expectationshttps://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-31-overcoming-unrealistic-expectations/

#83 Flawesome!https://higherpowercc.com/2021/03/12/83-flawesome/

And I also mentioned Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School, you can find her podcast here:https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcast/

If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you.Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching and visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com.

You Don’t Have to Believe the Stories Going through Your Head | Episode 127 Sep 27, 2021

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We often make up stories about ourselves, others and the world that are not based in fact and truth. Yet we act as if they are and live with the consequences of believing these b.s. stories! You don't have to life like that! You'll hear a couple of stories about what these stories can look like and how to change them.

The other episodes I refer to are: #18 One Day at a Time https://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-18-one-day-at-a-time/

#29 Don't Live into the Wreckage of the Future https://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-29-dont-live-into-the-wreckage-of-the-future/

#111 How and Why to Stop Dragging the Story with You https://higherpowercc.com/2021/06/07/episode-111-how-and-why-to-stop-dragging-the-story-with-you/

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How Understanding Your Part in Things Brings You Out of Victim Mentality | Episode 126 Sep 20, 2021

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I explore how looking for "your part in things" (as taught in step 4) shows us where we've been doing things that have contributed to the difficulties in our lives. This gives us options for how to do things differently. This brings us out of victim mentality because we now see we have choices. those with victim mentality blame others and the world for their difficulties because they truly believe they have no choices. Recovery teaches that we do have choices, always. I share three stories of how my reactions to situations has changed drastically to illustrate these concepts.The three other episodes I recommended were:

#2 Acceptancehttps://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-2-acceptance/
#3 Victim Mentalityhttps://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-3-victim-mentality/
#106 How to Overcome Victim Mentality Even If You've Been Victimizedhttps://higherpowercc.com/2021/05/04/episode-106-how-to-overcome-victim-mentality-even-if-youve-been-victimized/

If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you.

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And don't forget to check out all the stories shared under the Baobab Tree at https://www.baobabtreestories.com

Top 12 Lessons on Dating and Relationships from 12-Step Recovery | Episode 125 Sep 13, 2021

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Some of the lessons are from recovery slogans, and others are from common practices in recovery. The lessons I share are these:

Don’t date for the first year
Be real
When someone tells you who they are, believe them
One day at a time
First things first
Acceptance
HALT
Keep coming back, it works if you work it so work it you’re worth it
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome
Progress not perfection
HOW
What’s my part in things

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Why and How To Stop Falling In Love With People's Potential | Episode 124 Sep 06, 2021

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If you've fallen in love with someone else's potential, you know that it's a potentially endless drain on your energy. If this is a pattern for you, there's hope! You'll learn why we do this and how to stop - which means learning to keep the focus on yourself so you can live up to *your* potential!

If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you.

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And don't forget to check out all the stories you can find under the Baobab Tree. https://www.baboabtreestories.com

Why Asking Constructive Questions Instead of Destructive Questions Improves Your Life | Episode 123 Aug 30, 2021

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Constructive questions help us construct a better version of ourselves. Destructive questions are just that - destructive. They destroy us - or at least inhibit our development. I share some typical destructive questions that people in recovery ask themselves (e.g., WTF is wrong with me??") and provide several examples of constructive questions to ask that will lead to your growth and development.

I referred to ep #83 "Flawesome!" in the episode, you can find it here: https://higherpowercc.com/2021/03/12/83-flawesome/

If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you.

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And be sure to check out all the stories under the Baobab Tree at https://www.baobabtreestories.com

Stop Fixing, Rescuing and Protecting Others and Keep That Energy for Yourself! | Episode 122 Aug 23, 2021

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When we attempt to fix, rescue, protect and buffer others from the negative consequences of their own lives, we're not helping. In fact, we may very well be making things worse. We're definitely making things worse for *ourselves* by draining our energy supply so we don't have anything left for ourselves. I talk through a couple of examples from my own life - one where I was being helpful to be controlling, and the other where I was able to see how NOT stepping in to rescue made the situation much better rather than worse.

Here's the link to my membership community, Secure, Loved & Brave that I mentioned in the episode: https://higherpowercc.com/membership/

If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you.

Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!).
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And make sure you check out all the stories under the Baobab Tree at https://www.baobabtreestories.com