Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

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How to Harness the Power of Bookending When Setting Boundaries | Episdoe121 Aug 16, 2021

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Setting boundaries can be difficult, esp. when we first start. The guilt and shame we feel when setting boundaries can be paralyzing. Bookending with a safe, supportive other person when you're setting boundaries can help you deal with those difficult emotions. It can also help you hold yourself accountable to following through on setting the boundary, and can help you feel connected rather than abandoned when setting healthy boundaries.

The other episode I mentioned was #115, How to Leverage Those Codependent Powers for Good and it's available here: https://higherpowercc.com/2021/07/08/episode-115-heres-how-to-leverage-those-codependent-powers-for-good/

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*Video* Guest Episode with Hope - You Only Live Once | Episode 120 Aug 09, 2021

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The video of this episode is available on Patreon to patrons of Barb.

Barb's guest Hope shares her experience, strength and hope on this episode. Hope shares about her #YOLO philosophy, which is very different than her YOLO philosophy of her younger years! Now it's about trying new things that you've always wanted to try, trying things that will stretch, grow and change you. When she was young, her YOLO philosophy was more about getting wasted and doing dumb things.

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Getting Rid of Black & White Thinking and No Longer Tolerating Dysfunction | Episode 119 Aug 02, 2021

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Two stories about garbage cans are profiled to show how our thinking becomes much less rigid as we continue our journey of recovery. These stories also illustrate how recovery shows us how frequently we put up with things that annoy the f**k out of us when we don't have to.

We GET TO have choices in our lives as a result of recovery - choices about the kinds of garbage cans we have, what kind of socks we wear, and everything else. We don't have to think rigidly, and we don't have to put up with stuff that annoys us day in and day out.

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How to Untie the Bundle of Negativity and Self-judgment So You Can Have Peace and Ease | Episode 118 Jul 26, 2021

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If you're sick and tired of the endless string of negative thoughts and self-judgment in your head, that can end! I'm living proof! It starts with awareness - awareness of what you're saying to yourself. You then need to analyze what those messages are and what they're doing to do you. They're crippling you, AND they're not making you into a better person. So stop! Stop that shit! Once you stop the negativity, you'll stop judging yourself. Ironically, that will lead to stopping your judgments of others as well. As your self-judgment diminishes, you'll feel more at ease and at peace in your life.

Here are the links I promised:
Secured, Loved & Brave membership community: https://higherpowercc.com/membership/

Podcast episodes to help you untie the bundle:
#5 Affirming Ourselves https://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-5-affirming-ourselves/
#6 Fear of Being Judged https://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-6-fear-of-being-judged/
#83 Flawesome! https://higherpowercc.com/2021/03/12/83-flawesome/

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How to Stop Creating the Opposite of What You Want to Get the Life You DO Want | Episode 117 Jul 24, 2021

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When we're focused more on what others think of us, and things we DON'T want, we're more likely to get it. However, when we start to focus on ourselves and what we actually DO want, we're more likely to get it. I give some examples of what this looks like in real life, then talk about how to make the shift. It's about figuring out who your authentic self is, then living your life in accordance with that.

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How to Change Other People's Behavior So You Can Have Better Relationships | Episode 116 Jul 12, 2021

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The only way to change the way others interact with you is to change the way YOU interact with THEM! You can't change other people, but you *can* change your ways! When you start being honest with people about what you really want, need, think and feel, when you lower your expectations of others, and when you learn to set healthy boundaries, you'll be living your life the way YOU want to. And THAT will lead you to having better relationships with others.

The page I mentioned on my website with the free downloads about boundaries is here: https://higherpowercc.com/start-setting-boundaries/

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Here's How to Leverage Those Codependent Powers for Good! | Episode 115 Jul 07, 2021

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Codependent people are focused outside themselves and care what others think about them. As you're recovering from your codependent ways, you can leverage that tendency for your own good by using it with some kind of an accountability partner. In the beginning, you can use that desire to NOT let them down by committing to them about goals that further your development. Given your need to please THEM, you'll be more likely to stick to your own goals!

If you're interested in the episode I mentioned on getting over the fear of judgment, it's ep #6 and can be found here: https://higherpowercc.com/2020/11/05/fragmented-to-whole-podcast-6-fear-of-being-judged/

If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you.

Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!). Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching and visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com.

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Here's What Recovery Looks Like in Real Life - My Day at the Beach | Episode 114 Jun 28, 2021

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Here's a story of a variety of ways that recovery has shown up in my everyday life. It features a story from a day at the beach where I sat next to two people who were bitching and complaining. In the past, I would sat there and stewed and fumed and blamed them for my miserable day. Instead, I got up and moved. I was rewarded by my Higher Power with some incredible lessons in healthy parenting and boundary-setting by the family I sat next to in my new spot.

If you'd like one of the three spots I have left for private coaching clients, sign up for a free 30-min call with me at barbchat.net.

If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you.

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Boundaries without Consequences Aren't Really Boundaries - They're Hopes and Wishes | Episode 113 Jun 21, 2021

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If you set a boundary with someone and they don't honor, you have to do something about them not honoring it. "Doing something" is called a consequence. If you don't do anything when someone doesn't honor your boundary, then it wasn't really a boundary, it was just a wish. Learn how to set different levels of consequences using the three strikes method in this episode.

The link I mentioned in the episode for signing up for a free 30-min Better Boundaries call is barbchat.net

If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you.

Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!).
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How and Why to Go from an External Focus to an Internal Focus | Episode 112 Jun 14, 2021

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Some people think that "it's all about me" is the same as "keep the focus on yourself." It's not. They're very different. Opposites, in fact. When we're focused on the external world ("it's all about me"), we're more likely to be exasperated, resentful and unfulfilled. That's because we can't do much about the external world. But when we learn to keep the focus on ourselves, we're much more likely to be proactive and to live our lives on purpose. We're responsible, contributing citizens who feel some control over their lives.

If you’re a fan of this podcast and want to support it, please check me out Patreon.com/HigherPowerCoaching. You can choose the level of support that feels right for you.

Be sure to leave a rating on Apple Podcasts (it helps others to find this podcast!).
Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching and visit me on my website: www.HigherPowerCC.com.

Check out ALL the stories shared under the Baobab Tree at BaobabTreeStories.com

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