Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

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S17E9: It's Bigger Than Me: Changing the Conversation About Weight and Obesity with Yvette Nicole Brown Mar 03, 2023

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Hey lady! You’re in for a treat with this week’s episode. Yvette Nicole Brown stops by the Cultivating H.E.R. Space podcast to have some fun girl talk with Dr. Dom and Terri. Yvette brings her warm personality and positive energy to discuss an initiative that is dear to her heart – It’s Bigger Than Me. The movement helps shine a light on obesity and addresses some myths about obesity, primarily that it is a disease and nothing to be ashamed of even though feelings of shame are normal and understandable. Yvette offers her unique perspective on being in the spotlight through her decades-long career in the entertainment industry. If you struggle with your weight or love someone who does then tune in so you can add ways to be kinder to yourself into your toolkit. It’s all about perspective and hopefully, this conversation brightens yours.
Quote of the Day:
“The truth is, navigating obesity and our health can come with moments of success and setbacks. So, we must be prepared to push through those moments when our internal voice tells us to give up.”
- Yvette Nicole Brown
Where to find Yvette Nicole Brown:
IG: @yvettenicolebrown
Twitter: @YNB
LinkedIn: Yvette Nicole Brown
Website: It’s Bigger Than Me
Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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S17E8: Girl Code: Unofficial Rules that Black Women Should Live By Feb 24, 2023

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Hey lady, no matter where you are in life or what age you’re currently enjoying, we all know there aren’t any rules to life, but there are social graces that help us journey together. Especially, if you’re a woman or femme. Girl code can seem superficial but is real and actually a useful way to be in relationship with other women. Whether they are your friends or just other women out here living in the world, there are things that we as women do and just don’t do. While some things change, some things stay the same, and being a genuine person is always going to be in style.
This episode is interactive! Check us out on Instagram and let us know what your girl code absolutes are and what are some of your girl code dealbreakers.
Quote of the Day:
“My girls...Make me smile a little brighter, make me laugh a little louder, and make me live a little better.”
- Anonymous
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Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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S17E7: If That Happened to Me I would Have...: How to Respond When Things Catch You Off Guard Feb 17, 2023

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Hey lady, ever have an interaction with someone that just felt…off? Or, have you responded in a way that wasn’t your finest moment? Don’t beat yourself up. Being a human is interesting and complex. There isn’t a rulebook, but there are frameworks that we can work with to help us navigate challenging situations with grace. This week Terri and Dr. Dom have a special surprise (check out Patreon for the deets) and talk about the moments in life when we weren’t operating as our highest selves. Those opportunities are rich with information that can help us make decisions from an empowered place for situations in the future. Dr. Dom and Terri discuss various real-world scenarios to illustrate the point that as we grow we develop new tools to help ourselves along the way. Life is, indeed, the greatest teacher! You’ll want to tune in to the Aftershow for a powerful toolkit that you can access while living in the moment. Tap in!
Quote of the Day:
"You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance every second." - Unknown
Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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S17E6: Life Beyond Likes with Isa Watson Feb 10, 2023

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Hey lady! Has doom scrolling got you down? Are the lines between your real life and your online life starting to blur? Well, then tap into today’s episode. Join Dr. Dom and Terri as they welcome Isa Watson back to the podcast to discuss her new book Life Beyond Likes: Logging Off Your Screen and Into Your Life. Isa dives into her personal experiences and how it took a significant life event to help her reevaluate her priorities and check herself about how she’s really showing up in the online world. This conversation is for everyone looking to deepen their relationships, especially the ones with themselves. Isa delves into her research and offers tips on how cultivating a rich inner and offline life will do wonders for our collective mental and emotional health. There’s so much beauty in life when you’re present in your life and out of your phone. Take a listen and learn how you can add some ease to changing your online habits.
Quote of the Day:
"We have to be more self-aware about how the internet impacts us."
- Isa Watson
Where to find Isa Watson:
Website: Isa Watson
Twitter: @isadwatson
Instagram: @isadwatson
TikTok: @isadwatson_bk
Website: With Your Squad
Twitter: @withyoursquad
Instagram: @withyoursquad
Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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S17E5: Navigating Life's Embarrassing Moments (Get Ready to LOL) Feb 03, 2023

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Hey lady, you smell that? Is it you? Probably, lol. That’s ok! Body odor, farts, grown lady smells, tripping, falling, and so much more are all a part of what makes being human a full-body experience. This week Terri and Dr. Dom tell their business so you can feel better about yours. You are definitely going to want to listen to this one with headphones on. They get real about how to handle when your wig starts slipping while you’re getting your back blown out, and how queefing is kinda cool now that we’re grown. Why are they doing this? Because laughter is one of the best sources of medicine and if you can’t laugh at yourself (or your sharts) then maybe you’re taking this life thing just a little too seriously. You don’t need a journal for this episode, but we hope you remember that if you poot in the elevator make sure it’s just you in there.
Quote of the Day:
"How embarrassing it is to be human."
- Unknown
Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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S17E4: How to Stand Your Ground and Hold Gaslighters Accountable Jan 27, 2023

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Last week Dr. Dom and Terri discussed how to identify various forms of manipulation. And, we heard you. It was a much-needed, albeit tender topic, about how we function in our interpersonal relationships. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri move out of the tender area into a place of power by outlining concrete steps you can take to stand 10 toes in who you are as a person and how you want to be treated going forward. Lady, the secret is it all starts with you and how you view and treat yourself. We told you last week and want to remind you to pack a lot of self-compassion and self-forgiveness as you build your confidence muscle in navigating difficult situations with people who may have mal intent. But, there’s hope! Once you master these skills, you’ll be able to walk out and meet life with your head high and your back straight because you trust yourself. It’s hard work to get there, but it’s worth it because you’re worth it! If this episode resonates with you be sure to share it with a friend or sister friend and leave us a 5-star review to let others know that we’re on this journey together and we’ve got you.
Additional Episodes
- S2E3: Why You Might Be Struggling to Gain Confidence
- S8E9: Getting the Relationship You Deserve with Allison Wellington
- S10E2: Is Your Partner a Narcissist?
- S10E3: How to Finally Leave Your Narcissistic Partner a Conversation with Dr. Ramani Durvasula
- S17E5: What Gaslighting, Red Flags, and Manipulation Sound Like
Being in a Relationship with Yourself is Key (Standing Your Ground Begins Within)
1. Trust yourself
2. Create a positive internal dialogue
3. Work on managing emotions
4. Strive for confidence/wholeness
Strategies to Deal with a Gaslighter
1. Listen to their side of the story (take notes if you have to)
2. Ask questions and try to get specifics from them
3. Remain calm and stay silent during their outburst
4. Pull up receipts and proof and call them out
A Few Strategies of Self-Protection
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mind-games/201904/gaslighting-in-relationships-seven-ways-protect-yourself
Quote of the Day:
“The ways you have learned to survive may not be the ways you wish to continue to live.”
― Thema Bryant
Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram:

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S17E3: What Gaslighting, Red Flags, and Manipulation Sound Like Jan 20, 2023

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Lady, healing isn’t linear, and it doesn’t always feel good, but with tools and strategies, you can navigate life with grace, clarity, and lightness. Dr. Dom and Terri have a deep conversation about the truth of gaslighting, red flags, and manipulation. Maybe you’ve heard these terms recently, but do you really know what they mean? Accessing the language around these pieces of the cycles of abuse can help you create a toolkit that can help you identify them earlier in your relationships. Knowing these terms can also help you identify when you have been the initiator of potentially harmful behavior. Lady, listen to this episode with your journal and a ton of grace and self-compassion. Terri and Dr. Dom clearly lay out the signs so that you can see them early and make decisions from a centered place. If this topic lights up something in you and you want to dig deeper check out these additional episodes:

S8E9: Getting the Relationship You Deserve with Allison Wellington
S10E2: Is Your Partner a Narcissist?
S10E3: How to Finally Leave Your Narcissistic Partner a Conversation with Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Red Flags
1. Gaslighting
2. Lovebombing
3. They don’t respect your boundaries
4. They check in frequently and there's a hint of possessiveness
5. They don't have many friends OR a good relationship with their family (or a relationship with themselves)
6. They want you to prioritize them
7. They try to isolate you and take up all your time and sometimes even bad talk those closest to you
8. You have a bad gut feeling
Quote of the Day: "Gaslighters confuse, intimidate, and disempower people for the purpose of controlling other people, and promoting the abusers' interests."
- Linda Hatch, PhD
Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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S17E2: Evolving to Your Next Level with Saman Munir Jan 13, 2023

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Hey lady! Is one of your goals this year to lead a more fit life? If the answer is yes, then this episode is for you. If the answer is no, tune in anyway because maybe you’ll find some motivation that has nothing to do with the scale and everything to do with how you feel inside. Saman Munir, a fitness professional with EvolveYou, joins Dr. Dom and Terri for an inspiring conversation about how she turned a passing interest in losing post-partum baby weight into a brand-new lifestyle for herself where strength and feeling good are the top priorities. She offers practical guidance on how she shifted her mindset from scale conscious to strength conscious and shares insightful tidbits about how her modesty makes her feel empowered to be her strongest self. Jumpstart your fitness journey with her tips and check out her social media for quick bite workouts you can do, including on the EvolveYou app. You’ve got this!
Quote of the Day:
"Fall in love with the journey, not the destination!"
- Saman Munir
Where to find Saman Munir:
LinkedIn: Saman Munir
YouTube: @sfm_fitness
Twitter: @makeuphijabs
IG: @sfm_fitness
TikTok: @sfm_fitness
Evolve You App: @evolveyou
Donate: Pakistan Floods Appeal
Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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S17E1: Reminders You Need to Remember If You Want to Be Successful This Year Jan 06, 2023

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Lady, it’s the start of the New Year and whether you are a “New Year, New Me” kind of woman or you’re just making improvements to your already dope self, we all know that what takes people from good to great is a healthy mindset. Terri and Dr. Dom sit down with some helpful things to consider as you strategize for your most abundant year yet! They offer their perspective on how subtle shifts in our attitudes can go a long way in our success. Now, lady, you know this is a grown-woman podcast, and sometimes you must have those loving but firm conversations with yourself so that you can keep progressing forward in life. Listen to this now and come back to re-listen throughout the year for inspiration to help you stay on course.
Reminders:
1. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail
2. Be aware of what's owning you
3. Choose your life partner wisely and know that it's okay to change your mind
4. A closed mind is the beginning of a stagnant life
5. Happiness is an inside job
6. You may not get closure from the other person and that's okay. You can be your own conduit for closure
7. You a bad bitch and you got this shit!
Quote of the Day:
"You are your most valuable asset."
- Terri Lomax
Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

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S16E13: Overcoming Avoidance: It's the Most Important Thing You Don't Want To Do Dec 30, 2022

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Lady, you did it! If you are listening right now you made it all the way to the end of 2022 and we’re so glad you did. It’s the time of year to take a pause and catch your breath. In fact, there are probably some things on your to-do list that are calling for your attention but you’re avoiding them. That’s not a bad thing…until it is. This week, Terri and Dr. Dom sit down and discuss avoidance and the positive – yes, there are some positive effects – and negative effects that the coping strategy can have on your life. Sometimes you just don’t have it to give, making giving yourself grace and compassion one of the most important skills you can cultivate. Dr. Dom and Terri present scenarios where avoidance can help guide you to healing and how to identify when avoidance is creating unnecessary obstacles on your path. Learning how to make avoidance work for you is an important tool for your toolkit. Tap in while you chill out during this holiday season.
Quote of the Day: “Avoidance has never been a great tactic in solving any problem. For most situations in life, not addressing what's going on only makes matters worse.”
- Luvvie Ajayi-Jones
Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

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