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In this raw and real coaching session, I sit down with podcast listener Marissa, who's exhausted by dating, tired of always giving more in relationships, and wondering why the "right" guys keep fading away.
She's done with breadcrumbing. Fed up with chasing clarity. And deeply craving a relationship where love and effort go both ways.
Together, we unpack:
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What happens when you attract men who mirror your old wounds
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The difference between standards and fear-based filters
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Why "empathy without boundaries" is draining you
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How dating patterns trace back to childhood emotional neglect
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And why your nervous system is trying to protect you with clinginess
If you're overgiving, overanalyzing, and over it—this one will hit home.
🎧 Plus, we talk about real next steps to regulate your nervous system, set healthy boundaries, and start creating a life that feels good—with or without a partner.
⚠️ NEW TOOL RELEASED!
Because after hundreds of DMs from people saying things like: "I shut down mid-convo and can't explain why…" "I know I'm people-pleasing but I can't stop it in the moment…" "I spiral and regret what I say—or I say nothing at all…"
I realized we don't need more mindset hacks. We don't need another hour-long therapy session to talk about what already happened.
We need tools to regulate in the moment it's happening—when your nervous system is screaming "this isn't safe," and you either shut down, lash out, or fawn your way out of your truth.
That's why I created the Nervous System Reset Toolkit.
It's for the version of you that knows better—but can't do better, because your body is still in survival mode.
Whether that's fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.
Inside, you'll get:
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Short, soothing audios for each nervous system state—tools to help you reset in real time A script library so you can speak your truth in conflict—without spiraling or ghosting
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Deep-dive journal prompts to unpack your patterns with compassion
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My favorite: the Back to Bed Blueprint for 2AM anxiety spirals And a bonus 15-min pep talk called "Should I Stay or Go?"—for when clarity feels far away but your nervous system is screaming
If you're ready to stop self-abandoning, communicate more clearly, and feel safer in your body and your relationships… this toolkit was made for you.
As a podcast listener, you get 20% off with code PODCAST at checkout.
Head to 👉 www.unblockyourbs.com/toolkit to grab it now.
You're not broken. You're just dysregulated. Let's give your nervous system what it's been asking for all along: safety, connection, and tools that actually help.
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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.
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