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WTF Does "Do the Work" Even Mean? (Bob's Story) May 07, 2025

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When Bob first came across the Healthy Men-tality Program, he was stuck, confused, and about to lose his marriage. His wife told him he needed to "do the work" — but no one could tell him what that actually meant.

In today's episode, Bob shares his raw, honest journey through heartbreak, healing, and what it really takes to rebuild your life after divorce or relationship breakdowns.

We dive into: ✅ Why "doing the work" isn't just a buzzword — and why so many men get stuck at this stage ✅ How traditional therapy and relationship advice often leave men feeling more confused ✅ What changed when Bob started learning emotional regulation, nervous system awareness, and true relational leadership ✅ The surprising moment he realized he could choose how he felt — and stop letting his emotions hijack his decisions ✅ Why breathwork cracked open breakthroughs he never thought possible ✅ How finding a brotherhood of men doing the work changed everything

Bob's story is for every man who's ever felt stuck, lost, overwhelmed — and desperately wanted a way forward without losing his dignity, his strength, or himself.

If you're ready to stop surviving and start leading in your life and relationships, listen in. This conversation will hit you right in the heart — and remind you it's never too late to become the man you're meant to be.

🔗 Ready to do the work yourself?

Applications are now open for the next round of Healthy Men-tality — my 8-week group coaching experience for men who are ready to heal, lead, and live with grounded strength.

DEADLINE TO APPLY IS MAY 15th ➔ unblockyourbs.com/healthymen

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Why Men Struggle to Speak Up (and How My Client Mark Found His Voice) Apr 30, 2025

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In this episode, Coach Tara sits down with Mark, a husband, father, and graduate of our Healthy Men-tality program, who shares what it's really like for a man to go on a healing journey. They unpack the emotional toll of people-pleasing, what happens when fight-or-flight hijacks your relationship, and how nervous system tools and accountability changed how Mark shows up—for himself and those he loves.

He opens up about his resistance to joining a group program for men, the fear of vulnerability, and how investing in himself ended up being one of the best decisions he's made.

This one is for the guys who want to be better—but don't know where to start.

Listen in for:

The moment Mark realized his reactivity was rooted in people-pleasing
What shifted when he stopped taking other people's choices personally
Why breathwork and emotional regulation helped him feel more confident
How the group setting created a safe space for honest conversations
His message for any man wondering if doing this work is worth it

🚨 Doors are open for the next round of Healthy Men-tality starting May 18th!

If you want to break old emotional patterns, feel more grounded in relationships, and become the man you know you're meant to be—join us. To Learn More 👉 www.unblockyourbs.com/men-tality

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You're Not Crazy—You're Just Dysregulated Apr 23, 2025

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Ever find yourself spiraling over a text, freezing in conflict, or walking on eggshells with a partner or boss? You're not overreacting. You're not crazy. You're just dysregulated—and your nervous system is trying to protect you the only way it knows how.

In this solo episode, Tara breaks down:

What nervous system dysregulation actually is
The 4 trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn
How childhood patterns shape our reactions in adult relationships
Why your brain shuts down logic during conflict
What to do when you feel emotionally hijacked—and how to reconnect with yourself before reacting

PLUS: Tara shares the brand-new Nervous System Reset Toolkit—a powerful resource for anyone navigating emotional spirals, relationship tension, or chronic overthinking.

Podcast listeners get 20% off with code PODCAST at www.unblockyourbs.com/toolkit

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Healing the Boy to Reveal the Man (ft. Ryan O'Keefe) Apr 16, 2025

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What happens when a man finally decides to stop running from his pain—and starts getting honest about his patterns?

In this guest episode, I sit down with Ryan O'Keefe, a 7-figure entrepreneur and father who's spent the last several years doing deep emotional healing work. From father wounds and failed relationships to confronting his own emotional immaturity, Ryan shares what it really takes for men to do the work—and why most don't.

We talk about:

Why so many men stay stuck in toxic patterns (even when they're successful)
How emotional honesty changed Ryan's life—and relationships
What most men misunderstand about safety, vulnerability, and leadership
The truth about attachment styles and masculine healing
Why doing "the work" isn't a one-and-done thing

This is the episode you send to the man in your life who's ready—but maybe doesn't know where to start.

🔗 Connect with Ryan: @healtheboyrevealtheman

AND MEN… If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things—but still end up misunderstood, shut down, emasculated or losing yourself in relationships—you're not alone. My Healthy Men-tality program is a small group program where men learn to regulate their emotions, break painful patterns, and lead in love and life from a grounded, powerful place. Get on the waitlist to learn what real healing can look like for you as we kick off the next round of this program NEXT MONTH! www.unblockyourbs.com/men-tality

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How I Fell for a Love Bomber (and What It Taught Me About Attachment) Apr 09, 2025

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Dating after divorce is a special kind of WTF. If you've ever been love-bombed, ghosted, or caught in an emotional tornado, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down the mind games, the attachment styles at play, and how to avoid falling into the same dumpster fire of situationships over and over again.

What You'll Learn:

Why dating after divorce can feel like an emotional rollercoaster (hint: it's not just bad luck).
How attachment styles run the show in modern relationships—and how to break the cycle.
The sneaky ways we self-abandon in the name of "chemistry" (spoiler alert: it's NOT love).
How to start healing so you stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners.

Key Takeaways:

That "spark" you crave? It's often just nervous system dysregulation.
If someone moves too fast, they're likely running from something.
Dating apps are a playground for unhealed attachment wounds.
Healing your attachment style = breaking free from toxic dating cycles.

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Overcoming The Dumpster Fire that is Dating After Divorce with Adam Kiddoo Apr 02, 2025

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Dating after divorce is like walking through a minefield blindfolded—with a bunch of people telling you what you should be doing while they're also clueless. If you're tired of the ghosting, the red flags, and the never-ending cycle of swiping with zero results, this episode is for you.

What You'll Learn:

Why dating apps feel like a dumpster fire—and how to avoid the worst of it
How self-awareness is your biggest flex (and why most people don't have it)
The toxic dating culture keeping men and women disconnected
The real reason you keep attracting the wrong people—and how to stop
How men can lead in relationships without being labeled toxic
Why being alone is a superpower (instead of a punishment)

About Our Guest:

Adam Kiddoo is a coach and a heart-centered leader who helps entrepreneurs build aligned businesses. After his 10-year marriage ended, he had to face the reality of dating in 2024—and spoiler: it's a sht show.* In this episode, we talk about the chaos of modern dating, where men and women are getting it wrong, and what actually works. Learn more about Adam on Instagram @adamkiddoo

Ready to Stop Playing Games & Find Something Real?

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Stuck in Resentment? How to Forgive & Rebuild Your Relationship Mar 26, 2025

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What do you do when you want to move forward in your relationship, but resentment and old wounds keep pulling you back?

In this episode, we dive into a powerful listener-submitted question about forgiveness, healing from past relationship trauma, and the emotional baggage that keeps us stuck. Brittany, a listener, shares her struggle with resentment, unprocessed pain, and the difficulty of letting go after her husband's past behavior. If you've ever struggled with forgiving someone, feeling emotionally drained in your relationship, or wondering if it's even possible to rebuild trust—this episode is for you.

💡 In This Episode, We Cover:

✅ Why holding onto resentment keeps you emotionally stuck ✅ How trauma and past pain manifest as physical illness (Brittany's story) ✅ The "Backpack Analogy"—how to stop carrying emotional weight ✅ How to start fresh in a relationship (instead of patching up the old one) ✅ The power of making the choice to let go—without waiting for closure ✅ Practical ways to shift your mindset and create a healthier future

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Post-Divorce Reality: Healing, Dating & Parenting Through the Chaos Mar 19, 2025

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Going through a divorce is one thing—learning how to heal, co-parent, and rebuild your life is another. In this episode, one of the Unblock Your BS Listeners, Stephanie, and I dive into what it really looks like to start over after divorce. She shares her journey of navigating emotional triggers, creating stability for her kids, and how self-awareness changed everything for her post-divorce. If you've ever struggled with post-divorce identity, co-parenting challenges, or the fear of being alone—this conversation is for you.

In This Episode, We Cover:

✅ Why self-awareness is the foundation for healing after divorce ✅ How Steph navigated co-parenting challenges and emotional triggers ✅ The impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships ✅ Why emotional intelligence & language shape our reality ✅ Breaking free from old relationship patterns & learning self-love ✅ What it really takes to create a healthy post-divorce life

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The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

"Starting Over Alone" A Divorced Dad's Journey Through Loneliness, Identity & Healing Mar 12, 2025

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What does it really mean to start over after a 21-year marriage ends? In this raw, heartfelt conversation, Joe shares his journey through separation, loneliness, and rediscovering himself as a single dad. From redefining traditions on Christmas Day alone to battling the silence of an empty house, Joe opens up about the real struggles men face post-divorce—struggles that often go unheard.

We dive deep into the loneliness epidemic among men, the emotional toll of losing your identity after a long-term relationship, and the often-overlooked pressures of masculinity in today's world. You'll hear hard-earned wisdom about communication breakdowns in marriage, the challenges of dating after divorce, and the internal work required to heal and move forward.

This isn't just a story about heartbreak—it's about rediscovery, resilience, and the courage to build a new life on your own terms.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

How loneliness can silently creep in after divorce
The role communication breakdowns play in long-term relationships
How men process grief and loss differently
Redefining self-worth after losing your identity in marriage
The emotional challenges of dating again after decades off the market
How to find purpose and build new traditions post-separation

Men - Ready to start your own healing journey? DM or comment "HEAL" on Instagram or Tik Tok to get on the waitlist and learn more about the next round of the Healthy Men-tality Program—a 4-week small group intensive designed just for men who want to heal their nervous system, communicate better and stop the toxic cycles you find yourself in with your current or past partner!

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You're Not Broken—You're Just Carrying a Pain Your Mind Can't Heal Mar 05, 2025

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What if the reason you can't "just move on" isn't because you're broken—it's because your body is still holding on to the pain?

In this episode, I sit down with my best friend, Victoria, a fellow Somatic Release Breathwork Practitioner, to dive into how heartbreak and trauma actually get stuck in your nervous system—and how breathwork became the missing piece that finally set her free after years of therapy couldn't.

If you're tired of feeling stuck, repeating toxic patterns, or struggling to let go of past relationships, this conversation will show you why it's not your fault—and how healing can finally happen for you.

💡 What You'll Learn:

Why your nervous system keeps attracting toxic patterns
How trauma lives in your body (not your mind)
Why mindset shifts and therapy aren't enough to fully heal
How somatic breathwork can help you break free for good

💥 Ready to Heal for Real?

Join my FREE 5-Day Heartbreak to Healing Challenge starting March 10th!

You'll learn how to: ✔️ Break free from toxic relationship cycles ✔️ Reset your nervous system ✔️ Release pain, anxiety, and heartbreak for good

🎯 Save Your Spot Here!

⏱️ Episode Highlights:

00:00 - Victoria's healing journey through breathwork 12:00 - Why therapy wasn't enough 18:00 - How your body holds onto heartbreak 31:00 - Using breathwork to reset your nervous system 42:00 - Breaking toxic patterns for good

Feeling stuck isn't your fault—but staying stuck doesn't have to be your story. 💖

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