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Are You Fighting Your Partner...or Your Past? Sep 24, 2025

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Most couples stay stuck in the same painful cycles because they believe their partner makes them feel unloved, unwanted, disrespected or upset.

But when you hand someone else the keys to your emotional state, you give up your agency and ability to regulate your own emotions. The result? Endless reactivity, blame, and miscommunication that leaves both people hurt and defensive.

In this solo episode, I'll explain why "triggers" aren't created by your partner - they're revealed. Drawing on nervous system science, childhood attachment patterns, and real client examples, I'll show you how to separate facts from stories, regulate emotions, and communicate with curiosity instead of accusation.

Here's some highlights:

The orange juice metaphor that flips the script on blame
A real-life birthday gift debacle one tik tok lady is facing example that reveals fact vs. story in conflict
How your reticular activating system and amygdala work together in emotional spirals
Why anger is a protective emotion and how to release it safely
What it looks like to take your power back in relationships

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

He Broke Down Crying in a Waffle House at 1am - Then Radically Changed His Life Sep 17, 2025

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Most of us get hijacked by spirals of anger, shame, or the "should storms" of life. We either shut down, blow up, or perform our pain for approval.

But the cost is high: broken relationships, wasted energy, endless regret, and a nervous system that never feels safe. And while the internet is full of "healing tips," few people are embodying them in real time.

Enter Eric Palacios, returning guest, creator of the Stay Light journal and Palaciosophy, and a living example of turning breakdowns into breakthroughs. In this episode we revisit the fateful Waffle House night in Nashville that shifted his life and unpack how Stoicism, Buddhism, and Taoism meet in the messiness of everyday life.

In this episode we dive into…

The "Waffle House breakdown" that became Eric's catalyst for emotional autonomy The 3-part detachment framework: pause (Buddhism), control what you can (Stoicism), trust the flow (Taoism)
Why performative healing isn't the same as living in alignment
How reframing "should" → "could" → "can" changes everything
The trap of trying to heal partners who don't choose their own growth

Ready to stop spiraling and start leading yourself?

Follow Eric: @palosciosophy on TikTok
Grab his Stay Light Journal
Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa
Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen

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Nervous System 101 for Love & Dating Sep 10, 2025

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Why is it you can be so chill and peaceful single but the second you start the talking phase or go on a single date with someone - it triggers the anxious spirals, shutdowns, and self-abandonment that leave you doubting your worth and all of the healing work you've been doing single?!?

From that feeling of desperation as you wait on a text response (and the torture that ensues when more than a few minutes have passed) to over-functioning in relationships where you turn on the charm and performative "mating ritual" of the early stages of modern dating trying to get any kind of approval, validation and a dopamine hit of attention - the nervous system hijacks connection. Add perfectionism, "earning love," and ignoring red flags in the name of empathy or people-pleasing, and that's a sure fire recipe for exhaustion masquerading as intimacy and "courtship".

Enter today's guest expert, Shaina Richardson, a dating and relationship hypnotherapist for powerhouse women. In this episode, we'll unpack how to decode nervous system "activations" as Shaina calls it (aka triggers), how to stop gaslighting yourself, and the path to creating relationships that feel safe and soul-aligned. What all we'll cover:

Why your body freaks out in dating and how to translate its language
Hypnosis as a tool to rewire reactions (yes, beyond funky chicken stereotypes)
The meaning you attach to texts, "I'm busy," and "not my person"... and how to shift it
The trap of micro self-abandonment (aka putting his needs above yours)
Vulnerability as the bridge to masculine, healthy love

Ready to build relationships as powerful as your career?

Work with Shaina:

Coach Tara's Breathwork + Healing Community: www.unblockyourbs.com/saa
Apply to Healthy Men-tality - Coach Tara's Men's Coaching Program: UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen or DM HEAL on Tik Tok or IG to learn more

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In a Roommate Marriage? Let's Deep Dive Why Sep 03, 2025

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A post I shared went viral on "roommate marriages" and it highlighted the same core pains from over 400,000 men: no intimacy, eggshell communication, codependency, betrayal wounds, mental health strain, financial/family entanglements, and deep isolation.

When you're dysregulated, you can't desire. Logic can't land when emotions flood the brain. And people-pleasing feels "kind" or loving until you realize it's just self-abandonment at it's core. Stay here long enough and you'll start calling a war "gender" that the other side is the problem - when it's really nervous system (hers) vs nervous system (yours) fighting for safety in the only (toxic/dysfunctional) ways they know how.

In this episode, I break down the top common themes I noticed in these types of relationships and give you a nervous-system-aware playbook that leads with curiosity over defensiveness, boundaries over control, and language that reveals AND rewires beliefs - thus hopefully… unblocking your bs ;) Here's what we get into:

Why "roommate marriages" happen and how to restore safety and intimacy (that's not just physical)
Stonewalling/defensiveness decoded (and the "fix/advice/listen?" script)
Codependency vs care: the exact line where kindness becomes self-abandonment
Betrayal repair basics: trust yourself first, then rebuild together
When to stay, when to go, and how to do the consequence math
Why men struggle to share and how to get real support that works

Men - if you're ready to overhaul your nervous system so you stop feeling stuck and like a ghost in your own home/marriage/life?

Apply to Healthy Men-tality and let's see if it's the right next step for you on your journey to stop destructive or unhealthy cycles in your relationships: www.UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen or DM me on Tik Tok HEAL

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Why Being "Too Nice" Was Killing His Relationship Aug 27, 2025

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For 20 years, John lived in the "nice guy" role… fawning, avoiding conflict, and losing himself in the process. His marriage looked stable on the outside, but inside he felt empty, resentful, and disconnected.

When the relationship ended, his first instinct was to date again and fill the emotional hole with someone new. But without facing the childhood wounds and nervous system patterns that shaped his behavior, he knew he'd bring the same baggage into another relationship. Through breathwork, inner child work, and the Self Aware Army, John learned that fawning isn't kindness - it's survival mode. Reconnecting with himself, setting boundaries, and building a life he enjoys have made him confident, calm, and clear about what he wants in love.

You'll hear:

The childhood dynamics that led to 20 years of people-pleasing
How breathwork became the catalyst for deep emotional release
Why vulnerability is the foundation of true connection
The freedom that comes from building a life you love… before adding a partner

If you're interested in learning more about Breathwork and healing your nervous system inside of our Self Aware Army healing community - check out www.unblockyourbs.com/saa

If you're ready to stop outsourcing your worth and start leading in life and love, apply to Healthy Men-tality at UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen or DM me HEAL on Instagram or Tik Tok.

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Observing Before Reacting: The Skill That Saves Relationships Aug 20, 2025

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When emotions run high, most people react from their wounds, not their wisdom. The result? Miscommunication, spiraling arguments, and a lot of "fixing" that doesn't actually solve anything.

Whether it's your partner blowing up over a text you didn't answer fast enough or you shutting down the second you feel criticized, these moments aren't about the present, they're about old patterns. And unless you learn to recognize them, you'll keep recycling the same conflicts.

In this solo episode, I break down my coaching approach: how I listen for the beliefs behind your words, why I see emotional reactions as inner child moments, and how curiosity can change the whole conversation.

You'll learn:

Why coaching isn't about fixing you (because you're not broken)
How language reveals the beliefs driving your behavior
The "inner child lens" for understanding emotional reactions
Why curiosity > defensiveness in conflict

Want to work with me 1:1 or as a couple to stop cycling the same conflicts? Check out my coaching packages at UnblockYourBS.com/workwithme or DM me on Instagram/TikTok @unblockyourbs

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Codependency, Narcissists, and the Real Root of Attraction with Jen Peters Aug 14, 2025

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Healing gave her insight. Inner child work gave her peace.

In today's episode, I sit down with Jen Peters, an internationally recognized inner child healer and the founder of a 127,000-person inner child healing community. Together, we unpack what actually creates lasting healing for our students and clients - especially for those who've done all the things but still feel stuck.

Inside this episode we dive into:

How your nervous system holds onto trauma you don't even remember
Why your relationship issues are actually childhood wounds in disguise
What makes somatic and subconscious healing faster and more effective than mindset work alone
Jen shares her own story of adoption, emotional neglect, narcissistic abuse, and rebuilding her life from rock bottom
Why healing doesn't need to take years—and what to do when therapy stops working

Whether you're the codependent, the avoidant, or the overfunctioner in your relationships… this episode will speak to the parts of you that just want to feel safe.

Be sure to download Jen's free digital book , Coming Home, as an exclusive gift for our Unblock Your BS listeners and start your inner child healing journey today. https://jen-peters.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Coming_Home_-_The_Path_to_Healing_Your_Inner_Child_-_Digital_version-2.pdf

Connect with Jen Peters:

Instagram: @jenpeters_soulguide_healer
Website: www.jen-peters.com

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Religious Trauma, Self-Abandonment & Finding Yourself Again Aug 06, 2025

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What if your patterns in love weren't proof that you're broken but invitations to finally come home to yourself?

In this powerful episode, I'm joined by Leona Schrock, a fellow coach, podcast host, and former member of the Amish community who shares her journey of leaving religious shame behind, healing after a toxic marriage, and learning how to reconnect with the version of herself she never got to be in her strict religious upbringing.

We talk about:

Growing up in the Amish culture and navigating the trauma of leaving
How identity loss and people-pleasing shape women from a young age
Why dating after divorce is a mirror for emotional healing
Being both anxious and avoidant in love—and what that looks like in real life
The subtle ways women self-abandon in relationships (even when they think they're helping)
And what it means to reclaim your standards without sacrificing yourself in love

If you were raised to be quiet, "good", self abandoning or repress who you are based on your religious upbringing and now you're trying to figure out how to be authentic, powerful, and free to be you - this episode is going to speak directly to your soul!

🎧 Listen now and let this conversation remind you… You don't have to perform for love. You just have to come back home to yourself.

Listen to my episode on Leona's Podcast Unchained and Untamed here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/becoming-aware-of-the-unaware-with-tara/id1676547980?i=1000673009492&l

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He Thought Breathwork Was BS - Then It Broke Him Wide Open Jul 30, 2025

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What if the way you've been showing up in relationships wasn't your fault but it was your responsibility to change?

In this powerful case study, Shawn, a men-ber of the Healthy Men-tality program, shares how his fear of abandonment and ADHD led to intense relationship dynamics, shame, and people-pleasing.

But through the program, he started healing the root issues… not just the surface symptoms.

Inside this episode, we explore:

What fear of abandonment really looks like in relationships
How ADHD masked as "laziness" and shaped his beliefs about worth
Why breathwork changed everything—even though he thought it was BS
The difference between shame and accountability
How showing up with integrity shifted how he dates now
Why he's no longer future-faking or seeking validation

Whether you've been called "too much" in love, struggle to stay present, or overthink your way out of connection… this episode is a must-listen!

AND MEN - if you're ready to start doing the work to radically transform your relationships (including the one with yourself!) applications for the next round of the Healthy Men-tality program are now available at: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen Click the link to apply and schedule a time to chat and see if this program is the next right step for you!

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She Moved on QUICK and He Was Left to Pick Up the Pieces Jul 24, 2025

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He couldn't eat. He couldn't sleep. His wife had left, moved on, and was still emotionally entangled with him—while dating someone new. And Chris? He was stuck.

In this powerful case study episode, I interview Chris, a former firefighter and Healthy Men-tality Graduate, about his journey through a heartbreaking ending of his 10 year marriage, the subsequent emotional collapse, nervous system dysregulation, and the slow climb toward healing, peace, and purpose.

You'll hear:

Why traditional therapy wasn't enough to help him move forward
How breathwork helped him remember childhood trauma he'd blocked out
What boundaries finally set him free from his ex-wife's emotional grip
The difference between surviving and living again after betrayal
The exact moment Chris said "I feel hope again"

If you've ever felt lost after a breakup or divorce, like your nervous system is hijacking your healing, or like you have no idea how to rebuild your life - this episode will feel very relatable.

MEN! If you're done pretending you're fine and ready to actually feel like yourself again - the Healthy Men-tality program is the container that will change your life and put you back in the driver's seat

Applications for the next round of this program are open NOW - we kick off next month! https://www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen

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