The Way You Show Up

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How To Give And Receive Feedback with Dr. J.R. Briggs Mar 03, 2026

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Today we are tackling something that we all have to deal with, but very few of us actually know how to do well: feedback.
In this episode, I am honored to be joined by leadership coach, speaker, and author Dr. J.R. Briggs. We are diving deep into the art of giving and receiving feedback, figuring out which of the two is actually more important (spoiler alert: it’s receiving!), and uncovering why feedback often feels so personal and scary.
J.R. shares an incredible story about trapeze school that perfectly illustrates why we need outside perspectives, and we talk about the practical things you can start doing today to completely change how you handle criticism and praise. We discuss how creating healthy feedback loops is the ultimate key to emotional intelligence and growth.
I walked away from this conversation with three specific things I am immediately applying to my day-to-day life, and I know you will too.
Take the free PIES assessment to see your inputs, outputs, and where your biggest area for growth is: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment
In this episode, we cover:
Why receiving feedback is a more vital skill than giving it
The trapeze analogy: why we desperately need outside perspectives
Practical steps for receiving tough feedback without getting defensive (and the only two words you really need to say)
Why you must ask for permission before giving someone else feedback
How to calm your "reptilian brain" when you feel angry or triggered
The danger of overdrawing your "trust bank account" in relationships
Two powerful, vulnerable questions you can ask your trusted circle right now to uncover your blind spots
This is The Way You Show Up — a podcast and YouTube series all about the science of attraction and influence, and how focusing on these four pillars changes the way you show up at work, at home, in your marriage, in your parenting, and beyond.
New episodes every week. Subscribe so you don't miss one!
📖 J.R.'s Latest Book: https://bit.ly/4l2cJjI

Dr. J.R. Briggs lives with a clear and focused calling: to grow fruit on other people’s trees.

His work seeks to bridge the gap between spiritual formation and actionable leadership practices, aiming to help faith leaders and their organizations grow both in their faith and their impact on their communities.

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."
We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.
If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.
New episodes every Thursday.
Don't just exist. Show up.
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The 4 Part Method That Changes The Way You Show Up Feb 24, 2026

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I'm back, y'all and SO much has happened since the last time we talked. In this episode, I'm sharing the updated science of attraction and influence and breaking down the PIES method: the four pillars that change the way you show up in every area of your life.
PIES stands for Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual, and each pillar has four specific inputs that you can control. These aren't about looking a certain way or performing for other people. They're about building the kind of embodied confidence that people notice when you walk into a room.
In this episode, I'm diving into all 16 inputs across the four pillars, busting some myths from the self-help world that keep people stuck, and sharing the personal experiences (including finishing my PhD!) that sparked a renewed vision for this work.
Oh, and I'm officially Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes now. 🎓
🔗 Take the free PIES assessment to see your inputs, outputs, and where your biggest area for growth is: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment
In this episode, I cover:
The PIES method explained
The 4 inputs for Physical attraction & influence
The 4 inputs for Intellectual attraction & influence
The 4 inputs for Emotional attraction & influence
The 4 inputs for Spiritual attraction & influence
How to see where you're at risk for burnout
The free PIES assessment
This is the first episode of The Way You Show Up — a podcast and YouTube series all about the science of attraction and influence, and how focusing on these four pillars changes the way you show up at work, at home, in your marriage, in your parenting, and beyond.
New episodes every week. Subscribe so you don't miss one!

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What I've Been Working On... Feb 17, 2026

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A year ago, I stopped.
I stopped doing one of the things I loved the most.
I stopped because I was overwhelmed.
I stopped because I was chronically burnt out.
I stopped because I started doubting my purpose.
It felt like a wise and mature decision at the time.
Maybe it was
But what I slowly began to realize was that I stopped doing the thing that, when it came to my work, was one of the most life-giving.
Now, it's back.
But better.
For ten years, I’ve loved talking about the PIES because it changed my life.
I was depressed. Stuck. Anxious. Overworked.
My marriage was in shambles.
I had no friends.
I felt lost.
The PIES method allowed me to focus on becoming my best physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually and focusing on what I could control.
Me.
And it changed my focus. It changed my energy. It changed me.
And over the past year, as I've finished my PhD (freaking finally!) I've realized that the PIES is even more powerful than I originally thought.
We're going to be talking about confidence, clarity, influence, and how what you do impacts the way you show up to those around you...
...and we're going to be doing it together with a new podcast, new title, and new content.
Same PIES.
Revamped.
Reimagined.
Redefined.
Can't wait to go along this journey with you.
Stay strong,
Dr. Kimberly

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The Truth About Trauma Feb 18, 2025

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Meredith Ball, a licensed professional counselor dedicated to healing trauma, joins us to unravel the intricate web of trauma's impact on our lives. In this episode, Meredith opens up about her own journey and sheds light on how trauma affects the brain, the underestimated power of neuroplasticity, and the generational gaps in acknowledging these wounds.

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Unlocking Learning Strategies and Decision-Making Feb 11, 2025

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Want to unlock your potential? Discover how to study smarter and retain more information with expert insights from Dr. Dan Willingham! Tune in now and transform your learning experience!

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Understanding The Difference Between Male And Female Emotions Feb 03, 2025

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Is there actually a difference in the way men and women process emotions? Find out on today’s episode!

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10 Things You Can Do To Feel More Attractive Jan 27, 2025

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Feeling unattractive? You're not alone! Discover 10 uplifting strategies to reclaim your self-worth and feel fabulous again! Tune in to our latest episode and transform your outlook! What's your go-to feel-good strategy?

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The 5 Step Method To Improving Your Communication Jan 21, 2025

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Discover the 5 step method we use to improve communication. Not only does this help with communication between us as spouses, but it can also be used in conversations with friends, family, coworkers, and everyone in between!
Let’s dive in to this week’s episode!
Links to SMART Communication Episode:
Episode 1
Episode 2

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The Truth Behind Why You’re Not Reaching Your Goals Jan 14, 2025

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Understanding how to set meaningful goals can transform your self-esteem and overall happiness. This episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, exploring self-concordant goals that resonate with individual desires over societal expectations.
• Discussing personal motivations behind goals
• Highlighting the concept of self-concordance
• Distinguishing between intrinsic and extrinsic motivations
• Introducing the PIES framework for holistic goal-setting
• Importance of setting achievable and stretch goals
• Exploring the need for self-compassion in goal pursuit
• Opening the door for future personal growth and achievement
Let’s dive in!

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The All or Nothing Mindset is Ruining Your Diet - How To Actually Achieve Your Diet Goals Jan 07, 2025

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In this episode, we're diving deep into the truth about weight loss and fat loss, and sharing some of the most important lessons we've learned on our journey. We're going to be talking about our experiences with different diets, including whole 30, and how we've discovered the key to making sustainable changes that actually work.
We'll also be sharing our personal journey and the changes that we've made to improve our overall health and fitness. Plus, we'll give some tips on how to stay consistent with your goals and not get discouraged when the scale doesn't show the results you expect.

If you're looking to finally lose weight and keep it off, this video is for you! Be sure to like this video, subscribe for more content, and let us know in the comments what your goals are for the new year. Let's do this together!

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