The Way You Show Up

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You Can Have A Great Sex Life Apr 25, 2022

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Couples don't have great conversations about sex. We all know we want to do it but very few of us know how to talk about it.
Adam and Karissa from the Young Married Couples podcast lets us know how to begin talking about it and some pitfalls we might see along the way.
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I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."
We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.
If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.
New episodes every Thursday.
Don't just exist. Show up.
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The Keys To Better Communication In Your Marriage Apr 18, 2022

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This week Kimberly chats with Laura Heck from Marriage Therapy Radio. Laura is a Gottman Certified therapist in Washington State.
Of course, they talk about communication but also self-care, the top issues Laura sees as a marriage and family therapist, how to work on yourself, conflict...all the things!
Laura sees a lot of couples living as "roommates" and having a lack of intimacy, and how to add more to your marriage. Intimacy fades with time because it's the assumption that you know your spouse already.
They also talk about the Gottman 5-1 ratio. For every 1 negative thing, there should be 5 positive things to counteract them. Having emotional intelligence and understanding when your spouse took what you may have said or done negatively, and correcting it, is vital to a healthy marriage.
Everyone has blind spots and Laura suggests asking the people closest to you that aren't your spouse to help you find them. And because you want to be your best self, be ready for the hard truths and tell them "thank you." when you're done.
PIES Takeaways

Be an interesting person/work on your PIES - https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/3468169
There is always hope, even in difficult situations
Watch your body language and tone with your spouse - https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/4938500

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Discussing Spiritual Attraction With My Husband Rob Holmes Apr 11, 2022

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This week I sat down with my husband Rob to talk about spiritual attraction.
We get into how we met, what attracted us to each other, and how to have discourse with friends and family that may not agree with you 100%. We believe people who model what they say and it's up to us to make sure that we're living in line with our beliefs and values.
Don't weaponize your beliefs and values
Don't judge others
Lean into your curiosity
Assess your own values
Find people to hold you accountable

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How Becoming Spiritually Attractive Can Change Your Heart Apr 04, 2022

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In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, I'm just going to share some things from my life with you. What spiritual attraction means to me, how it has helped me, and continues to shape me into the person I'm becoming.
Spiritual attraction, at its core, is all about living in line with the beliefs and value system that you have. We find it attractive when there are people who have strong beliefs and values and stand up for them.
Spiritual attraction is important. I would say it's more important than physical attraction for a long-term relationship. And it's right up there with emotional attraction because it is the core of who we are — our spiritual attraction, beliefs, and values form our character, integrity, and purpose.
Until next week, stay strong.

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3 Ways to Grow Spiritually in Your Relationship Mar 29, 2022

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What does it mean to be on the same page spiritually as a couple? How can you work towards becoming and staying spiritually attracted to each other as you move through your marriage?

For couples who share a christian faith, how can you work together to stay spiritually connected to each other and God?

Even if you’re not a Christian, this episode is still valuable and has important truth that you can apply to your own life to see amazing change.

Join Kimberly and Dr. Kimberling as they discuss spiritual attraction and specific ways you can use it to strengthen your marriage to make it the best it can be.

Today’s Speaker: Dr. Kim Kimberling

Dr. Kim Kimberling is a Christian counselor that’s been working with couples for over 35 years. He holds a Ph.D. and a Doctor of Ministry in Christian Counseling. Dr. Kim is President and co-founder of Awesome Marriage. Awesome Marriage helps thousands of couples build an awesome marriage.

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Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships

Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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What you’ll learn:

What a spiritually healthy marriage looks like
How prayer can impact your marriage
Ways to spiritually strengthen your relationship
How to focus on your spiritual attraction in a chaotic world

Episode 95 - 3 Ways to Grow Spiritually in Your Relationship with Dr. Kim Kimberling

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We Need to Grieve the Last 2 Years Mar 22, 2022

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Grief is defined as the conflicting feelings caused by the change or end of a pattern of behavior.
The past 2 years have left a lot of us in a state of languishing. We're stuck in a middle place between grief and normalcy.
The pandemic in many ways remains a grief situation and we need to treat it as such. There are so many areas of grief that sometimes we don't label it grief. And we need to be aware of the myth of closure and ambiguous loss in times of change.
Join Kimberly and David Mathews as they talk about how to work out the grief we all share and climb out of the pits most of us have been in.

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How To Coparent With Someone That Is Making You Crazy Mar 15, 2022

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Although we wish every marriage could be saved, we know that it's not the reality for some people. Divorce is hard and no one should go through it alone.
Today's episode is with Julie Beckerman, a High Conflict Relationship Coach. She chats about how hard divorce can be difficult, especially with children involved. Julie provides insight on how we can communicate better with our spouse when conflict is high and emotions are strong when going through a divorce.
Please share this episode with anyone struggling with communication with their ex-spouse or, anyone that has kids going through a difficult divorce.
Today's Speaker: Julie Beckerman, High Conflict Relationship Coach
Divorce isn’t easy, and mine was certainly no exception. In 2014, after 10 years of marriage, with the decision to get divorced, I began the most difficult, scary, confusing, angering, and liberating journeys of my life:

I navigated the waters of co-parenting, being a stay-at-home-mom, changing friendships, lawyers and courtrooms, living in the same house with my ex, relationships with ex-in-laws, dating, my ex getting remarried, going back to work, moving to a new home, new school for my daughter, new job, starting a new career, a new life…

With the help of a solid support system, I began to see this as not just a challenge to get through, which it certainly was, but also an opportunity that had only just begun.

I’m a Certified Professional Coach from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching, as well as a certified career counselor from New York University.
I have experience and training in Dialectic Behavior Therapy, Effective Communication, and Mindfulness techniques with a background working in business and Human Resources.
I have experience navigating the transitions of divorce and dealing with the loss of a loved one, addiction, and health & fitness.

Julie's Website: https://aspiretogrowth.com/
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You’ll Learn

how to have a great co-parenting relationship
how to evoke emotions within your kids and your ex
to lean into curiosity with your kids
that you need to speak positively about your ex-spouse when speaking to your kids

Episode 93 - How To Coparent With Someone That Is Making You Crazy, with Julie Beckerman

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Learn How to Cultivate A Mindfulness Practice in Your Life Mar 07, 2022

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Mindfulness is the ability to be fully present and aware of where you are and what you are doing. It's so easy to get distracted and overwhelmed with the chaos around us but practicing mindfulness may just be the hidden gem to happiness!

In this podcast, you will learn the research behind mindfulness and gain an understanding of how mindfulness can benefit you in four key areas- Mind, Brain, Body, and Behaviors.

Listen to today's episode to learn ways to apply mindfulness to your everyday life, start dealing with your emotions, be present, and disconnect from distractions.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships

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You’ll Learn

What mindfulness is
A quick mindfulness practice
5 Ways to integrate mindfulness into your everyday life
How mindfulness affects your mind, body, brain, and behaviors
How mindfulness helps with PIES

Episode 92 - Learn How to Cultivate A Mindfulness Practice in Your Life with Kimberly Beam Holmes

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How To Rewire Your Brain Using Gratitude Mar 01, 2022

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What does it mean to live a life of gratitude?
Gratitude is a state of being. It isn't more money, fame, or success. It's not a perfect body, the best Instagram pictures, or the most followers on any social platform. It's none of the things that we go crazy trying to achieve on a day-to-day basis.
What really can make us happier in our lives, is how grateful we are for what we have. To bring it a little closer to home, it's how grateful you are in your life with the things that you have that can ultimately make you happier. Gratitude is one of the best things that people can begin to focus on in order to become unshackled from toxic emotions.
In today's episode, we are going to talk about how to be grateful and express gratitude.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships

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You'll Learn

How being grateful can make you more attractive
Activities to help you create an attitude of gratitude
How to be joy-filled NOW, not later.

Episode 91 - How To Rewire Your Brain Using Gratitude, with Kimberly Beam Holmes

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Feeling Whole, Valued, and Having Self-Worth with Veronica Grant Feb 22, 2022

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Relationships are so important—especially the relationship we have with ourselves.
In this episode, Kimberly speaks with Veronica Grant, a Love and Life Coach specializing in helping people do deep work to create deep love in relationships. Veronica shares her story of struggling with self-image and feeling like her worth was within other people rather than herself. We can all relate to this episode, especially in the current social-media-obsessed culture we live in. Veronica shares tips on showing up in relationships and ensuring you don't go backward with finding validation within your partner, spouse, or friends.
If you lack confidence or struggle with self-worth, you are going to love this episode. Veronica dives in deeper to help you understand where certain feelings or thoughts are coming from and things you can do to uncover the emotions.
Today's Speaker: Veronica Grant, Love and Life Coach

Veronica is a Love + Life Coach, host of the popular Love Life Connection podcast, and author of the forthcoming book You Are Meant for Love. She helps successful women who feel like they have it all except love, find it.

Veronica's work has been featured in O the Oprah Magazine, Bustle, Your Tango, and countless podcasts, including Let It Out and Mind Body Musings.

As someone who struggled in love herself and was tired of unsolicited and usually patronizing dating advice (even if well-meaning), she created the resources she wished were available before she met her husband. Through her binge-worthy podcast, free challenges, and coaching, she's here to shake up how you find love, even in our swipe right, swipe left world.

A few of her guilty pleasures include: psychoanalyzing TV + real-life famous couples, hiking with her husband and pup, and sushi everything.
Find the book and assessment here: https://veronicagrant.com/

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