Stay ConnectedTIRED OF THE LIES AND THE SPIN perpetuated in the culture about men and women, sex and love, marriage and motherhood? If so, get ready to hear hard-hitting truths that will make you cry out “Yes! Finally someone tells it like it is!”
In her signature no-nonsense style, author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker offers support, motivation, and countercultural guidance on how to prioritize love and family and build strong relationships at home.
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Suzanne talks about her upbringing, her first marriage, and why she's so passionate about helping people have the support and information they need—even when it's politically incorrect—to help them build successful relationships and lives.
I first interviewed Adam B. Coleman, founder of Wrong Speak Publishing, on Episode 92 of The Suzanne Venker Show about our culture of victimhood. Adam is back with me today to discuss his astute article, "Why the Modern Woman Is an Unhappy Woman."
IN THIS EPISODE:
2:50 Are women happy?
4:30 The dating market can be cruel to women and the selection becomes slimmer as you get older
7:15 The modern women is less fulfilled than the generations of women before them
10:10 Women’s expectations are extraordinary high
14:10 Pop culture has influenced women to the point where it has completely affected their lives
18:00 Most women would rather stay home and take care of their kids than work full time
18:40 Women handle work stress differently than men. Men are emboldened in the role of provider, whereas women are not
23:40 Women in their twenties are conflicted with what they naturally desire and the modern social demand for independence from men
29:45 Many women do not understand that their ability to get sexual attention does not translate into a serious relationship. Showing off your body and being overtly sexual gives men the signal that you are a “high risk for failure” in a long term relationship
36:10 How can women change their trajectory when it comes to love and relationships?
39:00 Parents have to take charge of teaching their kids what they need to know about relationships
40:00 Treat your relationships as seriously as you would the pursuit of a college degree, and don't stay in a relationship for a long time if it is going nowhere
44:10 Can online dating work?
48:00 Women need to embrace being feminine again
Abby Roth is the creator of the YouTube channel Classically Abby, where she talks about lifestyle, culture, and commentary from a conservative and classic perspective. She has over 95k subscribers on YouTube, 60k followers on Twitter, and 34k followers on Instagram.
Abby, who also happens to be conservative commentator Ben Shapiro's sister, began her career as a trained opera singer with three degrees in operatic performance from the University of Southern California and the Manhattan School of Music. She's the first #ConservativeInfluencer and on her series, Let’s Be Classic, she has interviewed Candace Owens, Liz Wheeler, and Lila B. Rose to name just a few. Abby is here with me today to talk about feminism, beauty standards, dating in the modern world, and marriage.
Stefan Molyneux is the founder and host of Freedomain, the largest and most popular philosophy show in the world. With more than 4,500 podcasts, 10 books and 600 million downloads, Stefan has spread the cause of liberty and philosophy to millions of listeners around the world.
Prior to launching Freedomain, Stefan built a thriving career as a software entrepreneur and executive. In 2007, he left his work in the tech industry to devote his efforts to spreading philosophy.
Now a full-time parent and philosopher, Stefan has given speeches at liberty-themed events all over the world. His speeches cover subjects ranging from politics, philosophy, economics, relationships, parenting and how to achieve real freedom in your life!
Stefan is here to talk w me today about his work and about his having been de-platformed by You Tube and Twitter and what he’s doing now.
IN THIS EPISODE:
1:45 How Stefan got de-platformed from Twitter/Youtube, etc.
10:35 All power is based on a series of lies
16:20 Almost no philosophers talk about parenting
17:30 Kids do not choose their parents, so you should treat them and raise them with the highest moral standards
19:20 Objective reality exists. Knowing what's real is foundational to mental health
24:40 Suzanne and Stefan discuss virtue, “the state,” race, men and women, and the family
25:00 Virtue is universally preferable behavior. Morality must be universal.
29:50 The purpose of communism is allow people to be violent, not to gain “equality”
33:15 Marxist theory used “class” as a means to divide people. Today we use race
35:55 Women and men have faced different evolutionary pressures; this does mean one is superior” to the other
37:40 A lot of people are facing an existential crisis related to love and family
39:00 What's the point of wealth, virtue, etc. if you can’t pass it along to your kids
40:00 People are most comfortable doing whatever people around them are doing
41:10 Feminism is driven by “fear currency”
41:30 During Covid, a lot of women left the workforce and realized they enjoyed being home w/ their families
44:45 Dating and sex is about fertility and children
45:00 High-quality men want to date younger women with less baggage
50:25 Parents pass their mindset on to their kids. You have a lot of agency over your kids and what they are taught
52:20 Your children have a front row seat to your marriage
56:50 Free will: When you have an “ideal standard,” you know what to aim for
1:00:00 If you enjoy your life, you should want to pass that joy on to another generation
1:05:40 How much money would you give up in order to obtain meaning and community?
Suzanne talks with former client Madeline about the strategies she learned in coaching with Suzanne that turned her relationship around.
IN THIS EPISODE:
4:00 The differences between living in the Midwest and living on the West Coast
7:20 Madeline tells her story about how she came to find Suzanne after being called “too alpha”
13:30 Men like “easy.” Madeline talks about how she learned to not have her way all the time and how it created peace in her relationship
17:00 The power of mantras
20:35 Timing is everything when it comes to talking to your man. Talk less, get more!
22:50 Why silence works so well
24:40 How to turn a “nag” into a statement of desire and WHY it works
32:45 If you move with the biological tide, you will have fewer problems in your relationship
36:25 If you want to get married and that is your goal, there is a way to get there
37:10 Being promiscuous doesn't prove you're empowered
46:50 Look inward, not outward, to solve problems
DSO is the pen name for Ralph, the founder of dadstartingover.com, host of the Dad Starting Over Podcast, and author of three books including his popular title, “The Dead Bedroom Fix”. The Dad Starting Over website is a resource for men that are “starting over” in life after divorce, after enduring a wife’s affair… or for those men who are still married and want to hit the reset button on their relationship, find their place in life, and finally do things the “right” way.
In 2020, Ralph started the DSO Fraternity, which is the members-only portion of dadstartingover.com. Members get access to Fraternity articles, podcasts, all of the DSO books, members-only discussion forums and live member meetings that take place three to four times per week. All of the member meetings are archived and available to listen via your podcast app. DSO Fraternity members also get big discounts on one-on-one coaching with any of the five DSO coaches.
Listeners of the Suzanne Venker show can go to dadstartingover.com/venker and you will get your first month of DSO Fraternity membership for $1. Try it out to see if it is right for you. Cancel at any time. Sorry ladies, the group is for men only.
Ralph has three children from his first marriage and a new one on the way soon with his second wife, Nathalie.
IN THIS EPISODE:
7:00 Men needs are simpler than women's
9:00 Women are great at validation at the beginning of their relationships
10:00 Many woman stop having sex with their husbands, especially once children come along
11:15 Women also complain of lack of sex. Men's porn habits and loss of testosterone contribute to this
12:00 Women need to continue to work on their appearance, be more agreeable, and nag less
17:00 Men need a helping hand when it comes to figuring out how to get their relationships back on track
17:35 DSO tells his story of his first marriage and his ex-wife's extra-marital affair
22:00 Suzanne reads from DSO’s book: "The Dead Bedroom Fix": Why your wife isn’t attracted to you
23:00 Why is the fault of the “dead bedroom” on the man?
24:25 Someone has to the lead in the romance department
28:50 What DOESN'T work when it comes to fixing a dead bedroom
30:00 Men and women both need to revert to what they did when they were dating
33:00 Why being “ nice” doesn’t get a man sex
34:40 Men have to both be a lover and provider
35:00 Many marriages have been flat-out ruined by kids
35:45 What makes a man HOT to a woman?
37:50 Don’t shame a woman for not “feeling it” in the moment
39:40 What men can do to fix a dead bedroom
I'm joined today by "Mrs. Midwest," the pen name for Caitlin, who runs a blog called Mrs. Midwest and who joined YouTube in 2019 with the goal of creating a haven for traditionally feminine women trying to find their place in this modern world.
As a traditional wife and homemaker, it is Caitlin's aim to help women blossom into their natural femininity through discussions on style, mindset, and relationships.
She explores topics relating to elegance, femininity, traditional relationships, and homemaking, with a little bit of my "real" life thrown in.
IN THIS EPISODE:
4:30 The biggest difference between Millennials and Gen Z
9:30 Modern feminism has become an exclusive “girls club” reserved for the “bad ass” woman who slays through life smashing the patriarchy, which is not relatable to the average woman
11:25 Feminism has damaged a lot of lives
13:40 Women change greatly between 18 and 28. Make sure you pivot your life if you change what you want. Have a long term plan
19:30 Many parents are encouraging their children to achieve and compete instead of focusing on love and family life
20:45 Many Christian parents expect their children to date without having sex but simultaneously want them to wait until their late 20s to get married
24:00 Marriage doesn’t derail your career plans…children do
25:40 We have glamorous idea of what a career is that isn't true
28:00 Most married mothers with children prefer to work part-time or not at all
30:00 How can you stay home on one income?
31:00 We're exposed to so much luxury it’s hard to imagine living frugally
38:00 There are many options for couples who want a more traditional lifestyle
42:00 As a woman, you need to look at your long-term path
43:00 In a marriage, whoever's home more does more
52:20 5 ways to be more feminine
Julie Mastrine is a marketing and PR professional who’s passionate about being a responsible member of the media who elevates critical thinking and civil discourse.
She is the Director of Marketing at AllSides, a site that provides balanced news and media bias ratings.
Julie is also a frequent writer and editor who writes for Evie Magazine on topics such as politics, culture and relationships. Her work has also appeared in USA Today, The Federalist, and other publications.
I invited Julie on the show today to discuss a very astute article she wrote for Evie magazine entitled “Sexual Liberation May Be Making Men Less Masculine."
IN THIS EPISODE:
6:00 The big lie of sexual liberation
9:00 Relationships need to be “defined” now because boundaries have been eroded
10:00 When women place constraints around sex, it causes men to be more masculine. Casual sex has eradicated the incentives for men to become more masculine
10:30 Fatherlessness also plays a role in the emasculation of men
11:00 Sex used to be a high risk endeavor pre-birth control pill
11:45 Women used to be more choosy when it came to having sex with men
13:00 Men aren't hardwired to commit to women they can sleep with easily
15:00 If women collectively changed their ways, men would rise to the occasion
18:00 Julie discusses her feminist background, her dating history, and what she learned living in big cities
25:50 Geography plays a big role in people’s outlook on relationships, marriage/family
28:00 Julie talks about her work with All Sides, which focuses on media bias ratings
30:00 Why the messages regarding love and courtship in romantic movies are wrong
35:00 Two people need to be aligned on the big things
38:00 Mature, masculine men are willing to sacrifice
43:40 Most people have jobs, not careers
45:30 The simple things in life are the most meaningful
Suzanne talks with Nancy Paradis, wife of Andre Paradis (a relationship coach who's been on this program multiple times) to discuss how the messages sent to young women today are untenable, unrealistic, and at odds with what most women want.
IN THIS EPISODE:
4:15 Nancy describes her history, her career in ballet and her move to LA
8:00 Nancy tells the story of how she and Andre met at a dance class
12:00 Nancy and Suzanne discuss the change that occurs when you have a family
14:20 Are you a “woman with a career” or a “career woman”?
19:00 Nancy talks about her job as a teacher/professor
23:00 The priority shift that occurs in women between the ages of 20 and 30
25:00 Nancy talks about being ridiculed in LA for being supportive of her husband, taking a step back in her career by other women
31:00 What's happening with Gen Z when it comes to understanding sex differences, what they’re being taught by the culture and in school
35:40 How knowing the information is not enough; you need to practice and have the tools
IN THIS EPISODE:
4:20 Suzanne addresses a question about the role social media plays in relationships, with young people and the expectations social media creates
7:15 When the people you surround yourself with are pro-marriage, your takeaway about marriage and relationships will be more positive
9:25 The only solution is to make our own “little world” work and then pass along the correct messaging to our children
12:30 The only way to combat the messages on social media is parenting
14:25 Can men and women be “just friends”?
16:15 It is extremely difficult for a man to be friend with a woman with whom he is not having sex
18:34 Suzanne answers a question about women getting “bored” in marriage?
19:50 Men are more simple in their needs and desires
20:30 Women need to deal with their own boredom and address it
23:10 Suzanne addresses and email from a listener about women leading the charge in divorce, the role the culture plays in this, and why many young women are branding their husbands as “mean” and “controlling”
25:00 Oftentimes, a man's behavior is a reaction to his wife actions and behavior
26:10 It’s easy to mislabel the behavior of men
27:25 Women are typically more emotionally abusive than men are
28:25 A listener describes a date he went on where he introduced Suzanne’s content, and she reacted negatively
30:20 Can you make your husband “grow up”?
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