Stay ConnectedTIRED OF THE LIES AND THE SPIN perpetuated in the culture about men and women, sex and love, marriage and motherhood? If so, get ready to hear hard-hitting truths that will make you cry out “Yes! Finally someone tells it like it is!”
In her signature no-nonsense style, author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker offers support, motivation, and countercultural guidance on how to prioritize love and family and build strong relationships at home.
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I want to move out of my parents' home, but my boyfriend wants me to stay. What should I do?
My in-laws are extremely “liberal minded,” and my mother-in-law constantly derides me for being a SAHM. What do I say in response?
Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to wait to get married to my boyfriend of three years while he's pursuing his med school degree?
Help! My boyfriend isn’t “masculine” enough!
𝗕𝘂𝘆 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗢𝗪: https://amzn.to/38naFOL
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𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/
𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁! 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄: https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow
Suzanne answers an email from a husband whose wife is extremely strong-willed.
IN THIS EPISODE:
5:00 Suzanne talks about her own mother and the concept behind The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men and Marriage
6:50 Women who are strong-willed tend to be uncomfortable when they're not in control
8:40 What should men do to deal with a woman like this?
11:45 Men don't like to fight with their wives
12:15 Women have the power to bring out their best in their man
14:12 It’s about a willingness to look inward instead of waiting around for other people to change
𝗕𝘂𝘆 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗢𝗪: https://amzn.to/38naFOL Want to be as successful in love as you are at life? Go to http://www.suzannevenker.com and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝟯 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗲𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 to begin your journey! 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/ 𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁! 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄: https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow
Are you struggling to raise emotionally healthy, resilient adolescents in this fast-paced, ever-changing world? America has an epidemic of mental health disorders in adolescents that has made parenting even more challenging, but parents can still have an enormous impact on the health and well-being of their children. In her new book, Chicken Little: The Sky Isn't Falling, Erica Komisar offers parents the tools they need to navigate this tumultuous time of change and create a continuous deep connection with their children. Erica is a psychoanalyst and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. She's also the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. 7:00 Teenagers still need their parents' guidance, even though teens tend to push their parents away 8:40 Covid exacerbated mental health issues and distress in younger people 11:30 There's a tremendous amount of sacrifice involved if you're going to raise and care for children well 13:40 We have placed more emphasis on money and career success than on caring for children 16:30 The best way to help quell the mental health crisis in children and adolescents is to prevent it from developing 19:00 Our society is achievement focused, rather than focused on emotional health, etc. 19:30 We “check out” of our children’s lives and simultaneously expect them to achieve more 20:00 Poverty can cause depression and so can affluence—in the same way. 22:00 Erica talks about her new book, Chicken Little. 23:00 At its root, anxiety is fear 24:00 The push for early independence is backfiring 24:30 The internet and social media has had a corrosive impact on the mental health of adolescence 27:30 Video games and tech additions are symptoms of anxiety and depression 31:40 Parents must be present during adolescence 34:00 You cannot protect your adolescent from pain and frustration, but it is a parents job to help them process it 35:00 Too many choices cause problems 38:35 We help shape our children’s identity over time. Parenting is also about helping your children take things OFF their plate. 41:00 Women/Girls get the message about having to “be something” more than boys/men 42:00 - PARENTS MATTER! 𝗕𝘂𝘆 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗢𝗪: https://amzn.to/38naFOL Want to be as successful in love as you are at life? Go to http://www.suzannevenker.com and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝟯 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗲𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 to begin your journey! 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/ 𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁! 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄: https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow
Suzanne responds to an article in the feminist publication, Jezebel, entitled “Here Are Some Good Reasons to Divorce Your Husband This Fall.”
IN THIS EPISODE:
3:50 Women and men in modern marriages are shooting blanks because they have no good examples of a good marriage
4:30 Suzanne talks about an article in Jezebel entitled “Here Are Some Good Reasons to Divorce Your Husband This Fall.”
5:50 Women are unhappier than ever
6:25 Women today do carry a burden: breadwinning in addition to mothering
7:40 Men will accommodate women to make them happy
8:20 Women have too high of expectations of men and marriage
8:50 Women need to learn how to learn how to align their expectations with reality and learn “manspeak”
10:00 Some “jobs/careers” work better with motherhood than others
11:00 What is “Manspeak”?
11:40 Your happiness is what motivates your man to action
12:00 The energy most modern women are carrying (trying to do it all) does not inspire a man to action
Want to be as successful in love as you are at life? Go to http://www.suzannevenker.com and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝟯 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗲𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 to begin your journey! 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/ 𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁! 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄: https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow
Suzanne talks about parents who pressure their daughters to become high achievers and/or make a lot of money when that is not what they want to do.
IN THIS EPISODE:
3:10 Suzanne reads a message from Dani, a young, twenty-something woman whose parents are pressuring her to get a master's degree and incur student debt, even though she just wants a “normal” life, to get married and have kids. She does not have the support of her family or friends.
4:40 What do most women end up doing in their lives?
5:00 More women graduate from law school than men, but most women end up dropping out way before obtaining partner status which is untrue for men
5:30 In order to get women to the top (which is what feminists want), you have to be able to sacrifice your home life and family
7:00 Parents, stop holding up big careers and money to your kids as something they have to aspire to! 9:30 Women are suffering trying to fit into the box the culture wants them to be in
10:40 What are we here for if not to create bonds and build families?
𝗕𝘂𝘆 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗢𝗪: https://amzn.to/38naFOL Want to be as successful in love as you are at life? Go to http://www.suzannevenker.com and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝟯 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗲𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 to begin your journey! 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/ 𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁! 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄: https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow
Suzanne discusses singer/songwriter Kacey Musgraves's new song, 'Breadwinner,' which blames men for what happens when wives earn more.
IN THIS EPISODE:
3:50 Suzanne introduces the new song by Kacey Musgraves's 'Breadwinner'
7:25 Many women and men don't understand how the female breadwinner issue will affect their marriages
8:50 60% of Suzanne’s coaching clients are in a situation where the women earn more
10:05 Men AND women don't like when women earn more
11:30 The cultural narrative blames gender "stereotypes” and gender "expectations”
13:15 A man’s ability to earn is inextricably tied to his identity.
13:50 Women do not work out of a desire to provide for their husbands
14:50 When a woman has an all-consuming career, much like Musgraves', her relationships (and children if she has them) take a back seat
19:40 As long as the woman is earning, the man’s motivation will fall away
20:10 Men don’t get threatened by a woman earning more; it simply deflates them. Men and women are motivated by different things
21:40 The male breadwinner norm won’t change because women want men who earn the same as they do or more
22:00 This song resonates for women today because so many women are out-earning their partners
Suzanne talks with author Carrie Gress about her recent article, "Why Don't We Tell Women What's Making Them Miserable?"
IN THIS EPISODE:
5:30 Feminism has had a long march through our culture, but happiness metrics prove that in spite of this, women are struggling with their happiness
8:30 Feminism is motivated by Marxism
10:40 People are afraid to stand up against women’s so-called empowerment
14:40 Women have been sold a poisonous lifestyle (Ex: Children keep us from being happy)
17:00 Carrie talks about her book The Anti-Mary Exposed: Rescuing the Culture from Toxic Femininity
21:00 Men are not made to fight with women, which is why there's not much pushback
24:40 What should we be telling women if they want happy lives?
30:00 There IS a remedy to feminism
31:30 How Carrie combats the cultural narratives with her own children
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Suzanne talks to women in their twenties about how to do life differently in one's twenties than the way the culture teaches.
IN THIS EPISODE:
1:50 Young people need a new roadmap for dating
3:40 It’s parents' job to teach their kids how to “get it right”
6:00 The 20’s are the defining decade for young people
7:50 You don’t need to “find yourself.’ You need to “get over yourself”
9:30 Who we marry and how that marriage fares has more impact on our happiness and wellbeing than anything else we do
10:40 The best guidance parents can give revolves around relationships
11:30 The unexamined life is what other people designed for you
13:30 Things you need to consider when mapping out your life
17:00 What happens when you delay marriage
18:40 How student debt factors in
20:35 Women have a different set of circumstances than men do when it comes to sex, fertility and sexual marketability
Grab a copy of How to Get Hitched (and Stay Hitched) here: https://amzn.to/3jLpktI
Suzanne discusses the fallout of the four lies our culture tells women, which represent Part One of Suzanne's new book, How to Get Hitched (and Stay Hitched): A 12-Step Program for Marriage-Minded Women.
1:40 The Four Lies:
- Marriage + Motherhood = Jail
- Women should never depend on a man
- Sex is just sex
- Career success will and should define them
1:50 The women who fell for these lies are now dealing with the fallout (They either can’t find a marriageable man or they do find one and are unable to have children the natural way or stay home with their children)
2:30 Feminists want women in the workforce so they can push their political agenda of government sponsored day care and paid leave. This is not what most women want!
3:10 The birth rate is the lowest it has been in a century
4:30 There's so much more than money when it comes to mapping out a life that works
5:30 Follow the man’s career path because he is going to end up feeding the family, if only temporarily
6:00 Stop moving through the world like your body and life will be the same as a man’s
7:10 Put marriage and motherhood at the center of your life and build everything else around that
7:50 Marriage doesn’t change things as much as having a baby does
8:30 Women do not become more “eligible” with age
9:00 Plan ahead, and be flexible!
We will be releasing this week's podcast episode, "The 4 Lies The Culture Tells" on Tuesday, August 31st! Tuesday is also RELEASE DAY for my new book How To Get Hitched (and Stay Hitched)! Visit www.howtogethitched.net for all of the details!
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