Stay ConnectedTIRED OF THE LIES AND THE SPIN perpetuated in the culture about men and women, sex and love, marriage and motherhood? If so, get ready to hear hard-hitting truths that will make you cry out “Yes! Finally someone tells it like it is!”
In her signature no-nonsense style, author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker offers support, motivation, and countercultural guidance on how to prioritize love and family and build strong relationships at home.
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Did you know online dating is a billion-dollar business? Suzanne talks about how women can use these dating sites to their advantage by recognizing the deep differences between what women want and what men want when it comes to love and commitment.
IN THIS EPISODE:
2:15 Men are twice as active on dating apps as women are
3:15 Your education/job status are not what makes you attractive to men
4:00 The criteria men and women use to choose a partner have not changed at all
6:00 An experiment by John Townsend, Ph.D. shows how women and men choose partners
8:20 Men are indifferent to women’s status
9:30 What is a selling point to a man: your looks, your demeanor and your attitude towards marriage and children
10:45 How do you want to present yourself ?
12:00 It should serve as a warning to women that when you find a man who endlessly praises you for your career and your job he's most likely just looking to hook up or is wanting you to take care of him financially
13:15 What women should do w dating apps
Suzanne and her daughter Emma, 21, talk about social media's effect on relationships and, in particular, on young women.
IN THIS EPISODE:
6:20 What is it like to be Suzanne’s daughter?
9:00 What is “sexting”?
10:50 Social media and its effects on young women. What does Emma see in her world/age group?
11:30 Social media is all consuming
13:00 Smartphones make it hard to focus
15:35 Social media can cause body image issues
16:50 Young girls are exposed to thousands of images a day
21:30 What is the solution to help young girls?
24:20 Your parents are your model for how you feel about yourself
25:40 “Catfishing”: Face-altering filters and why they’re problematic
29:40 What's good and what's bad when it comes to texting in a relationship
36:00 You don’t have to develop courage or have hard conversations when you’re texting
40:40 What is the #1 problem women have today when it comes to dating on college campuses?
42:40 When girls post on social media in a sexual manner, they're trying to impress men
48:10 For the average person, it is much easier to have casual relationships in college
49:30 Social media creates mental health issues
53:50 Suzanne to Emma: Do you ever wish there was no such thing as social media?
Motherhood has never been easy. But compared to today, our own mothers’ experience was a walk in the park. Suzanne discusses the truth about why motherhood is so damn hard today—and why it doesn't have to be.
IN THIS EPISODE:
1:40 Suzanne reads a viral Facebook post about “what society expects from women/mothers"
8:40 It used to be understood that mothers were an integral part of society
9:30 Men and women react differently to raising children
10:10 The ability to nurture is in a woman’s DNA
10:30 Mothers belong with their children
11:05 Median household income growth occurred when women went to work
12:30 Mothers are responsible for the emotional well-being of our citizens
13:15 Women need support to enjoy motherhood
14:10 Leaning out is an option if your husband is a steady breadwinner
16:00 Think outside the box and get away from what other people around you are doing
16:50 You have to sacrifice, but the payoff is huge
18:15 Covid has taught Americans that they CAN live on less
Suzanne discusses a recent Pew study that shows men are more likely than women to be single, as well as Fox News' Laura Ingraham's segment entitled "Where have all the men gone?"
IN THIS EPISODE:
2:00 Suzanne references a podcast episode from The Roommates w/ Jordan Peterson about why men are choosing to be single
4:15 The loss of manufacturing jobs and more women going to college than men play a huge role
7:40 The rise of women and the demotion of men
8:20 Suzanne reads an email from a listener
11:10 Father absence and single motherhood create weak men
15:25 When women can’t see who men really are, their lives become consumed with bitterness and resentment in the workplace and in their relationships
#1 - My boyfriend and I are dating with the prospect of getting married, and I am moving to his country to be with him. I want to prioritize my family but have a side hustle. What is your advice re: side hustles?
#2- My fiance and I have small arguments constantly that turn into half a day of us not speaking. Do you have any tips?
#3 - I used to have a feminist mindset and dreamed of pursuing a career in music. My parents are pressuring me to get higher ed in music. How do I communicate to my parents about my desire to be a wife and mother someday?
#4 - I am a wife who screwed things up in the beginning of my marriage. I have been married for 15 years. I never wanted to be a “disrespectful nag” and I didn’t realize I was being one until my marriage nearly fell apart. My husband is distant and we could be roommates. Do I just accept this?
#5 - I keep encountering men who have gotten used to dating a lot of feminists. When I talk to them about having families and wanting more traditional gender roles, they consider that as “being a dictator over the wife”. This is frustrating because men have become feminist without even knowing it. What should mid-thirties women do because men don’t lead? What do we do?
#6- I’m a 34-year-old single woman. I was raised by a “hen-pecked” father and I became a feminist, went to grad school, etc. I want to get married and have kids but I don’t know any young single men, I am overweight and have student loans. Is it unreasonable to think I might meet a man who wants to take care of his wife and kids?
Suzanne talks about the power of silence in a marriage or relationship.
IN THIS EPISODE:
2:25 Silence is powerful
3:15 Women talk much more than men
3:50 When you don’t talk as much you become a better listener
6:40 Your husband is NOT your girlfriend!
7:40 You don’t have to air every thought you have
8:40 Your husband does not need to hear about everything that happens to you during the day
10:20 Ask yourself: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?
10:40 The goal is to help you take stock of your speech
Suzanne explains why being agreeable, rather than being a “challenger” or offering alternative thoughts to your husband’s all the time, is a boon for your marriage.
IN THIS EPISODE:
1:30 Stop saying no
9:20 Suzanne talks about what a typical conversation sounded like in the past with her husband compared to now
11:30 Know when to give in or let go in order to create peace
13:15 The more we say yes instead of no, the more receptive your husband will be
13:55 The approach a woman needs to get ahead at work is the exact same approach that will screw up your marriage
16:00 Men do not like to fight with women
Suzanne and her assistant Kelsey discuss the life of the entrepreneur.
IN THIS EPISODE:
2:50 Suzanne’s assistant, Kelsey, discusses her background
8:20 You don’t have set hours when you have your own business. You basically work all of the time
9:10 The pros: No boss, make your own hours, license to be creative
9:35 The cons: you work for a long time with very little payoff, can be financially straining
12:30 Building a business and having young kids. Is it logistically possible?
13;10 Failure is part of being an entrepreneur
13:40 Social media makes it look easy
15:00 A strong passion is necessary to sustain you through ups and downs
15:45 It usually takes about three years to see any revenue
16:10 You can’t please everyone. Suzanne discusses her experience with dealing with others’ expectations
18:35 You have to be able to deal with delayed gratification
20:00 You have to be disciplined with your time
23:35 You can’t let your business bleed into your personal life
28:40 Entrepreneurship is pushed to women without explaining the caveats of this lifestyle
33:00 Jobs are underrated
36:45 Suzanne dreams of being a waitress!!!!!
Suzanne discusses wealth building, especially within the context of marriage.
IN THIS EPISODE:
3:40 Whether or not you’ll be successful with money depends on your behavior
5:40 There is a lot of misinformation about building wealth
8:00 The experiences you have growing up shape your views on money
9:40 When you get married, you join finances and your life with someone who may have a totally different history with money
10:00 You both have to have the same goal about where you are going and how you’re going to get there
10:35 High expectations: The median household income today is TWICE what it was thirty years ago, but our expectations have grown exponentially
11:50 If your expectations are beyond what you’re producing, you’re never going to catch up
13:25 You don’t have to be entirely like-minded to be successful in your marriage with money
13:50 Husbands and wives DO NOT view their incomes in the same way
17:00 Understanding male and female nature is very important when it comes to money and marriage
18:50 You CAN change your attitude about money
Suzanne addresses the many requests she's had from folks who’ve asked, “What do we do about our sons?” and “How can we best raise our sons in these times?”
IN THIS EPISODE:
1:50 Suzanne reads listener/reader emails
4:35 Millennial men have been acculturated to the equality mindset
5:30 A lot of women have to convince their husbands that staying home is the right thing to do.
9:10 When you're dating, find out if the man is more traditional or if he has fallen for the feminist script
10:04 Talk to your boys from Day 1 about everything they’re seeing in the culture and counteract this with truth
10:45 Model a traditional family dynamic
11:10 Do not get in the way of a father’s relationship with his son
13:30 How you talk to your husband matters, as does how you talk about your role as a mother
15:40 Honor and respect your son’s masculine nature
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