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Want To Upgrade Your Life? Then You Need To Change Your Attitude - 75 Dec 07, 2023

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Hey there, it's Star Monroe from the Star Monroe Show, and I've got a juicy story to share with you about a revelation I had at the gym this morning. It's all about stepping into that main character energy, being confident, unbothered, and exclusive. So let's dive in.

This morning's gym session was a real eye-opener. You see, I've been spicing up my workouts with a hefty dose of stretching and mobility exercises lately. It's absolutely vital, especially after a heavy session of cardio and weights. Why? Because it helps rebalance those ramped-up hormones and brings back a sense of calm and groundedness – something we all need, especially in the whirlwind of midlife.

But today threw me a curveball. Having skipped the gym for five days, my body felt like a stiff board. I faced a crossroads: succumb to frustration or power through. I chose to power through, and slowly but surely, my body began to ease back into its familiar rhythm and flexibility. It was a stark reminder of how important consistency is, not just in the gym, but in life too.

That moment got me thinking about how we approach life, especially in midlife. You see, the key to success in any area – be it fitness, career, or personal growth – is consistent effort and establishing habits that align with the new identity you're forging. Life's a rollercoaster with its ups and downs, but it's how we respond to those dips that define us.

Here's where it gets really interesting. Success, whether you're lifting weights or navigating life's complexities, isn't about viewing setbacks as failures. It's about understanding why things veered off track, adjusting your approach, and then continuing on with renewed vigor and wisdom. Just like my gym routine, life demands adaptability, resilience, and a refusal to give up.

And this brings me to the most crucial point: attitude. It's all about shifting from a mindset of "I can't" to one of "I'm curious." How can you show up as your best self today? This shift in perspective is transformative. It's about taking charge of your narrative, managing your emotions, and being acutely aware of the script you're writing for your own life.

Remember, you're the main character in your story. You hold the pen. You decide the direction and the characters that play a part in it. As we close off 2023 and move into 2024, ask yourself: are you ready to embrace change? Are you prepared to be that woman who radiates confidence, remains unbothered by outside opinions, and lives an exclusive, fulfilling life?

So here's the moral of the story: everything shifts when you change your attitude. Embrace that change, and watch as your life transforms into the story you've always wanted to live.

Star Monroe is a midlife psychotherapist & confidence catalyst guiding you into your main character era. Confident, unbothered, exclusive.

The Evolution Of Star Monroe. Confident, Unbothered & Exclusive - 71 Nov 29, 2023

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Scroll back 5 years (2018). I had completely lost my identity. I used to sit at home, snuggled deeply into my armchair watching endless boxsets. Because I was scared.

What was I scared of?

Scared that my dreams and desires were never to be realised.

Scared that I had lost who I was.

Scared that inspiration, motivation was never to find me ever again.

Scared that I was stuck in an unhappy marriage with my husband dictating where our life was going.

Scared to even get in my car and drive down the road.

And you know what this did to me?

I shrunk myself smaller and smaller.

I hid away from the world.

Isolated myself from my friends and family.

Feeling this deep sense of shame.

And I let it fester inside me until it ran through my bloodstream and I believed I was no longer worthy of anything.

UNTIL...

UNTIL that day. I remember it clearly.

My (then) husband and I had just had another humongous row. We were in my kitchen. And I stomped off and sat at my computer.

I said to myself..... THIS CAN'T BE IT.

This CAN NOT BE MY LIFE.

And you know what I did?

I booked an extended trip to Bali. So I could a) train to be a yoga instructor b) get my travel on (cos I've always wanted to travel more.

When I told my husband he stared incredulously at me and said these words...

"How the hell are you going to make this happen, you have no money"

And I replied....

"I WILL FIND A WAY"

And I did.

I worked my ass off that year (and to be honest I haven't stopped working my ass off since 2018).

I became DEVOTED to myself and my dreams.

I stopped worrying about the HOW and started focusing on what I needed to do each and every single way.

I stepped into the identity of a woman who was going places, who believed in herself (however shaky that was at the time) and I MADE SHIT HAPPEN.

I saved more than enough money for this trip.

And I got on a plane in November 2018 and flew to Bali.

Now, between you and I, I hated the yoga training and knew somewhere deep inside me that being a yoga instructor was not for me. YET, during this trip I DISCOVERED WHO I WAS AGAIN.

I met some wonderful, happy people and I found myself laughing, and having fun. MORE than that, my imagination woke up and I started to welcome my dreams and desires back into my world.

I do believe one of the most poignant moments of that yoga training was when I woke up from a meditation and realised I had to divorce my husband. (Psst..It took another couple of years for me to action this download. Hey, it takes as long as it takes).

When I returned from this trip I MADE MYSELF A PROMISE.

And that PROMISE was to get out of my comfort zone each and every single day in 2019.

Boy! Was that challenging. It really pushed me out of my comfort zone again and again.

And in the process of getting out of my comfort zone and developing my DEVOTION to myself and my dreams I opened up my membership for midlife women. I started to work privately with many women and I cultivated a solid presence online as one of the GO-TO experts in the midlife arena guiding women back home to themselves and their power.

Fast-forward to today. I have fully taken the reins to my life. I have continued to grow and expand (our true nature is evolution, we are not meant to stay the same), I have moved countries, become more savvy with money, and continue to ask myself the question "how can I best serve others in this one and glorious life of mine?"

And that leads me to where I am today. On the cusp of another deep evolution of myself and the work I'm here to do.

After working with 1000's upon 1000's of women over the years I have come to the realisation that what gets in women's way of their GREATNESS, their BRILLIANCE is...

THE WAY THEY SEE THEMSELVES.

THEIR SELF-IDENTITY.

Everything and I mean everything stems from your current identity. From the thoughts that bounce around in your brain, the words you speak (you do that words are spells don't you?) the choices you make and the habits you do over and over again.

When a woman is OPEN-MINDED and OPEN-HEARTED and is more than willing to STOP being so stubborn that the way she is currently living her life is the only way.....

HUGE SHIFTS will happen.

She will finally GET OUT OF HER OWN WAY and align herself with her inherent worth and brilliance.

This is why I do what I do.

I'm here to LEAD and GUIDE midlife women into their MAIN CHARACTER ERA. And embody the traits of a HIGH-VALUE WOMAN. Confident, unbothered & exclusive.

This is the identity that will open doors to opportunities, possibilities, change how you show up with yourself, your body, your mind, relationships, money, business/career and how you view yourself as an older woman.

It is the secret key to YOU living the life you've always dreamt about but never had the mammaries to do so before now.

As always I am here leading a revolution of spirited, intelligent and determined women who no longer want to settle for scraps in life but are ready to RAINED DOWN ON WITH BLESSINGS AND PROSPERITY in all areas of their lives.

If this speaks to you, then I would love to have you join me.

Right now there are three ways we can work together.

Rebirth. Elite 3/6 month coaching & therapy packages for the midlife woman who is ready for her radical self-reinvention.
Your Instant Confidence Boost. A one-off 90 minute consultation that will give you the potent tools and skills to take action NOW and move through any limiting beliefs and challenges (so you can get on LIVING your flamboyant life).
Download my mini program - Midlife Reset. A 7-day program teaching you how to establish mini daily practices (a hallmark of my methodology) that will amplify your confidence, clarity and energy.

And, as we sashay into 2024, prepare to witness the unveiling of YOUR ULTIMATE MIDLIFE GLOW UP – a transformative experience like no other. Drawing from my 34 years of expertise as a psychotherapist, life coach, showgirl, and a master of personal reinvention, I have crafted an extraordinary 12-month journey. This program is meticulously designed to mentor, guide, and shape you into the epitome of a woman who embodies confidence, remains unbothered by external influences, and exudes exclusivity. Get ready to embark on this epic adventure and emerge as the High-Value Woman you are destined to be.

As one of my private clients said to me the other day "Trust Star, and go for it. This is one of the best therapy/coaching programs I have ever done (and I've done a lot). Star is to the point, she helps you take intentional action over and over again. She is so authentic and open to work with, I could not help but radically reinvent myself (from lost & alone to powerfully believing in myself & my abilities) " Silvia Alongi.

Star Monroe is a midlife psychotherapist & confidence catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident, Unbothered & Exclusive.

Why You MUST Step Into The Identity Of A High Value Woman In Midlife - 72 Nov 29, 2023

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Who exactly embodies a high-value woman? If you've been tuning into my insights, you'll know I frequently discuss the evolution into a high-value woman, particularly poignant as you journey through midlife. This transformation hinges on how you perceive yourself – your identity shapes your reality. If you're ensnared in beliefs of failure, people-pleasing, or a life of perpetual struggle, then that's the narrative you'll keep spinning. I've navigated this path myself and, through years of guiding women, I've realized the power of a North Star – a definitive direction in life.

This year, as I further embraced my role as a main character and a high-value woman, I recognized the necessity of elevating my daily practices. Morning journaling, inspired by Julia Cameron's "The Artist's Way," has become non-negotiable. It's a ritual where I confront my fears, nurture my inner child, and articulate the woman I'm stepping into, effectively scripting her into reality.

Let's break down what being a high-value woman entails:

⭐️Confidence (Inner Self-Assuredne exactly embodies a high-value woman? If you've been tuning into my insights, you'll know I frequently discuss the evolution into a high-value woman, particularly poignant as you journey through midlife. This transformation hinges on how you perceive yourself – your identity shapes your reality. If you're ensnared in beliefs of failure, people-pleasing, or a life of perpetual struggle, then that's the narrative you'll keep spinning. I've navigated this path myself and, through years of guiding women, I've realized the power of a North Star – a definitive direction in life.

⭐️Unbothered: Immune to external judgments, she manages triggers with poise and grace. Her response to conflict or disagreement is measured and thoughtful, preserving her mental and emotional well-being.

⭐️Exclusivity: Far removed from drama and gossip, she chooses her company wisely, aligning with those who are progressive and solution-focused.

A high-value woman navigates life from a place of authenticity and soulfulness. She's grounded in the knowledge that her existence is part of a grander scheme, seeking connections that foster mutual growth and celebration.

By embodying main character energy and high-value traits, you initiate a profound shift in self-perception. Thoughts, words (remember, words are potent spells), choices, and actions gradually sculpt this new, empowered version of yourself. Each of us harbours innate greatness, and unlocking it starts with a transformative view of self.

In midlife, you're not just surviving; you're equipped with a rich tapestry of skills and experiences. It's time to harness, celebrate, and build upon these assets. The high-value woman doesn't chase external validation; she understands her power comes from within.

So, to all aspiring to step into this high-value paradigm: it's entirely attainable. It begins and ends with how you engage with and talk to yourself, the decisions you make, and the steps you take.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist and confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident, Unbothered & Exclusive.

Fed Up With Those Bad Habits Ruining Your Life? Listen To This.... - 73 Nov 29, 2023

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If you've ever wondered why sticking to healthy habits or steering clear of that narcissistic ex seems impossible, let me tell you, it's not that there's something wrong with you. It's all about how you think about yourself. Changing how you show up in midlife, building healthier relationships, managing your finances, taking care of your body and wellness, it all starts and ends with your self-perception and your daily self-talk.

If you're constantly telling yourself, "I can't help it, this is who I am, I always mess up," then that's exactly what you'll keep getting in life. But hey, Star Monroe here, and I've got just the antidote for you. It's about becoming the main character of your life. Yes, you heard that right. You are the superstar of your life, and you get to call the shots – your life, your rules.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: Life is a game. If you don't know how to play it, life will play you. It all begins and ends with you stepping into that main character energy – confident, unbothered, and totally exclusive.

So, how do you do this? Stop dwelling on your faults and past mistakes. Start focusing on who you want to become. Don't get hung up on the 'I don't know how' – I'm handing it to you on a plate. You're stepping into the role of the main character of your life.

It's time to become acutely aware of your inner dialogue and start talking to yourself as if you are that main character, that top-billed superstar. Focus on what you want and how you want to navigate the world. Here are a couple of tips to integrate this into your life:

One mantra I repeat daily is "I am the prize." At first, it might feel superficial, but with patience and consistency, it'll sink in. Say to yourself, "I am my most valuable asset. I am a woman who takes good care of herself. I am a woman who doesn't text toxic people. I am a woman with standards higher than the Burj Khalifa. I am strong, independent, and I know what's best for me."

Here's a game-changer: there's already a part of you that knows what's best for you – your higher self, God, Source Energy, whatever you call it. This voice is guiding you. It's telling you to stop engaging in harmful behaviours. You become this woman by talking her into existence every single day. Focus on what you want, not what went wrong.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident, Unbothered & Exclusive.

Reclaim Your Sexy. Part 4 - 70 Aug 28, 2023

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The Love Affair. A 30-day experiment where you become the priority in your life by dating yourself every darn day and cultivate the skills to amplify your pleasure by reconnecting to your body. We start 9/9. Come join us.

Welcome to part four of Reclaim Your Sexy At Midlife, where I dive headfirst into the realm of libido and midlife from a distinctly female perspective. If you've missed out on the earlier episodes, no worries, you can always catch up later. In those episodes, I've been exploring how your libido can be a superpower, what might be hindering your journey to reclaim your sexual vitality in midlife, and how to break free from the constraints of the male gaze.

I'm Star Monroe, and this is the Star Monroe Show. Each week, we venture into the world of reinvention, confidence, relationships, and the fascinating topic of sex in midlife. Today, we're delving into what it means to be a formidable woman who fully embraces her sexuality during midlife. Plus, I'll be sharing some tips and tricks on how you can start cultivating this power right away. Stick around because I've got an exclusive invitation coming up for you to join me on a journey of rediscovering your libido and reigniting your midlife passion.

So, who exactly is this dangerous woman in midlife? Well, she's a woman who has nothing left to prove to anyone. How does she reach this level of self-assuredness? By committing herself to knowing who she is and why she does what she does. She's determined to align her choices with her higher self and to communicate consciously with others. She's aware of her desires and unapologetically claims them. There's something profoundly empowering about an older woman who embraces her desires, especially when society suggests that it's time to fade into the background. But let me remind you, you are not invisible, and it's your duty to take up space, reconnect with your deepest desires, and follow your soul's yearnings.

In real life, a dangerous woman is one who takes control of her own joy and pleasure. She prioritizes herself and understands that life isn't about mere survival; it's about thriving. She doesn't wait for permission or validation; she grants those to herself through her daily choices and actions. This isn't just a sporadic practice; it's a lifestyle, a way of celebrating your core essence.

Embracing your desires is a potent act, especially as an older woman. It defies societal norms and liberates you. This kind of freedom allows you to pursue what truly lights you up, take up space, and refuse to become invisible.

But there's more to it. A dangerous woman is authentic. She continually works on herself, which is what makes her so iconic. She shines like a supernova, catching the eye of anyone lucky enough to witness her presence. Don't you want to be that woman?

In life, a dangerous woman isn't afraid to ask for what she wants, whether in business, life, or the bedroom. This self-assuredness makes her magnetic. But here's the kicker: she owns herself in every aspect of life, taking risks, pursuing her dreams, and continuously working on her self-worth.

To become this iconic, self-assured woman, you must start by embracing awakened awareness. Dedicate yourself to knowing who you are and why you make the choices you do. Dive deep into your core wounds and be prepared to course-correct when needed. Self-worth isn't just about affirmations; it's about aligning your actions with your belief in your inherent worth.

Cultivate discipline as a daily practice. Remember, self-worth is an action. Step into your unique rhythm, which will require you to slow down and mindfully find your own path. When you move to the beat of your rhythm, you start choosing your responses to life instead of reacting.

As you connect with your body and find your rhythm, you deepen your relationship with yourself. Your body holds immense wisdom and intuition. It's crucial to create a safe space within your body to express yourself fully. You do this through various embodiment techniques like self-massage, breathwork, movement, and mindful self-care. Remember, these aren't tasks to check off a list but a lifestyle that celebrates who you are.

When you connect with your body, you connect with your primal instincts, wisdom centers, and intuition. It's not about sex through the male gaze; it's about reconnecting with your sensuality and sexuality through a distinctly female perspective.

Stop seeing your body as a problem; she's the solution. Learn to move through life with ease, letting your body express herself in wild and wonderful ways. Give yourself permission to embrace your desires, adorn your body, prioritize wellness, and rest when needed.

Understand that sexy isn't about conforming to the male gaze; it's about fully inhabiting your body, adorning it, and taking care of it. It's about cultivating a connection with your body's wisdom and learning to use sexual energy as fuel for your life.

Your body is your GPS, your guide to embracing your unique journey. When you connect with her, you stop seeking validation and permission from external sources. You trust your wisdom to navigate your path.

This is an invitation to shift your perspective, to see yourself, your body, your libido, and your sexuality through a different lens. It's time to let go of society's standards and embrace your own wisdom.

If these words resonate with you, if they awaken something in your soul, then I have a special invitation for you. Join me on "The Love Affair," starting on the ninth of September. It's a 30-day journey where you'll explore self-love, prioritize your pleasure, and deepen your connection with your body and your sexuality.

Don't let this opportunity slip away. Embrace the power within you, and let's embark on this journey together.

New Episode of The Star Monroe Show drops weekly.

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® Star Monroe is a midlife psychotherapist and relationship coach helping you create your very own wild love affair with life, love & your libido.

Reclaim Your Sexy Part 3. Your Libido as a Hidden Superpower - 69 Aug 20, 2023

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"The Love Affair," my transformative 30-day intensive starts 9/9. Together, we'll cultivate a lifestyle where joy, pleasure, and radiance are non-negotiable. Say yes to igniting your midlife radiance and rewriting your narrative.

Amidst a society that rarely addresses midlife sexuality, I'm here to bring you an honest, down-to-earth perspective. If you've missed the earlier episodes, I've already delved into themes like the male and female gaze, as well as the factors that might hinder your midlife journey towards feeling sexy and confident. Today, let's talk about the captivating realm of sex and libido.

Shake up your preconceptions about sex and ditch those old scripts imposed by the patriarchy and male-centric views. Sex is far more than a goal-oriented endeavour, a race to the finish line. It's not just about syncopated climaxes. Instead, we're reimagining libido as a potent hidden superpower.

What we're exploring here isn't just about sex; it's a voyage of self-reconnection. It's an expedition into personal growth and evolution. As I embrace my 50s, I've realized that knowing oneself, embracing desires, and taking ownership of joy and happiness diminishes the need for external validation. This newfound freedom allows you to navigate life as your authentic self, magnetizing fresh opportunities, adventures, and prosperity.

By embracing your libido, you're actually undergoing a metamorphosis from within. You can't genuinely rekindle your connection to your libido without addressing your desires, your yearnings, your dreams—those aspects that may have been suppressed or shelved for years. The lid you've placed on your aspirations can be lifted, and this transformational journey is about honoring and pursuing them.

Perhaps society, self-doubt, or life's setbacks have led you to abandon your dreams. Trust me, I've been there too. After tumultuous experiences, I relinquished my aspirations. But then, I chose a different path, one that's about lighting up what truly excites me. Rumi's quote, "Follow what lights you up. It will not lead you astray," became my guiding principle.

Remember, life isn't just a destination—it's an ongoing journey. Embrace what ignites your passion, move towards it, and when you arrive, be open to new dreams and desires that unveil themselves. This is the essence of living radiantly.

Now, let's delve into some powerful truths. Reclaiming your libido isn't just about reigniting bedroom fireworks, although that's certainly part of it. It's about radiating confidence, infusing your life with joy, and amplifying your self-worth. Your libido, often overlooked and hidden, is an incredible source of energy and radiance.

As you embark on this journey, you're challenging societal norms that define you by age or gender. You're declaring that your dreams and desires are valid, regardless of external judgments. It's about being the curator of your own pleasure, a powerful mistress of your satisfaction.

By embracing your libido, you're not just revolutionizing your relationship with sexuality; you're igniting transformation across all facets of your life. Relationships evolve, confidence skyrockets, and drama dissipates. This isn't about quick fixes or superficial beauty; it's about crafting a lifestyle that nurtures your inner glow.

So, why not let your libido roar? Allow it to illuminate your entire world. This journey isn't just about sexual intimacy, but about reclaiming your personal power and authenticity.

If these words resonate, if you're seeking to thrive in midlife and reshape your relationship with your body, if you're ready to challenge norms and discover your hidden superpower, then consider joining "The Love Affair," my transformative 30-day intensive. Together, we'll cultivate a lifestyle where joy, pleasure, and radiance are non-negotiable. Say yes to igniting your midlife radiance and rewriting your narrative.

New Episode of The Star Monroe Show drops weekly.

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® Star Monroe is a midlife psychotherapist and relationship coach helping you create your very own wild love affair with life, love & your libido.

What gets in the Way of YOU Reclaiming Your Sexy? (part 2) - 68 Aug 13, 2023

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The next round of "The Love Affair," starts on September 9th. This 30-day intensive is all about making yourself a priority, dating yourself, and exploring your sensuality and sexuality through the female gaze. Save £100 (use code SEXY) when you join before 13 August.

Welcome to another episode of "The Star Monroe Show," where we dive deep into all things relationships, confidence, reinvention, and of course, sex in midlife. In today's episode, we're going to explore the obstacles that may hinder you from reclaiming your sexy at midlife. And let's get one thing straight from the start – it's not just about blaming menopause or aging. Feeling sexy at midlife is a more nuanced journey.

Join me as we explore six archetypal energies that might be getting in the way of your midlife sexy. But before we delve into them, let's paint a big picture. A woman embracing her sexy at midlife, in touch with her libido, knows how to turn herself on, and feels empowered, connected to her body, and attuned to her desires. On the other hand, the antithesis of sexy at midlife is a woman who feels disempowered, disconnected from her body and desires. She struggles with self-doubt, lacks confidence, and may suppress her sexual needs and desires. She may even rely on external validation for pleasure and feel dependent on others to ignite her passion.

So, let's address these archetypal energies that can stand in your way:

1. **The Good Girl**: Programmed to play it safe and hide her desires, the good girl struggles to prioritize her own joy, seeking approval and validation from others.

2. **The People Pleaser**: Always looking for validation, the people pleaser masks her true desires to fit in, often at the expense of her own needs.

3. **The Mother**: The ultimate nurturer, the mother puts her needs on the back burner and tends to fix everyone's problems, leading to a sense of martyrdom.

4. **The Wounded Inner Child**: Yearning for someone to fix and save her, the wounded inner child seeks external validation and often lacks self-empowerment.

5. **The Performer**: In search of approval, the performer adopts a façade and may even perform in bed, seeking external validation and struggling with intimacy.

6. **The Independent Woman**: Having learned to do it all herself, the independent woman can be hesitant to ask for help and may have built a protective wall around her heart.

Reclaiming your sexy at midlife requires awareness and a willingness to confront these archetypal energies. Remember, you are not these energies; they are parts of your psyche that have been conditioned by experiences throughout your life. The journey to reclamation is about reconnecting to your true essence and shedding societal constraints.

As you integrate all parts of yourself, embrace your shadow and light, and dance with your soul, you'll rise untamed and free, owning your libido like wildfire, unapologetic and raw. Your path to midlife passion is ever-evolving, not linear, and will require perseverance. But as you reclaim your true essence and activate your midlife libido, you'll command your destiny with strength and conviction.

If this wisdom resonates with you, consider joining the next round of "The Love Affair," starting on September 9th. This 30-day intensive is all about making yourself a priority, dating yourself, and exploring your sensuality and sexuality through the female gaze and you can save £100 if you join before 13 August.

New Episode of The Star Monroe Show drops weekly.

Other places to find me:

Instagram: msstarmonroe

TikTok: starmonroe

Facebook: starmonroe

LinkedIn: starmonroe

Website: msstarmonroe.com

® Star Monroe is a midlife psychotherapist and relationship coach helping you create your very own wild love affair with life, love & your libido.

Break Free From The Male Gaze - 67 Aug 06, 2023

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So, let's get real here. If you want to reclaim your sexy at midlife, you need to be aware of the brainwashing that has infiltrated your system. It's time to disrupt and agitate it, break free, and choose how you claim your sexy in midlife. What does sexy mean to me? Freedom, embodiment, emotional awareness, and conscious communication. Taking care of my body, embracing my age, and living life on my terms.

The male gaze has conditioned us to see sex as a goal-oriented, fast, and loud act focused on penetration and orgasm. But as we age, this approach may not work anymore. It's time to reject the male gaze and embrace the female gaze. The female gaze is about slowing down, embracing softness, and connecting with our bodies. It's all about the internal sensations, not just the external appearance.

So many women have been brainwashed into believing that sex is all about pleasing men and conforming to unrealistic beauty standards. It's time to reclaim our bodies and desires. Let's stop seeking external validation and focus on pleasing ourselves. Our bodies are beautiful, and there's nothing wrong with them. We need to celebrate and cherish ourselves.

Reclaiming your sexy at midlife is a revolutionary act of empowerment and self-liberation. It's time to break free from age-related stereotypes and demand the freedom to embrace our desires and sexual expression on our own terms. No more conforming to outdated expectations.

The female gaze invites us to tease our senses and prioritize our pleasure. Slow down and connect with your body. Cultivate gourmet sensual experiences with yourself. This journey may challenge you, but there are no rules. Each woman's path is unique. Embrace the female gaze and liberate yourself from the male gaze.

Your libido is your force, your radiance, and magnetism. It's not something that creams or Botox can enhance. Cultivating your libido through the female gaze means embracing your body, accepting and celebrating yourself, and connecting with your desires. This is your birthright, not something to seek external approval for.

It's time to stop living by the old rulebook and embrace your power. Reject the male gaze and celebrate yourself. The most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself. Be your own aphrodisiac, be racy, stimulating, and suggestive with yourself. You don't need anyone else to bring pleasure and joy into your life.

You live in a world that trivializes and dismisses the sexuality of mature women. But it's time to break free from age-related stereotypes and claim your sexy. You are not defined by your youth or appearance. Celebrate your body, your desires, and your power. Reclaim your sexy at midlife, and it's a bold declaration of self-liberation and empowerment.

So let's flip the script and embrace the female gaze. Slow down, connect with your body, and prioritize your pleasure. You don't need to please others or fit into unrealistic standards. This is your journey, your sensuality, and your sexuality. Embrace it and celebrate yourself every step of the way.

If you're intrigued and want to take the next step in your journey, I invite you to join me on my 30-day program. THE LOVE AFFAIR. Let's have a love affair with ourselves and explore our desires. It's time to make some noise and break free from the male gaze.

Reclaim your sexy, my friend, and liberate yourself from the suffocating embrace of societal norms. You deserve to embrace your desires and celebrate yourself fully. Join me on this journey, and together, we'll ignite a wildfire of empowerment and self-liberation. It's time to step into your power and reclaim your sexy at midlife!

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® Star Monroe is a midlife psychotherapist and relationship coach helping you create your very own wild love affair with life, love & your libido.

The Art of Healing - 66 Jul 31, 2023

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I am committed to myself, let's say I am having a love affair with me and part of this commitment is receiving weekly massages.

Today in my massage.....

Oh, today in my massage...

I experienced a cracking open of yet another deep memory that was lodged inside my body (from sooooo many years ago).

As my masseuse's hands glided over my body...

Memories of me as a little child surfaced.

Memories of my father surfaced.

Memories of broken dreams surfaced.

And a voice.

A voice from my inner child whispering to me......

"You are making all our dreams come true".

I sobbed.

And I sobbed.

The feelings and emotions moved through me, ready to be felt, ready to be dispersed into the ethers.

Healing happens when we are able to fully feel.

When the massage was over, I walked slowly down the steps.

Pausing every now and then.

Checking in.

Breathing.

Soothing myself.

Recognising what just happened.

And this voice appeared again.

My inner child.

She told me "don't leave, you are leaving me, everyone leaves me" (she was falling down a black hole as she was saying this to me)

And as I got on my bicycle and peddled back home I whispered back....

"I'm never leaving you"

And I reached out and grabbed her and held her to me.

She wasn't too sure about that and tried to wriggle away.

I told her "it's me and you kid"

She tutted but stayed with me.

I love my inner child.

I love me.

This is what healing looks like.

The willingness to go deep.

The willingness to bypass your pesky ego mind.

The willingness to take care of yourself.

The willingness to stop trying to figure it all out and JUST be a grounded, safe place to FEEL.

And here’s the thing. If you are constantly living in your head (disconnected from your body), always busy, always over-committing yourself. You will try to analyse the fuck out of everything that bubbles up inside you. You will try to attach meaning onto every emotion you feel (that’s if you are currently capable of feeling right now and not hooked on numbing yourself all the way out of your life)

And what that does is HALT your body’s natural process of feeling and healing.

Sometimes we don’t know why we feel x, y, z.

And that’s ok.

When you learn how to give your body the space to process LIFE, it will find it’s own rhythm.

Your quest. Is to NOT get in the way.

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