The Real Stuff with Lucie Fink

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“I’m not a porn star, but I sell sex videos on OnlyFans.” (Jessamyn Stanley) Jul 02, 2024

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Jessamyn Stanley is one of a kind. For starters, she’s our first Real Stuff guest with an OnlyFans profile. And as we peel back the layers, you’ll learn how creating bold content within body-positive communities isn't just about pushing boundaries—it's about fostering essential dialogues. While Jessamyn and I may seem like polar opposites from the outside, through our conversation we found that we are incredibly similar when it comes to the way we think and the values we align ourselves with. Jessamyn is a social media powerhouse known for her daring choices, like sharing photos and videos of herself online doing naked yoga and performing sex acts on her OnlyFans. We venture into the world of liberal communities, questioning whether they merely create echo chambers or if they can engage a broader audience. Jessamyn opens up about handling polarizing topics and the inevitable backlash, focusing on understanding differing viewpoints rather than changing minds. The episode wraps up by touching on the complexities of polyamory, the therapeutic nature of rope play, and the financial dynamics of running a personal brand, all while maintaining a narrative grounded in radical honesty and self-acceptance. This is an episode that challenges, educates, and inspires, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in the intersections of body positivity, social media, and personal growth.

Follow Jessamyn: https://www.instagram.com/mynameisjessamyn

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Watch this episode in video form on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjmevEcbh5h5FEX0pazPEtN86t7eb2OgX

To apply to be a guest on the show, visit luciefink.com/apply and send us your story.

I also want to extend a special thank you to East Love for the show's theme song, Rolling Stone.

Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealstuffpod

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/Luciebfink

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The Fink Siblings Episode: family dynamics, our significant others, and who's most likely to (with Allie & Rob Fink) Jun 25, 2024

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Today we have an unforgettable episode of the show as we sit down with two of my favorite people in the world — my brother Robbie and my twin sister Allie, to explore the unique dynamics of our sibling bond. I took to my Instagram stories to gather questions that you wanted answered and we even snuck in a game of "who's most likely to" before signing off. In this episode, we reflect on our special individual connections, highlighting the mutual admiration, creativity, and shared experiences that have shaped our closeness. From heartfelt compliments to nostalgic anecdotes, we explore the balance of intelligence, kindness, and normalcy within our family. We touch on sibling rivalry, the influence of our parents in fostering our strong connection, and the importance of maintaining these relationships while aiming to cultivate similar bonds in our future families. As we navigate significant life changes, we discuss the complex emotions and dynamics that arise when siblings reach major events at different times. We also address the idea of comparison between siblings, especially in relationships and personal milestones, and the invaluable support we provide each other during difficult times. Tune in for a heartfelt and engaging conversation that beautifully captures the essence of our sibling connection along with some unforgettable stories from our childhood.

Follow Robbie here: https://www.instagram.com/robjfink

Follow East Love here: https://www.instagram.com/eastlovemusic

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Watch this episode in video form on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjmevEcbh5h5FEX0pazPEtN86t7eb2OgX

To apply to be a guest on the show, visit luciefink.com/apply and send us your story.

I also want to extend a special thank you to East Love for the show's theme song, Rolling Stone.

Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealstuffpod

Find Lucie here:

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“I’m child-free by choice at age 43.” (Nitika Chopra) Jun 18, 2024

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Living life child-free by choice in her 40s. Join us as we sit down with the remarkable Nitika Chopra—an advocate for those living with chronic illnesses, a podcast host, and the founder of Chronicon. In today’s episode, Nitika and I have an engaging and heartfelt discussion about her chronic illnesses and her decision to live a child-free lifestyle. Nitika shares the personal impact of her chronic illnesses on this choice and not only do we unpack the challenges of living with severe skin issues, arthritis, and myasthenia gravis triggered by COVID-19, but we also address the societal expectations and pressures surrounding a person’s decision not to have children. Nitika's decision to remain child-free is not only influenced by her health but also by her evolving perspectives on motherhood. We explore her thoughts on freezing eggs, the cultural expectations she navigates, and the reactions she got from her friends and family when she shared this decision. Nitika's longing for connection, her recent re-entry into the dating world, and her vision for the future add depth to this rich narrative. Finally, she introduces us to Chronicon's community membership—a supportive space for individuals with chronic illnesses—highlighting the importance of connection and understanding. Join us for an episode that celebrates diverse paths to a fulfilling life and emphasizes the value of self-awareness and respect for personal choices.

Follow Nitika: https://www.instagram.com/nitikachopra

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Watch this episode in video form on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjmevEcbh5h5FEX0pazPEtN86t7eb2OgX

To apply to be a guest on the show, visit luciefink.com/apply and send us your story.

I also want to extend a special thank you to East Love for the show's theme song, Rolling Stone.

Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealstuffpod

Find Lucie here:

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What's harder: going from 0-1 or 1-2 kids? (Audience callers) Jun 11, 2024

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As I prepare to bring my second child into the world, I can't help but ask everyone I know who has more than one kid what their experience was like and how it compares to the journey of becoming first-time parents. I put a call out to my audience about their experiences navigating this transition and in today's episode, you'll hear intimate stories and insights from six listeners who reveal their personal journeys navigating these significant life changes. Just about half of our listeners found the leap from zero to one child to be easier, while the other half believed that welcoming a second child was less daunting. In today's episode, we'll hear from 3 people with each opinion. We also shed light on the day-to-day realities faced by parents, particularly stay-at-home moms who juggle childcare with minimal support from partners working long hours. The emotional toll on relationships is profound, as parents often find themselves wrestling with identity shifts, increased exhaustion, and evolving trust in their parental instincts. I have a personal theory about the type of people who find the transition from 0-1 to be harder than 1-2...so tune into the episode to see if my theory holds true! Let's dive into today's segment filled with heartfelt stories, practical advice, and a supportive community for parents at every stage of their journey.

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00:00:00 - 00:04:51 intro

00:04:51 - 00:16:17 Sam (0-1 was easier)

00:16:17 - 00:18:11 StoryWorth

00:18:11 - 00:30:00 Lindsay (0-1 was easier)

00:30:00 - 00:44:40 Laura (0-1 was easier)

00:44:40 - 00:57:23 Camila (1-2 was easier)

00:57:23 - 00:58:28 Omaha Steaks

00:58:28 - 01:14:48 Tash (1-2 was easier)

01:14:48 - 01:26:45 Ashley (1-2 was easier)

01:26:45 - 01:28:42 closing thoughts + outro

Watch this episode in video form on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjmevEcbh5h5FEX0pazPEtN86t7eb2OgX

To apply to be a guest on the show, visit luciefink.com/apply and send us your story.

I also want to extend a special thank you to East Love for the show's theme song, Rolling Stone.

Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealstuffpod

Find Lucie here:

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“I no longer need to ask my husband for money.” (Alexia Delarosa) Jun 04, 2024

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I'm so excited to be joined by social media star, Alexia Delarosa (@lex.delarosa), on this week's episode of the podcast. Lex considers herself a full-time stay-at-home mom but she has also found incredible success cultivating a following online as she shares glimpses into the beauty of motherhood and homemaking. Her journey from a simple bread-making video to becoming a viral sensation is a testament to the power of authenticity and humor in the content creation space. This isn't your average tale of a "trad wife" – it's an insightful look at how personal choices carve out unique family dynamics, with Alexia’s warm narrative leading the way. While Alexia and I bonded over the discomfort of being asked about our salaries on live television, she didn't shy away from discussing the often taboo topic of money, sharing her business’s revenue and how much she charges for brand partnerships. Finally, we waded through the evolving perceptions of gender roles and financial independence as she detailed the shift within her own marriage. She spoke candidly about the challenges of being a stay-at-home mom and a full-time content creator, juggling parenting and her professional life without losing sight of her needs and aspirations. Her story is a wonderful example for those balancing family and Internet fame, illustrating the changing landscape of digital media and gender expectations.

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00:00:00 - 00:04:52 intro

00:04:52 - 00:07:05 growing up

00:07:05 - 00:08:25 being categorized as a “trad wife”

00:08:25 - 00:11:22 the rise to social media fame

00:11:22 - 00:13:50 Lex’s signature head tilt

00:13:50 - 00:20:56 the negativity that comes with viral videos

00:20:56 - 00:21:58 Omaha Steaks

00:21:58 - 00:25:01 TikTok vs. Instagram

00:25:01 - 00:31:56 compensation as a content creator

00:31:56 - 00:36:35 discomfort with talking about money

00:36:35 - 00:38:05 gross revenue in the past year

00:38:05 - 00:39:30 StoryWorth

00:39:30 - 00:43:12 being a SAHM, childcare, and homeschooling

00:43:12 - 00:53:51 division of labor and financial responsibilities

00:53:51 - 01:01:05 experience on The Tamron Hall Show

01:01:05 - 01:01:46 future goals

01:01:46 - 01:02:44 outro

Watch this episode in video form on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjmevEcbh5h5FEX0pazPEtN86t7eb2OgX

To apply to be a guest on the show, visit luciefink.com/apply and send us your story.

I also want to extend a special thank you to East Love for the show's theme song, Rolling Stone.

Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealstuffpod

Find Lucie here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luciebfink/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/Luciebfink

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/luciebfink

Website: https://luciefink.com/

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“I have a 5% chance of living past 5 years.” (Audience caller) May 28, 2024

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In this week’s episode, I sit down with Jordy Glassner, a 31-year-old wife and mother who is living with terminal brain cancer. When Jordy first decided that she wanted to share her story publicly on social media, a mutual friend put us in touch so that I could show her the ropes. I’m so honored to have her joining me on our show to share her story with all of you. In this conversation, Jordy courageously opens up about her unexpected battle with glioblastoma. Her story begins with a chilling numbness and evolves into a fight for her life. Jordy’s recount of the disbelief, the emergency surgery, and the pain of not being able to see her son before the operation is a powerful testament to a mother's love and resilience in the face of harrowing odds. The narrative doesn't stop at survival; it's a relentless journey of adaptation to a new reality. Jordy eloquently speaks to how her diagnosis has permeated every aspect of her life, from the loss of a career to the redefinition of her self-identity and personal relationships. Through her eyes, we witness the grief for a past life and the transformation of relationships, yet we also discover the potential for deeper bonds and new perspectives. Jordy’s experience, punctuated by the ebbs and flows of treatment and waiting periods, offers listeners an intimate window into the emotional complexity that accompanies a life-altering diagnosis and the unwavering hope that can emerge from its depths.

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Follow Jordy on Instagram: @jordyglassner

Listen to Jordy's podcast, Grief Street: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grief-street/id1742465491

The gala is sold out, but here’s a link to donate to UCLA's fund for brain cancer research: https://giving.ucla.edu/Campaign/Donate.aspx?SiteNum=4010&AutoFN=Y&Trib=Y&TribT=M&TribFN=Stanford&TribLN=Kurland

Watch this episode in video form on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjmevEcbh5h5FEX0pazPEtN86t7eb2OgX

To apply to be a guest on the show, visit luciefink.com/apply and send us your story.

I also want to extend a special thank you to East Love for the show's theme song, Rolling Stone.

Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealstuffpod

Find Lucie here:

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Solo Q&A: getting ready for baby girl, family finances and 2nd trimester updates May 21, 2024

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Now that I’m in my second trimester, it's time for another audience Q&A episode! I'm answering all of the questions that you sent through my IG stories box recently. Join me as I discuss the rollercoaster of our 20-week anatomy scan which unveiled that my baby's umbilical cord has one artery instead of two. Single umbilical artery (SUA) is, as I've learned, not as uncommon as they made it sound. While this discovery was scary at first, I offer comfort and insights for those facing similar prenatal concerns, highlighting how every pregnancy can bring its own set of unexpected turns. On a lighter topic, I share the creative process behind naming our baby, touching on why some beloved names didn't make the cut and the anticipation of a different postpartum experience in our suburban home. Balancing professional and family life with two children is a theme that resonates deeply in this episode. From deciding when to announce the pregnancy to contemplating a step back from work to prioritize family needs, I open up about the complexities and joys of transitioning from one child to two. Join me for a conversation that's as real as it gets, where we celebrate the joyous complexity of adding another heart to the family's beat!

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00:00:00 - 00:08:12 intro + 20-week anatomy scan

00:08:12 - 00:10:49 choosing a name

00:10:49 - 00:14:30 things I hope to do differently with baby #2

00:14:30 - 00:17:35 differences between my two pregnancies

00:17:35 - 00:19:34 does Milo know what's going on?

00:19:34 - 00:21:31 Songfinch

00:21:31 - 00:24:30 having enough time with Milo

00:24:30 - 00:25:55 hiring a baby nurse

00:25:55 - 00:30:09 breastfeeding tips & feeding plan for baby #2

00:30:09 - 00:31:22 when I started feeling baby moving

00:31:22 - 00:32:31 my energy level compared to first pregnancy

00:32:31 - 00:34:52 how I feel about giving birth

00:34:52 - 00:35:50 diet changes for high blood sugar

00:35:50 - 00:36:36 introducing Milo to his baby sister

00:36:36 - 00:38:58 cost of raising a child in the city

00:38:58 - 00:41:33 sibling age gaps

00:41:33 - 00:42:56 did this pregnancy affect how many children we want?

00:42:56 - 00:44:05 sciatica pain

00:44:05 - 00:45:32 announcing my pregnancy

00:45:32 - 00:49:53 fears about going from 1 to 2 kids

00:49:53 - 00:50:55 outro

Watch this episode in video form on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjmevEcbh5h5FEX0pazPEtN86t7eb2OgX

To apply to be a guest on the show, visit luciefink.com/apply and send us your story.

I also want to extend a special thank you to East Love for the show's theme song, Rolling Stone.

Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealstuffpod

Find Lucie here:

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"My life no longer feels desperately uncomfortable.” (Liz Moody) May 14, 2024

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Join me for an intimate conversation with Liz Moody: best-selling author, host of The Liz Moody podcast, and my long-time friend. In today's episode, we explore all things family dynamics, mental health, and the personal battles that shape our emotional landscape. When Liz told me she didn't want to discuss money or sex on the show, I instantly knew why...she doesn't feel those topics contribute to her business's mission. Mental health, however, is a different story. On her own platforms, Liz has opened up for years about her past struggles with anxiety, agoraphobia, disordered eating, and more. In this episode, we go deeper into each of those topics. Liz opens up about her unique experience growing up with parents who are therapists, challenging the myth that such a household is a sanctuary of emotional wisdom. She reflects on how her upbringing influenced her perspective on mental health and discusses the common misconception that therapists lead flawlessly balanced lives. We also venture into the complexities of navigating life's unexpected twists, from childhood trauma to the thrills and perils of living a nomadic lifestyle, and the courage it takes to confront deep-seated fears like intense agoraphobia and a lifelong struggle with anxiety. Note: this episode contains references to many mental health challenges, including anxiety and depression.

Follow Liz on Instagram: @lizmoody

Liz's book - 100 Ways to Change Your Life: https://amzn.to/3ydsCQ2

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Watch this episode in video form on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjmevEcbh5h5FEX0pazPEtN86t7eb2OgX

To apply to be a guest on the show, visit luciefink.com/apply and send us your story.

I also want to extend a special thank you to East Love for the show's theme song, Rolling Stone.

Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealstuffpod

Find Lucie here: