Your prescription for happier, healthier homeschooling. Christian psychologist, author, and homeschool mom of six Dr. Melanie Wilson shares research-backed, doable strategies for the things that steal your sanity — stress and burnout, time management, organization, motivation, and curriculum decisions — with plenty of encouragement along the way. For homeschooling parents who want calmer, more joyful days. Follow the show and homeschool with more sanity and grace.
The teaching tip of the week is Shining Dawn Books’ Nature by the Season: Winter. This preschool/kindergarten curriculum will help you and your younger learner appreciate winter and have fun learning. With 40 Nature Walk ideas and colorful worksheets, you’ll find yourself warming up to learning this winter. Click here to view more details
If we will change our attitude about winter, take care of ourselves and the kids physically, and do something new, we can definitely homeschool through the winter blahs. Make a plan right now and let me know what you’re going to do on the Homeschool Sanity Facebook page.
The New Thing for Maintaining Homeschool Enthusiasm
Jan 10, 2023
Show notes
Is it hard to be enthusiastic about homeschooling this time of year? It usually is for me and it’s hard to be enthusiastic about life in general when the winter blahs set in. This is the Homeschool Sanity Show, the episode where I’ll share an idea for maintaining your homeschool and life enthusiasm–an idea that’s already changed my life.
Why We Lose Our Homeschool Enthusiasm This Time of Year
January doesn’t drag me down the way it did in my childhood. I grew up in South Dakota where the cold and snow had a profoundly negative effect on my mood–an effect I didn’t understand until spring when I felt like someone had changed my batteries. Winter where I live now involves regular breaks from the cold and gloom. The occasional 60-degree days keep me going.
But winter isn’t the only thing that can make us meh about homeschooling. It’s also back to the regular routine. The excitement of Christmas break is over. There is a lot of school left before spring. So what do we do?
I used to make curriculum and routine changes for the new year. And these changes helped. But soon the enthusiasm I had for those changes waned too, and we were all fairly bored, hoping to muddle our way through to spring. The seasonal change can make symptoms of depression worse. (Help a son or daughter with depression.)
The Power of Novelty
If you can relate to any of my experience, you may be someone who enjoys novelty as I do. In fact, research suggests that many of us with attention-deficit traits are high in novelty seeking. But it turns out that God created all of us to seek new experiences. When we encounter something new, we get an increase of the reward neurotransmitter dopamine. Dopamine not only improves symptoms of depression but helps us learn. There are clear benefits of novelty, but we also benefit from the structure of a homeschool routine. I’ve discussed this on the podcast many times. If we tried to homeschool in a completely unpredictable fashion, we’d be stressed and our kids would be unhappy.
So, how can we enjoy the benefits of both novelty and structure? Recently our local Christian radio station mentioned a woman whose resolution is to do something new every day this year. Wow! I was instantly sold on this idea, but I had no idea how life-changing it would be from the get go.
Let’s break it down. Something new. In Isaiah 43, God proclaims that He is doing a new thing. If God does new things, why shouldn’t we? We can enjoy newness in curriculum and schedules and our school space, but as I pondered this woman’s resolution, I realized that newness can be so much more.
New Activities
We can try new activities–especially once. It’s low commitment and easier to fit one class or activity into the schedule than a six-week class. I signed up for a one-time, online Native American cooking class and an in-person bookmaking class with a friend this month. I found these activities by searching for class offerings in my area. With YouTube and free online classes and apps, you could try dozens of new activities with your kids. If you find out they’re not for you, you’ve still benefitted from the novelty.
New Options for Activities
We can also try new options for an activity we already enjoy. I like to cook, exercise, and go out to eat. I made scalloped potatoes and ham in my Instant Pot and was astounded that the potatoes need just two minutes cooking time! I am signed up to do a free workout at Row House this week. It’s a gym with a guided rowing and strength training workout. I have been to two new restaurants since starting this challenge. I liked one of them a lot and had a delicious dessert at the restaurant I wasn’t as crazy about.
If you love music, listen to new genres. Like foreign language learning? Try out another language for free on an app like Duolingo. Enjoy art? Try a new technique.
New Places
We can go new places. I started walking outside in colder temperatures this winter for the first time. I am cold phobic, but friend Barb Raveling told me that I just wasn’t dressing warmly enough. She was right! I’ve maintained a positive mood by walking outside even when the temps are in the 30s. This positive experience got me to agree to play tennis with my family in these same cold temps. And I loved it.
When I thought about doing something new daily, I realized that my walks are always in my neighborhood. I started searching for walking trails that aren’t far from me. I was surprised to learn that there is a walking trail in a park I’ve been to dozens of times. But my jaw dropped when I walked the trail and discovered the beauty of a flooded mine. Check my story highlights on HomeschoolSanity on Instagram to see it.
I looked up the popular attractions near me and I’ve been to most of them during my 20+ years of homeschooling. But there are some I’ve missed that I can’t wait to check out. There are also many events I’ve never attended. And even before I was seeking out new experiences, I have wanted to take time to go to new hole-in-the-wall places, new shops, and new parks. Now I will make the time to do it.
You can play a sport you already enjoy in a new location. Take a new route to church or co-op. See what Yelp recommends for your area and check out a new place.
New People
Doing something new can also mean new people. The same old activity feels fresh when someone else joins you. My husband agreed to go with me to Row House early in the morning this week. He has never worked out early before and I’n excited to have him join me. Friends of ours who have never played pickleball would like to join us this winter. It will make it a new activity for us, too. I just read about a couple who restored a 305-year-old farmhouse and has been inviting people over. Their guests have raved about feeling welcomed and connected. I realized that inviting new people over for dinner would be a blessing for all of us through the ministry of hospitality.
New Attitude
But new doesn’t have to take up more of your time or money. It can also be an attitude. I used to dislike shipping books to customers after my kids were employed elsewhere and couldn’t help. Then I started playing funny shows that I’ve already seen while I shipped. The laughter became associated with shipping and now I enjoy it.
As I walked along the trail that had been right under my nose all these years, I wondered what else I was overlooking. I was reminded of the sign my late sister-in-law had that now hangs on my wall. It says “Some people live like nothing is a miracle and some people live like everything is.” My sister-in-law was the latter and I want to be, too.
You’ve done the laundry a million times, but have you ever done it while praising God for the blessing of family and clothing and laundry machines and hot, running water? Have you done it while singing your heart out to your favorite praise song? Have you gotten up and danced? Have you turned it into a game with your kids? If not, that can be your new attitude. Are there things you’ve been afraid to try? It can be as small a matter as being willing to try anchovies or as major as speaking or performing in public. Either way, your new attitude will slowly chip away at your anxiety, giving you a new enthusiasm for life.
Daily, Weekly, Seasonally
That’s the new–new activities, new options for old activities, new places, new people, and a new attitude. But what about the every day part? A couple of my friends said it would drive them crazy to come up with something new to do every day. Me? I love it. It’s a challenge which also motivates me as a strong-willed person. I have something to look forward to every day, which improves my mood significantly. I have a list of options on my phone that I add to daily. If one option doesn’t work out, I have plenty of others to choose from.
But you don’t have to do something new daily to enjoy the benefits. What if you had a goal of a new activity every week? If you choose that approach, my advice is to plan it early in the week or early in the weekend, so you’re more likely to do it. Or have a set day of the week for the new activity with backup options.
Yet another approach is a seasonal bucket list. I recommended creating a Christmas bucket list on an Instagram reel and advised posting it where your kids could see it. I took my own advice and posted mine on the fridge. My kids who were home for Christmas are 17 and up and they were all interested in the list and wanting to check off the activities. They were more excited about it than I was! Whether you do something new daily, weekly, or seasonally, get your kids involved. They will look forward to it, be more enthusiastic about school, and will make memories with you that you’ll all treasure.
I have some guidelines for my approach. I won’t count new clothes, books, or exercise routines in the usual places. You’ll want to create your own guidelines. I plan to do something new every day in 2023. I don’t know if I will continue in 2024, but I may not have to. I’ve already noticed a new curiosity and enthusiasm for life that I think will be a lasting result of this challenge. I would love to have you join me. I’m posting in my Instagram stories daily with the hashtag #neweveryday. I would love to see the new things you’re doing and be inspired by your ideas.
If you’re interested in a new curriculum, a new approach to productivity, or a new organizing plan, I can help.
How To Protect Your Homeschool From Hijacking
Jan 03, 2023
Show notes
Right before Christmas my HomeschoolSanity Instagram account was hacked. You may wonder what that has to do with you. This is the Homeschool Sanity Show, the episode where I explain what happened and how my experience can help you protect not just your social media accounts but your homeschool and life from hijacking.
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Protect Your Homeschool Life from Hijacking
If you clicked on my stories for Homeschool Sanity for Instagram during Christmas week, you may wonder why I’m obsessed with cryptocurrency, bragging about the Mercedes I bought with my profits, and using a lot of y’all’s in the captions. My account was hacked. There appeared to be no way for me to get it back. Instagram does not have email, chat, or phone support. Instead, a broken autoresponder was my only option for restoring access, and much to my disappointment, I did not get a Christmas miracle of suddenly getting it back by the 25th.
How I Was Hijacked
How did this happen? I wish I could say that I did everything right. But I did not. In fact, that’s why I’m sharing this episode. Because there are a number of things I did wrong. I made some embarrassingly stupid moves. I’m sad to say it isn’t the first time. It was the first time I lost a social media account to a hacker, yes. But not the first time I’ve made choices that made it easy for the enemy to hijack my life. I have learned a lot from these experiences, however, that I want to share with you in the hopes that your social media and your homeschool will be safe from hijackers.
Unmanaged Emotions
The first reason my Instagram account was hijacked is because I had emotions I hadn’t managed. In my case, it was guilt. I had contacts with two people the day my account was hijacked who wanted money from me. My family and I had been generous with them in the past. I owed them nothing. In fact, they have a history of manipulation. But because they are still poor, I felt some guilt about not helping them. Later that day a woman, who had wanted to sell me makeup in the past, direct-messaged me on Instagram. I looked at her request that I vote for her as an ambassador as well as the fact that I had never purchased makeup from her and guess what I felt? Guilt. If I had done some truth journaling or some chatting with my husband about the guilt I was feeling earlier in the day, it would have been managed. I never would have been vulnerable to this request. Guilt isn’t the only unmanaged emotion that can result in a hijacking, though. Fear and anger are two others. Moses let anger at an Egyptian who was beating a fellow Israelite lead him to kill the man. He then had to leave Egypt in fear for his life. We can all think of foolish things we’ve done out of fear and anger that were not managed properly.
Distractions
The second way I opened myself up to the hijacking of my Instagram account is that I was distracted. I was helping my son make Christmas cut-out cookies and what was I doing? Looking at my Instagram messages. Had my phone been put away first, I wouldn’t have lost my account. Or had I looked at the message and set my phone aside until I could focus, I wouldn’t have been hijacked. We can be following an exercise and eating plan that works, when staying up late to watch a show causes us to sleep in and miss a workout. We can be talking to a family member and trying to read at the same time, resulting in a loss of connection. Distractions make it easy for the enemy to get to you. King David was supposed to be with his army in the spring. Instead, he was watching a married woman bathe on the rooftop next door. As a result of this distraction, King David’s reign was hijacked.
Ignoring Red Flags
The third way I opened myself up to hijacking is that I ignored the red flags. The requests this person I supposedly knew were as fishy as a salmon pan left in the oven overnight, yet I went along with them likely because of my guilt and distraction. I honestly still can’t believe I did it, but I wanted to get the request over with. Sometimes we ignore red flags and get hijacked because we are in a hurry. Whatever is the quickest, easiest way to get a time demand out of the way is typically what we choose. That’s what I chose anyway. I wanted this person to leave me alone so I could get to the cookies. We notice the negative influence someone is on us or our kids, but we blow it off. We see the anxiety that watching or reading the news creates for us, but we rationalize it. We have a bad feeling about the co-op we joined, but we tell ourselves we have no other options. The hijacker didn’t have to explain why things seemed so fishy. I explained it for him. My account security is keeping me from voting for her. That’s what I thought. Why would I ignore that red flag? One reason is because I forgot God’s warning in 1 Peter 5:8: Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. I was like Hezekiah in 2 Kings who showed the Babylonian envoys the treasure. Not smart.
Denial
The fourth way I opened myself up to hijacking is denial. Even though the signs that I’d been hijacked were undeniable, I denied them. I just forgot my password. That’s all. I’ll get right back in. Only I couldn’t. Denial is based in fear and pride. I was afraid to face the fact that someone in Nigeria had just taken over my account. I was too proud to admit that I couldn’t quickly fix it. I was like the Israelites who refused to enter the Promised Land until they were rebuked and punished by God. Then they tried going in without Him. It didn’t go well. It didn’t go well for me either when I panicked and initially thought that text messages I received were from Instagram trying to help me regain access to my account. Instead, they were from the hacker. We are in denial when we ignore the signs that our husband has become distant, our child is struggling, or our debt is increasing. The answer isn’t to keep trying to solve the problem on our own. We need help!
Recovering from Hijacking
After trying to regain access to my account for several days with no success, I gave up. I created a new account and started telling people to unfollow and block my homeschoolsanity account. Giving up is the first step in being free. It’s what I did many years ago when I couldn’t get my eating under control. I admitted to God that I couldn’t do it. That’s when He took over. Admitting powerlessness is the first step in 12-step programs. It doesn’t mean you don’t care. It only means you can’t fix it in your own strength. The day after I gave up, I heard from a connection who learned about my account problem. He sent me this message: “You have to know someone.” He pledged to help me after the holidays. That was great news for me. But what about you? What if you don’t know someone who works for Instagram? What if you don’t know a counselor, a doctor, or a loan officer? The thing is, you know Someone better. Giving the problem to God will either result in success the way you define it or success the way He does. You cannot fail. Deuteronomy 30:1-3 reads: “When all these things come upon you—the blessings and curses I have set before you—and you call them to mind in all the nations to which the LORD your God has banished you, and when you and your children return to the LORD your God and obey His voice with all your heart and all your soul according to everything I am giving you today, then He will restore you from captivity and have compassion on you and gather you from all the nations to which the LORD your God has scattered you.” Even when we’ve been hijacked as a the result of our own foolishness, God will help us and restore us.
Conclusion
After being assured that help was coming, I figured there was no harm in using the automation to try to regain access to my account. I went through the steps as I had so many times before without success. But this time, boom. I was back in control of my account. I quickly took steps to ensure the hacker could not regain access. When we recover from any kind of hijacking, that’s what we have to do, too–fortify our lives so we can’t be hijacked again. We want to manage our emotions, avoid distractions, pay attention to red flags, and ask for help from the One who can restore us. After I was logged in, I realized a blessing from this experience. The hacker had direct-messaged many of my followers, asking them to vote for me as an ambassador. Most of these people said yes. They didn’t even know what I was wanting to be an ambassador for! But they said yes. They were kind and generous with their time. I pray I can be as kind and generous with mine going forward. If you use social media, I would love to have you follow me at homeschoolsanity on Facebook and Instagram. Either way, I’d love to communicate with you via email. Go to homeschoolsanity.com/subscribe. Thanks again to CTC Math for sponsoring the podcast. Have a happy homeschool week!
Motivating Learners With Dr. Lyle Lee Jenkins
Dec 13, 2022
Show notes
Is your student less than motivated when it comes to reading or math? This is The Homeschool Sanity Show, the episode where Dr. Lee Jenkins shares creative ideas for motivating learners.
Hey, homeschoolers! As a psychologist, mother, and now a guide for homeschool parents, I have a great interest in motivation. Before I introduce my guest, I want to thank my sponsor for this episode: 5000 Blankets.
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Motivating Learners with Dr. Lyle Lee Jenkins
I was happy to have Dr. Jenkins join me for the podcast to share creative ideas for engaging our kids in the learning process. Lyle Lee Jenkins is an author, speaker, consultant and a recognized expert in improving educational outcomes. The author of How to Create a Perfect School, All About Henry, his newest release How to Create a Perfect Homeschool, and 15 other books, Lee has spent the last 50 years learning from world-class experts while working as a teacher, principal, school superintendent and university professor. Lee’s speaking career has taken him across the U.S., Latin America, Europe and Asia, and he has taught online courses to educators from more than 25 countries. His mission is providing innovative solutions for the most perplexing education problems.
I hope you enjoy our chat as much as I did. We discussed:
Tips for motivating reading
Tips for motivating math
Why Dr. Jenkins talks about the “perfect” homeschool
Special Replay: How To Level Up Your Gratitude
Nov 22, 2022
Show notes
Hey, homescoolers!
I’ve written and spoken about gratitude a lot because it’s important. God’s Word reminds us to give thanks 173 times. Giving thanks is the Lord’s admonition to His people, but even secular leaders recognize the benefits of expressing gratitude. Gratitude journals are all the rage.
But I had an experience recently that helped me see that my gratitude needs an upgrade. What’s exciting about this recognition is not that I have another reason to feel guilty. On the contrary, I have another reason to be encouraged. And so do you!
In this episode, I want to share some ideas for taking our own and our family’s gratitude to the next level. And it doesn’t require you to go on a foreign mission trip.
Before I share those ideas, I just want to say thank you. I have been so blessed to have you listen to this podcast, to chat with me at Great Homeschool Conventions, and to write and tell me that my work makes a difference in your life. It’s easier to keep running this race with your encouragement. I thank God for you and I pray for you.
Last month, my son woke us up to tell us that our basement was flooded. We thought he meant that some water had come in along one wall. That had happened before and my husband had a plan for solving the problem. So I was shocked when I walked downstairs, only to have my feet sink into sopping wet carpet. Water had come in from every wall, leaving only the center of the rooms dry. Our sump pump had failed in the midst of a heavy rain. We didn’t know that the pumps have to be replaced regularly. If you haven’t replaced your pump, let our experience be a warning to you.
Before I entered our sopping wet basement, my gratitude list would have sounded something like this:
Lord, I’m thankful for my family. I’m thankful for my home. I’m thankful for my business.
I’ve matured enough in my faith that I wasn’t grumbling to God about the mess the water had made, but it was definitely a damper on my day. I became hyper focused on solving the problem. More rain was in the forecast later that day. I was ready to turn to Google for help when I felt the sense that I needed to stop and let my husband help me. Because my office is in our basement, I was feeling that I needed to be in charge. But I heeded the call to stand down. I just worked on cleanup.
Then my husband announced that our plumber was coming in a couple of hours to install a new sump pump. That was very good news! But the rest wasn’t. “I asked how he was,” my husband said, “and I could tell something was wrong. He has cancer and starts chemo in a few days.” I wasn’t shocked because of the large number of people we know who have been diagnosed with cancer or a recurrence in the last two years. But I was in awe of how the Lord used our flooded basement to give us the opportunity to minister to a man at just the right time.
Yes, I was grateful that we suffered so little loss with the water damage. I was grateful, too, that the flooding hadn’t occurred after installing new carpeting. Instead, I had been wanting the carpet replaced anyway. But what I was most grateful for was the love of our God. He loves our plumber so much that He used a heavy rain combined with our failure to replace a sump pump to bring him to our home, where we could pray for him and witness to our faith. What’s incredible to me is that He didn’t just work this together for our plumber’s good but for ours.
God is more than able to use every circumstance to make His plan a reality. I’m so grateful that He is trustworthy! His will will be done, even if we make a mistake. Even if someone we love makes a mistake. What a comfort!
I decided after that experience that I needed to upgrade my gratitude. I needed to go beyond making a list of all the standard-issue reasons to be grateful. I needed to start looking for how God was going to use the disappointments, the disasters, and even the dumb things we do for His glory and our good. Then I would thank Him for His love and care, even in advance of seeing them in reality.
Here is how I’m going to do that. I recommend that you and your children join me.
First, make a list of every worry, disappointment, and upset that is troubling you now.
For each entry, thank God that He is going to make you more like Jesus through that. He is going to use the circumstance as fertilizer to grow the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and self-control. Who doesn’t want more of that fruit? I know I do. Thank God that He will give you wisdom. He promises to give us His wisdom when we ask in James 1:5.
Next, knowing that You will grow, thank God that He is going to use the circumstance for your good and the good of those you love.
Even though you don’t know how or when, even if it’s not in the way you prefer, you know that He will do this because He promises us this in Romans 8:28.
Finally, thank God that He will be glorified and His plans will be fulfilled.
Every situation will be used to demonstrate the power, the love, and yes, sometimes the patience of God. We agree with God that His ways are higher than our ways.
We can also level up our gratitude by putting it into action.
We can and should spend more time in prayer and Scripture reading–especially more than we spend time reading the news and others’ opinion. We can worship God in music, spending time in nature, creating, serving, and giving. Our love for Him overflows into worship.
We can remind others that God is at work. He hears our prayers but is waiting for the perfect time, when we and the people we love are most ready. We can preach to ourselves and others that this is not our home. Even if this life is not as we wish, we know that our eternal life offers more than we could ask or imagine. We can offer a listening ear and a hug to those who are waiting on God, offering the comfort we ourselves have received from Him.
And finally, we can share the Gospel. We can witness to our faith in the One who raised His Son to life and will raise us, too. We can share the real reason we suffer that has little to do with a person, politics, or particulars. Our sin led to a decaying world full of suffering–failed sump pumps and cancer. But God provided the solution to sin. I’m so thankful that solution isn’t dependent on you or me. Then we’d be sunk. Instead, we know the end of the story and it is victory. In that we place our hope and we rejoice with gratitude.
Conclusion
We are human, so when you walk onto sopping wet carpet, your initial response is unlikely to be gratitude. But if you stop and consider how you can become more like Christ, how God will work it together for good, and how God will be glorified, you’ll be likely to put your gratitude into action.
Next week my guest Carol Barnier and I will discuss how to help distractible, struggling readers. Have a happy homeschool week!
How To Change Your Parenting In The Teen Years
Nov 15, 2022
Show notes
A homeschool mom wrote to ask me if it’s true that you shouldn’t expect the same kind of obedience from your teens that you do from younger kids. This is The Homeschool Sanity Show, the episode where I address how to change our parenting in the teen years.
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How to Change Your Parenting in the Teen Years
Conflicting advice around parenting is so confusing, isn’t it? If you have teens and wonder how to parent them, my first encouragement is to trust your judgment.
Our parenting shoudn’t change around disrespect. This is a soap box I climb onto all the time and with good reason.
While we want to have a coaching approach, this doesn’t mean that we abdicate our authority when it comes to dangerous or immoral behavior. I wouldn’t allow my kids to drive when they’re under the influence or let their girlfriend sleep over because that’s the choice they’ve made after coaching.
Coaching also takes your child’s personality and circumstances into account.
Coaching is a response to your child, not a set program. If something isn’t working, try a new approach in a collegial, experimental atmosphere.
When I had six young children, strangers warned me of the nightmare of teen years that lay ahead of me. I did have some challenges with a strong-willed child that I’ve talked about before, but all in all, these years have been a joy. The young adult years have been a joy, too.
Conclusion
One final encouragement I want to give you is to surrender these children to the Lord. They are His. Believe that He wants the best for them even more than you do and you will have peace. Your teens will sense this and will respond accordingly.
How To Combat Loneliness As A Homeschool Mom
Nov 08, 2022
Show notes
Do you wish you had more friends as a homeschool mom? Over my two decades of homeschooling, loneliness was a recurring problem. This is The Homeschool Sanity Show, the episode where I discuss how to combat loneliness as a homeschool mom.
Hey, homeschoolers! I’m going to confess that I have sometimes envied moms who have dozens of homeschooling friends through their church, co-op, or activities. Although I had several close friends for the majority of my homeschooling, they graduated their students, moved, or quit homeschooling–leaving me lonely. I struggled more than once with loneliness in these latter years. But I have learned a lot that I want to share with you if you’re in a similar situation.
First, I want to say that if you’re lonely it’s not you.
-work
-co-ops, activities
-smart phones
-pandemic
Second, be open to unexpected options.
-retired homeschool moms
-older women not homeschooling
-friendships through activities
Third, remember that it’s not about you.
-God wants to meet your needs
-But your purpose is to be a friend to others
-God may be using your loneliness to get you out of your comfort zone
Action Steps to Combat Loneliness
-Start a group or Bible study
-Take a class
-Ask people about themselves, even if they’re staring at a phone
6 Lessons About Homeschooling I’ve Learned Through Podcasting
Nov 01, 2022
Show notes
This is the 300th episode of The Homeschool Sanity Show! I have really enjoyed podcasting for a number of reasons. One of the unexpected reasons is it’s taught me a lot about homeschooling. This is the episode where I share homeschool encouragement from eight years of podcasting.
Hey, homeschoolers! The Ultimate Radio Show Network has been producing podcasts for 9 years. I took a year’s leave in there, so that means I’ve been podcasting for 8 years. I often talk with homeschooling moms who have not only listened all these years but followed my blog before that. I know from asking on my Facebook page that there are many of you who, like me, have been homeschooling a long time. I love having the company.
I’ve learned a lot from podcasting that applies to us as homeschooling moms as well.
The first lesson is that it’s not always fun.
We need to make the schedule work for us rather than working for the schedule.
It’s not about the tools; it’s about the content.
We can learn from others even when we think we have it all together.
We need to let others help us.
Success comes when we stick with it.
Conclusion
I’m so grateful for your support of me and this podcast. Many moms approach me at Great Homeschool Conventions to say they feel like we’re friends. And we are. I don’t know as much about you, but I would like to. Email me, message me on social media, or stop by to chat at a convention.
Have a happy homeschool week!
You Can Homeschool With Carrie Strong
Oct 18, 2022
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Do you ever worry that you aren’t cut out for homeschooling? This is The Homeschool Sanity Show, the episode where my guest and I make homeschooling doable, even if it’s been a struggle in the past. I’ve asked about insecurities on the Homeschool Sanity Facebook page, and I know many of us have them. I know I did! Just because I had a PhD didn’t mean that I knew how to teach or even parent my kids to adulthood.
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You Can Homeschool Guest
Carrie Strong is an experienced homeschooling mom with four children. She spent two years after college in the Dominican Repbulic teaching French, music, art, and BIble during her first year and second-grade during her second year. After returning to the states, she taught K-12 Spanish at an academy in Kalamazoo, MI before getting married and having kids of her own. She and her family now reside in northern Michigan where she enjoys teaching her children, writing books, blogging, being outdoors, singing, and hobby farming. I know you’ll appreciate Carrie’s relaxed approach to homeschooling. You Can Homeschool book Thanks again to CTC Math for their sponsorship.
Special Replay: How to Homeschool Where Strivings Cease
Oct 11, 2022
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Have you been trying to be a Proverbs 31 Homeschooling mom as I described in previous episodes? If you have, you’ll want to listen to this episode in which I’ll share what I’ve learned about the problem of striving and how to find a place in your homeschool where strivings cease. But first, I’d like to thank our sponsor, Sony Pictures –Sony Pictures Animation along with Affirm Films. Their sponsorship helps make it possible for the Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network to provide free audios for our listeners.
The Teaching Tip of the Week
Share with your children what God has been teaching you during your Bible time. There was a time when I realized I was writing and speaking about truths God had revealed to me in His Word with other Christian women, but was not sharing with my own children. No curriculum or even Bible story book is more important than teaching our kids these things. When we teach this way, we show our children that our time in the Word is important to us. We model that faith isn’t just a school subject. It’s life. Second, we show our children that we struggle. I’m so thankful my children have few and mild struggles in their young lives. But one day the struggle will be real. They need to know how we cope with trials by example. Finally, there is no more powerful way to share our mother’s heart with our children than to share what God is teaching us. Our children see our love for God, our love for them, and our desire to follow Christ. If you find it challenging to find time in the Word, pray for wisdom for this. Perhaps you can listen to the Bible as you walk. Your husband may offer to give you time or to read with you. The amount of Scripture we read is not the priority; it’s that we are seeking God.
We’d like to thank our Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network sponsor Sony and their new movie, The Star, the Story of the First Christmas – Coming in Theaters November 17th!
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