The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast

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94. You Don’t Need Him—It’s Not Love, It’s Manipulation Jun 05, 2025

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You think you’re in love with him… but what if it’s just a trauma bond?

In this video, I’m breaking down how love bombing and manipulation made me believe I needed a man who was never good for me. If you’re feeling stuck, confused, or emotionally addicted to someone who’s been giving mixed signals and false promises, this is for you.

Let’s talk about the difference between real love and toxic attachment — and how to finally break free.

✨ You don’t need him like you think you do.

✨ You’re not in love — you’re trauma bonded.

✨ Here’s how to take your power back & choose yourself.

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93. I Didn’t Do Anything Special To Get A Husband… May 29, 2025

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💜I Didn’t Do Anything Special to Get a Husband — Here’s What I Did Do

Society tells us we need to be perfect, chase love, or constantly “improve” ourselves to be worthy of a good relationship. But my story? It’s a little different.

In this video, I’m sharing how I attracted a healthy, loving relationship without playing games, pretending to be someone I’m not, or overextending myself. I didn’t follow a 10-step “get the ring” plan—but I did do the kind of inner work that changed everything.

✨ What you’ll hear in this video:

• Why I stopped chasing emotionally unavailable men

• The mindset shift that helped me attract a healthy partner

• How boundaries and self-worth led me to love

• Why “being enough” isn’t about doing more—it’s about doing what’s real

If you’ve ever wondered if love can come without the performance… this is for you.

💬 Let me know in the comments: What’s ONE thing you’ve unlearned about love?

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92. Closure Without Contact: heal without the apology May 15, 2025

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Seeking Closure Within | Reclaim Your Power & Heal on Your Own

I’m diving deep into the powerful journey of seeking closure within. If you’re waiting on an apology, explanation, or final conversation that may never come—this is for you. I’ll be sharing practical steps on how to process your emotions on your own, release what’s been weighing you down, and finally move forward.

Closure doesn’t always come from someone else—it can come from you. And when it does, it can help you reclaim your power, rebuild your peace, and step fully into the next chapter of your life.

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91. Self Abandonment In Dating Is Breaking Your Heart May 01, 2025

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In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of self-abandonment in dating—what it looks like, where it stems from, and how it sabotages your sense of self and emotional well-being.

If you’ve ever found yourself shrinking, people-pleasing, or compromising your values just to keep someone around, this conversation is for you. I’m unpacking the signs of self-abandonment, how to reclaim your power, and what it means to choose yourself without guilt.

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90. Stop Trying to Figure Out Emotionally Unavailable Men Apr 24, 2025

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Let’s be real—he’s not confused, he’s just not emotionally available. In this video, I’m breaking down exactly why women need to stop entertaining emotionally unavailable men. No more waiting on mixed signals, no more fixing projects, and definitely no more chasing bare minimum energy.

It’s time to choose peace, not potential.

If you needed a sign—this is it.

89. As a Woman That Finally Left… Apr 17, 2025

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Sometimes, the most painful part of leaving a toxic relationship isn’t the person—it’s the fear of what comes next. The unknown can feel paralyzing. What if I don’t find better? What if I end up alone? What if I made a mistake?

In this video, I’m sharing what it was really like to walk away from someone I thought I couldn’t live without, and how fear almost kept me stuck in a cycle I didn’t deserve. If you’ve ever felt torn between staying in the familiar chaos or stepping into the uncertain peace, I see you. I was you.

This isn’t just a story about leaving—it’s about choosing yourself, even when it’s scary.

Because the unknown isn’t something to fear—it’s where healing begins.

If this hit home, please like, comment, and subscribe. What fear are you facing right now? You’re not alone.

88. Healing My Heartbreak from a Man That Hurt Me BAD Apr 10, 2025

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Whew—this one’s personal. In this video, I’m opening up about how I finally got over a man I really wanted—a man I was trauma bonded to. You know the kind—the one you you really wanted to be with although he was all wrong for you. I’m sharing my real story, the emotional rollercoaster, and exactly what I did to heal and move forward with my peace (and dignity!) intact.

From the hard truths to the healing habits, I’m walking you through the steps that helped me let go, reclaim my power, and stop romanticizing someone who wasn’t right for me. Whether you’re fresh out of a situationship, trying to move on from someone you never even dated, or deep in your feels over someone who didn’t choose you—this one’s for you.

If you’ve ever struggled to move on from someone you thought you couldn’t live without, I hope my story helps you feel less alone—and reminds you of your power.

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87. So, he didn’t choose you… Apr 03, 2025

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So… he didn’t choose you. Now what? Before you start overthinking or blaming yourself, let’s talk about what this really means. In this video, I’m breaking down the hard truths, the hidden blessings, and why being “passed over” might actually be the best thing that ever happened to you.

If you’ve ever felt rejected, overlooked, or like you weren’t “enough” for a man—this one’s for you. Because trust me, YOU are the prize, and the right one will see it.

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I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (148K followers)

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86. As a woman that stayed… Mar 27, 2025

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As a woman that stayed…I can’t tell you when to leave because I couldn’t be convinced back then. So here’s my nuanced, empathetic view on such a heavy topic.

Why do some women stay in toxic relationships when leaving seems like the obvious choice?

In this episode, I dive deep into the emotional, psychological, and societal factors that make walking away easier said than done.

Through personal stories and raw conversations, I explore the complex reality of toxic love—how manipulation, fear, hope, and even self-blame can create invisible chains. Instead of judgment, I’m offering understanding. Because the truth is, it’s never as simple as “just leave.”

If you’ve ever been in a toxic relationship, loved someone who stayed, or just want a deeper perspective on why people hold on to unhealthy love, this episode is for you.

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85. If He’s Not Choosing You, He’s Not For You Mar 20, 2025

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Let’s be real—if he’s not choosing you, he’s simply not for you. No more overthinking, no more excuses, and definitely no more waiting around for him to realize your worth.

In this video, I’m breaking down why you should never settle for mixed signals, how to readjust your mindset when a man just isn’t stepping up, and why walking away is the most powerful move you can make.

If you’re tired of chasing, guessing, and feeling like an afterthought, this one’s for you.

Know your worth and act like it!

✨ Let’s connect:

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BONUS podcast episodes

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💜Website where you can find my books, coaching and more:

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💜MY SOCIALS:

I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers)

https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/

TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1