The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast

80. Why You Keep Getting Blindsided (Part 1) Dec 12, 2024

You’re trying to see the best in him.

Reason 1-you are not a good judgement of character or you refuse to judge him period. You find yourself trying to see the best in him & give him the benefit of the doubt (when you should be doubting him).

This episode I dive into how to break out of the habit of “trying to see the best” in a man & see him for who he’s really showing you.

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79. Trying to Prove Your Worth Means You DO Know Your Worth… Dec 05, 2024

You know your worth, you’re just taking it personal that he doesn’t.

Don’t.

Why want a man who doesn’t value all of who you are?

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78. Being Male Centered Attracts the Wrong Type of Men Nov 21, 2024

It’s time to center yourself & de-center men for good. It doesn’t mean you hate men or never want a man again, it just means you’re not losing yourself in a man or a relationship.

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77. Why You Suck at Being Disciplined Nov 14, 2024

I’ve recently been in my disciplined, go get it girl era & I feel sooo much better about myself & my life! Being more disciplined works y’all lol.

If I had known the other side felt like this, I would’ve been started.

So, I’m sharing how I got unstuck & just got up!

A major part was getting out my damn feelings & helpless state.

I hope this episode is the mindset shift you need to GET UP 👏🏽

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76. Stop Getting So Attached So Fast (Detached Dating) Nov 07, 2024

Detached dating doesn’t mean you’re aloof or cold & not wanting love, it means you’re detached until you have the proper information about that man to know it’s safe to securely attach.

This episodes dives more into what detached dating is & how it can benefit your dating life.

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75. Boundaries = Self Respect Oct 24, 2024

Setting boundaries with family can be the hardest because you love them. and not to mention they sometimes equate you setting boundaries with them as disloyalty or disrespect.

74. How to Tell If You Should Keep Seeing Him Sep 26, 2024

Greenflags he has good intentions and truly wants to get to know you.

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73. Mindset Shifts to Get You Unstuck Sep 20, 2024

Prepare to be called out--but in a loving, empathetic way.

I've been this girl too--feeling stuck or feeling behind in life. I share some of my "tools" or mindset shifts I've learned to use when these feelings come up.

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72. If He Does or Says This...RUN Aug 15, 2024

You can't always vet that a man is going to betray you... BUT, here are a few covert things that can help you to be on the lookout for when dating.

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71. Stop Overstaying Jul 25, 2024

You gotta know when to get in and get out.

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70. "How Could He Move On Like I Meant Nothing to Him?" Jul 11, 2024

A man once loving you and then discarding you like you meant nothing to him hurts to the CORE. Let's talk about it and heal through it.

69. Trust Yourself More Jun 20, 2024

Self trust builds confidence and self esteem. It is just as important as having self love.

68. What You're Getting Wrong About Self Love May 30, 2024

If you're trying to love yourself, then you already do. Your self love is there, in you already--its just waiting for you to embrace it and expand into it.

67. Stop Dating Projects May 16, 2024

So, you think you can fix him, huh? You need proof that you give good love and you think that will be made evident in loving a man into changing for you? You think love has to be earned? You feel you can heal a man? If any of these things apply to you, this is the episode for you. I use to be this girl. I help you understand why you do this and how you can change it.

66. How to Not Keep Getting Your Heart Broken May 09, 2024

No, the answer is not becoming an emotionless savage that hates love (but if you do, that's yo business). If you still want love and want a relationship, the answer is taking the lessons from previous hurts and applying them moving forward. The answer is not losing yourself in a man. I go over 7 points here that could help you to ground yourself so you're not losing yourself in the next relationship.

65. It's Okay to Date ONE Man at a Time Apr 25, 2024

a man competing with your alone time and good life that you've made for yourself is better than him competing with a roster of men that aren't even in alignment with what you want anyway. Think about it. It's okay if you prefer to talk to and date one man at a time and it may just be better for you. In this episode I dive into how and why it could better and how to NOT worry so much about getting hurt from putting all your eggs in one basket.

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64. You’d Be More Confident if You Were More Delusional! Apr 11, 2024

What's stopping you from being confident? For me, it was the fear of being "fraudulent," meaning I didn't want to be one of those "delusional" people that thought too highly of herself and her capabilities...just for others to think I'm "crazy" for thinking that way about myself. BUT...what if we were more "delusional" about ourselves? Could that build our confidence?

63. Relationships (& Relationship Endings) Do NOT Have to be TRAUMATIZING Apr 04, 2024

Understand that that can be your LAST toxic, traumatic relationship and last time coming undone and hitting rock bottom over a man. You don't have to be afraid of trying love again. These 5 steps can help with that.

62. You Don't Need Him Like You Think You Do Mar 28, 2024

Our voids, codependency and attachment issues can really play min tricks on us like we need inconsistent, unavailable, bread crumbing ass men. Let go, girl. YOU need you.

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61. Don’t Forget Who You Are Mar 21, 2024

Comparing yourself to others is literally a thief a joy and not only that, you're simultaneously diminishing who you are and your self worth. On this episode, I talk about how, I, myself got caught up and depressed comparing myself to someone else and what my resolve was to get back to me. I offer mindset shifts and ways to self soothe whenever you catch yourself comparing.

60. You Can't Make a Man Act Right Feb 22, 2024

I don't like how men with mics claim that the reason for their bad behavior and mistreatment of women is because of the woman not requiring more from them. It's like only women are supposed to hold themselves accountable and the men are just supposed to keep being shitty until every woman in the world decides to stop "enabling" them. but I digress because my fight isn't to make them hear me--im not in the business of trying to heal a man and make him change. This is for my ladies. I want y'all to know that there are men that you don't have to do all that with. There are men that are good men for them damn selves, first, and have enough integrity to show up and show out for a woman he wants and values. You can't make a man treat you right, respect you, value you or love you. He either will or he won't and it's on him if he doesn't, not you! end rant.

59. Stop Falling for Potential Feb 01, 2024

Take away their potential and what are you left with??

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58. Stop Being So Understanding Jan 25, 2024

I get it, you're an empath and "love hard," but girlfriend, you can't be so understanding that you tolerate disrespect and being treated less than you deserve. In this episode I talk about WHY you may be so understanding and how to stop it and how understanding you should be. There are levels to this understanding thing and I tackle all of them.

57. Situation-ships Block Your Blessings Jan 18, 2024

Stop entertaining less than you deserve.

Situation-ships are cool if you're okay with pouring your energy, time and care into something that will never materialize into more.

If you're a "lover-girl" and want monogamy, you'll never be happy and fully satisfied with a situation-ship.

This episode helps you to change your mindset around situation-ships and why you just can't leave them alone.

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56. How I Healed Through the WORST Heartbreak of My Life Jan 04, 2024

I've been THROUGH it, to help you through it.

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55. BE MORE SELFISH Dec 28, 2023

Yes, that's right...BE MORE SELFISH! This episode is all about how I learned to stop people pleasing, over-extending myself and feeling guilty for preserving my energy to take care of myself.

54. How to Set Your OWN Standards Dec 21, 2023

I made this podcast to help you become more confident when it comes to setting and standing on your standards and what you want.

You're really the only one that can determine if your standards are too low. Don't let anyone tell you want you want isn't enough--maybe its enough FOR YOU. You make the call when it's time to raise or change your standards. I created mine as I dated and even changed some. What was good for me may have not been good enough for someone else but it's up to us to always remain true to us and what feels right for us. Just ensure your standards for yourself and your life align with what you want. Adjust accordingly and stand on that.

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53. You Weren't Stupid For Loving Him (Gentle Approach to Accountability) Dec 14, 2023

On this episode, I implore you to really think about what accountability is and what it isn't. I feel like so many times we tend to fall deep into shame and despair around our mistakes or we are extra hard on ourselves--none of this is accountability. I help you so see that accountability can be healing and shouldn't hurt you or make you feel bad about yourself.

52. Am I Emotionally Unavailable, too?? Nov 30, 2023

My journey from first, realizing I might be emotionally unavailable to becoming more emotionally available.

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51. Lori Leaves Another One! Nov 09, 2023

A relationship being toxic is not the only reason for you to leave a relationship.

I wasn't gonna say much about this or discuss Lori (because I don't know her or her life lol) but a follower dm-ed me with concerns about walking away and detaching. So, I wanted to expound on leaving situations even if they aren't toxic.

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50. Stop Settling Nov 02, 2023

A mindset shift around why you say you want better but yet still find yourself settling.

49. You Don't Need to Heal, You Need to Raise Your Standards Oct 19, 2023

Standards not only save you from low quality experiences but they also save you from traumatic breakups and endings.

topic and idea credit: Shera Seven

48. Stop Being a Good Woman Oct 12, 2023

What if you were a good woman to yourself, first?

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47. Healing Abandonment Wounds Oct 05, 2023

Abandonment is not your fault nor is it a reflection of who you are.

"You're not being abandoned, you're being set FREE."

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46. High Standards & Zero Expectations Sep 28, 2023

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45. Stop Being a Placeholder/When He Commits to Someone Else Sep 14, 2023

When the "with you" is silent when he says, "I don't want a relationship" OR You're waiting around hoping the situation-ship becomes more. Bonus episode on MORE about being the placeholder here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/ep-125-dont-be-89290901?utm_medium=sharesheet&utm_source=sharesheet&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link ivebeenthatgirl.net

44. Sh*t I Stopped Tolerating When I Increased My Self Love Sep 07, 2023

"I love myself too much to tolerate____"

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43. Breaking a Trauma Bond Aug 31, 2023

This isn't your ordinary type of love or relationship. So this isn't your typical break up.

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42. 5 Things to Make Peace With Aug 17, 2023

Some things you just gotta accept in order to have true inner peace.

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41. He is Not the Last Man On Earth! Aug 10, 2023

You don't need him like you think you do, girlfriend.

You've MADE him the last man on Earth when he doesn't have to be.

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40. "I Don't Really Wanna Stay, I Don't Really Wanna Go" Aug 03, 2023

Are you torn about your relationship and wondering if it's still worth fighting for?

Then this is for you.

39. How to Tell If He Wants Something Real with You Jul 27, 2023

How to not waste your time...unless you want to.

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38. Finding Yourself After Losing Yourself in a Man Jul 13, 2023

Ever lost yourself in a man and when the breakup happened you had no idea what to do with yourself or who you were? Something I learned on my self discovery journey is that it will be filled with mistakes and learning from them--it won't make sense all the time but that's okay. Welcome the journey. 💜PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Quick Coaching Call option (not as intensive or ongoing) : https://kindalld.as.me/schedule.php 💜Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net 💜MY SOCIALS: Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/theheygirlfriendpodcast?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (130K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Facebook: (31K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ TikTok: (30.5K Followers) (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

37. 8 Ways to Validate Yourself Jul 06, 2023

How I went from seeking outside/male validation to relying on my self validation to attract who & what are meant for me.

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36. You Don't Need Male Validation Jun 29, 2023

How to stop seeking male validation and find validation within.

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35. How to Deal with Hard Emotions Jun 22, 2023

If you've ever had your emotions & feelings invalidated, it can make dealing with your emotions that much harder because you feel wrong for having them.

I've been that girl, too and I did this episode to help you feel seen, safe and validated so that you can start to better deal with your emotions. 💜PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Quick Coaching Call option (not as intensive or ongoing) : https://kindalld.as.me/schedule.php 💜Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net 💜MY SOCIALS: Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/theheygirlfriendpodcast?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= I’ve Been That Girl Instagram: (129K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkindalld Facebook: (16K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ TikTok: (30.4K Followers) (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

34. 8 Healing Truths I've Learned in 1st Healthy Relationship Jun 15, 2023

I had a lot to learn and unlearn, WHEW! I figured, I can't keep thinking the same way or going for the same type of men if I want something different. I didn't have the best examples of a healthy love growing up so I had to learn the best way I could through trial and error. I hope this helps anyone wanting a healthier romance and relationship.

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33. How to Prepare to Date Again After a Breakup Jun 08, 2023

You don't have to be afraid to date again.

Being closed off and guarded will block you from seeing the good that is out there. You gotta give yourself a chance to experience better and in this podcast I share some tips to help you do that.

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32. Men Don't Have to be Perfect BUT I REFUSE to Tolerate a Man That... Jun 01, 2023

We know nobody's perfect buttt there are some things that are just NON-NEGOTIABLE. Here are my 7 top things that I REFUSED to tolerate from a man when I was dating and looking for my life partner/husband. Maybe this list can help you too.

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31. Stop Proving Your Worth & KNOW Your Worth May 25, 2023

Sometimes we feel the need to prove our worth when someone acts as if they don't value us or see our worth.

That's a quick way to lose yourself. Just let them miss out.

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30. The Power of Detachment (How to Detach) May 18, 2023

It's okay to attach...but knowing how & when to DETACH is important.

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29. "I'm Afraid of Being Cheated On!" (How to Get Over That Anxiousness) May 11, 2023

This is for you if you have ever been cheated on and now don't know how to trust anyone again or you just have an overall anxiousness when it comes to possibly being cheated on. BONUS podcast episodes + 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net MY SOCIALS: Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/theheygirlfriendpodcast?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= I’ve Been That Girl Instagram: (123k followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkindalld Facebook: (14.2K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ Brand TikTok: (30.2K Followers) (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

28. How to Get Over Him (And Stop Going Back) May 04, 2023

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27. Be THE ONE That Got Away! Apr 27, 2023

Mindset shift for you if you find yourself in situations tolerating less than what you want and know you deserve. PATREON: Bonus podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net MY SOCIALS: Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/theheygirlfriendpodcast?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= Brand Instagram: (121K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkindalld Facebook: (14.2K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ Brand TikTok: (30.1K Followers) (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

26. Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable Men (+ why you can't leave them alone) Apr 20, 2023

If all you seem to talk to & attract are emotionally unavailable men or men that end up not wanting to commit, this is for you. Watch the YouTube video here: https://youtu.be/8Kv7wC4qQws PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net MY SOCIALS: Brand Instagram: (119k followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkindalld Facebook: (13.9K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ Brand TikTok: (29.3 Followers) (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

25. From Anxious to Secure Attachment Apr 13, 2023

This episode gets deep. I talk about my previous dating life and just how anxious I was in past relationships and how I learned securely attach...even though I grew up with an anxious attachment to my mom. Bonus episode about how I learned to not be anxious in a healthy relationship can be heard here on my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/81446314?utm_campaign=postshare_creator PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net MY SOCIALS: Brand Instagram: (118k followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthat... Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkin... Facebook: (13K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ Brand TikTok: (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgi...

24. Never Fall for LOVE BOMBING Again! Apr 06, 2023

This episode touches on EVERYTHING dealing with love bombing: -What exactly is love bombing -The difference between genuine interest and love bombing -How to heal from love bombing and how to prevent it from happening again

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23. Understanding the Affirmation "I Am ENOUGH" Mar 30, 2023

You have heard "I Am Enough" but what does it really mean?? 💜PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net 💜MY SOCIALS: Brand Instagram: (118k followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkindalld Facebook: (13K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ Brand TikTok: (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

22. Being ASSERTIVE (In dating & in life!) Mar 23, 2023

How to be assertive NOT aggressive. Assertiveness is standing up for yourself and speaking up for yourself in a way that is honest and respectful. I talk about how to be assertive, why you may have fear around being assertive (and how to move past the fear) and why it's so important and helpful to your life to be assertive.
Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

books: ivebeenthatgirl.net

21. SET Boundaries & STOP People Pleasing Mar 16, 2023

Let's have a real conversation about what its like to set boundaries and not be a people pleaser (because for many of us, this is easier said than done!).

I talk about the importance of boundaries & how to move past the feelings of discomfort when it comes time to set boundaries.

I also give my own personal story about how difficult it can be setting boundaries if you're new to it and how it can have a “negative” effect on the people in your life that you're used to people pleasing.

MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching

https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl

Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

20. Is "Loving Hard" Really a Good Thing?? Mar 09, 2023

Is it loving hard or just codependency?

www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

19. Attention is not the same as INTENTION Feb 23, 2023

Attention is NOT enough.

Books, 1:1 Coaching and Social Media pages: ivebeenthatgirl.net

18. "I Don't Feel Good Enough." Feb 17, 2023

Mindset shift to help you feel MORE THAN ENOUGH.

For coaching, books and social media pages: ivebeenthatgirl.net

17. Mindset Shift for REJECTION Feb 02, 2023

Rejection is a part of life so, how can you learn to deal with it??

Need help with more mindset shifts?

I offer 1:1 mindset & intuitive coaching here https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl

Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/bUf3V0EwGGU

16. "I'm NOT Attracted to Nice Guys!" Jan 26, 2023

What do you do when you know you want a good guy but you just can't seem to be attracted to them?

Why you're not attracted to nice guys and what you can do about it.

Bonus podcast episodes and 1:1 Coaching: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Books: ivebeenthatgirl.net

15. Becoming "Her"/Someone You Like Jan 19, 2023

You can't get to self love without first actually LIKING who you are.

Hitting a block with liking yourself due to shame & guilt? Listen to a bonus episode all about that on my Patreon.

PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl

Books found here www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

14. Dating GAME CHANGERS Jan 13, 2023

My dating trial and errors, failures and successes. I got tired of doing the same things and getting the same results, so I changed some things up that changed the dating game for me.

subscribe to my YouTube and watch the video here: https://youtu.be/KhWSoq-2Qq4

1:1 Coaching, Books and Newsletter subscription here: ivebeenthatgirl.net

13. De-centering Men Changed My Life! Dec 29, 2022

A new challenge for you moving into 2023: Make YOU the center of your universe. Prioritize yourself and your life and stop stressing so hard about what men want or when you're gonna get one. I did and it changed my life. Terminology & concept of “De-Centering Men” credit goes to @charliestoolbox For YouTube, 1:1 mindset & intuitive coaching & books: www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

12. How to Not Sabotage Your First Healthy Relationship Dec 22, 2022

NO ONE talks about how challenging it can be to be in your first healthy relationship! We all want good, healthy relationships but that doesn't mean we understand what it's like to be in one when we've been through so much sh*t in only toxic relationships. This episode will go into detail of how to not sabotage your healthy relationship and instead show up as your full, authentic self ready to receive all the benefits you deserve of being loved properly. I'll also discuss common fears and triggers you may have come up for you and how to move past them. I'll also share my own experience with being in my first healthy relationship and how I almost sabotaged it! Bonus podcast episode “Is This a Healthy Connection”: https://www.patreon.com/posts/76289671?pr=true For YouTube channel, Books & 1:! coaching go to: www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

11. "You Attract, Not Chase." Dec 15, 2022

Build Your Confidence & Attractiveness!

This podcast was made to help you feel good about YOU & remind you of who tf you are!

For the podcast video: https://youtu.be/VnE3Fkgl36U

www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

10. Dating Rules to UNLEARN Dec 08, 2022

What if you didn't abide by ANY dating rules or at least limited them and just abided by your OWN set of standards that fit you?

Watch the video + subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://youtu.be/9TuUiavEuow

PATREON: MORE podcast episodes + 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl

Website for books + more: ivebeenthatgirl.net

9. Waiting For A Man To Change Dec 01, 2022

Do men really only change for the "right woman?"

Is it really worth it waiting on a man to change?

Should you wait? How do you know he's changed?

I give my thoughts on ALL of this.

Subscribe + watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7Qu-lXDn6xg

For 1:1 coaching, books, Youtube channel link and more: www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

8. Leave the INCONSISTENT MEN alone! Nov 17, 2022

Let's talk about: inconsistent men, love bombers, sweet talkers and why you keep falling for them and then can't leave them alone. I've been that girl, so I get it! Now I'm here to talk about my journey to moving far, far away from men like this. There will be a bonus podcast episode on my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl that will go into more detail about how I learned to leave inconsistent ass men ALONE and date with more confidence. For my YouTube channel link, 1:1 coaching, books, and merch, go to: ivebeenthatgirl.net

7. Mother Wounds Nov 10, 2022

The most profound thing I discovered on my healing journey was that I have mother wounds and that her being emotionally unavailable was the main reason why I dated emotionally unavailable men.

Mother wounds can show up in your adult life in multiple ways and I discuss all of them and how I'm healing these wounds.

watch the video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQqrw8mpwqo

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For 1:1 coaching, books, social media pages go to:

ivebeenthatgirl.net

6. Daddy Issues Oct 27, 2022

What do you do when your father didn't set a good standard of what to look for in a man? If you're like me, you end up dating men just like your father and then learning the hard way. I share my experience with daddy issues and how I healed them. I talk about the issues of having a father during your childhood, but still not having the best example of what a good man is and absent or inconsistent fathers.

Link for reel mentioned in video: https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl/video/7158123181155405102?is_copy_url=1&is_from_webapp=v1&lang=en

Bonus podcast content & 1:1 Coaching: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

books and all my other info and social media pages: ivebeenthatgirl.net

*Bonus* You DON'T Have to Forgive to HEAL Oct 23, 2022

I need you to open up your mind for this one. This may challenge years of conditioning and how you think. I was always to taught or made to believe that you should forgive in order to heal and not be bitter and.or angry but what if you could heal without forgiving whoever hurt you? I share my personal journey with re-learning about forgiveness and how I healed withOUT forgiving who hurt me.

New Guided Affirmations videos dealing with Self Love, Manifesting the Life You Want, Self Compassion & more will be coming ONLY to my Youtube channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCck0Y2EsB5FfA1HQaJaDxTQ

For 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Books: ivebeenthatgirl.net

5. How to Date Like a Bad B*tch Oct 20, 2022

Not so average dating tips to help you date with more confidence and detachment. This is for you if you feel you have an anxious attachment or attach prematurely when dating.

Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/sn1s-9G9rSk

go to ivebeenthatgirl.net for social media pages, books, YouTube and 1:1 Coaching

*Bonus* "Why Can't I Just Get Over Them???" Oct 17, 2022

A common concern from the women I coach is, "why do I still miss them if they were so bad for me!?" and "What's wrong with me??"

On this episode, I give my thoughts on why some relationship endings hurt so much, so deeply and for so long.

If you'd like 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching, go here: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

4. Sis, Sometimes We're the Problem/When You're the One That Needs to Change Oct 13, 2022

Yes, sis, sometimes WE are the one that needs to work on ourselves in order to have the love and healthy relationship we really want. When you've only ever been in bad or toxic relationships, it's hard to see any of the relationship things you need to work on because the focus is only on the other person acting right or changing. But what do you do when you finally get into a healthy relationship and who you truly are is being reflected back to you? What do you do when you realize you might be the problem? On this episode I share my personal healing journey with changing within my current healthy relationship and how being in one was so eye opening to me and the trauma I never knew I had. I also share what you can work on before getting into a healthy relationship and what things you will find yourself working on within a healthy relationship.

Bonus Podcast Episode, "Tips for Healthy Communication within a Relationship" can be heard here: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

For 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Books: ivebeenthatgirl.net

Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo

Youtube (previous podcast episodes plus podcast videos): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCck0Y2EsB5FfA1HQaJaDxTQ

3. "I Didn't Want to Love Myself, I Wanted to BE Loved"| Self Love for Women Like Us Oct 06, 2022

When you weren't loved in the ways you needed as a child by your caregivers, how are you to know how to love yourself as an adult?

On this episode, I get vulnerable and share my journey with learning to love myself and unlearning the self hate. I share my experiences growing up, past toxic relationship and how I learned to have high self love for myself.

To watch the video: https://youtu.be/ZxQtFcIfAws

1:1 Coaching: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Books: ivebeenthatgirl.net

*Bonus* When You're Not Chosen Oct 03, 2022

"Why Men Get You but Can't Keep You" bonus podcast episode can be heard here (1:1 coaching details are found here as well): www.patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Something in my spirit told me that the ladies needed to hear this message, so I decided to do an impromptu podcast episode to help y'all out. #IveBeenThatGirl and I definitely get how it feels to not be chosen by someone you really liked. I share my own story of rejection and how I coped and made it through. Hope this soothes you in some way.

2. Get Out Your Own Way! (How to Get a Hold on SELF SABOTAGE) Sep 29, 2022

WHEW! This episode was SO eye opening for me! I think I've been self sabotaging my whole life! (Yikes!) lol I share my personal journey with self sabotage and how I'm learning to get out my own way and do the damn thing! I give a very detailed description of what self sabotage really is and how you're possibly doing it without even realizing it! This episode is FULL of self discovery content and got me to really thinking about my behaviors lately. I share how you could be self sabotaging too and how to deal with it.

There will be bonus content on my Girlfriend Membership Platform here: www.patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Check out my previous Youtube video podcasts: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCck0Y2EsB5FfA1HQaJaDxTQ

For 1:1 Coaching, Books and Merch: www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

1. How to Manifest a Life Partner Sep 22, 2022

On this episode, I share my own personal journey from being in countless toxic relationships to now having my person, my healthy life partner. I share 5 important tips that can also help you to prepare for your life partner. Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/YvBrvW3slw4

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